Do good parents never hit their children?

Although it is not recommended to educate children by beating children in today's society, to be honest, sometimes children are very disobedient, and it is very necessary for parents to educate them a little. But it is not advisable to say that filial piety is born under the stick, which will not only not play an educational role in the child, but will arouse his rebellious mentality. <>

In fact, I think even a good parent, he is very likely to have beaten his child, but only very little. Taking my personal experience as an example, I think my father is a very good parent, when I was in high school, I was able to stick to school and was admitted to a good university, I really have to thank my father, my father's education method is to teach by word and deed, language education is the mainstay, he almost never beat me because of academic problems in the process of my schooling. The only time I remember hitting me was because I secretly used two dollars from the family to buy a popsicle and he kicked me.

Therefore, in my heart, my childhood and the whole teenage period were very happy and warm, which has a positive effect on my values and worldview in the future. But even then, my father, he beat me, but all when necessary.

In fact, this is not the case, each of us does not want to beat and scold their children, but sometimes their children are indeed very naughty and mischievous, which makes it difficult to manage, so they have to beat, because only in this way can their memory be increased and they will not make the same mistakes again. But as parents, we also need to pay attention to when we hit our own children, we should not be too heavy, and we should also pay attention to the children's self-esteem.

This statement is a bit too absolute. Educating children should be determined according to the situation, and it is not set in stone. Of course, we do not advocate the behavior of parents hitting their children, but in some things that cannot be understood by children, sometimes force can teach them a good lesson and avoid repeating it next time, in the final analysis, it is also for their good.

Smart parents never beat their children, because they will have better education methods, will know how to respect each other, will make everything twice the result with half the effort, corporal punishment is just a helpless move, good parents do not mean that he never punishes his children, just no longer corporal punishment, they will think of better ways to let children know their mistakes and correct them.

It depends, but smart parents certainly don't hit their children very often. When a child makes a mistake, he needs to give him positive guidance, guide him to find his own problems and correct them, just solve them by force, and the child may not know that he is wrong. For children's particularly excessive behavior, you can also give a proper lesson.

I am a mother of two children, I personally think that good parents can not hit the child as a judgment, the child is ignorant when he is young, parents in the education of children, some children will be particularly naughty, sometimes it is unavoidable, as long as the child is beaten, to calmly tell the child that he is wrong, why he will be beaten, let him know that he must pay the same price if he makes a mistake!

Do good parents never hit their children? I don't think you can judge children so much, and you can't say this so absolutely. Good parents should discuss this matter with their children, so that children can admit their own shortcomings or something about this matter, but it is a reform of educational methods.

It's not that they never hit their children, but that they educate their children differently, and such parents value their children's thinking, and they will definitely understand the clear rewards and punishments.

In fact, it is not difficult to become a "good parent", pay attention to the following points and you will also become a good parent.

1. Children must know how to distinguish rewards and punishments, punish the punishment, and reward the reward.

2. As a parent, you must set an example and establish a good image in front of your children, and children like to imitate their parents the most when they are young.

3. Have your own education method, and the education method must also be suitable for children, and you must not rely on your own ideas to educate children.

1.Affects physical development.

Domestic violence and occasionally hitting a child are completely two different concepts. If the child is too naughty and the parent gives it a gentle beating, it is not domestic violence. Real domestic violence is a life-threatening behavior that has caused direct harm to the child's body.

There are some parents who are particularly short-tempered, and they can beat their children with anything, such as picking up an iron rod to beat their children, the children are still so young and growing their bodies, and hitting them with a stick may make the child break bones, which will of course affect the development of the child's body.

2.Lack of self-confidence.

Many children who are often subjected to domestic violence have low self-esteem. Other people's children are the pearls of their parents' palms, and they are very confident when they are extremely cared for by their parents, but they are not cared for by their families, and they are often beaten, and they will lack self-confidence in their hearts.

There will also be problems with other children, who do not know how to get along with others and are afraid to get along with others.

3.Imitation of violence.

The child is often subjected to domestic violence, and he has an awareness that violence can solve all problems. No matter what he did, Weisun could solve it with violence. When he encounters a problem, he may not be able to think, and he may not be able to control his emotions, so he will talk to others, and he will use violence to solve all problems.

I remember a news a while ago: a student who was often bullied ruthlessly threw his classmate who bullied him from the 4th floor to ......First of all, no matter who is right or wrong, this bullied child is often beaten by his parents at home. was bullied at school, and he could only swallow his anger until one day it completely broke out, which turned out to be a tragedy.

4.Insecurity.

Children who are often beaten are insecure, they don't know when they will be beaten again, and they are always vigilant and look at their parents' faces to do things. Such children will also be very timid and afraid of things when they go out into society, because they have no sense of security.

Children are often beaten when they are young, and the chance of depression increases. Because of the experience of being beaten, the child has a shadow of the chain of heart, and this shadow may accompany him for the rest of his life. Such children do not dare to resist domestic violence, nor dare to communicate with others, feel that they are not worthy of love, and may even close themselves.

5.Harm from verbal violence.

Many parents think that hitting their children is domestic violence, and scolding their children is not domestic violence, this view is wrong, and scolding children is also domestic violence. Every child makes mistakes, and it is good to correct them, and there is no need to scold them.

Parents must develop the habit of talking well, after all, children imitate you every day, if one day you find that your child is full of swearing, then don't blame the child, review yourself.

Mom has something to say in the early morning:

Children will make mistakes, parents should choose a rational way to solve the problem, do not choose the way of domestic violence to solve the problem, because domestic violence cannot solve the problem, and it cannot educate children. If domestic violence is serious and there is a possibility of violating the law, it is child abuse. The impact of domestic violence on children is huge, and children should be guided more and do not choose violent ways.

I hope that parents can realize these problems as soon as possible, so that my children will not be subjected to domestic violence again.

Because of the scolding of this rotten kind of hungry education can not achieve good results and long-term effects, but also to the child's soul to cause greater damage, affect the child's character development, now very many parents are knowledgeable, learning parents, they are very aware of the disadvantages of scolding education is often to learn more advanced education methods and methods, communicate with children, establish a good parent-child relationship. So as to win a better education. So nowadays, many parents don't beat and scold their children.

1. Parents often beat their children, and after a long time, children feel scared when they see their parents, dare not talk to their parents, and even dare not approach their parents, becoming submissive. Therefore, no matter what his parents want him to do, and no matter whether his parents' words are right or wrong, he will only obediently obey. In this bad environment of absolute obedience, the children who shouted at the wild head often guessed and obeyed, were mentally depressed, and learned passively.

This planted a seed of "cowardice" for him to go to society in the future, and this cowardice will make the child unable to do anything, when the child can't do anything well, and is complained by others, it will only be more cowardly, which is the bad impact of domestic violence.

2. In the family of fighting, the most innocent is the child, they don't even understand what the parents are quarreling for, the high-decibel quarrel makes the child at a loss, in order to attract or divert the attention of the parents, they want to make the parents wake up through self-harm, or stop quarrelling, especially adolescent children, they are extremely "hot-blooded", and feel that after the parents quarrel, they subvert their lives, so they want to end the domestic violence in the way of self-harm.

3. Infiltrated children who have suffered domestic violence since childhood have low self-esteem, no sense of security, difficulty in getting along with their parents, and will not know how to live in harmony with their partners in the future.