Girls are the most comforting behavior towards boys

I have a friend too, complaining everywhere all day long,**,WeChat,**bombarding people around me,Giving advice and not listening,Years of complaining,Absorbing other people's time like a sponge,I'm nervous.,I don't dare to reply to the messages he sent.,Endless telling.,Don't say an hour is not over.,Emotions are contagious.,I'm also in a bad mood when I take up my time.。

I still hope to respect each other, don't treat friends as trash cans, don't be gossip, and it's best to digest negative energy by yourself. But since you have forgotten, I will help you with a comforting word.

1.I think everyone has negative energy, everyone has their own negative state, you don't blindly say that I have a lot of negative energy, I think you have a lot of negative energy.

2.Then I want to correct myself, thank you very much for reminding me, you said that I have a lot of negative energy, that is my negative state of life, I will definitely make myself positive, because only in this way can I make my life more chic and beautiful.

3.There are a lot of difficult things in life, but don't be so negative energy, I hope to be able to comfort you all the time, I also look forward to your happy mood, when we encounter difficulties, I can help you, I also hope that you can go to a positive energy time, at least let yourself feel a happy and positive energy.

If a boy says to a girl that he is full of negative energy in the recent stage, then in this case, it is necessary to first see what kind of relationship the boy and the girl have, and then be able to judge how to reply to the boy is the most correct way.

If this boy and this girl are just ordinary friends, or ordinary classmates and colleagues, in this case, it is obvious that as this girl should not be too enthusiastic, but you can't say nothing, simply perfunctory to each other, you can directly say to this boy, life can not be smooth sailing, will encounter some setbacks and difficulties, as long as you strengthen your confidence, muster up courage, and keep yourself calm, then you will naturally find a way to solve the problem, right, Although it does not necessarily guarantee that the boy will cheer up immediately, at least it can make the boy feel the care and warmth of the girl, and at least make himself feel better.

In another case, if the boy is the girl's boyfriend, in this case, the girl should understand the reason why the boy is full of negative energy in detail, and then enlighten the boy well, help the boy analyze the difficulties and setbacks he is currently facing, and then let the boy find a way to solve the problem, and this method must be in line with reality and reality, so that the boy can get out of this negative energy state little by little. Faith also needs to be restored little by little.

Listen to the other person's complaints and find out what he is dissatisfied with. Then use these questions to communicate with the other half to determine his needs, that is, what he wants and what kind of results he hopes to achieve; Finally, negotiate with the other party on these specific needs, clarify what you both want to do, start from the best, what effects you want to achieve, etc., to meet his needs.

Don't question your efforts, these will be a kind of precipitation and accumulation, they will silently pave the way for you to become a better person. You've done a great job, and I'm here to whisper it to yourself when you need courage.

Don't take away your happiness today because of someone else's words.

Don't be afraid of the darkness, but be the light.

If you feel overwhelmed, you must be going uphill.

Life is always like this, and people can't be satisfied everywhere. But we also have to live with passion. People live a lifetime, there are many things worth loving, don't be discouraged because one is not satisfied.

You must know that yesterday's sun does not dry today's clothes, there are endless scenery in the world, and people must have the mood to move forward. So look up, the sun will rise tomorrow, and maybe more surprises will await you on the way.

The mood is like clothes, if it is dirty, take it to wash and sunshine, and the sun will naturally spread. The sun is so good, why bother yourself, live every present, 10,000 beautiful futures are not worth a warm present.

When you feel inferior everywhere, don't feel inferior, remember that everyone has their own shining point; Don't be sad when others ignore you, everyone has their own life; When you are very helpless, don't hold back, you must cheer up after crying. Even if you lose everything, don't lose smile!

When he says this, he has no confidence in life, at this time you have to encourage him, let him feel that he still has you, you can snuggle up to him and make him feel warm.

You can ask him if he likes this state, if he likes it, then he can continue his recent words and deeds, if he doesn't like it, then he can do it again according to his recent words and deeds, and you can return to 0 points.

"It's okay, I'm here, you can do it, and tell me if you're unhappy, see my positive energy save your unhappiness, hahaha".

In this way, he will be very happy and will like you very much.

The boy said to the girl that he felt full of negative energy recently, and the girl could accompany him more!

It's all right to talk about what you're not happy about.

The girl should make him something to eat and then talk to him about something happy, because the boy needs such comfort.

Personally, I think that when a boy is under a lot of pressure, then the girl should silently encourage him and tell him that no matter how big the difficulty is, it can be overcome.

I think girls can accompany him, and the companyship of girls may be the best comfort, which can make him feel better.

Girls can enlighten boys, and they should also let boys relax, or take him to the movies for a walk, etc., and they don't need too many words when comforting boys, and they need to be accompanied for a long time.

How else can you comfort, affectionate is not as good as a long-term companion.

First, when men are stressed and lose confidence in life. As a girl, all you have to do is accompany him silently. Take care of him and let him come out of the shadow of failure.

Second, if you don't accompany the sunset, who are you. Whether a boy succeeds or fails, you can accompany him through the ups and downs of life.

Third, if it doesn't work, then you have to take concrete action. It can be sweet words, or it can be tea, rice, oil and salt.

In general, we must learn to think differently. Think about what it would be like to be under pressure when you're a boy. Then symptomatic medication is administered. This works best. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. The pressure of boys is naturally relieved by girls.

Don't think that a guy is a rational creature, so when he is depressed and stressed, you better reason with him or solve problems.

Don't talk, act.

Empty words are useless and cumbersome.

So you have to support him with your actions. Or help him find information, or help him analyze ideas, or help him run the relationship to run the field and run the laboratory library.

If you can't do that, then.

