In life, what kind of tone of voice and way do you bother you the most?

Some people always sigh, some people often smile, some people open their mouths and say, "Oh, it's annoying, it's so tired", and some people always say "Hey, good, awesome, come on". When the leader assigns the work, someone is decisive and resolute, and the language is as sonorous and powerful as the execution, and you will hear "Okay, no problem, please rest assured, leave it to me".

Showing off his wealth, in every word, he must show his economic strength, superior to others, different from others, and more and more subtle, laughing at every turn, saying that other people are like this and that, as if he is the richest in the world.

Volume gradient party - generally refers to a person who speaks quieter and quieter, at first he can still concentrate on listening to him, but the further he speaks, the more he can't hear clearly, and this kind of person generally puts the important content behind, so it becomes like this: by the way, do you remember yesterday's class, and then the teacher let us....,%

I am most annoyed in life, and I use a commanding tone to talk to me, first, you are not my elder, and second, you are not my leader.

In life, I am most annoyed to talk to me in that very disdainful tone, if you want to speak, just tell me that you disdain, who are you looking at?

I said that I was most annoyed to use that commanding tone to talk to me, and that everyone is an independent individual nowadays, so why should you instruct others?

A person's language state affects your image and mentality, which is born from the heart, and a large part of the mind is expressed through language. People say, "Character determines destiny."

To change your personality, you must first change your language habits, and to change your language habits, start by abandoning these three ways of speaking.

I'm most annoyed to talk to me in that peculiar girly tone because I feel goosebumps all over my body.

I'm most annoyed in my life to talk to me in this very, out of tune, because I can't tell if what you're saying is true or not.

People who start with "I don't think so" for all. I'm the most annoyed by this kind of collapse of money, and every time someone says a few points, he wants to refute them, and he feels so smart.

As soon as he spoke, he yelled, not reserved at all, no matter what the side stool said, he was very excited about the filial piety brigade, and then carefully pretended to have a very loud voice, which I really found very offensive.

Next year is not very old, and I especially like to guide the people who hold the closed macro and educate others in the tone of the people who have come over. I just can't stand this kind of way of talking, and I can't even stand the voice of his judgment.

When I talk to people, I always hold my chest in that posture, and I always feel suspicious and disbelieve what others say. Then use the voice of yin and yang to deny other people's omissions.

The most annoying thing is that there are some girls who are hungry and angry, and they speak in a coquettish tone, which is really very annoying, and they usually don't talk like this.

When chatting with him, he is always impatient and responds to your questions, which makes people feel very annoying, because you feel disrespectful because you are like this.

Always chatting with other Wang Duan guessing people with a feeling of burning high, I feel that all sleepy people are not as rich as her family, this way of talking to others, I am really annoyed.

everywhere reveals the tone of seeing through the red dust and penetrating the world, and then turns her head and complains about why the person she loves doesn't love her. This kind of person is a complete hypocrisy.

I especially hate the frown when people talk because the expression is so ugly that no one can communicate with you anymore.

Life is made up of a variety of behaviors, however, good behaviors are comforting, and bad behaviors are offensive or even avoiding you. Although we need to have a tolerant and generous heart, there are some behaviors that cannot be tolerated and understood.

NO1 does not care about public health. Although in this civilized society, there are differences in the quality of people, in fact, personal hygiene is understandable, we can't control other people's living habits, but in public places when no one is around to act according to personal preferences, it is very uncomfortable. For example, in the company's bathroom, someone typed that smoking was prohibited, but there were always a few people who were happy to smoke in it, and even worse, littered toilet paper after going to the toilet.

Just a small gesture, so that the company management felt that the quality of the people in this office was really poor, and most people were blinded and shot.

NO2 is not filial to parents. There was a neighbor in his hometown, and the family did everything they could to get him through college. However, after he walked out of school and stepped into society, he forgot his roots, and his parents were old, but he ignored them.

