How to understand that humor comes from self deprecation ?

Self-deprecation and cross talk are the same truth, one must have something to say, the second is to raise the audience and lower oneself, and the third is to be optimistic, open-minded, sincere and low-profile. For example, laughing at one's own taste with well-dressed people, laughing at illiteracy with learned people, laughing at Ma Daha with delicate people, etc., in short, by ridiculing one's own shortcomings to set off the advantages of others. If you are still crying poor in front of ordinary people, calling yourself a man in front of someone shorter than you, and calling yourself fat when you are thin like a lightning bolt, that is the typical rhythm of pretending to be disgusting and getting bricks.

No one wants to be reminded of their shortcomings every day. Always remember the fundamental principle of self-deprecation to make others feel that they are better than you. If you're a real cow, you don't need to stress about your cow at all.

A person who really knows how to be humorous is someone who is good at making fun of himself, which not only shows that he is confident, open and powerful, but also does not cause any harm to others. Learn to laugh at yourself and make your clients feel like you're a particularly easy person to get close to. Laughing at others is easy to make people laugh, but it is a very impolite behavior to the person being ridiculed, like a sharp blade, it is easy to cause hostility to the other party; On the contrary, laughing at yourself, especially when you encounter embarrassing situations, can shorten the psychological distance between each other, not only create a relaxed and harmonious conversation atmosphere, but also make others feel your normal heart and human touch.

There are the kind of people who really want to be funny, who want to imitate humorists. I want to appear humorous, and then smart, and I want to appear that my IQ is high enough to dissipate heat. This kind of person has fancy speech, and can also carry a bit of mantra clichés, and there is no lack of sharp and sarcastic.

As a result, it is only the attitude that is sharp, not the point of view, the sharpness only makes people feel mean, not the essence, and the ridicule is not self-deprecation, but poke at the weakness and scars of others......In short, the words spoken are uncomfortable, embarrassing, offending or even stinging others without knowing it.

Humor is ultimately a means of making people laugh, so let's talk about the physiological and psychological mechanisms of laughter first. Sometimes laughter comes from the disappointment of expectations, is the release of anxiety, when people have a certain psychological expectation of something, suddenly find that the result is ridiculous, the expectation is large, the result is very small, the energy that has been focused is released in an instant, it will trigger psychological pleasure.

Humor is a manifestation of a high IQ. At the same time, humor is directly proportional to IQ along with some other talents such as language ability, art appreciation, imitation ability, comprehension ability, etc. Funny is not the same as humor, funny is through the cooperation of language and action, and to a large extent, it is based on other existing jokes, and humor comes from rich associations and imagination as well as perception and understanding of things, so funny makes people laugh, and humor makes people laugh.

The essence of humor is to grasp the essence of a thing, an object, a person, a concept, etc., and then actively distort it. Humor is not an effect, humor is the output of a way of thinking.

Comfort yourself, give yourself the steps.

Lin Yutang, a master of humor, said: "Self-deprecation is the highest level of humor." ”

Self-deprecation is not to look down on oneself, but to look down on one's own shortcomings, humorously transform one's shortcomings into one's own characteristics, so as to win good popularity with witty and interesting words and excellent affinity.

In the Book of Songs, "Wei Feng Qi Ao" says: "There are bandit gentlemen, such as gold and tin, and gui and bi. Generous, heavy, good at banter, not abusive.

The gentleman is radiant, such as pure gold and pure tin, such as jade and white; Broad-minded, humorous and laughing, but not overly rude. Slander but not abuse, this is the gentleman's cleverness and great wisdom. If you want to open the embroidery mouth, you must have a brocade heart.

Verbal humor is an outward manifestation of inner wisdom. It is not so much that they entertain themselves and others with their words, but that they amaze the world with their wisdom. How can the world not love such a person?

Humor is the enchanting smile that blooms in the heart, and this laugh pours over all beings and enchants the world.