What is the one thing that shatters your three views and makes you start to change?

I used to be a poor student in my first year of high school, and I could tell the size of the class by looking at the ranking. Once, when I was late for school and was punished to go to the library to sort out old books, I accidentally bumped into a so-called honor student in my class, and I still can't forget the way he looked at me, just like his own enemy. I cried all night that day, recalling many things, including my parents' disappointment in me, my classmates' ridicule of me, and since then my life has completely changed, working in shifts during the holidays, brushing up questions every day, I used to be surrounded by snacks and wifi into a classroom cafeteria, and finally I was admitted to the top ten in the school in the subsequent exam.

At first, my homeroom teacher and the principal didn't believe me, and thought that I must have cheated, so they took me to the principal's office and changed a set of more difficult papers for me to take the exam again, and the results were almost the same grade as the previous exam. After that, the principal asked me to share my counterattack experience live in front of the whole school, so I told my story under the watchful eyes of the whole school in the evening self-study.

There is one small thing that is a bit of an exaggeration to say that it changed my worldview, but it changed my perspective on a person. This person is none other than my daughter. Because her daughter was born prematurely and was frail and sickly, she was loved by thousands of people since she was a child, and she developed a princess disease, always thinking that she would not take into account the feelings of others and be self-respecting.

Until one day, when we went out on the street together, we saw a ragged beggar on the side of the street, and instead of condescendingly throwing coins into the beggar's bowl, as many people do, she squatted down and gently placed the coins in the bowl. He is careful to maintain the self-esteem of others.

In February last year, I met a senior high school girl, and through daily communication, we found that we have a lot of common hobbies with each other, whether it's playing games together or chasing together, in short, it seems that we did have a good time. Because of the mandatory self-study on the night of the freshman year, I sometimes feel very tired at the end of the day, but every time I see her go online on time at ten o'clock, all the fatigue will be swept away immediately—maybe I will have a similar experience when I really like someone. I was also worried about her studies, after all, it's not good to play on my mobile phone every day in my third year of high school.

However, the excellence of her grades proved that my worries were unwarranted—what else could I say about being first in my class every time? Its existence has really subverted my three views!

Through what we see, break our previous perceptions, which are constantly changing and forming. As for which moment? I would say, every moment.

Our values are not formed all at once, but are constantly changing in our listening, speaking, reading and writing. "It's not that you think you're not right or wrong, it's not that you feel unfair or it's dark. ”There is only a specific need at that time, and there is no absolutely right thing.

And I am determined that there must be similarities and differences with everyone, and I hope everyone understands one point. "There is no right or wrong in the world, only differences in positions. ”Therefore, we need to face up to the "differences" in the world.

I used to think that the dog lovers that others sprayed were just the people who lost their minds for dogs in the news. Later, in a funny app, I realized the mistake of my three views. I was browsing the app normally that day, and I saw a person beating the dog with a brick, and I was thinking why he was so brutal?

The establishment of a worldview is extremely complex, and in order to change the established worldview, it is necessary to have a very complex thinking process, and nothing in life can be done with such great energy. If you really want to have it, it can only be that you don't really understand what the worldview is, and you think that you have changed.

Every day, there are many things that refresh my three views. The details are as follows:

A very good colleague, he usually seems to be a very upright person, very easy-going and very real, last spring to find me to say that something happened at home to use money urgently, to borrow 10,000 yuan from me, at that time promised to return it to me immediately after use, see that he was very anxious, immediately the bank to withdraw money to him, at that time I felt that the character was good and there was no IOU, a year I wanted to use the money to him to say, I didn't admit it, that innocent look really felt that I was mistaken, the real surprised me, there are such people, it really refreshes my three views.

Two centuries ago, the Netherlands was one of the shortest people in the world, but now the Netherlands is a "giant country". The average height of women in the Netherlands is close to meters, and the average height of men is 184 meters, the most ubiquitous thing on the street is the long-legged and tall little brother and sister, and I instantly feel like a dwarf.

I have an assistant and I've always felt that our working philosophy is the same. The outlook on life is basically the same. Because the degree of cooperation in work is very high.

The perception of the problem is sometimes strikingly the same. However, his recent sudden resignation also took away a lot of customer information, which made me feel that the three views need to be reshaped.

After the New Year, I went to work and told my colleague that I had a blind date at home, and I felt good, and my colleague asked me that the boy was working in **, was there a place, and I said no, he was in the field, and my colleague said, "Then you have to be careful." ”

My colleague said that she used to have a man in the company, who was very attentive, talking about one outside, and having a blind date at home, both sides were in place, and Valentine's Day was to buy two gifts, and these two girls were still very desperate for him, and no one found anyone. I thought it was incredible, how could this be!

