Do you think parents should make their children afraid of themselves? Are there any pros and cons?

When every child is young, there will be more or less a person in his heart who is afraid of him, only in this way will the child be restrained in speech and behavior, and will not do everything by his own temperament. Under normal circumstances, in the hearts of children, they are either a little afraid of their mother, or a little afraid of their father. If you are a child who grew up with your grandparents, most of them will be a little afraid of their grandfather.

Children who are afraid of their mothers are not the same as children who are afraid of their fathers.

Since each child's growth environment is different, and the people that children are afraid of are also different, each of us knows that the living environment of children from an early age has a lot to do with the temper and personality of children when they grow up. In fact, the person that the child is afraid of also has a great impact on the child's temper and personality when he grows up. For example, children who are afraid of their fathers and children who are afraid of their mothers will have different tempers and personalities when they grow up, including a great impact on the children's later life.

Children who are afraid of their fathers will be very close to their mothers.

If the child lives in a family where the father is stricter and the mother is more loving since he was a child, the child will be a little afraid of the father in his heart, and he will be very close to his mother. When such a child grows up, he will become a good friend with his mother who talks about everything, and he will be full of respect and love for his father. The child's personality and temper will not only inherit the gentleness of the mother, but also be as responsible as his father, such a child will most likely be calmer, and generally will not develop a rebellious character.

Children who are afraid of their mothers will be a little lonely in their hearts.

Whether it's a boy or a girl, most of them want their mother to be someone who understands them. If the child is more afraid of his mother, he will get closer to his friends, and such children will regard their friends as their closest people. However, after all, friends can't be by their side all the time, and whenever children stay at home, they will feel a little lonely inside.

Therefore, it is best not to be too strong in front of the child, so that not only will you lose a child's adoration of her father, but also lose a child's intimacy with her mother.

I think it is still necessary to make children afraid of parents, the advantage is that children can know that parents are the boss of the family, so that children can not do whatever they want at home, which is conducive to parents to educate their children, and the disadvantages are not conducive to parents and children getting along, and children will not communicate with parents, and the relationship is easy to deal with.

Personally, I think parents should not let their children be afraid of themselves, they should let their children know how to respect themselves, if they let their children be afraid of themselves, their children will not dare to tell you anything on their minds, and the good words are that the children dare not do some bad things in front of you.

I don't think so. Let the child be afraid that he will be psychologically bad for the child, although he will listen strictly to himself, but if he is not careful, his resistance will be fierce.

I don't think you should be a parent, you should let your child get along with you like a friend, if you are afraid of yourself, you may not tell yourself anything to a certain extent, but it is quite good to control them.

Introduction: The child's psychology is very fragile, very young children, in the process of growth and development, the soul should also be cared for, if the child encounters very terrible things in the process of growth and development, then it is likely to bring some shadows to the young mind, so parents must pay more attention to their children's mental health in daily life, so what behaviors are children most afraid of their parents? How should parents avoid their behavior from hurting their children, I will analyze it for you.

In some families, the relationship between husband and wife is not very harmonious, once any friction is encountered in daily life, everyone will be good and even fight, in fact, this phenomenon is still very common, after all, many families have such a problem, children must be very afraid when facing their parents quarreling and fighting, but they don't know what to do, so at this time the child will feel very confused, but also very sad. This will not only bring a lot of pain to the child's young heart, but also leave a deep shadow on the child, so parents must try to avoid quarrels or fights in daily life, so as not to hurt the child's heart.

Many families will encounter a variety of problems when educating their children, such as children always do not listen, the sail is fierce or the child is still easy to make mistakes after listening, then at this time many parents will not be able to maintain their sanity, but also lose patience with their children, some parents will not be able to hold back their anger, will use violent means for children, which will not only bring certain physical pain to children, but also will make children psychologically injured.

For children, parents are children's day, parents' behavior and performance in daily life will be seen by children, some parents are very hot in daily life, and they will be very angry when they encounter a little thing, which will make children very scared. Therefore, every parent needs to maintain their own peace of mind, not only to be a good example for their children, but also to protect the healthy growth of their children.

Children are very afraid of their parents arguing or fighting in front of them, they are not wanton or often afraid that their parents will be hungry and treat their children in the way of beating and scolding, they are very afraid that their parents will talk to their children in a scolding or commanding tone, and they are very afraid of their parents divorcing. Parents should create a good family atmosphere in ordinary times, and at the same time, they should also care more about their children, understand their children's true thoughts, and pay attention to the way they communicate with their children and how to return to them.

Criticizing oneself, comparing with others, failing to see one's shining points, often conflicting, quarrels between fathers and mothers, these are all fears, parents can create a quiet atmosphere for their children, and they need to communicate with their children to avoid it.

I am most afraid that my parents will beat me, or I will be blind and blame myself, instill in myself with incorrect three views, often abuse myself, do not work, do not care about my family, and do not care about myself at all. Parents should observe their children's emotions at any time, understand their own behavior, and leave an impact on their children, so as to change their behavior.

1. Affect children's sense of security.

What does security mean for a child?

Understanding Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory shows that security and survival are the most basic needs of human beings. Without security, in many cases it is impossible to survive.

If a primitive man loses a safe place to live, he may be attacked by wild beasts, which poses a threat to his survival.

For children, they are not yet able to survive on their own during the long formative years, and are completely dependent on their parents (or other caregivers) for food and living conditions.

If the food is sufficient, the environment is harmonious and warm, and the children's survival is not threatened, they will be very relaxed and establish a good sense of security in the quiet of the years.

Once there is conflict and contradiction in the environment, the child will be sensitive to catch it, and instinctively produce anxious and uneasy emotions, because unstable factors may destroy the comfort of the environment, as well as stable food**, and the sense of security will be affected.

Children often pay attention to their parents' interactions and use this as a basis for judging whether the home environment is safe.

So, a sense of security is the number one priority for children, and it means whether they can survive or not.

If we are insecure for a long time, the consequences are also unbearable for our parents.

Psychologists believe that psychological abnormalities and even serious mental illnesses that occur in adulthood are related to a lack of security. The establishment of a sense of security is 80% completed in the preschool age, and the younger the child, the more we should pay attention to his sense of security.

As a parent of a child, I know that the fear of a child is that adults keep yelling at their children when the problem is not going to be. In fact, it is the violence of parents that children resist, not learning.

What children fear most should be the undignified suppression of parents and teachers who do wrong things, because this will hurt children's self-esteem a lot.

I didn't know what my child was most afraid of, but I knew that I was also a factor in my child's fear, so I decided to change the situation.

What children fear most is that their parents quarrel or fight in front of their children, which can lead to a particularly insecure situation.

In the more than six years I have been raising children, I have often heard this kind of remark: "Children should be afraid of being alone at home, otherwise it will be difficult to manage." "Originally, I thought that the parenting style of "loving mother and strict father" and "one singing red face and one singing white face" was far away from us, after all, parents can now learn more and more scientific parenting methods.

I spent my childhood in genuine fear, and I know how much fear of parents can be for a child. So I don't want my kids to be afraid of me.

Parents want their children to be afraid of themselves, mainly because they want their children to be obedient, so they are clever at disciplining themselves.

So how do parents make their children afraid? Shouting, beating, and punishing can make the child submissive in the short term, but in the long run, it will seriously damage the parent-child relationship and make the child more rebellious.

In fact, we can communicate with the child in another way equally and sincerely, understand the child's thoughts, listen to the child's inner cultivation and clear heart, and soothe the child's emotions.

In this way, you can build a close relationship with your child, and your child will be more willing to listen to his parents. As parents, I hope we don't become the ones who make our children scared.