I hate relationships, how do I deal with people I hate?

You lack self-confidence, find some way to build confidence. Self-confidence is given by oneself, and sometimes it's not bad to be narcissistic when you get recognition.

Do you care if others praise you for your hard work, but they don't praise you for being talented or something?

Everyone has their own circle, but at the same time as being recognized, we must also pay for the recognition of others, everything must be managed, there is no vain, instead of being afraid of this and that, it is better to make some plans, how to talk to others, establish friendships, how to learn to accept others, tolerate others, etc. The more you know, the more confident you will be in dealing with people, and you will get better slowly, don't be in a hurry in the process, being in a hurry is the easiest to make mistakes.

Hone yourself, sooner or later you have to learn, if you don't study today, the more hard work you will have to pay until you get older.

Hello classmates, this question is not difficult, let's discuss it here.

I met a new classmate, the atmosphere was suddenly unfamiliar, and it was normal to not have a heart-to-heart, but there was a requirement for a heart-to-heart relationship, "reciprocating the peach", and he could understand your sincerity only if you gave your friend sincerity.

There is also communication, chatting, through which you can understand the world of friends and hearts. And then there was harmony.

Another point is that you don't have to care what others say, no matter what he says behind his back, when he says it's ugly, it's when he farts. In the past, I was very sensitive and had a lot of troubles, but now I look down on it and love to talk about it. I live mine, what does it have to do with you?

As long as that's how you're mature.

No way.. I don't study very well, in fact, I think people who study well have a serious attitude and don't give people a feeling of annoyance. And friends, don't be too anxious.

You're only a sophomore in high school, and you have time to make friends. You can talk about it from a variety of sources, such as games, sports, and of course, studying. Review each other's learning content or something...

In terms of studying, I only have to copy each other's homework or something...

I think the following sixteen-word mantra should be followed for those who are hated:

Don't suggest, don't take the initiative, don't make deep friends, don't say bad things, and cater to them

1.Not recommended.

For those who hate them, there is no need to give them advice. On the one hand, in their lives for so many years, there will be all kinds of people who will give him advice, and if he is still so virtuous, your advice will not be of any use to him.

On the other hand, we have to admit that most of the advice is always harsh, and we don't have to risk making him hate us.

2.Not proactive.

In daily life, do not take the initiative to contact him. Just say hello when you see you. If you are forced to meet in desperation, then make a nodding acquaintance and just say a few words.

A lot of people hate that a person will behave obviously, always look like a creditor, but this is not right. Many times there is no need to make the relationship so stiff, especially those who have to meet every day, and if the relationship is too stiff, they will be very depressed.

3.Not deep friends.

If you meet, only talk about common topics (for example, roommates talk about classmates, colleagues talk about work), and don't take the initiative to talk about your own private information or private affairs.

4.Don't speak ill.

Do not speak ill of others in front of him, nor speak ill of him in front of others. Because you don't know if these words will reach the ears of a third person.

5.Pander.

This is similar to the first point: no suggestion, no matter what he says, what he thinks, you can agree, for example: En, yes, you are right, I agree with your idea.

There are a few ways to deal with a relationship with someone you hate:

1) Stay away. Since you don't like him in your heart, stay out of his sight, out of sight and out of mind, so that you don't have to look at him every day.

2) Inclusion. Everyone should have a tolerant heart, some of the behaviors of the person you hate make you feel annoying, but if you learn to be tolerant, you will not care.

3) Be polite.

If you hate someone, you have to keep your own politeness, not to show it, if you show your hatred, others will hate you.

The principle of sincerity in interpersonal relationships. Sincerity is the golden key to open the hearts of others, because sincere people make people feel secure and reduce self-defense. The better the relationship, the more it is necessary for both parties to reveal a part of themselves.

That is, to communicate your true thoughts to others. Of course, there are risks associated with doing so, but it is not possible to gain the trust of others by wrapping yourself up completely.

