Why do family members always nag and nag, why do elders love to nag

We know that people enter about 45-55 years old, there is a menopause, menopause is a period of middle age to old age, physical, mental and health conditions are easy to make people feel "not as good as before", some people will also be sad, always love to recall their past, thinking that this is okay, that is not good, guilt, self-blame. Then they are melancholy and sad, and some things have to be said, so that wealth can relieve the depression in their hearts.

As a child, once you understand this, you should also think about it for your parents. There is no parent in the world who does not love his children. You have to be considerate of them.

People, especially women, will nag when they reach a certain age. You are her children, and they will worry about it for the rest of their lives. There are some things that don't need to be explained at all.

They'll tell you over and over again. And you, think you're an adult. Parents don't have to worry about it anymore.

Your parents' instructions make you feel redundant. So the contradiction arises. I advise you, learn to tolerate your parents' nagging.

Or what you think is wordy. If you don't like to listen to it, you can pretend to listen carefully. And they did.

There will also be a lot less quarrelling. Why not.

Nagging is good for you. It may also be because you haven't done things well, so you will nag. If you don't want to hear it, you don't hear it. No, it's fine. But you should know why your family members keep nagging, and if you are wrong, you have to change it. If you change it, it won't be.

Nagging is because they care about you, if it's someone else, you see how they will nag like that. You should listen carefully to everything they tell you, but it doesn't hurt you, so don't be impatient.

Every parent is good for their children.

There may be several reasons why elders love to nag:

Passing on experience: Through nagging, the elders hope to pass on their accumulated experience and wisdom to the younger generation, so as to help them avoid making the same mistakes or provide better advice.

Although we may sometimes feel tired of being late, we can also try to understand and accept their nagging from a different perspective, because their concern and opinions are also for our goodness. At the same time, we can also express our own views and ideas in moderation to build better communication and understanding.

Many elders like to lecture others every day, they think that they are elders who have experienced a lot of things, and their views on things are correct, and these young people will not do things, and the elders also like to use their own experience to teach others to do things, but these experiences can no longer be used.

Elders like to preach because they have a sense of age superiority.

Elders like to preach to others, and they feel that what they say is right. The elders rely on their old age and seniority, so the Dong clan allows them to preach and criticize others casually, because even if he says it, others dare not refute it, because he is an elder and he is old. So he slowly developed such a bad habit, and he himself felt that it was very good, but in the eyes of others, he had no choice but to endure it, and he couldn't disrespect his elders, just listen to it himself, and he wouldn't take it seriously.

Very to the elders think that they have experienced a lot of things, so some of the ways they say about some things are also correct, and they have to let those young people do things according to their own words, but young people have their own methods and plans, so they often contradict each other because of the disagreement of views, and in the end it is often the end of the young man who confronts him with experience, and often complains that the young man is disobedient, so the young man is very rare.

Some of the lessons given by the elders are not so useful now.

Many elders just like to give all kinds of advice to young people, saying that they should get married at twenty, and if they don't get married, no one should want them, the sooner they get married, the better, others don't listen to what they say, they will get angry and lose their temper, and finally they quarrel, many of the elders' experience is outdated, and they are not suitable for the current society at all, so we must listen to the opinions of the elders appropriately.

The elders like to preach to others for the good of these young people, but many experiences are no longer applicable to this society, and they will still speak these experiences, as juniors, they only need to listen to it, and there is no need to take it seriously.

Why do elders like to educate people?

1.The elders who like to nag you have a kinship with you, or they appreciate and value you in some places. The elders have gone through more than half of their lives, and they have a deeper understanding and reflection on the different stages of life than the younger generations, and they are always accustomed to imparting their experience to the younger generations, in order to ensure that the back can take fewer detours, or hope to be admired and worshiped by the younger generations.

2.Afraid that the child will take a detour.

Because the elders went through a lot of detours when they were young, they didn't want us to take the detours they took, so they wanted to tell us how to choose a shortcut with less tribulation. It's because they love us and that's why they tell us this.

3.Desire to control.

