Sincerely hope that one person will solve my interpersonal problems

You've already recognized your own problems. Like you said, the things that didn't happen in sixth grade changed your personality, and you didn't take the initiative to talk to people. You must know that getting along with people is like looking in a mirror, if you smile at it, it will smile at you, and if you pick its flaws, it will also make you find that you actually have a little beanie on your face!

That's your case. Then you have to learn to communicate with others.

I think so. When I was in school, good students only knew how to learn. Lack of communication. I've come across a lot of this.

When I was in school. Learning is okay. Hovering in the top ten.

Few friends. Afterward. I have less time to study.

I spend more time playing with my classmates. Nothing to talk about. Go out and have fun.

Skipping class together... Wait a minute... Slowly, I found that my friends were much better.

I said none of this is the main thing. Primarily a form of communication. Spend time with someone.

It's a feeling. Think this guy is good. It's worth making friends, so usually eating, chatting, and playing, I will unconsciously call this person together.

It's a kind of friendship between friends.

Wait a minute... That's a lot of things. I couldn't tell for a while.

As long as you are determined, you can do it, think about whether you were happy in the past, what about now? The things of my childhood have passed, and most of them don't remember it so clearly, is it necessary to make yourself uncomfortable? No one else remembers, so why torture yourself with it.

I didn't have any friends before, but I would be good if I had them in the future. Don't always live in the past, life is your own life, who will pay attention to you all day long, so, your determination is not big or not, whether you can change it is also up to you, since you used to be very cheerful, can't you do it now? If you want to live back, you can do it before, and you can do it now, so work hard!!

No one can help you (except yourself) You don't need too many friends in your life But there must be one or two confidants or close friends You say "you are not the most important to anyone except your relatives" You can also look at it this way: "No one is the most important to yourself except your relatives" Who hasn't been, that's right, no shortcomings. Tolerate others Tolerance of others is equal to tolerance of oneself Tolerance of oneself You show your sincere heart to fellowship with others If you haven't made true friends Then you have to examine yourself well Send you a sentence "Character determines destiny"

1) Be honest with others and don't be too sophisticated. "Sincerity"It is the foundation of interpersonal communication, and it has always been admired by people since ancient times"Sincerity"words, will be able to young and old, so as to win the return of sincere inspection. On the contrary, the world is sophisticated and tactful, and it is impossible to get the sincerity of the other party.

2) Be true to your word and don't make promises lightly. If we promise to do something for our friends, we should fulfill our promises. If a person does not keep his word, in the end not only will he not get real friendship, but he will also betray his relatives and make himself a loner.

3) Keep a moderate distance and don't get too close. Interpersonal relationship is a psychological relationship between people, which can also be called psychological distance. Approaching each other indiscriminately will inevitably cause unhappiness in the end, and it is better to keep a moderate distance from each other.

4) Be self-respecting and self-loving, and don't be keen on accepting gifts from others. Very good friends, sincerely give each other some small gifts, in order to contact feelings, enhance friendship, this is the normal situation of people. However, if there is only one side of the friendship or people who do not have a deep relationship, it is best to decline in person, especially gifts between people of the opposite sex, the recipient needs to be sober-minded and understand the intentions of the other party.

5) Treat people equally and not be domineering. In the process of interacting with others, remember that each other is equal in personality, and the beneficiaries of the interaction are both parties, and you must treat others equally, not domineering, and often regard yourself as a benefactor, savior or boss.

6) Be humble and listen to different opinions, and don't be a good teacher. Listen humbly to the advice of true friends, and don't shy away from medical treatment. On the premise of fully respecting the personality of the other party, you can also put forward your own opinions for their reference, so as not to be a good teacher and make others confused.

7) Start well and finish well, and don't think differently. There are times when friends are unhappy due to misunderstandings, so at this time, you should put yourself in the other person's shoes and consider more, even if the fault lies with the other party, you should be open-minded and forgive their mistakes.

8) Don't be arrogant, don't see the wind and rudder. True friendships often stand the test of time. For everyone, when their status and status change step by step, they should especially remember not to give the impression of an old friend who changes with a broad face.

9) Be lenient and don't be harsh. Being strict with others and lenient with oneself is a double standard that runs counter to the principle of fairness, and it will only lead to resentment by the other party. On the contrary, if we can be strict with ourselves, lenient with others, not indulge ourselves, and not be demanding of others, we will be able to win the respect of others.

No way, your friend is just a!

I know you don't have a little malice when you speak, but what you need to know is that the speaker has no intention The listener has a heart Most of the people who speak rush because they know more knowledge And in the face of some sensational people who say something wrong, I guess you should be very annoying, and then you are very angry and dismissed, that is, very impulsive language, but when this kind of time is too much, you will develop the problem of speaking rushing, and it is like this for everyone, and people who don't understand you are of course very uncomfortable listening to your words, oh, it's not difficult to correct it, my suggestion is Enhance self-gratitude and cherish fate People who are grandstanding are often empty in their hearts and have no achievements Win a trace of pathetic vanity You should learn not to be like this kind of person because the public will naturally comment that you don't need to hurt your own temperament to dismiss him It is useless to do you any good things Don't waste time and energy when you don't have good things And when you face your relatives and good friends How much they help you You should always talk to them in a kind and gentle tone Don't rush When they say anything wrong If it is not necessary to correct it, just don't hear it If necessary, ask them if they can listen to your opinion in a soft language After getting the consent Then objectively and impartially in a soothing and whispered tone Of course, it is a little uncomfortable at first, but you must insist on practicing speaking quietly and smilingly Later, you will naturally get used to it With your own efforts, you will definitely get more friends Come on, I believe you can do it!

Personal opinion only FYI Thank you).

