As a parent of a child, how do you think you should control your child s emotions?

Personally, I generally use the idea that when the child is in a good mood, read picture books and listen to her, and the picture books will choose books about controlling emotions or temper, and I will communicate with her about the harm that bad emotions will bring to others, and when the child has emotions, I will bring out the main character in the picture book that I read with her, and then communicate with her, which is generally feasible.

Why should you control your emotions? Personally, I think that children's emotions should be let out of their minds, and controlling emotions should be an adult's business, if children are living the same as adults, always controlling their emotions, then future children will live very depressed, children, children need to learn how to effectively vent their emotions, not how to restrain and suppress their emotions, why impose what adults do on children. The child should be uninhibited.

I think the most important thing is to teach your child to control his emotions, and this can be led by example, and when he sees how you handle things, he will naturally learn.

Reason with her and tell her what is right and what is wrong.

First: keep abreast of changes in your child's mood and be a listener to your child.

Second: encourage and support your child appropriately, and feel love and warmth.

As the child grows older, his approach will change. For example, when I was very young, I was in a bad mood to find my mother to hug and eat candy, and when I was older, I might play ball and listen to **. Whatever the method, he at least had to know:

When I have a difficult emotion here, even if there is no one around me to help me, even if my parents are not around me, I still have ways to help myself. ‍‍

The power of parental example. Parents are their children's first teachers, so what does this teacher teach? From the moment a child is born, every word and deed of parents is a role model for children to learn.

As a parent, you should check whether there are any inappropriate words and deeds in the process of emotional management, such as often getting angry because of something, and losing your temper at your family at every turn because you are unhappy. In the process of doing this, the child learns a way to deal with things, thinking that when emotions come and are unhappy, then crying, getting angry, and throwing things. If you want to control your child's emotions, then first look at how you deal with your emotions when they come.

In dealing with emotions, it is unrealistic to "only allow the governor to set fires and not allow the people to light lamps."

The emotion control mechanism consists of emotion arousal, emotion inhibition, emotion maintenance, and emotion enhancement. Be aware of your emotions. That is, always pay attention to the emotional state:

What are children's emotions? To properly express emotions, you need to experience and figure it out with your heart, and more importantly, you need to use it in your life. Relieve emotions in a suitable way.

You will be able to control your emotions instead of letting them control you. ‍‍

Teach children the habit of recognizing and expressing emotions, and if you want to control your emotions, then you must recognize them. Teach children how to recognize emotions in everyday life. I don't know if you have this experience:

It's very sad to encounter a very heartwarming thing. At this time, you especially want to find a good friend and complain to her. Actually, let's think about it:

Spitting doesn't solve the thing that makes you feel heartbroken, but your emotions are released, and you are no longer so sad. Therefore, it is very important for children to learn to control their emotions by teaching them to recognize emotions and guide them to express them. ‍‍

Regulate your mood. Emotional regulation is "when I have a severe, negative emotion, I can help myself in a simple and feasible way to bring me back to a normal level". Speaking of which, I would like to ask you, do you know what is the most effective emotion regulation strategy for your child?

Does your child know what he can do to make himself better when he is angry and upset? ‍‍

I think it's important to help your child express how he felt at the time. For example, you don't buy him toys and roll on the floor. At this time, you say to him, "Child, do you like this toy very much, and your mother won't buy it for you, and you are very angry and frustrated?"

That's when he'll cry and say to you, yes, Mom, I'm going to buy this, I'm going to want it. Shows understanding of your child's feelings. Agree with him and understand him, and he will be willing to cooperate with you.

Who would talk to someone who doesn't agree with him

Don't deny your child's feelings, and don't say, "Why are you so uncomfortable?" There's no need!

What's there to lose your temper about this. "You just know how to cry, is it useful to cry? What is there to be sad about.

When your child's feelings are not recognized, the first thing is that he feels that you don't understand him. The second time he doubts himself because his parents are telling him not to trust his feelings. ‍‍

Some parents often complain that their children have a bad temper and will cry and lose their temper whenever a small thing does not satisfy them. For this problem, many parents may have encountered it, in the face of such a situation, some parents will also lose their temper and teach their children a lesson, some parents think that they are not capable of taking care of their children, so they do their best to meet the needs of their children, but some parents are very smart, and they use some methods to calm their children's emotions. So, how to deal with children who are emotionally out of control?

Clause. 1. Distract your childFor young children, distraction is very useful, give him a toy, or play games with him, you can avoid him from losing his temper. Children at this age are not yet able to understand the concept of reason, and reason is ineffective for them when they lose their temper.

Older children can be taught how to shift their attention and learn self-soothing strategies, such as taking deep breaths, or counting, or thinking of something happy.

Clause. 2. Learning to control emotions This may be difficult for children, but children learn to control their emotions by imitating their parents' behavior. So when parents feel more and more depressed, or when their emotions are about to spiral out of control, they can take a deep breath and give themselves a little time to rebuild their emotions and set a good example for their children.

Clause. 3. Use humor to humor is a good adjuster, if things are going in a bad direction, you can try to make a grimace or make a joke to ease the atmosphere, there may be unexpected developments, which can also allow children to learn.

Clause. Fourth, give the child one more choice Most of the time, when the child is faced with something, they will suddenly lose their temper, then you can try to give him a little buffer, or more options, such as when the child wants and is not suitable, you can give him one more choice, let him make his own decision.

