Why are parents different from parents?

Landlord: After reading what you wrote above, I feel unspeakably uncomfortable in my heart.

This kind of thing happens a lot in our lives, and it's not just one of these things. People are selfish, everyone wants to make their lives better, as a parent is the same, what you said earlier is that this parent is too selfish, and the later talk, this is called love. Heat is a selfish person, heat will not get a better life, but will affect the people around him.

Only love will be more rewarding.

That's the idea of each parent is different, some of them understand their children very well, and some parents, the child has not given up on himself, the parents have lost confidence in the child, and some older parents still have a little feudal thinking, patriarchal, thinking that women are not good, in fact, they are all the same.

People have different education (not just school education), and the people they come into contact with are different, and of course there are different views.

It is said that they are all first-time parents, why not we are children for the first time, why?

What kind of parents you meet, that's fate.

You ask me, what is the biggest difference between my generation and my parents' generation?

We seem to have that kind of destiny in our own hands, and there is a certain space to show our choice;

And our parents never need to struggle and struggle too much, many of the choices they make are for food and clothing, they can only go on a rampage, and have no choice but to do it. Then I slowly found out that I could also find a way to support my family. Even if the fear and anxiety on this road always hit without warning, it always seemed that they were too fragile, but they slowly discovered that they could also train their resistance to the mu in the sudden accident.

Most young people can pin their hopes on themselves when they are at their worst, but there are many people of the older generation who can only pin their joys, sorrows, and sorrows on the fortune of the times.

However, when they grow up, children always feel so distressed.

What makes me feel that there is a generation gap between me and my parents is not just a moment, but it exists in all aspects of life.

For example, when it comes to hoarding ingredients on a daily basis, my concept is very different from theirs

My idea is that we live in an era where we can eat in a supermarket that is less than a five-minute walk away, and that it is fresh, so you don't have to stock up on a lot of ingredients at home. Too much hoarding of ingredients in Huaihail's old home cannot guarantee the freshness of its halls in the first place, and it is not good for health after people eat it; Secondly, there is not much space in the home, and too many ingredients are piled up at home, which takes up a lot of space; Finally, putting too many ingredients in the refrigerator will also increase power consumption, which is not conducive to saving electricity bills.

Mom and Dad's proposition is that hoarding ingredients is to meet unexpected needs. In fact, I can understand their thoughts, because they have experienced an era of scarcity of materials, and the hard days have caused them a certain amount of physical and mental damage, and they have also developed the habit of hoarding ingredients in preparation for a rainy day.

But what I want to say is that people still have to look at problems from a dynamic perspective, so as to adapt to the current rapidly changing environment, and only by trying to catch up with the pace of the times, can they not be abandoned by the update and iteration of the times.

1. The pressure is not the same.

The pressure here refers to the pressure of studying, in the past, parents would also take their children's good grades as pride, and their own children's bad grades would also be beaten and scolded, but they would stop in moderation. When parents find that their children are really not good at learning and are not suitable for studying, they will give up the idea of letting them read and will not force them to read.

But today's parents are different, under the slogan of not letting their children lose at the starting line, the countdown to the college entrance examination began as soon as the child was born. Even if you find that your child is really not good at learning and is not suitable for learning in the process of growing up. Parents will not consider whether it is suitable or not, but think that their children are not competitive, do not work hard, and are sorry for their own efforts.

This puts a lot of pressure on today's children and is one of the reasons why they suffer from mental illness.

2. Demand varies.

In the past, material conditions were generally scarce, so at that time, people needed food and clothing, and parents would not focus too much on their children. And now we have more ways to get information from the outside world, and the level of education has also improved, so children pay more attention to spiritual needs.

But today's parents don't notice this, they plan their children's lives from the time they are born, arrange everything for them, and don't think about what your children need from you. This is also the saddest point: children are changing, and the way parents educate is still stuck in the old way.

Think that as long as their material needs are met, it will be fine.

3. There are differences in learning situations.

In the past, it was very easy for children to write homework after school, because parents didn't understand it, so it was all up to the children to play on their own. But now it's different, parents nowadays have a certain culture, and children will guide when they do their homework, which would have been a good thing. However, in the process of guidance, some parents take it for granted, resulting in the originally harmonious parent-child time becoming a battlefield.

As long as the child writes incorrectly or can't do it, he will be criticized loudly by his parents, and some parents even get angry with themselves and go to the hospital and play themselves as the protagonists. This will cause the ants and the children to be very afraid of this thing, but they have to do it. Over time, the children's psychological problems arise and cannot be solved because there is no time.

It eventually led to tragedy.

We are similar to our parents in many ways, and this is because there is a genetic and physiological connection between us. Our genes come from our parents, and these genes determine our physical characteristics, intelligence, personality, and many other aspects. In addition, our body structure and physiological characteristics are also similar to those of our parents, such as our height, weight, blood pressure, heart rate, etc.

In addition to the genetic and physiological connection, there is also an emotional connection between us and our parents. There is an intimate relationship between us and our parents, and this relationship is based on long-term interaction and communication. This emotional connection makes it easier for us to understand each other's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and it is also easier to agree and cooperate.

While we are similar to our parents in many ways, we also have our own personalities and characteristics. We can develop our abilities and skills to become a better version of ourselves by learning and growing. At the same time, we should also respect and tolerate the views and habits of parents, and establish harmonious family relationships.

For humans who do have parents, they tend to be influenced by their parents and exhibit some traits and behaviors in their lives that are similar to those of their parents. Sometimes, this can be confusing, as individuals may want to be different from their parents in terms of personal identity and independence.

However, it is inevitable that everyone will be influenced by their family and social environment as they grow up. What matters is how to balance personal development and the connection with parents. One can cope with this by self-exploration, accepting one's uniqueness, and shaping one's own personal identity.

In addition, interaction and understanding with parents are also key to resolving distress. Through communication, building good family relationships, and cultivating personal independence, people can better handle similarities with their parents and find their own unique personal development direction.