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I hope you can take a step back to look at the problem no matter what happens, if you always think of yourself as the protagonist of this story, I think you will never be able to see the essence of the matter, and you will never see the solution to the problem, the authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear, if you can take a break from your story and sit in the audience to watch your own story, I think you will be able to understand more things! You must also know what you should do now. In fact, love is a kind of fate that does not clean up more chaotic, in your own love, only you know the ins and outs of things best, other people's answers can only be used as a reference for you, the final decision is still your own decision, you must not take other people's answers as the standard for solving your own problems, because who will know your own things better than you?
You choose to go into love, that is, you also choose the ups and downs of love, there may be a day of breakup, since we choose a process from the beginning to the end, then, we have to face the process of love, separation is not a difficult thing to face, because two people are together for happiness, if separation is to give each other more space to find their own happiness, then what do we have to be sad? Happy is a day, unhappy is also a day, we don't have the courage to escape from this world, we still need to live every day, so since we choose to live, then why not live every day? How about making yourself happy every day?
When you don't plan to love someone else sincerely, please love yourself well! Think about it, how much have you loved yourself? Isn't it?
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To make good friends, you must first be sincere to people and things, secondly, love friends more than yourself, and finally, you can be with the kind of friends who are happy and sad with you, and don't care about gains and losses. Understand these points: First; Understand the importance of trust for friends, as the old saying goes, "Those who believe in others will always believe in them."
It shows that if you want to deal with the relationship between friends, if you want friends to trust you, you must first believe in friends, and the real "sincerity" is the foundation of getting along with friends; Second: to be generous, especially when getting along with friends, we must be generous, as the so-called "people are not sages, who can do nothing" friends are also people, he will also make mistakes, we can not always grasp the mistakes and shortcomings of friends, to really do strict self-discipline, lenient to others, in order to really get along with friends, but also to make real good friends; Third: in the midst of adversity, we can see the truth, the friendship between friends is not maintained by sweet words, the real friendship is able to withstand the test of time and environment, usually only the flesh and numb touting, the friendship that is coming to the end of the catastrophe but flying separately is what we should spurn, the friend who can give us a practical support at the critical moment is the real friend, the person who pushes you to the fire pit at the critical time is a false friend, a real villain, and the person who can persuade you to rein in the precipice is a true friend, a true gentleman; Fourth:
Friendship should be maintained by feelings, not by money, gifts to maintain, as the so-called "thousands of miles to send goose feathers, light friendship and friendship" can send you a simple blessing when you are happy, can give you a light greeting when you are troubled, such a friend is a friend! Good luck.
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It's going to be me and a few of my friends, they went out to work, and when they came back, just saying hello was gone. Sad, me.
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It's not necessarily that if you keep in touch often, it's better to have a better relationship.
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The fate between people is sometimes so inexplicable. There used to be times when we were inseparable from some people, experienced countless laughter and tears, and supported each other, but eventually we would unconsciously drift away and become strangers. There are many reasons for this, maybe it's a personality incompatibility, maybe it's a difference in beliefs, or maybe it's just a time and distance.
In one of the relationships I experienced, my best friend and I got separated like this. She and I have been best friends for many years, we live in the same neighborhood and go to and from school together every day. She is very good at drawing, I am a lover of literature, and we often create together and communicate with each other.
Our interests coincide with each other, and our relationship is also very deep, and our neighbors call us "Shuangbao".
But after graduating from high school, we all chose to leave our hometown and go to university in a foreign city, with a new life, new friends, and a new city. At first, we would talk to each other every week**,** to share the bits and pieces of life with each other, but gradually we became more and more strange. She has more friends, and slowly she has less and less time to communicate with me, and I am also busy under academic pressure and have no extra time to contact her.
Of course, the reason for drifting apart is not because we no longer like each other, but because we have entered different stages of life and are facing different problems and needs. She began to think about her development direction after graduation, whether to go abroad for further study, whether to enter the Internet industry, or whether to have a boyfriend. And I was drowning in a bunch of ** exam revisions, and I felt a little helpless a lot of the time.
We no longer have so many common topics and time to know, and gradually, the tacit understanding that was originally good became more and more thin, and finally moved towards alienation and loss of contact.
This drifting away is not unique to my friendships.
