I am estranged from my friends, why are my friends slowly estranged?

A true friendship needs time to prove, just be yourself, and don't need to deliberately maintain it.

Good friends are very close at the meeting, after all, on QQ, you can't imagine that the other party's expression will be misunderstood.

Another point, there is nothing that friends can't say.

First of all: if your friends and you are both girls, I won't give you advice, I don't understand.

If it's a boy, I'll say it's important to say that if you're a good friend, you appreciate each other.

But for some other reason, appreciation, trust can alienate, for example, you have a girlfriend, or you have another person to admire at work, etc.

With the change of a person, your, age, job, salary, level, understanding of things, values, interests, creeds, etc., will make some friends make you (or him) feel out of place, although not to hate each other, but not so intimate, what you say he may not understand, you tell the story he may not be interested in, that's it, there is a saying: different ages have different friends You should also remember one named Lu Xun and the other called Runtu.

Call him once a week** Chat Talk about nothing Just chat Chat like before Once a week.

And if you do that, maybe you'll know the answer, and you'll know what you're going to do.

Good luck with you.

You seem to be very generous; If points aren't a problem, then how many bounties do you offer?

This kind of small problem is easy to solve.

Call him **, talk about it, talk more about it, and talk about it from your heart.

A good friend is the first person you want to talk to no matter whether you encounter something happy or unhappy, you don't necessarily have to contact every day or have a lot to say every time you meet. But if something happens to him, you will definitely take it to heart, and if you don't feel that way about him, it proves that you don't see him as a good friend, but just a friend.

Remember that Gu Long has a good saying, friend, that is, the one who knows your shortcomings, but still likes you.

A true good friend is not about how often you contact him, or how many words you speak, true friendship does not need to prove anything, you will all know in your hearts that one day, when you want to find him, he will always be there for you.

All of us have come closer before we drift apart, but most of the time we meet suddenly, and we don't know when we start to be intimate or when we start to drift apart.

In the age of rebellion, we always want to do something maverick. With long bangs, learn to highlight and dye your hair, and then modify the school uniform, or graffiti on the school uniform, or cut the school uniform pants into leggings, and treat all the non-mainstream as your own special labels, self-righteous swagger. Although this history is dark, it was experienced by the two of us who are not particularly at peace in our bones, and maybe this is how our friendship was built little by little, and then we walked through junior high school and high school together until not long ago.

As soon as I calmed down during this time, I would think of this friendship and find that some feelings gradually disappeared in daily interactions. The establishment of a relationship seems very simple, because of a common topic, interest, hobby, similar experience, or just because they hit it off, or because they get along day and night. And the dilution of feelings can be because of contradictions and estrangement, or because of personality problems, and even because the feelings are getting closer and closer, too intimate so the burden is too heavy, so the more you get along, the more difficult it is to get along.

After high school, although we were in different classes but in the same dormitory, we all knew that living under the same roof would inevitably have some friction, but we didn't expect that these small frictions would make our feelings fade.

When we were in junior high school, we made stupid mistakes together, and we were happy with each other. In high school, we grew up a lot, and we began to dwell on each other's mistakes, or we were unwilling to accept different punishments for the same mistakes.

My friend is a very abrasive person, and I've known it since junior high school, but we didn't care about it at that time, because we were in the same class, and even if we were late together, we would be punished the same. However, in high school, we were in different classes, and although there were many fewer cases of late arrivals due to accommodation, there were still some cases.

The homeroom teacher in my class was much stricter than her class. Therefore, every time I was late, I was punished more severely than my friends, and over time I began to be unconvinced, which was probably a feeling of abandonment: why did I accompany you to make mistakes and you couldn't share the consequences with me?

I started complaining about my friends and making all kinds of excuses to go to the cafeteria and classroom by myself. Maybe my friend is also complaining to me: why can't I wait for her, isn't it just a few minutes?

Everyone has their own family environment, interpersonal relationships, and academic ability, and everyone has their own life to experience.