Clause. 5. Avoid a child's outburst It is much easier to prevent a brewing emotional breakdown than to deal with an out-of-control child. Tantrums are like dominoes, once a small part collapses, the rest will collapse.

Therefore, try to observe and grasp the signs of your child's agitation so that your child's temper can break out. For older children, it is also possible to teach him to recognize these signs and tell him how to avoid losing control of his emotions.

Clause. Sixth, change the environment in time to avoid the child's temper, the best way is to let him leave the scene. Changing the environment can help calm your child down, keep him with his favorite toy, or find a comfortable place for him to sit down.

In conclusion, in fact, no emotion can be suppressed, and finding an outlet can avoid the repression of bad emotions, which will only make the child feel angry. Through the above methods, it can help children lose control of their emotions, which is conducive to preventing children's bad temper and is more conducive to the development of mental health.

Children are easy to lose control of their emotions, so they need to be comforted, communicated, listened to their voices, and taught them to control their emotions. It is more common for children to lose control of their emotions, especially for younger children, because they cannot deal with emotional problems reasonably, or they may also be rebellious, irritable, or depressed and other emotional problems that cause children to lose control of their emotions, and can also increase children's interests and hobbies, thereby diverting children's attention. If this condition lasts for a long time, you can seek medical attention in time, and if necessary, relieve your child's symptoms through psychological** and medication**.

Here's how:

1. Timely comfort: When the child's emotions are out of control, parents need to comfort them in time, such as verbally comforting, giving hugs or physical touch, etc., which requires more patience to calm the child's emotions;

2. Communication: If the child's emotions are easy to lose control, be sure to communicate with the child, understand the reasons for the child's emotional out-of-control, guide the child to express his heart, vent his emotions, and gradually stabilize his emotions. Do not let it go, otherwise the child will be more distressed, feel neglected, and even feel abandoned by their parents, which will aggravate the degree of emotional out-of-control;

3. Control emotions: Children are easy to lose control of their emotions, probably because children do not express their emotions, nor can they control their emotions, and they do not know how to vent their emotions reasonably. If your child is prone to emotional outburst, teach him how to express himself and give him encouragement.

Communicate in a timely manner and seek understanding from others in a timely manner, so as to reduce children's negative emotions and alleviate emotional out-of-control;

4. Divert attention: You can choose other hobbies to divert your attention, you can do appropriate physical exercise, such as running, playing ball, etc., or participate in other interest classes, such as painting, **, etc., which can not only vent negative emotions, make children become optimistic and positive, but also divert attention;

5. Psychology: Children are prone to lose control of their emotions, and may also be related to mental illnesses, such as depression and anxiety, which can be manifested as symptoms such as difficulty concentrating, difficulty falling asleep, irritability, fatigue, etc., which can lead to children's emotions being easy to lose control.

6. Drugs**: If necessary, under the guidance of a doctor, take anti-anxiety and depression drugs**, such as fluoxetine hydrochloride capsules, sertraline hydrochloride tablets, venlafaxine hydrochloride capsules, etc., which can gradually alleviate the occurrence of such phenomena.

<> a person's words and actions can bring a good or bad feeling to others, and it is this feeling that deeply touches or hurts others. Therefore, we are teaching children to manage their emotions, not to let children cover up or ignore their feelings, but to help children choose a reasonable way to express their emotions, and avoid bad feelings brought to others by inappropriate words and deeds, and even hurt others. So it's very important to keep your emotions in check.

So how can we let children learn to control their emotions?

1. Accept and admit your bad feelings.

Anger is like a cloud of smoke that doesn't slowly dissipate until a window is opened. Accepting and acknowledging your child's feelings is like a window that can help your child let go of the anger in his heart. But this kind of acceptance does not mean that we agree or approve of the child's negative emotions, in fact, most of the time, when the child feels that his emotions are understood, he will consciously calm down, which leaves room for discussion in the future.

Therefore, we start with acceptance, so that children understand that there is no shame in having bad emotions, and through practice and emotional management tools, bad emotions can be controlled and managed.

Second, suppressing children's bad emotions is ineffective.

As a child. When a child experiences negative emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, etc., parents should not restrict their child's behavior and expression. For example, shout at your child:

Don't make any more fuss! Don't cry anymore! Nothing to be afraid of!

Because the child's bad mood will not disappear, but it will only be suppressed by the parents temporarily. Children will continue to be trapped in their own bad emotions and will not find a way to express and vent. This is because:

When children have not yet learned to control and manage their emotions, their feelings and emotions are difficult to control with self-awareness. The correct way to deal with it is to learn emotional intelligence wisdom with your child as soon as possible and guide your child to recognize his own emotions.

3. Don't force your child to express his emotions.

Respect your child's feelings about others and the environment. For example, instead of forcing your child to call him "uncle" and "auntie," discuss with him how to greet his parents' friends when he meets them. Of course, the result of this is that you will hear a lot of praise.

And these compliments from adults will push children to be more active in being polite to others and modest.

4. Don't set a bad example for your children.

Do you whine when you're stressed? When you lose your temper, do you control your emotions and take the initiative to calm down? When you do something wrong, do you say "I'm sorry" to your child?

Teaching children to deal calmly and constructively with their own and others' anger is one of the most important life skills parents can give their children.