Are there real friends and foes in life?

If you believe, then there are true friends, and there are no absolute enemies....

A true friend is determined by sincerity.

Relative enemies are caused by conflicts of interest. When the conflict of interest disappears, the adversarial relationship is lifted, unless you are a chicken-bellied person...However, there are so few true friends, and perhaps only one in a million people in the world have real friends....Remember: a true friend is more precious than a diamond, it's priceless....

You see others as enemies and enemies, and you see others as friends and friends. You can't change the way other people do things, you should change the way you look at them.

For example, if a bottle has a crack, you can see the crack when you look at it from the front; Then from the back, he is perfect. Now that the bottle is cracked, is it useful for us to complain? Then look in a different direction for yourself, and your mentality will be completely different.

Listen to me right.

Friends and foes will switch between each other, and the key depends on the trade-offs of interests.

It's better to have one more friend than one more enemy.

The heart of defense is indispensable, and no matter how good a friend is, you can't trust it too much.

There are absolutely no real friends, but there are definitely real enemies.

Absolutely. Friend and foe are a dialectical relationship.

Why do you think so much?

It's like if you ask, chicken or egg.

There are few real friends and enemies, and interpersonal relationships are relations of interest.

There are definitely enemies, but friends are hard to say.

No, only absolutely common interests.

I once read a story about Lincoln** in the United States before the election, when there was a concept of a gateway in American society, and a senator insulted him: Mr. Lincoln, don't forget that your father was just a shoemaker. 」

Everyone wanted to see what attitude this ** candidate would have, but Mr. Lincoln said calmly: Thank you for reminding me that my father has passed away, and I will remember him, and if I am a **, I will not be able to do better than my father as a shoemaker, because my father is very good at making shoes; Remember that your shoes were also made by my father, and if they are not properly dressed, I can serve you. 」

The originally serious scene, because Lincoln's seat was so warm, humorous and earnest, immediately burst into applause.

Someone asked, "Mr. Lincoln, why do you not try to strike at the enemy, but treat him as a friend?" 」

Mr. Lincoln: Don't you think that if you can be friends with your enemies, you will eliminate your political enemies? Between countries, everyone is a friend, and the number of opposing countries is reduced. If there is no enemy, isn't it the way to destroy the enemy? 」

This was Mr. Lincoln's forgiving heart, and later generations built a Lincoln Memorial for him, with a quote engraved on the wall: "Be lenient to no one, but be lenient and merciful to all." 」

Are people mortals or sages? Right in the mind. Therefore, in daily life, we must be cautious in our own minds, even if we are subtle, we must also enter the subtlety with a millimeter, everyone has a good heart, be a good person, and reconcile natural people, things, and things, and the wind and rain will be smooth, and the country and the people will be safe.

A friend is all acquaintances except relatives and classmates, a real friend is a person who is unconditionally willing to help you, a fake friend is a person who says one thing in person, and does a set behind his back, the real enemy is the person who really gives you an enmity, such as a person in life who makes you have a major economic loss or a loved one, and the fake enemy is that you quarrel with him and feel enmity, in fact, it is just a misunderstanding and not communicating well.

A true friend is someone who will comfort you and cheer you up when you are sad and frustrated.

A fake friend is a meticulous care for you on the surface, but behind the scenes he does bad things to you, and he still smiles at you when he looks back.

The real enemy is targeting you everywhere, trying to take your place and make it impossible for you to survive.

The fake enemy is competing with you, but from time to time they pull you by and move forward with you.

Those who are good for themselves are friends, and those who are harmful to themselves are enemies. People who are useless and harmless are false enemies and false friends.

Someone who jumps out to help you in a pinch.

The overall feeling of this book for me is relatively relaxed, and there are still warmth and touches in some places!

Although the book repeatedly mentions the cruelty of small groups to a child's isolation and exclusion, and how the absence of friendship is detrimental to a child's development, it also repeatedly emphasizes that children have the power to grow, adapt, adjust, and protect themselves, "they will be hurt, but they can also regroup", and "eventually move forward". "Most children, even if they are not loved, are accepted in a certain group", and "there are always people who cherish their unique values and abilities".

Many of the cases in the book also highlight the beauty of friendship, and the simple narrative reveals the connection and trust between friends, and the warmth flows slowly between the lines. This kind of beauty naturally reminds me of my friends at all stages, reminiscing about some things at that time, doing homework together, eating together, hanging out ...... togetherSo many "together" have given me great comfort and encouragement in various periods, and it is still very warm when I think about it.

Friendship is so beautiful, so can we help our child become a welcoming person and make a good friend? The answer is no! But don't be discouraged, because we can do so much more for them!

We can provide a wide range of opportunities for children to make friends, and we can create a ...... of home for the children who visitThe most important thing is that we can give our children a lot of love and make him feel that his parents are a very safe place. Children learn to communicate in the interaction with their parents, and it is often the parents who "teach" him that "he is not worthy of love, he will not be liked by others", and the child is not unconfident in interpersonal communication; It is often the parents who "abandon" the child, and the child is always worried about not being accepted in social life; Parents give their children the role of "being bullied", so he naturally does not know what equality is, and he does not know how to play the role ......of "bully".

As a parent, you also need to know that only when your child feels safe and tolerated in front of his parents will he be willing to tell his parents about everything, so that parents can have the opportunity to intervene in a timely manner, guide the friendship to develop in a better direction, or avoid things from getting worse.

All we can do is listen with empathy, maintain trust, provide opportunities for our children to communicate with others", and not forget the power of intimacy and love that we build with our children in our early years".

That's it!