Similar stories even appear in everyone. College roommates often lose touch after graduation, high school classmates go their separate ways, and even close relatives can't avoid experiencing alienation due to time and distance. It's a process that everyone goes through, and it can be painful, perhaps, but it's also inevitable.
However, I don't think that being separated is a sad end. Even if we are no longer in touch, even if we are strangers now, we have finally met in this life. Every time I think of this, I feel extremely cherished.
It's time for us to re-embark on each other's life journeys, find new intersections, and move forward as we face different stages of life.
In short, the choice of friends is closely related to fate, once we can spend time together, it does not mean that we will be able to be together in the future, but we can cherish every fate in the current life, regardless of friend relationship or family relationship, be grateful for the present, and keep the years.
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Yes, with estrangement, with suspicion, it will fade.
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In my life, I have friends who have known each other for a long time, but now I don't often have contacts, and I will occasionally contact them, but such contacts are becoming less and less, and there may not be a contact once a year or two, so I think most people are the same as me, there are people who know, but friendship is no longer there, each has its own life, if there is no intersection with each other, there is no value, there may be less and less contact, or between real friends, there is never a need to stick together all the time, It doesn't have to be something to do together before you talk about it. It's that when you're proud, she's happy for you from the bottom of her heart. You fall, and she's the first to run and help you up.
You admire her from the bottom of your heart, and she is also sincere to you and never pretends. You support each other's decisions, and even if they are wrong, you have to accompany each other to complete them. Lovers may be replaced, playmates may change at any time, but you know that there is one person who no one can replace.
When I'm tired of everything, I think of you. The thought that you are living and existing somewhere in the world makes me willing to endure everything. Your presence is important to me.
Good friends are getting fewer, but good friends are getting better and better. So in my impression, I can have friends who have known each other for seven years, and there is no broken contact, but friendship can't be talked about, and it's impossible to be together every day, so I think the feelings between friends can only be said to know each other, not friendship, because people are getting farther and farther away now, and most people are in this situation, and the vast majority of friendships are time-sensitive and phased. I used to have a lot of good friends in junior high school, high school, and college, and I had a lot of unforgettable good times together, and I used to talk about everything, encourage each other, and play tricks on each other, and I felt that I would always be good friends with each other.
The friendship of the student days, really sincere and simple, makes people very nostalgic, most of the people who know after leaving the society, they only know because of the work relationship, most of them are nodding friends, drinking and eating at the workplace, talking about cooperation, polite to each other, but there are a few friends who can be called deep friends. Land slippery.
But many of the very good friends when they were students rarely saw each other after graduation and separation, and even a large number of them never saw each other again.
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The most direct reason is that the distance is too far to see each other often. No matter how good the relationship is, as long as you don't see each other for a long time, even if you keep in touch through the Internet, at most, you will be slowly estranged.
The best way to maintain a relationship is to find time to meet and have a chat at least once a year, no matter how busy you are. Otherwise, it's a friend, and it will slowly disappear.
The second important factor is the environment and income, when you go to school, everyone is in the same environment, which is not very much, but when you go to school, work, go abroad, etc., the difference between the environment between the two sides is getting bigger and bigger. Especially after a very big change in income, when chatting, you will find that the concerns of both parties will be completely different, and you will start to find a common language, and then you will find that the values start to conflict.
Chatting and chatting, a person slowly disappeared. For example, when we were in school, we always played games together, and the topic of conversation always revolved around games. When a person is at work, he will find that he is getting busier and busier or getting married, and he has no time to play, and sometimes he doesn't know what to talk about.
The income of two people is particularly large, and it is particularly obvious that an ordinary income has to work hard every month to live, and every penny is considering the cost performance. The other is in the Internet and financial companies, hundreds of thousands or millions a year, and it is hard to have a little time, buy good or use money to save time. These two kinds of people can talk and chat, and then they will slowly disappear.
Not to mention, the family conditions are good, and ordinary people are the same.
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All of us have come closer before we drift apart, but most of the time we meet suddenly, and we don't know when we start to be intimate or when we start to drift apart.
In the age of rebellion, we always want to do something maverick. With long bangs, learn to highlight and dye your hair, and then modify the school uniform, or graffiti on the school uniform, or cut the school uniform pants into leggings, and treat all the non-mainstream as your own special labels, self-righteous swagger. Although this history is dark, it was experienced by the two of us who are not particularly at peace in our bones, and maybe this is how our friendship was built little by little, and then we walked through junior high school and high school together until not long ago.