A friend who used to work in a flower shop said that on Valentine's Day, if a person orders more than three bouquets of flowers at the same time, it means that it is not simple, I asked her why, she said, it must be for the little three and four, I was stunned for a moment, how can the world be like this now, it is too ruined.

I have a friend of mine who was a junior for a 60-year-old man, which made my three views refreshed all of a sudden.

I worked as a lobby manager in a bathing center, and some of the girls' love concept is that if a man is willing to spend money for you, he likes you. This incident refreshed my three views.

A well-dressed woman in the subway station looked very elegant, but her next second of behavior made me really unacceptable, and directly pushed away a child who was about to touch her.

My classmate gave up his college studies for a man he had never met before and went to the man's city alone.

It's just that I have a friend with a man who is 20 years older than her, it's so strange, I feel that the three views of the whole person have been refreshed.

Recently, the disappearance of the little girl in Hangzhou has refreshed my three views, what do those two bad guys think, they can poison such a young child.

My friend's incident made me refresh my three views, that year he dropped out of school in order to chase stars, and took out a loan behind his family's back.

I have a classmate who doesn't look for a job, stays at home all day to play games, or goes out to play with friends, but only knows to ask his parents for money, and he dislikes his parents for making less money and not giving him enough money.

The person you treat sincerely, still smiling in front of you, turning your face and saying bad things about you to others, is known and can be nothing.

I lived with a girl in my first year of high school, and her mother once came to see her and bought some fruit, and told her that you don't like to eat, give it to your roommate.

I live in an ordinary family in the countryside, and I have been living on campus since I was in junior high school, and I would be surrounded by grades and classmates every day, all the way to university. I don't know much about the people and things in the village, and I don't know, and my mother is not the kind of person who likes to talk about things and things. When I was a sophomore, I didn't do anything at home during the summer vacation, and my mother suddenly asked if a girl was my elementary school classmate, because each grade was one year old, and my mother didn't remember it very clearly, I said no, I said what's wrong, my mother said it was okay, I felt that my mother couldn't ask me for no reason, so I asked again, what's the matter, this question, for me who was twenty-two years old at the time and had not been in contact with society, really ruined my three views, and I still remember it.

I heard my mom say: that girl.

In those years, the coal mines were sluggish, for us who relied on the coal mine all our lives, the work was particularly difficult to find, and then her mother found a job in the coal mine, and then it was rumored that her mother and the coal mine owner (in her fifties, not very old) were good things, and we all called the owner of the coal mine called the kiln owner, her mother, it was really long, I felt acceptable when I heard this, and I felt that there was no income at home** , women have to take care of the family, and they have to take care of men, I feel helpless to take this step, but what happened next surprised me.

My mother said: Originally, this kiln owner and her mother would give his mother some money, work or something. In addition, it is true that our mine is in a recession, and many people want to squeeze their heads into the mines opened by locals, and do not want to enter the mines bought by outsiders, but the thing that made me ruin the most was that the girl (23 years old) mother estimated that she could not keep the male mine owner, and even let her daughter serve the male mine owner, in order to keep the job and money that earned 3,000 yuan, she actually put her own daughter into it, wanting to make more money, and finally became a mother and daughter serving a male mine owner.

lost her daughter's happiness and future. I've never been able to figure out why! Is it possible to sell anything for the sake of the only money you have?

It's so incomprehensible!

Later, I always felt that even if I was poor, I would admit it, but I really didn't understand this kind of thing, and until now I am not worth it for this girl, how can there be such parents. Not thinking about their own children at all. Hey, I really don't know why!

A person will have a lot of things, and if you don't do it well, then you can make everyone question your three views, so a person must do things well.

Prospective college students are full of expectations for their college life, but there are many phenomena in the university that make you ruin your three views, and prospective college students should prepare in advance.

There are too many, as long as it is contrary to human morality.

Zhu Zhiwen, a star who came out of the grassroots. Before he became famous, he was an authentic farmer. After becoming famous, his income also increased, and more and more villagers asked him to borrow money to do things, Zhu Zhiwen also did not refuse, often donated generously, and also did practical things for the village, repairing roads, bridges, squares, etc., and even helping people to hold weddings.

But Zhu Zhiwen's money was not blown by the wind, and those who did not "borrow" Zhu Zhiwen's money began to slander and ridicule Zhu Zhiwen; Those who borrowed Zhu Zhiwen's money were unwilling to admit that they owed this favor, and they also turned their faces and did not recognize people.

There are haters, but there are no laughers.

The weirdness of human nature is that many times it is impossible to distinguish the difference between love and duty.

When your kindness doesn't meet their expectations, their first thought is not understanding and gratitude, but complaining and scolding. Gratitude is a very cultivated product, it is impossible to get it from ordinary people, and it is human nature to be ungrateful.

The principle of borrowing money should be to help the urgent, not the poor.