Can you help me with a suggestion

Since you also know that you can't be with him, then there is only one choice, forget about him, otherwise you will be very painful, tell yourself that even if he is good, it does not belong to you, the outside world is very vast, you will come into contact with more men, and there will definitely be one that makes your heart move.

I don't know how old you are, my friend had the same problem as you last year, so he had to give up, don't think about anything else, and remember that what you see in him is not really his ......You look at his shortcomings and draw conclusions, and you don't think about him all the time.

If you plan to get married in the future, don't keep this relationship with him anymore, and if you don't plan to get married, you sacrifice your youth to accompany him.

I also have a story in mind.

The fish said to the water: You can't see my tears, because I'm in the water.

The water says to the fish: I can feel your tears, because you are in my heart.

How nice it would be if I were a fish and you were water! The water always knows what the fish thinks, because the fish is in the water.

Do you think it's wonderful? And the fact is that fish can't live without water, but water is not, you know?

First sentence: Don't be a third party.

The second sentence: You know, "There is a person in this world who will always be waiting for you." No matter what time it is, no matter where you are, you know there will always be such a person anyway."

Good luck, be a wise woman and find your own happiness!

Don't be a third party, if you break a home because of you, do you think you will feel at ease, and his children will accept you?

If you really love him, it doesn't matter if he's married or not.

If conditions permit, don't think about him in your eyes!

I suggest you better forget about him, because it is not a good thing to destroy someone else's family. Besides, do you think it's appropriate in terms of age? Will your family agree?

Do you care what the people around you will think of you? Think twice. Just a suggestion.

First, never give advice to others unless necessary. If someone doesn't ask you for your opinion on something, it means that either he has already made up his mind in his own heart, or he just thinks that you are not qualified to guide him. Take the initiative to give advice to others, you think it is for the good of the other party, but in fact, the other party will not appreciate it at all.

You may even feel that you are troublesome in your heart.

If someone asks us for advice, we are generally more willing to share our experience with others, but in the process of expression, sometimes our suggestions and the other party's questions are not answered, causing the person who wants to get advice to be confused. Therefore, when giving advice to the other party, we must be clear about what kind of advice the other party needs and the problem that the other party wants to solve. Generally, the other party chooses you to give him advice, and you must have one aspect that is more prominent, such as you are knowledgeable and experienced; Your skill in dealing with problems is high; You've dealt with something similar before or seen someone else deal with something similar; You are able to provide solutions to problems that he did not expect; You can provide important information about other aspects of the problem; You can stimulate his creativity; You can check if his approach is appropriate, etc.

Before you make a suggestion to the other party, you should clarify the goal he hopes to achieve, and make suggestions for this goal, so that you will not talk in general terms and have no purpose. Before you make a suggestion, you must guide the other party to say the essence of all the problems and other difficulties, many people in the advice to others, always singing a one-man show by themselves, do not give the other party any opportunity to interject, often they say a lot, but not the other party needs to know, the process of making suggestions is the process of communication between the two sides, definitely not the process of your personal report.

Therefore, it is very necessary to communicate with the other person in a timely manner about each of your views, and in the process of making suggestions, you should not direct the other person's point of view in your direction, unless you can definitely prove the correctness of your point of view. Your role is more to help him analyze the causes of the problem and all the possible ways to solve the problem, analyze the pros and cons of the method, and then expect him to make a final decision. After understanding the essence of the problem, when you start to make suggestions, it is best to adopt a straightforward strategy and focus on the focus of the problem, and you can ignore the details, because in many cases, the other party's description of the details will always be unclear or hidden, and discussing the details will only be a waste of time, and you will be thankless.

When citing examples to prove your point, remember not to exaggerate or minimize the example because you want to prove your wisdom, because what the other person wants to hear is your approach to the problem, and you don't need to describe the problem itself too much. This is most applicable when you are giving advice to juniors as an elder, and it also applies to telling others your success story or success story.

Finally, when you tell the other person about your suggestion, you don't expect the other person to accept your suggestion, because you have absolutely no right to force the other person to accept any suggestion you make, the other party has the final decision, he must be responsible for himself, and you are not responsible for his actions. If you get angry or take any hostile measures because the other person has not followed your advice, you will only make others turn away from you. （

You have to analyze the pros and cons with him more tactfully.