I've been like you before, and I've been able to realize that it's been a big step forward, and it's going to take a lot of effort to completely change this habit. I'll give you an example, I hope you can draw inferences: When I was a soldier, I always couldn't stand in a military posture, and I felt that I didn't stand straight enough, and my neck was still crooked, and then I thought of a way, as long as I had time, I practiced my posture in front of the military mirror, and practiced every day, and I usually paid special attention to my walking posture when walking, whether I bent over, whether I had a chest, After a long time, these problems have changed, you see, I have been discharged from the army for four or five years now, and most people who don't know me will ask me when they see me for the first time: Did you ever be a soldier?

Because when I was a soldier, I had developed the habit of tightening my abdomen and holding my chest up, so it is recommended that the landlord pay more attention to restraining himself at ordinary times, think more about it before speaking, and then speak after thinking clearly, which should be much better

You should like to argue that no matter who is talking, you can find something from it that you think is inappropriate and then say it confidently, so that the other party will be a little unable to hang up, you come and go, and the result. Language is like this, sometimes you want to express one meaning, but the other person mistakenly thinks it is another. In fact, many times, when you talk to the other person, you can understand the other person's meaning, but the surface meaning of the words is not like this (there is room to drill), so so"Rebuttal"Got up.

How can this be changed? Listen carefully to the other party's speech and understand what the other party wants to express (even if you don't understand the meaning, analyze the real meaning of the other party through the current scene and understand the other party)."Rush"What about getting up? A close friend can understand what he means with a glance The average friend can understand what he means when he says a word.

It's not what a friend said, but if you think about it, you can understand what his intentions are. In general, read the meaning of the other person's expression and answer appropriately (consider whether to answer the question or not).

I have a friend who is like this, so a lot of the time people are disgusted with her. It's a personality issue, and I think it's hard to change. But if you have the heart, you will definitely succeed.

I think that's a perennial problem. You can make it clear to your friends that you have no malicious intent, and hope that they will tolerate you more and help you correct this shortcoming together.

You also have to pay more attention to your tone, take your time, don't rush, you will definitely succeed!

There are four communicative principles, the first is the principle of reciprocity, the second is the principle of good faith, the third is the principle of compatibility, and the fourth is the principle of incentives. These are relatively easy principles to understand.

As long as these principles are observed, the relationship will not be particularly bad in general.

As for my understanding of interpersonal relationships, I believe that interpersonal relationships are divided into those with interests and those without interests. Having interests means approaching with a purpose, and there is always some interest relationship between the two. Ordinary friends and classmates have a certain purpose, which can be big or small.

And there may only be parents, spouses and children who have no interest, in short, there are blood relations, or people who really regard you as friends, there are relatively few such people. However, no matter whether there are many interests or few interests, as long as a certain balance is maintained, the communication relationship can be stable.

Sincerity, with the meaning of sincerity and loyalty; Faith means honesty and trustworthiness. If there is a lack of integrity in interpersonal communication, it is difficult to accomplish everything, let you be clever and clever, everyone will turn around and leave you. If the skills of communication lack integrity, it is just a set of tricks to deceive and rush for quick success, and it will only succeed once, and it will be difficult to perform it next time.

It is better to be honest, honest and trustworthy, and gain greater favor and true friendship from the other party. The understanding of interpersonal relations is only the word integrity, for survival, development, interpersonal must be united and cooperative, if there is no integrity, only for their own interests and disregard for others, and even to the detriment of others and self-interest, interpersonal relationships are immediately destroyed, and their own interests are ultimately difficult to preserve. Therefore, the word "integrity" is very important, it is the pillar of society and interpersonal relations, and we must pay enough attention to it!

In my opinion, there are three:

Confidants can confide in each other and share their secrets. Have common interests and hobbies and get to know you.

Friends, I think this kind of relationship should be like separation, and try to be as good as possible with friends without touching their own bottom line, but pay attention to what friends should and should not say to each other.

Girlfriends are lifelong friends and confidants, maybe only one in a lifetime, you can share your secrets, sorrows, and excitement, if you meet them, you should cherish them and manage this friendship well.

Hope it works for you.

It's better to play dumb than to be smart.

Don't do whatever others do.

You still have a good look at the chapter on the choice of friends and self-worth, if you want to be respected by others, you must first learn how to respect others.

Think about what is said in the common sense of physics, the effect of force is mutual, no matter what you do, others are very clear about the psychology, think about it from your own point of view, what type of people do you like, don't they do this? If you don't think you've done it, it's just that you haven't noticed. This is the most basic point.

Don't vent your anger at Chinese education on what you're going to learn, I see a little bit of that awareness. It's not good, it's not too mature to do it. You can be right to people, but not to things.

Let you learn to be honest and recommend you a book that is very helpful for interpersonal communication and entering the society in the future.

There's no need to be demanding, just be natural, understand others more and talk to others more, others ignore you, that's his problem, don't blame you.

Rezhou Xin is affectionate and sincere to no one, learn to praise others, so that others can build self-confidence.

At the same time that you have one more word of praise and concession, you have also won a favor.

The best thing to do is to talk to him or her more, and I think this is the most effective way to try it out.

Don't care too much about what others think of you, the key is to grasp yourself well, to set up a goal to strive for, after you have ideals, you will not be entangled by boring thoughts.

I feel that Bai has to be sincerely praised

Others, it's not sycophancy. Others zhi do dao

If there is merit, it should be selfless.

Dedicated to praise. You should be humble about yourself and learn more from others. Anyone can be your teacher, see the strengths of others and your own shortcomings, and correct them.

To know the psychology of others, you have to know more about a person, and only by understanding him will you know what he is thinking.

I don't think we should deliberately praise someone, but the most sincere from the heart.