Once, his father was too tired in his early years, resulting in a herniated lumbar disc, bone hyperplasia, leg pain that could not walk, almost paralyzed, when the family took money from him to be hospitalized, but he did not share a penny of responsibility for the family because of the recent shortage of money. Filial piety first, such a forgetful behavior makes people feel heartbroken, poor his old father, fortunately, with the help of the village and the old people's relatives and friends, he has gone through the difficulties, at least now he can take care of himself, otherwise, I am worried that the old man can't think about that situation, just ask, who hasn't aged one day? If his children were like him, I don't know what kind of experience he himself would have had at that time.

NO3 complains negatively and does not take responsibility. There are one or two people around him, who cut corners when doing things all day long, and only came to the company with a shell at work, however, when the colleagues around him were promoted and raised, he was sneering at him. What about usually?

When discussing a project with him, the first thing he said was to pour cold water on you.

NO4 is not self-loving, too selfish. There was a young man in the village who spent all his family's savings when he was hospitalized due to poor health, and then, after being discharged from the hospital, he not only did not show gratitude to his family, but took his already bad health to gamble (he liked gambling very much). The family's painstaking persuasion was exchanged for such an answer:

I went to play cards in the hope of winning some money and coming back to improve your lives"。What's even more hateful is that his wife never left him when he was in the most difficult time and gave birth to a daughter, but now he would rather divorce his wife for his own hobbies. I also once persuaded him that if he put all that energy into his work, wouldn't it be rewarding?

However, he didn't listen to him at all, and after that, I never contacted him again, a person who didn't love himself, and he didn't deserve to be loved by everyone.

I can't say it's disgusting, because I understand that everyone behaves differently, so let's call it despised, and I don't dare to agree with it if it's elegant.

First, hold others to their own standards. My own standards seem to be a one-size-fits-all finish.,Please.,Anything plus absolutely two words won't be right.,Okay.。 Thinking that there is only one model and one standard in the world, and it is her model and standard.

For example, there is an aunt in our unit, she hates to eat coriander, and she eats together in the cafeteria, and when she sees the people at the same table with her eating coriander, she will definitely make a fuss and say, "My mother, how can you eat coriander, you are so strange, coriander is simply a bed bug and tastes good." "Most people just smile awkwardly and don't speak. One day, a little girl with sharp teeth came and said, "Have you ever eaten bed bugs, or are you old and experienced?"

Oh my God, young people nowadays are so rude, I love it!

Second, there is no empathy, and you don't think from someone else's point of view. Anything, as long as you are comfortable, never care about what kind of feelings and consequences it brings to others. "Xiao Wang, help me carry a bucket of water" "I'm sorry Aunt Li, I'm busy" This conversation will not be five minutes later, and there will be such a rumor "The new Xiao Wang, the shelf is not too big, let him help carry the bucket of water, what a big deal, and say that he is busy, I am strange, carrying a bucket of water, are you **, still busy."

She doesn't care about people at all, Xiao Wang has no obligation to help her, at all.

Third, hold high and step low. In this world, there are many poor people in the downtown area, no one asks about the rich, there are distant relatives in the mountains, more are icing on the cake, less is charcoal in the snow, more is the wall is down, everyone pushes the drum and ten thousand people beat, and there are less heroes and three gangs. The better you are, the more opportunities and praise you get, and the more you fail, the more ridicule you get.

Everyone worships the strong and bullies the weak at the same time. wanted to be the prince of gymnastics, Li Ning, who became famous in a fight, and everyone cheered and watched, but no one encouraged him when he failed slightly. Su Qin swam home, his sister-in-law looked at each other, and later hung the seal of the six countries, and his sister-in-law greeted him in a snake shape.

