There is no sense of security in long distance love, and a sense of security in love

Hello! First of all, I admire you for daring to love and hate, and to speak out and ask everyone to help you analyze and answer. What long-distance relationships need most is mutual trust between male and female lovers.

This is the most invisible security shackles, two people a day a ** this short-term is absolutely no problem, long-term difficult, tell you about the situation of my own family, I came to Shenzhen in February this year, and learned that my mother had cancer in March, from the night I knew, I said to myself, every day to my mother to hit a **! I talked to my mother and chatted all day in March, but on April 7, I came back late and forgot about it when I got a little dizzy from drinking, and I blamed myself the next day because my mother had limited time. To this day, I recall every day whether I called my mother today.

Say hello. In other words, you lovers fight every day, this is called romance, but the days are as dull as level. Actually, it's not a big deal between the two of you this time.

The two need to forgive, understand and encourage each other! In this way, you can go further and longer. Sometimes distance can make two people meet and feel more in love.

You have to think about the good and think about the bad as well. Do your best to avoid bad things happening. Love needs to be managed carefully.

I hope you can go and see your boyfriend during the holiday holidays! Men are actually really helpless when they drink outside. Personally, I hate drinking and smoking, but with so many people gathering with friends, it's hard to break into the circle without drinking or drinking with clients, that's what work needs.

I hope you think about it! If you can, you won't let go. Unless an unforgivable mistake of principle is made. Love is fate, since God has arranged it, don't let it go easily. Love! It's hard, but it's great! Don't let it go!

I don't think anything is absolute, the results of long-distance love are not necessarily wrong, the most important thing is to believe in yourself, do you want to be with him, if it's not worth it, even if there is no distance between you, it may not be happy, I sympathize with you, I suggest you talk to him well, if my girlfriend says these things to me, I will definitely feel guilty, I will definitely get rid of these bad habits, my girlfriend and I are also in a long-distance relationship, we have been in a long-distance relationship for three years, although there will be conflicts between us, But we are still very happy, because she believes in me, waiting for me to give her happiness, I also cherish her and is reluctant to let her shed tears, so I also want to treat her well, like you have also had this situation between us, you think you are a little self-inflicted, a little ridiculous, you will feel very lost, but you think about it the other way, maybe your thoughts are a burden to him, you are worried that he is not wrong, but what is behind the worry, is because you care about him, if you really care, what is this loss, It is impossible for two completely different people to be together without contradictions, and all contradictions cannot be said to be the result of long-distance love, if he is a responsible man, then you should not be too sensitive, maybe this will be better for you, I wish you happiness!!

Distance is not always beautiful. The way to improve in the short term is to care for him more, closely but not frequently, because that can turn into harassment. There is only one way to end this sense of distance if you want to keep the relationship, you go or he comes.

If you don't want to keep it, end the relationship. There will be even greater pain waiting for you when you drag it down. That's how I got here, really.

Love requires trust and tolerance.

You also need to give him space and freedom. Control your thoughts and emotions sometimes. Otherwise, men tend to get tired.

He must be entangled in official business when he drinks, and at a glance he knows that he is a good man with a sense of responsibility, thoughts, culture, and ideals, who knows how to work for the state and deeply understands the idea of serving the people.

Love needs trust, and since you're both engaged, you have to treat it well. You can talk to him well, and you can ask other netizens for help on how to talk about it.

A long-distance relationship is very hard, but you are married, and you must trust each other very much, but don't be bound by engagement!

The sense of security is given by yourself, not by men.

Long-distance relationships really don't work... Or you can get up and find him.

I'm in the same situation as you, and I don't know what to do myself. It's tiring to be separated.

In love, many people will be separated because of the word security, so in love, how do we treat security? It is taboo to be too secure or too insecure in love.

If the couple is too secure, it will make the other party lose their imagination and freshness, thinking that their relationship has been fully bound together, the relationship is already very strong, and they feel that they don't need to think and care about each other in this relationship, but in fact, if this state lasts for a long time, they will be tired and numb, and even see that the other person has no feelings. I'm in this state now, I'm so secure, four years ago, and now I'm cold, no desire to share, no freshness. My friend said that my relationship line has always been very stable, but only I know it, and many times, I am also tormented.

If you are too insecure in your relationship, you will have little confidence in the relationship and in yourself, and two extremes will arise: one is the self-indulgent and the other is the strong and controlling. Vulnerable people often test whether the other party loves me or not, and deliberately mention breaking up to test the other party's love, through which to determine the real existence of this relationship.

The strong person will want to interfere with everything in the other party, and he can only relieve his anxiety by firmly grasping the other party.

In love, nine out of ten are injured, and the love is deep, and the body can't help itself. But neither of these kinds of security is advocated, what if there is no sense of security! Then go and study, maintain an attitude of loving life, have your own things and circles, even if you leave in the end, you can have a good capital, these values will not let you suffer from gains and losses.

Love itself is a mutual attraction.

People live in things, and they can't do without love, but love is not everything.

Blindly pursuing novelty will only have two results.

1.Because the other party can't always satisfy this novelty, it causes fatigue on both sides, and finally breaks up2Or cause the other party to be unable to give, and to pursue other feelings and love itself will slowly sublimate into family affection over time with the enhancement of tacit understanding.

Stickiness is not a way to increase favorability, but the wrong way of expression will cause the other party to be disgusted and bored.

A wise woman will observe different periods of the other person's life, what is the inner need?

After all, as a human being, there will be a lot of realistic things to do, such as the pressure of survival or survival, so that men will not always put too much energy into love.

Therefore, as you, at this time, what you want to reflect is the understanding and support behind or face and work together often through this, the relationship between the two parties will be more consolidated and sweeter!!

Hello landlord:

When you care about someone in particular, you are afraid of losing, but the more you are afraid, the faster you will lose, so you have to go with the flow and don't force it too much to cause nervousness.