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It means that it is probably past the age when it is time to do such a thing, for example, if you are 40 years old, you should not think about it anymore, and even if you do it, you have no chance of success.

This is not Shi Nai'an's words, this is the original order of Jin Sheng's fake Shi in the name of the pseudo-pretend.

Jin Shengsian is a person with a very personality, and his words "use it against the time, things are easy to end", is to use time to pass, when the time must be done, to send out "I have a life, I whine to know what future generations of people who read my books are called" sigh, this half is to solve the ridicule, why he decided to go to the official career, live a Tao Yuanming-style hermit life and contribute to literary criticism with his life; Half is a narrative chronicle, explaining the reason why he cut off the "Water Margin", the original work of the three prefaces, and the long batch of detailed notes, "Then Kaidan is not: this biography is nameless, not undamaged, one; The heart is idle and trying, Shu Juan is self-dispersing, and the sun is disturbed, two; No virtuous, no foolish, no can read, three; The gains and losses of the article, the small regrets, the four also. ""The table of the name of the thing; The table of the people of the will is also.

I don't know the name, and I doubt the book; If the ambition is misleading, I suspect it. ”

When Jin Shengsi's era, the world's "thieves" swarmed, and Jin Shengsian wanted to use the cropping of "Water Margin" to prepare his long-cherished ambition to save the sect and be loyal to the monarch.

In today's words: Chongdan Lao Jin is a stubborn traditionalist, and he is in the opposition and helps maintain the feudal order in the way of standing up. But since he is in the wilderness, and his ambition is so big, he needs to say it as calmly as possible, so this preface appears, and it sounds like a rambling, nonchalant and homely tone.

This sentence was said by Shi Nai'an in the Water Margin, it refers to the situation at that time, people should do the right thing at the right age, the ancient people only in 20 women can talk about marriage at 15, so it should be the result before the age of 30. The woman is already married. And a man's career at the age of 40 should be certain.

Of course, this is the view of people in the past, and now people do not regard age as a criterion for marriage and career development.

This sentence means that if you have not married a wife at the age of thirty, you should not marry again, and if you have not entered the official career at the age of forty, you should not become an official.

This sentence made a lot of sense in the social context of the time.

This sentence means that 30-year-old people have not married a daughter-in-law, after this age there is no need to marry again, 40 years old has no career, should give up, this sentence is to tell us not to stubbornly insist on one thing, but for modern people this sentence is not practical.

It means that if you haven't married a daughter-in-law at the age of 30, you don't have to marry again, and if you haven't embarked on a career at the age of 40, you should give up. In fact, I just want to warn everyone not to stubbornly insist on one thing.

In fact, "marrying" and "marrying" are trivial matters, and it is okay not to marry or not to marry, but this statement is a bit of a halfway abstention.

If you don't marry a wife at the age of 30, you shouldn't marry a new wife, and if you don't embark on a career at the age of 40, you will no longer embark on a career in office.

There is some truth to it, but it is not absolute. It is probably to persuade people to stop losses in time and not stubbornly insist on one thing.

The original sentence comes from the self-preface of Shi Nai'an in "Water Margin", which means that if you haven't married a wife and had children at the age of 30, then you won't marry again, because in ancient times, marriage was very early compared to now, and it was basically difficult to marry again if you didn't marry a wife and have children at the age of 30; If you haven't entered the office at the age of 40, then there is basically no chance to step into the officialdom, and in ancient times, 40 years old was considered an advanced age, and if you haven't entered the office at this age, there is basically no chance. To sum up, it is "early to become famous". This sentence still has a certain amount of truth in ancient times, and it has a certain connotation now, but the literal meaning is really not very realistic.

Recently, some netizens asked: "Shi Nai'an left in "Water Margin Preface" "Thirty unmarried, should not marry again; Forty years later, should not be again", is this sentence still applicable today? I think it makes sense. ”

Now, put aside whether it makes sense. Let's see where this quote comes from?

Obviously, it is transformed from Confucius's "stand at thirty, do not be confused at forty, know the destiny of heaven at fifty, obey at sixty, and do what you want at seventy". When later generations interpret this sentence, they usually only see the age, but do not really understand the original meaning of Confucius.

So, what is willingness?

Let's take a look at it in context. "Zi said: I, five out of ten, and aspire to learn, thirty and stand, forty and not confused, fifty and know the destiny of heaven, sixty and obedient, seventy and do what I want, do not exceed the rules. ”

This sentence is actually used to persuade learning: at the age of 15 (the year of learning), you should focus on learning; At the age of 30, you must learn to succeed; At the age of 40, you must understand the way of change; At the age of 50, it is ordained by heaven; At the age of 60, you must reach people's hearts; At the age of 70, you should be legally satisfied. The above is also the process of self-cultivation and perfection of cultivation, enlightenment, and enlightenment emphasized by Confucianism.

It's really not about what age a person should be! Understanding this meaning, let's talk about "If you are not married at thirty, you should not marry again; Forty years later, should not be again" is a good explanation.

Shi Nai'an said this, which is completely taken from the ancient folk custom: at the age of 30, he did not marry a daughter-in-law and started a family, and the childbearing period has passed, so he should not marry again. In ancient times, men wore 20 hair ties, and women tied their hair at the age of 15, indicating that they could get married.

According to historical records, after the Tang Dynasty, men could marry at the age of 15 and women at the age of 13.

Shi Nai'an said that if you haven't been an official at the age of 40, you shouldn't be an official again, which is based on the average life expectancy of the ancients. Although there are many longevity stars in ancient legends, there is also a saying that Peng Zu lived 800 years old. However, it cannot be concealed that until the beginning of this century, the average life expectancy of Chinese people was only more than 40 years.

For thousands of years, the average age of the ancients could not exceed 40 years old.

Therefore, it is certain that Shi Nai'an's words are completely inapplicable today.

The fact that 30-year-old men and women are not married was still a big deal in the mid-to-late 90s of the last century. Nowadays, men of this age are called "just mature", and many movie stars are also called "little fresh meat". Although women are a little older at the age of 30, they are far from the age of leftover women, and women over the age of 40 give birth to children.

At the same time, although many people jump to high positions at a young age, it is undeniable that 40 years old is the age when many people's careers have just begun. Some positions even believe that talents in their forties and fifties are the most suitable age for careers. Hehe, other examples aside, do you know how old Donald Trump is this year?

First of all, this is likely to be said by Jin Shengsi, in addition, the average life expectancy of the ancients is very short, and the concept of male power is extremely serious, if you really do this, not only will you be sorry for the majority of female compatriots, but also according to the rule of "no filial piety has three, no queen is great" is a big rebellion, so why did Jin Shengsian or Shi Nai'an say that? The answer lies in the outlook on life and values advocated by "Water Margin": in order to do the right thing for heaven and realize the great cause of world harmony, it is best that men should not be close to women.

So as a preface to a **, it seems very reasonable.