How to live a marriage! How do you live your married life?

Hello, I would like to know the reasons why you have analyzed a lot of his shortcomings, but have not taken the step of divorce. Looking at your title, you still have hope for your marriage and hope to find a solution from here. I think Teacher Tang Wenxia asked you "Can you tell me how you married your husband in the first place?" There is another meaning, which is what you loved him when you decided to marry him.

Did all the things that he could not tolerate after marriage exist before marriage? I don't know when your father died, and children who have lost their father are often insecure, in what ways did he cater to your need for security, was he very good to you, and made you feel that he was a trustworthy person? After marriage, due to financial problems, it triggers your insecurity.

From your description of him, I see that he comes from a family with many children, he may be at the bottom of the line (he may be more doting), the family conditions are poor, and his mother is even willing to borrow usury to let her son have a house and a daughter-in-law. He has no concept of money, and his lack of design for the future has something to do with the environment in which he grew up. View the original post

Every time he said that he wanted to save money, but he couldn't hold it for the time being, handed over the salary card in my hand, and said to give me my card as soon as he quarreled! Looking at his red eyes and thick neck, like a cannibal, I just want to get as far away from him as possible! If you don't give him money, he doesn't have a penny in his hand, and if he gives it money, he has nothing left in his hand!

I can't just ignore it, tired, too tired!

A good married life is created by two people, and if you care too much about the efforts of both parties, I am afraid that it will affect the quality of marriage. It is recommended that you communicate more with your husband, believing that you love each other and are willing to maintain this marriage, then talk about it in depth, find the key point of the problem and then start to solve it. View the original post

How to break a marriage that is not good and cannot be separated.

Can you tell us how you married your husband in the first place, how your family income was managed, and you have accumulated some grievances in your married life, you need to communicate deeply and effectively to discuss things at home. View the original post

Go ahead, or don't hesitate.

A: Marriage, like planting a tree, also needs to be "watered" and cared for.

If we want to make our marriage happier and more long-lasting, we should care more about our other half, occasionally create warmth and romance in our lives, and work hard to improve the quality of family life, so that our married life can become better and better.

The moment we enter the marriage hall, we all hope that the object is the only one in our lives, and our married life can be as sweet and romantic as the wedding day. In real life, the sweet happiness when you get married will soon be diluted by the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in life. After many couples return to a peaceful life, they slowly quarrel and become more famous.

In my personal married life, there are two common tips for making a happy marriage happy.

Whether it is in the process of love or in married life, quarrels between the two are always inevitable. Although quarrels are inevitable, we can keep our mouths shut and prevent ourselves from saying too hurtful things in the middle of a fight. As the saying goes, "a good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June", in the process of quarreling between husband and wife, they are most afraid that the other party will not choose to say anything, and say words that make the other party extremely sad.

A heart-piercing sentence will cool down the relationship for a while; In the face of cooling feelings, it takes countless words of concern to be able to warm it up.

Therefore, the secret to a happy, happy and long-lasting marriage is to care more about and greet your partner. Warm words are a very important foundation for the long-term maintenance of marriage.

Marriage is higher than love, but it cannot be separated from love. After many couples have been married for a long time, they get along like relatives, respecting each other like guests, but they also lack a lot of warmth and romance.

If you want to make your marriage last, you also need to keep the love under your marriage fresh. From time to time, the husband and wife come to romance and give each other a little surprise. Let the beauty of youth be able to continue.

In addition to warmth and romance, both parties should also make unremitting efforts for this common home, and at the same time improve the quality of life, the marriage between the two can be more stable.

Marriage depends on two people working together!

The secret to a successful marriage: Respect each other's differences. Be considerate, understanding, and tolerant of each other.

Men and women are from different planets, men are rational and women are emotional.

It is ridiculous to wish that two people have the same thoughts, the same opinions, and the same desires, and it is impossible and undesirable to do such a thing. To adapt, not to transform your spouse.

Many romantic dreams were shattered! More than 50 are unhappy in marriage. One reason: useless, yet heartbreaking criticism. To maintain a happy family life, remember: don't criticize the calendar.

Communication between couples is important! Find a communication style that works for both of you; Communicate openly and straightforwardly; Remember, if emotions arise, stop and avoid harm.

The most important thing to get along with your spouse, children, friends or colleagues is to learn to listen, which requires a lot of maturity. Listening means patience, openness, and sincerity in wanting to understand the other person, which are mature personalities. On the contrary, it is much easier for Sun Xi to talk to himself and disrespect others.

And mutual loyalty and trust are at the very least.

Difference. Be considerate, understanding, and tolerant of each other.

In fact, everyone's married life must be different, some husband and wife life must be good, you lie to me, I lie to you, and slowly embark on the road of no return, so if you want to live a good life as a husband and wife or as a base, then you must care for each other, understand each other, and give each other a sense of trust, and you will naturally live happily.

How to live in married life, you should help each other, respect each other, and understand each other.

