What is it like to be an only child?

Since childhood, it has been a collection of millions of pets in one body, and tens of millions of loneliness in one; Even though his family is poor, he is considered rich by others. ‍‍

As an only child, in fact, sometimes I really envy the children who have siblings, and sometimes I don't want to find the closest person, because my parents are away all the year round and there is no one to rely on.

Since I was a child, my ability to entertain myself at home, direct and act by myself has made me grow into a tease; I really want to have a brother or sister to take care of possible family accidents in the future with me.

I think it's good to be an only child, and the responsibilities, rights and obligations are clear.

When I was a child, I felt very happy, and the love of my parents was poured into me alone, but the more I grew up, the more lonely I became, with no one to share, no one to cry about, so I had to carry it myself. I hope I can get stronger and stronger.

The first impression is that there are no sisters, older brothers, younger brothers, and younger sisters. When you see other people's families shouting these names, you feel very lonely.

Alone, so sad. No matter what happens, no one comes to their aid. When I grow up, I have to support my children, my parents, and even my mother-in-law, etc., and the pressure is so great.

I think as an only child, my strongest feeling is not the so-called loneliness, but the powerlessness in the face of the aging of my parents and many family changes.

When I was a child, no one grabbed things, and when I was older, no one discussed something. The most urgent wish is for the good health of the parents. ‍‍

Chat with familiar classmates and say "my brother and my sister", people always have to ask if you are not the only one in your family? Every time I mention it, I have to explain it, but my cousin can't do it.

How to accurately describe an only child in one sentence?

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As a post-90s generation, I am also the only child in my family. The so-called only child is destined to take a lonely road.

When I was a child, after school or on vacation, my parents sometimes didn't take care of me at work, and would often lock me at home alone, just watching TV every day. (There were no computers at that time).

No one with me hid under the covers at night and whispered; No one grew up knowing everything about me, laughing and playing with me, ......

Of course, there is delicious food and fun, and no one will grab or compete with you, and the resources have always been sufficient.

Many people say that only children are more selfish, and here I want to correct it:

Because we have been alone since we were children, we basically have no sense of sharing, which can be regarded as a shortcoming. You may feel that they are independent and unapproachable, but they are eager to be accepted inside.

I don't admit that the only child is weak, and I attach great importance to family affection.

But I have to admit that I don't have a deep understanding of the relationship between siblings, I can't understand what it's like to have a deep brotherhood, and sometimes I do envy others for having older brothers and sisters.

Have some worries too?

1. I have to stay with my parents and support the elderly

In fact, although some children are the only children in the family and know that their parents can't travel far, they always want to go out to work hard, but because they take care of their parents, they put it off again and again. After marrying a wife and having children, in addition to taking care of the elderly, at the same time, they have to bear the food and clothing of the whole family, and there is no opportunity to go out and work hard. Sometimes I think about it, although my parents, wife and children are living very well, the biggest regret in my life is that I don't have the opportunity to go out and fight, and I always feel a little lonely in my heart.

2. Even if you want to travel far away, you will always worry about your parents.

Of course, in reality, not all only children stay with their parents, and some parents will even urge their children to go out to work hard in order to have a better future for their children. However, the reality is not the case, no matter how far you run, there are always parents in life who can't let go. Although some children stay in the first-tier cities to work after graduation, because of their hard work, they are often promoted and raised, but they may have to quit their jobs and take care of them at home because their parents are sick.

In this case, if there are multiple siblings in the family, the pressure will be a little less, but if you have one child of your own, it is often more stressful and feel very helpless.

Summary:In reality, many people say that the only child basically enjoys the first 30 years, and the next 30 years are basically sinful. Because in the first 30 years, my parents were very fond of me, but after getting married and having children, I often felt more pressure in the face of the situation of the old and the young.

So in your opinion, is an only child really happy?

There is no need to fight for family property, no need to grab favor, there will be no partiality, parents will spend all their money, energy, and time on that child, and have all the love of Mom and Dad. When my son was young, he was happy as long as he took him out to play, but now that he has grown up, when he watches TV and plays with toys alone at home, he always feels bored, lying on the sofa and not wanting to move, sometimes staying in a corner of the community to watch other children play, and often telling me that he is bored or something like that.

When my grandmother was sick and hospitalized, my uncle, aunt and my mother took turns to stay at the hospital bed for four months, 24 hours a day. Although there is no prevarication, everyone has a mortgage, they have to raise children, and they have no life if they don't go to work for a day, and everyone is exhausted and miserable in just four months! Alas, it's really too difficult to think about the fact that you need to take care of 4 elderly people after being an only child now......What if one day you lose the love of your parents and have no siblings to share the pain?

In fact, the matter of parents' pension cannot be solved entirely by money, and more children may not be better supported. As for the loneliness of an only child, why don't you ask the two of them how they feel about having a second and third child? Now that there are a few children who don't need their parents' help to start a family, why don't you want to think about how your only child grows up?

Where does loneliness come from harmonious family relationships, don't always use your children's loneliness as an excuse, first weigh whether you can afford your money and ability.