As soon as I calmed down during this time, I would think of this friendship and find that some feelings gradually disappeared in daily interactions. The establishment of a relationship seems very simple, because of a common topic, interest, hobby, similar experience, or just because they hit it off, or because they get along day and night. And the dilution of feelings can be because of contradictions and estrangement, or because of personality problems, and even because the feelings are getting closer and closer, too intimate so the burden is too heavy, so the more you get along, the more difficult it is to get along.
After high school, although we were in different classes but in the same dormitory, we all knew that living under the same roof would inevitably have some friction, but we didn't expect that these small frictions would make our feelings fade.
When we were in junior high school, we made stupid mistakes together, and we were happy with each other. In high school, we grew up a lot, and we began to dwell on each other's mistakes, or we were unwilling to accept different punishments for the same mistakes.
My friend is a very abrasive person, and I've known it since junior high school, but we didn't care about it at that time, because we were in the same class, and even if we were late together, we would be punished the same. However, in high school, we were in different classes, and although there were many fewer cases of late arrivals due to accommodation, there were still some cases.
The homeroom teacher in my class was much stricter than her class. Therefore, every time I was late, I was punished more severely than my friends, and over time I began to be unconvinced, which was probably a feeling of abandonment: why did I accompany you to make mistakes and you couldn't share the consequences with me?
I started complaining about my friends and making all kinds of excuses to go to the cafeteria and classroom by myself. Maybe my friend is also complaining to me: why can't I wait for her, isn't it just a few minutes?
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Summary. Hello dear, I'm happy to answer for you, the reason why the relationship between friends is getting weaker and weaker: the estrangement of friends is because they look down on the world, and it is boring and boring to interact with friends.
Why is the relationship between friends getting weaker and weaker.
Hello dear, I'm happy to answer for you, the reason why the relationship between friends is getting weaker and weaker: the estrangement of friends is because they look down on the world, and it is boring and boring to interact with friends.
Friendships may seem strong, but they are actually illusions, and they are so fragile that if you don't continue to operate, your friendships will drift apart. The more people grow, the more mature they will be, the more they will focus on the family, and they will spend more spare time and more spare time on the family in their daily life, so as to enrich the life of the family.
She just said I was going to make her heart attack.
What is the reason for it, dear.
What's going on?
I once didn't want to get her something, and she insisted on letting me take it, so I tried to find a way to hang it on her hand.
Dear, is it because the other party can't take it and let you help her get it?
At that time, we went to do the laundry, we both took a lot of things, a lot, she used my laundry detergent and asked me to put it in a clothes bag (which was dirty clothes), but I was not happy, I didn't want to take it and put it in the clothes bag, dear, because of this thing the other party is angry.
How long have you been together?
It's been 3 years. How do you usually treat each other?
What about the other party?
The two of us quarrel once a week over trivial matters, and we are sometimes hot and cold together.
Who took the initiative first after the quarrel?
I take the initiative. Are you taking the initiative every time, or are you the ones most of the time?
What kind of attitude does the other party have?
No, it's just that after giving birth to a baby, I have to take care of the baby and don't have time to care about my husband, so I usually have to care more about my husband, after all, my husband is also very hard to work outside.
No, if you really will, it proves that your relationship is not deep and not hard If you really love each other, no matter how far away you are, you will be in each other's hearts, and you both feel that it is the closest and happiest ......
I think it's like this, no matter how good the relationship is, if you don't contact you often, after a long time, everyone will become dispensable. In this life, we have had many friends around us, some of whom can accompany you for more than ten years or decades, some may just be friends at a certain stage, and some are even one-sided. At the fork in the road, we laughed at each other and told each other that the future was long, but we forgot to ask when we could get together. >>>More
If you want to recover, the key depends on what the reason is. If he loves you deeply and breaks up impulsively because of the conflict at that time, you can take the initiative to apologize and try to redeem it. If you love him deeply, he shows indifference or always quarrels and breaks up, then it is worth it.
This varies from person to person, I have a lot of friends in long-distance relationships around me, they are all very good, play more ** every day, stay together more on holidays, care more about each other, there should be no problem, but if the landlord feels light, it may be that you really have some problems, you can talk about it well, communicate it, and hope it can be solved.