Honesty and honesty love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony in the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, husband and wife should be honest with each other, respect and love each other, and take care of each other, which is more exciting than giving gifts. Imperial shortage.

2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts. Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity.

3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits. Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long.

Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel. An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment.

4. Learn to be patient Husbands and wives must learn to be patient, Chekov said: "The most important thing in married life is patience." "When the other person loses his temper or sends a provocative signal, it is best to take a patient and avoid way, or put yourself in the position of understanding the cause to help relief, rather than being influenced by the other person's emotions and putting yourself in a bad emotional state.

5. Take the initiative to undertake housework After getting married, there are major matters that need to be negotiated together, but more often are the daily chores of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the joint sharing of housework, and taking the initiative to undertake a part of the housework, which is a concrete manifestation of the husband's love for his wife and the wife's patience and consideration for her husband. If you need the other person's help, it's best to replace the commanding "you do it" with a friendly "help".

1.First of all, I think I have to make sure that he doesn't really work hard to make money (how old is your husband?). ）。

Maybe his previous job was lost because he wanted to find a better job and make more money, but now he is looking for it, and it is definitely worse than his previous job, so he has never found a job, and then he feels that he has to smoke. If you ask for money, you may have to invest upfront to do business. He had a mistress before, which means that his previous job was okay (I don't believe that the mistress was not for money).

But this is really bad, I don't know if the junior is married. If you are married, it is even worse. Sooner or later, her husband will know that at that time, even men will seek revenge on your husband.

2.If he really belongs to the kind of man who is lazy and lazy, and has the same temper as you described. I think it's better to cut through the mess quickly and get divorced early, otherwise you will suffer more in the future. As for the mother-in-law's side, she must be protecting his son.

3.If he is the one caught between the dots, maybe there is indeed a situation, and he is not a junior, but he is a better friend. Then the family is actually well maintained, because the men outside are not necessarily against your appetite.

Why is marriage like this? A good marriage has to be managed.

As the saying goes, it's better to demolish a temple than a marriage It depends on what the situation is As far as the current situation of marriage you are talking about Is your love for each other strong Pregnant you are a person who is cared for and protected He actually has signs of finding a third son in the past tense Is it tolerable Is it tolerable Is it worthy of you and the unborn child If you can't save the relationship with your husband, how good it is Do you like to have children with such a man Think about it carefully Showdown with his family Get rid of the child Divorce It's not easy to get out of a family and enter a family But you're right, why do you want to endure the mistakes that your husband brings to you The other important responsibility of a woman sticking to the family is to endure humiliation But that's after having a child Now you should think about it.

I don't understand, how can you marry such a man? Be all abroad.

You have to sit down with him and talk to him, ask him to find a stable job, let him think about your future in the future, and you can't make money for him when you give birth to a child and confinement him. Divorce is not a good way, and you have to think about the child in your belly. If you really can't get along with him, you can only get a divorce.

In short, you have to think about the consequences of the incident and don't regret it in the future.

Let's leave, what do irresponsible people want him to do.

l Divorce bar quality issues.

Love is a flower, marriage is a fruit, love is beautiful, and marriage is affordable. Not all flowers will bear fruit, but all fruits must have been flowers.

Everyone's attitude towards marriage is different, just find someone to live, find a woman to help you have children, find an overnight person who does not charge money, everyone's understanding is different, in my opinion, there are many kinds of marriage status, marriage also needs to be managed, and you have to think about how you can improve it from **.

Love longs to enter the bag of marriage. But the bag of marriage contains too many things, and it is not certain which one has edges and corners, and it will squeeze love. Scraped. Love is like fresh fruit, if you don't take care of it, it will become moldy and shrink.

Marriage must be implemented. Writer Yang Daxia Yang Ke revealed that real marriage is the destination.

1. Marriage is not child's play, not divorce when you say divorce. These are not problems, but patterns of getting along with each other.

2. The difficulty of a family is not that you blindly separate or solve the problem, but that the husband and wife and the family communicate well, rather than complaining because of this little thing, and sometimes find a confinement lady to solve the problem.

3. The problem of children, in fact, if you are not good at talking between husband and wife, then talk to your wife, but now the child is only 7 days old and can't stand it, so in the future, the days will be long.

4. Her parents love to take care of things, so let them take care of it, you don't touch it, and at the same time pull your parents aside, and talk about it after a month.

5. Solve your own marriage, solve it yourself, feel that it is a pleasure, don't worry about this. Be yourself. Don't confront them head-on.

Brother, I know that it is not easy for you, but since you already have children, you have to maintain the integrity of your marriage. Of course, sometimes you have to say it, and you can't be too indulgent. I would like to recommend a book to you, "The Analects of Distinction", and you will be discouraged, and you can learn a lot of ways to deal with things.

Peace and joy to the family.

Waiting for fate!

Outside of fate, marriage needs to be managed! It's the same as the business field, there are winners and losers!

Good luck!