You can go up and hug him gently and warm him.

You can hold his hand and not speak, just quietly look at him affectionately and listen to him.

You can take his arm and walk downstairs together, listen to him, and you are responsible for nodding and snuggling.

On the one hand, they will think that they want to be comforted by others when they are stressed, and the same is true for their boyfriends when they are under pressure; On the other hand, they feel that their boyfriend's autistic state makes them too insecure and uncomfortable, so they will rush to drag him out of his autistic state.

This first aspect is projection, and the lack of patience to understand the needs of the other party is the embodiment of oneself; The second aspect is one's own needs.

It is undeniable that the original intention of the girl to comfort her boyfriend must be to hope that he can feel more comfortable.

Men are different from women, women can choose to confide in the face of pressure, and men can only bear it silently, because social responsibility gives men strong armor and does not allow them to be vulnerable, and men who are fragile and cry will be ridiculed for being cowardly and incompetent, so they can only grit their teeth and swallow the bitter water in their stomachs, in fact, men are also people, just as Andy Lau sang "Men cry and cry and don't sin":

When I was younger.

The people around me said that they couldn't shed tears.

After I matured.

Say to the mirror that I can't regret it.

Wandering in a range non-stop.

The mind is constantly reincarnated on the lifeline.

People sleep day and night with masks in their hands.

I'm exhausted.

When I was in tears.

But they forgot how their eyes wept.

When I regret it.

But he forgot how to regret it in his heart.

The invisible pressure weighs me down.

I started to feel a little hard to breathe.

Begin to slowly unmount the defenses.

Slowly regret and slowly cry.

It's not a sin for a man to cry, cry, cry.

No matter how strong a person is, he has the right to get tired.

If there is only heartbreak behind the smile.

Why should you be so embarrassed.

It's not a sin for a man to cry, cry, cry.

Taste the tears that have been absent for a long time.

Even when it rains, it's a beauty.

It's better to take advantage of this opportunity.

Cry bitterly. The song profoundly reveals the pain behind the man and the helpless life. Therefore, it is not a sin for men to cry and cry, and men also have the right to be vulnerable. As a girlfriend, I can only say that try to give him space to ponder alone, he will figure it out, and you can also deliberately share this song in the circle of friends for him to listen to, don't deliberately dissuade.

Know that a man's dignity is very important, give him as much affirmation and recognition as possible, if he doesn't want to talk, let him think quietly, and when he understands, he will explain it to you, you can tell him: no matter what, you are there, you will always be with him. Because at this time, no matter how much words seem to be very weak, he understands the truth, but he is temporarily drawn as a prison by himself, and talking too much will only make him more upset, just like the cave effect, men habitually hide in caves in the face of pressure, and think silently alone, at that time, the girl tries to avoid talking, and don't keep asking, just give him independent space, until he takes the initiative to find you, and then communicate.

Don't worry too much about the subject.

I summarize four words myself, on the surface, if you are leaving, but you also want the man to feel your presence and warm his heart.

Why is it said that if you leave, when the pressure is high, then there is definitely no need for more pressure, that is, don't be around boys all the time. This will make him feel more stressed. Therefore, at this time, he should be given some personal space so that he can have time to deal with the pressure.

Secondly, don't blindly walk away, so that he will be disappointed when he thinks of you at a certain moment, but without you. When you're together, don't try to help each other out. It's good not to mention it, how to be happy.

But you should also help him think about the problem, you can remind him from the side, but try not to say it directly.

In fact, the conclusion is that he still needs to overcome the difficulties himself. What you can give as a girl is spiritual comfort.

In fact, it depends on whether your boyfriend needs comfort. People need to understand, recognize and encourage, but in different time periods, different perspectives, and different relationships, we can't let each other understand us. How to be in the confusion of emotions, most of what we need is language communication, including behavior, and some people can't just talk and practice.

So for the person you love, we have to calm down in the future, and when a man faces work pressure, he must first express his understanding. We can help him take care of him, pour him a little water, get him some blisters, soak his feet, cook him some food, let go of his favorite **, at this time silently pay attention to it, instead of endlessly asking a man at this time, in fact, he doesn't know how to answer you.

1. What is acceptance? In your example, your boyfriend is under academic pressure and confides in you to ask for your acceptance, and the result is that you do accept it, and you tell him not to rush and take his time, but your problem is that you don't let him accept you.

How do you get him to accept you? You also took the initiative to tell him about the moments when you were suffering, powerless, and stressful. Taking the initiative to express your inner feelings to others is a way of acceptance, you accept your own truth and imperfections, and the other person will learn to accept your own truth and imperfections.

This is very useful when you are in a relationship, you will not take the initiative to express yourself, which means that you have been in a false strength in your relationship, and you will never be able to enter the other person's heart.

2. What is seeing? To see is to understand him. When you comfort him, you say don't rush to take your time, and you say that every time, you don't understand him. It's like a girl with a stomachache, and the boy says "drink more hot water" every time, although it is kind, but not careful.

When I was in college, there was a couple in the same class, who took the English level 4 exam, the male foundation was poor, the female foundation was good, and the male pressure was quite high, and he said that he didn't know anything all day long, how did the woman do it? Collected a lot of handwritten notes and exam strategies from the senior brothers and sisters, one by one with the man, the boy's self-confidence was built up by the notes, which is much better than "don't worry, it's okay".

You see his difficulties and his pressure, you understand his pressure, you understand him as a person, and that's what he really needs.

3. What is an active link? The example just given is an example of an active link. For another example, he has a lot of academic pressure and reviews in the study room every day, so you can soak in the study room with him every day and study together.

When I am free, take him out to relax, eat delicious food together, buy review materials together, etc.