Fourth, judge others casually and disturb their happiness and life. It was as if Liang Jingru had given them endless courage to disturb other people's lives casually. There is a girl, her boyfriend is very happy and happy every day with electric car pick-up, happy and happy, and then her colleague asked her, "Does your boyfriend love you or not, the scorching sun is also an electric car, hurry up and work hard to buy a car to pick up and drop off" "I think the electric car is very good, very convenient, we are not far away" "Girl, you don't understand, we are here, the man who loves you will not let you suffer" I go, come over, really boil a hand of poisonous chicken soup.

I particularly hate noisy environments, so basically I hate all the loud things, first of all, the most unbearable is the kind of loud talking, this is not speaking in class, speaking loudly so loud that the whole class can hear the kind, usually when you speak, just whisper, can let the other party hear it? It's not for the sake of saying it to others, and this has nothing to do with others. To say that it is like a quarrel, this can only reflect that this person has no quality, just like playing ** on the bus, on the bus in Japan, people hit ** is the kind of whispering, people's quality is indeed higher than Chinese, this is an undeniable fact.

In the university dormitory, there should be more of this feeling, some people just like to play some ** in the dormitory, not to mention the taste of listening to the song, the sound is very loud, you say that the sound is big, you still sing along, but the singing is not good, you still feel good about yourself. Sometimes I don't like that taste, so when the dormitory is a square, do you want to put on the most dazzling ethnic style to dance a square dance?

It's not just the voice that is a problem when speaking, some people don't brush their teeth after eating garlic, although brushing their teeth is useless, but it still has a certain effect. Since you eat garlic, then talk less to others, don't pay attention to me so close when you speak, okay, I still have to put on a smiling face and look at you, ignore me farther away, okay? Thank you.

I feel that the most direct way for individuals to build emotions from strange to familiar is through communication, which refers to the process of information transmission and exchange between each other, including interpersonal communication and mass communication. Interpersonal communication is the most direct way of communication, which is the process of exchanging information, emotions, needs, attitudes and other psychological factors between individuals, and it is also a means of communication of thoughts and emotions, and the most direct way to reduce conflicts and improve interpersonal relationships.

That is to say, if you want to have a good interpersonal relationship, you have to be able to speak, because two strangers meet for the first time, they are all understood through the way and content of speaking, if the way of speaking is not correct, it is easy to form a poor first impression, giving people a sense of disrespect. People with low emotional intelligence often lose the attention of their friends because they don't know how to speak and communicate, and they often hurt others without knowing it.

Psychologists believe that people with low emotional intelligence usually prefer to speak in these four tones.

The tone of the command

Feed! Hand me that, hurry. I think this is acceptable if it is the tone of the boss ordering the subordinate.

If it is an equal colleague or friend, this tone is not very suitable for the relationship between each other, such a tone makes people feel disrespected, as if the strong command the weak, and must obey his tone, invisibly forming a sense of oppression psychologically, and experiencing a very boring feeling.

A skeptical tone

How is that possible? Will it be like this? Often communicating with people in a skeptical tone is an expression of distrust of the other party, and indirectly a negative tone.

This will make each other feel very embarrassed, who wants to be friends with people who don't trust themselves and always doubt themselves? In this way, they do not experience the power they need from each other, so they always want to stay away.

The tone of the rhetorical question

Wouldn't you know how simple it was? Rhetorical question is a level of negation that is deeper than doubt, and carries a meaning of negation and contempt, individuals will interact with each other, they will establish themselves through the evaluation of others, and those who affirm their self-worth will identify and accept. On the other hand, people who always deny themselves will be alienated.

People with low emotional intelligence are usually self-centered and do not take into account the feelings of others on any occasion, so they will often express their hearts in a rhetorical tone.

Impatient tone

Okay, okay, got it! If the other party is a friend you care about, it will usually hurt you to hear this tone, because you can obviously feel that the other party's impatience and boredom will experience the feeling of not being needed, the sense of self-worth will be reduced, and the self-esteem will also be hit, at this time, you will doubt the depth of each other's emotional involvement, and determine whether you are willing to have a deeper relationship with it.

The above is purely my personal opinion.