The principle of initiative in interpersonal relationships. Taking the initiative to be kind to others and taking the initiative to express kindness can make people feel valued. People who take the initiative tend to be likely.

The principle of interaction in interpersonal relationships. The goodwill and malice between people are mutual, and in general, sincerity begets sincerity, and hostility begets hostility. Therefore, it is important to have good intentions when interacting with people.

The principle of equality in human relations. Any good relationship allows one to experience a feeling of freedom and uninhibitedness. If one partner is restricted by the other, or if one party needs to look at the other party's face to act, it is not possible to establish a high-quality psychological relationship.

Finally, it should be pointed out that good interpersonal relationships must be found in the practice of interpersonal relationships, and avoiding interpersonal relationships and wanting to get the friendship of others can only be a matter of seeking fish, and it is impossible to achieve the ideal goal. I believe that being popular is sometimes better than having a lot of money.

If you have someone you hate, it means that your mind is not open enough, and others make you hate because you can't understand his way of doing it, his character, you must know that Hegel said that existence is reasonable, and you won't be angry after you know the meaning of the existence of "villain" and "hateful" people. If you really can't help it, take a deep breath and try to smile at the person you hate first, and try to understand.

Someone who hates himself, you have to find out what he hates about you? Don't be afraid or refuse to associate with the other person just because they hate you. To create opportunities to communicate with the other person, slowly shift to the topic in a suitable situation:

I think you hate me because of something? Then slowly explain it yourself. You will find that 80% of the time we hate people and are hated by others, it is because of misunderstandings.

When he was having dinner with friends, he poured bitter water, saying that there was a colleague in the company who was procrastinating, always making excuses, and always smiling, and annoyed when he saw him. And that colleague came in because of the relationship at the top of the company, so it was not easy to say or criticize, and it was impossible to fire him, which made him very depressed.

Listening to his accusation, I would smile and say, "It's normal, everyone will meet some people they don't like, just like we can't make everyone like us, right?" ”

He nodded helplessly: "Then what do you think I should do?" When I see him now, I get dizzy and feel sick. ”

Life is so interesting, it doesn't just arrange for people or things you like to appear in front of you, because without the contrast between good and bad, beauty and ugliness, you can't enjoy the so-called happiness at all, and you can't experience pain. Isn't there a saying that says? People who have not really been in pain cannot experience true happiness at all.

The reason why people hate interpersonal communication is because they may have been hurt in interpersonal communication, or there is something uncomfortable about them in this regard, so they are reluctant to interact with others and learn some interpersonal skills.

For those who are currently in college, it doesn't mean that they don't need to learn some of the skills of socializing with others. We also need to communicate with some leaders of various associations and organizations to achieve some goals, people often say very good things on the surface, but in fact, whether they can succeed in doing things depends on friendship, which is some of the interpersonal exchanges in modern China.

In our school, every club recruits new students with rhetoric and promotes a family culture. But in fact, after entering, it is not necessarily, there are various interests and personal contacts. Someone quit less than a month after entering and she told me why.

In one of our gatherings, there were freshman officers, junior and senior ministers and chairmen. When we were having dinner together, we noticed that all the ministers revolved around the chairman, and the deputy ministers revolved around the ministers.

It's like a food chain, she said she was afraid that she would revolve around others in the future, and she also said that she hated that kind of life, so she decided to quit, thinking that she should still spend her time studying and control her own destiny in the future. So she decisively left the group, and no longer wanted to deal with others, just blindly learning.

Therefore, those who are reluctant to communicate with others and hate interpersonal communication may hate the rules of interpersonal communication, and hate some flattery and condescending faces, rather than really dealing with people. I believe that if you meet real friends, they are still willing to open their hearts.

It shows that your personality is introverted, you don't like to communicate with others more, and you are not good at dealing with problems encountered in interpersonal communication. I'm a bit like you, I hate people. But I like the communication between friends, and I think it's a way to relax.