With the passage of time and our own growth, some friends no longer walk with us at the fork in the road of life. But once in a while, you might as well put a little more thought into it, find a way to move forward hand in hand with the people you cherish, grow together, become awesome together, and go to the future together.

No matter how time changes, cherish someone who will still walk with you through countless forks in the road, and some friends will still stay, and it will last for a long time.

What is the reason for the drift away from good friends?

The most direct reason is that the distance is too far to see each other often. No matter how good the relationship is, as long as you don't see each other for a long time, even if you keep in touch through the Internet, at most, you will be slowly estranged.

The best way to maintain a relationship is to find time to meet and have a chat at least once a year, no matter how busy you are. Otherwise, it's a friend, and it will slowly disappear.

The second important factor is the environment and income, when you go to school, everyone is in the same environment, which is not very much, but when you go to school, work, go abroad, etc., the difference between the environment between the two sides is getting bigger and bigger. Especially after a very big change in income, when chatting, you will find that the concerns of both parties will be completely different, and you will start to find a common language, and then you will find that the values start to conflict.

Chatting and chatting, a person slowly disappeared. For example, when we were in school, we always played games together, and the topic of conversation always revolved around games. When a person is at work, he will find that he is getting busier and busier or getting married, and he has no time to play, and sometimes he doesn't know what to talk about.

The income of two people is particularly large, and it is particularly obvious that an ordinary income has to work hard every month to live, and every penny is considering the cost performance. The other is in the Internet and financial companies, hundreds of thousands or millions a year, and it is hard to have a little time, buy good or use money to save time. These two kinds of people can talk and chat, and then they will slowly disappear.

Not to mention, the family conditions are good, and ordinary people are the same.

Here are some possible reasons that can lead to estrangement between friends:

1.Lifestyle changes: As people get older, work changes, family changes, etc., people's lifestyles also change, which may lead to fewer contacts between friends and gradual estrangement.

2.Different hobbies: If you and your friend have different hobbies, you will talk about less and less topics together, and gradually become more and more estranged.

3.Miscommunication: If you and your friends don't have a good conversation, for example, if you don't always talk about anything, or if you have a disagreement but don't want to talk about it, it can lead to estrangement.

4.Lack of time: If you and your friends are busy and don't have time to meet or chat, then you will be estranged.

If you want to reconnect with your friends, reach out to them to chat about what's going on or ask them out for a break. You can also try to find some common interests and hobbies, participate in activities together, and increase communication and understanding between each other.

01；Because everyone's upbringing is different, which leads to different ideologies, they can become very good friends, maybe a little similar in some aspects, but after getting along for a long time, there will be a lot of contradictions.

02；Although they are very good friends, it does not mean that our future plans are the same, you want to travel the world, I just want to find a stable job, marry a wife, have a child, and spend my life in peace, or I want to start a business, you may work hard with me, work together, but if you fail, you will blame me, blame me for taking you to start a business.

03；Now we have failed, lost money and lost energy, this is human nature, but this will also make us drift apart, and finally slow laughter and slow non-contact, even if it is successful, when it comes to dividing the money, there will be disagreements, because everyone feels that they have paid more, everyone feels that they are the most wronged, which will also make friends part.

04；Sometimes the main reason for drifting away is that you are constantly growing, and your friends are still thinking the same as before, not growing, and like children, when you grow up, you will take on responsibilities, support your parents, and give your wife and children a good living environment, while your friends will only ask you to go out to drink and talk all day long, and only think about eating, drinking and having fun every day.

05；I don't have any plans for the future, I think that I can have money to eat, drink and have fun, this life is enough, and the time between the two of you is different, you think that you have a responsibility, you will think a lot, become mature and stable, and friends are the same as children, do things regardless of the consequences, and slowly the two of you will not be in touch.

There is also a reason, that is, because of work or family reasons, the two of you don't have so much time to spend together, and your family lets you go somewhere else to develop.

06；And friends have no way to keep up with the past, two people are far apart, there is no way to see each other often, and in different places, the two of you also know different people, different thoughts, and when the two of you get together, you will find that you have nothing in common.