It is inevitable that some parents have some control over their children, hoping that their children can obey the arrangements of adults. But the child is an independent individual, he has his own thoughts, so the two are a more contradictory, parents think that through the way of preaching, they can always let the child listen to them.

Personality analysis of people who like to preach.

1.Bigotry.

People who like to preach have a bit of paranoia, they always think that they know a lot of reason, so others have to listen to him. Such a person will inadvertently push the people around him away, and no one likes to be preached.

2.Good teacher.

Think you have the ability and status to preach to others, but you don't consider whether others are willing to listen to you. This type of person actually belongs to doing bad things with good intentions.

In fact, no one wants to listen to others preach about themselves, and the reason why they continue to listen is because of their respect for you. So don't be a person who likes to preach because we don't know if he will listen to you.

The elders like to preach, and the other people are themselves, and they feel that what they say is right. Elders rely on their age and seniority, so they can casually preach and criticize others, because even if he says it, others dare not refute it, because he is an elder and he cares about his age. So he slowly developed such a bad habit, and he himself felt that it was very good, but in the eyes of others, he had no choice but to endure it, and he couldn't disrespect his elders, just listen to it himself, and he wouldn't take it seriously.

Very to the elders think that they have experienced a lot of things, so some of the ways they say about some things are also correct, and they have to let those young people do things according to their own words, but young people have their own methods and plans, so they often contradict each other because of the disagreement of views, and in the end it is often the end of the young man who contradicts the elder who gives him experience, and often complains that the young man is disobedient, so the young man is very rare. Some of the lessons given by the elders are not so useful now. Many elders just like to give all kinds of advice to young people, saying that they should get married at twenty, and if they don't get married, no one should want them, the sooner they get married, the better, others don't listen to what they say, they will get angry and lose their temper, and finally they quarrel, many of the elders' experience is outdated, and they are not suitable for the current society at all, so we must listen to the opinions of the elders appropriately.

The elders like to preach to others for the good of these young people, but a lot of experience is no longer applicable to this society.

One is the physiological level:

1. First of all, there is a saying that educating people makes people happy. The reason is that the educational process can cause people to secrete dopamine, provided that dopamine is recognized as a happy substance, but this claim has obviously been refuted by many parties and is not very scientific. At least the dopamine argument doesn't stand up to scrutiny.

2. Educating people is a physiological continuation of the original tung finger ashwagandha reaction. In fact, there is some truth in this statement, and the continuity of living things is actually the instinct of human beings to observe the animal nature. From ancient times to the present, especially in ancient times, in order to ensure the continuation of the population, educating future generations has become an almost instinctive consciousness, and this responsibility often naturally falls on the older generation with some experience in production and hunting.

The second is the psychological level (this should be the most important).

1. The older generation thinks that it is their responsibility to educate the younger generations. Therefore, they will think that if they do not pass on the knowledge and experience they know to the younger generations, it is a sign of dereliction of duty, so they will appear to be "good teachers".

2. Education also enables the older generation to gain a possible sense of achievement. By educating the younger generation, the older generation gains a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment after the younger generation avoids suffering losses or achieves certain achievements again and again. The common phenomenon of child comparison is to some extent the embodiment of this psychology, in other words, it can also be called vanity.

3. Educating the younger generations is a kind of self-salvation and self-improvement. The older generation has accumulated certain lessons and lessons, and hopes that young people will not make mistakes in the same thing and suffer losses, and also hope that the younger generations will accelerate their success and avoid detours.

4. Educate the younger generations to reflect their own identity. Some people in the older generation are influenced by certain ideologies and concepts, and will use education to brush up their sense of existence and gain control at the same time.

5. Educating younger generations can also be a manifestation of what adults think of as love. Education is a social activity that consciously cultivates people, among which family education and school education are basically the education of the older generation to the younger generation, whether it is parents to children or teachers to students, it is essentially a manifestation of love.

So don't always think that the nagging of the old man is an unbearable thing, sometimes empathize with it, although it does bring some kind of pressure, but at the same time, it is also necessary to realize that most of the content and circumstances in it are one of the key elements of human survival.