If you fall out of love, you can tell your story, and maybe it can be redeemed. 20

Falling out of love is like losing your footing, either you lose your love by falling in love, or you fall in love with someone you shouldn't love.

I met her in my first job after graduating. My company is a client of her company. As the message is delivered, the spark of love gradually polishes. Unknowingly, it burned into a fire.

We are starting to get used to not being with each other every day. Even if you get off work late, you will find a way to squeeze out an hour to eat together in the evening. Then they each returned to each other's distant homes.

Although it was never expected that they would be separated, they would eventually end up parting.

The once sweet love has also become yesterday due to the arrangement of fate.

The happy days lasted until the appearance of another him.

He was a man in his 30s. Not richer than me, not more handsome than me, he just understands women better than me. But she still fell hopelessly in love with him.

I never wanted to give up, and gradually, step by step, I retreated to bless them.

As at the beginning of the story, we are strangers again. I don't text her every day anymore, and she doesn't smile and open my birthday present.

I slowly forgot that when she was shopping for clothes, she kept turning around and asking me if I looked good. I'm used to spending weekends and holidays alone. I don't have a caring text message on my phone that I don't want to delete.

When it comes to losing, people will doubt what they once had. As at the beginning of my relationship, I changed my job again. At that time, I changed jobs so that I could have money to buy her cosmetics.

Now I changed jobs because I couldn't face the work that I was not in the mood to complete because I was out of love, and I failed to live up to the expectations of my boss.

I've liked him for a long time.

One day he passed a note to class saying he liked me.

The next day, I held hands with him.

On the morning of the third day, he came to class with a note that read:

I'm going to break up. I laughed

Such a first love. It's just a breakup.

For a few days, he avoided me.

Seeing me, he kept calling me "stupid x".

I understand. He wanted me not to like him.

But I can't help it.

I can't bear to let go of my feelings for him so easily.

He seems to be so close to every girl in the class, but me, every time he sees me, he hides away.

What should I do. That's it.

Generally speaking, if the relationship between two people is not bad to a certain level, it is irretrievable, generally after falling out of love, one person takes the initiative, and then apologizes to another person, or takes the initiative to communicate with another person, indicating their meaning, the four steps you said, I think it may not be, it is not so complicated, as long as you express your own heart.

If you are out of love, you must first think about what to do. What is the future going to salvage the relationship? Or is it a complete detachment and a new face to life and emotions?

Falling out of love is always emotionally intense, so it is easy to fall into irrationality. When you clear your mind, it makes sense to discuss what to do. Sharp Burn.

a. Redeem the relationship:

Whatever the reason for the breakup, there's no denying that you've been in love. If you have loved, it means that you have characteristics that make the other person appreciate. For various reasons, your initial attraction is gradually drifting apart, since you do not give up after falling out of love, you need to take the initiative to re-establish your interpersonal attraction to each other.

The instinctive way people fall out of love often backfires about relationships. You cry, make trouble, and hang yourself, so that the other party thinks that breaking up is a wise move. To redeem yourself, you have to use your brains, start with the bits and pieces of your relationship, and awaken the long-dormant love for you in each other's hearts.

Getting along with each other in the same mode before they were together can often make old hearts move. This kind of program can help to recover from repeated failures in emotional teaching and training.

b. Withdraw from the old love and embrace the new life.

Congratulations on your happier possibility. It's not easy to end a relationship with all your heart, and your decision shows that you are mature and brave. However, there will always be things that remind you of the past, and you can only truly run towards a new life by saying goodbye to them.

A new life requires rituals, such as packing and sorting out all sorts of items related to your ex and sending packages to an address you won't get anymore. Don't forget to say goodbye to them when packing, you will gradually find that you are defeated, and it doesn't matter so much to you without them. You can live well without old loves.