In fact, I'm much better now, after all, I have to face a lot of things when I grow up day by day, and I need to pay attention to teamwork when I go to school or work.

In fact, you don't have to worry so much about the human-computer relationship, and you don't have to be afraid that your poor performance will cause others to be disgusted or ridiculed, as long as you express your true self. A person with a true temperament, even if his personality is not pleasant, but there will be people who like it. I used to be very afraid of interpersonal communication because I cared too much about other people's opinions, and I couldn't bear to express my true thoughts every time, and I just said what people liked, but in fact, this not only made me very tired, but also did not give the other person a very honest feeling.

You don't hate interpersonal communication too much, we are in society, interpersonal interaction is essential, you can't escape, and there is no way to escape. You have to learn to enjoy the pleasure you get in the process of interpersonal interactions, even if you don't feel anything yet, but try it. Later, you will understand that many things need to be solved by interpersonal communication.

Don't put obstacles in your own hands.

If you want to be less disgusted with interpersonal communication, you must have a correct understanding of interpersonal communication, understand that interpersonal communication is not hypocritical and sloppy, and if possible, you can read relevant books.

And, slowly, I got tired of human interaction. I feel that I can make fewer and fewer close friends. Because of my growth, the innocence slowly moved away from me, and the interests were closer to life, I don't know if I was too sensitive, I feel that the friends I make now are more or less a little bit with the interests to pick you up, not as simple as childhood friends.

It also made me feel that friends had lost their meaning in the first place, and it also made me think less about interpersonal interactions.

I am a Scorpio woman, I am very sensitive in life, and I am very disgusted with all kinds of unpleasant interpersonal relationships. Yes, I've been wondering why this stuff is so complicated, why I have to cater to other people, and I'm not going to be happy.

Even the relationship with my mother is, I dislike each other, I don't want to stay with her for too long, Cong Kuanpin is like a person's rhythm of life will be disrupted by anyone who suddenly appears, and he will be irritable inexplicably, if he wants to stay for a long time, it will be a nightmare to think about.

Maybe it's because I enjoy a peaceful life, but I don't like to be in close contact with other people, because everyone will get tired after a long time.

Living alone has given me a lot of time to think about what to do next, and once I am in an environment where I am a puppet, I am very uncomfortable with my mobile phone.

I also thought about it, is it because I haven't been able to walk around the world well, go somewhere else to relax, maybe I'm too impetuous, angry with myself, uh, Scorpio me, the mood is messy, the whole person is inexplicable, someone asked me if I'm tired and tired, when I live alone, I don't feel tired at all, escape from other people's gossip, anyway, it's a look of how happy I come.

It seems that my mood ups and downs have something to do with the environment in which I live and the point of view of the sequence, and before it happens, the two monsters are fighting to death in their heads.

Today's end.

In fact, whether in life or in the workplace, we can't be friends with everyone, and it is impossible to get along well with everyone.

A person grows up all the way, as long as you maintain a basic curiosity about the new field and have normal social skills. In a new field, you will always meet a few friends to talk to. Over time, this is the most useful network.

You don't need to please anyone, and you can also be free in a complex world of relationships.

In the workplace, you must also learn to empathize with the person you hate, look at things from the other person's point of view at the right time, and by experiencing the causes and consequences of some things, you are likely to find that he is not as annoying as you imagined.

The workplace is different from campus life, you may not be able to express your hatred directly, and more often than not, you will endure or even ignore it. There are a lot of people you hate in the workplace, it is impossible not to have them, what you can do is to focus on doing your own thing, and at the same time beware of not being cheated by these people, and don't tie unnecessary beams. Most importantly, don't be the one who is annoying.

It's inevitable to see each other in the same company, even if you hate him. What you have to do is to do your job well, you don't have to deliberately cater to and please anyone, so that everyone is safe, meet the villain, try to avoid it, and don't offend the villain, so as not to affect yourself. In addition, if you get what you want in this job, nothing else is a problem, and you don't have to change jobs.