There is no one of my peers in the family, there is no one to consult, some words can only be held in my heart, and I can only carry it alone when I encounter things, and the love given by brothers and sisters and parents is completely different. "All those who persuaded me to have a second child used this reason, the difference between the first child and the second child is more than ten years, so I am not lonely? Loneliness or not loneliness has nothing to do with a few brothers and sisters, isn't it lonely when there are more children?

No one looks down on them if they are not angry, and the brothers and sisters who are uneven in wealth are even more chicken feathers! The key is education, without education, no matter if one or a few are in vain.

The only child should be a group of people with the most Chinese characteristics, and the experience of this group of people is destined to be extraordinary.

First, the material aspect.

The material aspect is definitely extremely rich, even if the standard of living is average, because there is only one single seedling, it is all devoted to its nurturing. In addition, the grandparents of the only child have experienced ups and downs all their lives, and many of the parents of the only child have also had the shadow of poor life in their childhood, which leads them to pay too much attention to the material life of the only child's generation, and always feel that they have suffered and can no longer let the child try, so they do their best to compensate, which is also a common psychology!

Second, the emotional aspect.

An only child has no siblings, which is the biggest flaw in life. Some people may say that there are few rights and wrongs in single-child families, and there is no harm from the partiality and contrast of the elderly, which I do agree, but there are always two sides to things, and families with many grievances will envy the only child.

But it is also necessary to acknowledge the following facts:

Only children are more selfish. Born down, all the resources belong to them, the most comfortable room in the house, the most convenient seat at the dining table, the biggest expenses in the family, etc., all prepared for them, their mood affects the mood of the family, I am not happy, no one can act happy, basically they are the sun, if one day into the school, find that there are other suns, their fragile hearts are easy to collapse, and it is more cruel to enter the society, there is no more gentle drizzle, no one looks at their faces and acts, There is no more privilege for them, and yet no one has taught them how to deal with the same situation, everything is beyond their psychological capacity, which is too cruel to me. In the long years of life in the future, you can only be alone in charge, and there may be a lover, but the difference between a lover and a sibling is that the lover may abandon you, and the siblings do break bones and tendons.

Looking at the non-one-child family, the brothers and sisters are very friendly, even if they are not rich, but the family shares weal and woe, they support each other in difficult times, give each other, so that the children of the family are more sunny, more generous, and more grateful! Their material resources are not as good as only children, and there will be contradictions, quarrels, and even hatred among them, but there is always a dark side in human nature, not because you have brothers and sisters, but because of the lack and lack of family education.

3. Life.

A person's life, under the wings of parents is the best time, but parents will soon grow old, the other half of the life if accompanied to the end of the fortunate, but half of China's marriage is a breakup, the sorrow of life, the pressure of work, the forbearance of marriage is always swallowed by oneself, the sorrow of the only child is that there is very little intimate friend, because intimate friends are to exchange with their hearts, their world, can not tolerate relatives, how can they tolerate an outsider? Therefore, the only child after middle age has at least four old people on his shoulders.

As an only child, I do have a lot of feelings. Sometimes I'm happy because I'm an only child, but sometimes I'm sorry because I'm an only child.

Because I am the only child in the family, whether it is my parents or grandparents, they are very fond of me, and they can even be regarded as doting on me. So when I'm at home, I'm almost always the little princess in the family. Almost all of my requests have been fulfilled by me.

So I grew up in such a loving family, so my growth path was still very smooth. And my family's financial situation is also very good, not to mention that there are no other siblings to share my parents' love with me. So from that point of view, I'm really satisfied.

It's just that I've been spoiled by the old man since I was a child, so my current personality is relatively arrogant.

Not all only children are lonelier than non-only children, but most tend to be a little lonelier. The true thought of an only child is that there is no one who can help him, so he must be self-reliant.

In fact, many parents are now struggling with a question, whether to have one child or two children, because only children often have some disadvantages compared with non-only children. Most only children are actually lonely at heart, although they have their parents to accompany them, but no one can share happiness with them, and no one can leave school with them, so it is inevitable that they will feel that it will be better to have a younger brother or a younger sister. The most important thing is that some parents may be busy with work and let their children live in the grandparents' house, but although the grandparents can give their children good care, they cannot give their children more love.

And this kind of child will feel very envious when he sees that other classmates have older siblings or younger siblings, because these children can play with him. However, not all only children will be more lonely than non-only children, because some parents pay more attention to their children's education, so they will be with their children all day, except for the children to go to school, almost always with their children, so this kind of children tend to have a happier childhood.

The true portrayal of the heart of an only child is that he is alone, so no one can help him, he cannot rely on others, he must be strong. I believe that many only children will think like this, because only children know that since they have the expectations of their parents, they cannot let their parents down, so they will study hard. In addition, an only child is not like a non-only child, someone can share their own happiness or share their own responsibilities, so for an only child, from the beginning they know that they are only one person, so they will be more dependent on their parents, but they will be more independent when they become adults.

In the end, I feel that it is good for an only child to have an only child, and that a non-only child also has a happiness that an only child cannot experience, but no matter what, parents should give their children a happy childhood.