My parents think differently from others, is it really my way of thinking that there is a problem?

You must know that we and our parents are people of different eras, especially in China, which is developing so fast, the generation gap between the two generations has unconsciously arisen, so it is normal for differences to exist, to be honest, it is not normal for there to be differences, are you as "old" as your parents, right?

But don't worry about different ideas, I have also had conflicts with my parents, and I have argued, but my own quarrel will not help, it will only worsen the relationship between Le and my parents, we should calm down and talk to our parents, talk about our own ideas, I believe they will slowly understand and understand, because my parents are now not as arbitrary as they were at the beginning, their views on me will now be respected and considered, I am now very harmonious in my family, I hope you will also integrate well with your parents as soon as possible, You have to believe that parents care for their children!

Parents think about the problem of being old is relatively simple, only understanding and humility are children to be children, everyone gives themselves some understanding and humility, the family will be happier, most of the parents' thoughts will be for their children to think, understand it and pass,

Parents are reluctant to have children, they feel sorry for you, and now they will feel that they have done a little more for your boyfriend, and they always want to give you the best to find fault with him like that, don't blame them, and when you are old, you will have the same idea.

In fact, you can think about it from the perspective of your parents and understand them.

Yes, many times parents do a lot of things that children don't understand, sometimes we can empathize with it, or often stand in the other party's perspective to think about the problem will be better, it is normal for children not to understand, and there will be rebellion or willfulness in the growth stage. What do we do when we disagree with our children?

First of all, you must communicate with your child calmly. It's best to see your child as your friend. If there is a dispute, you should first think about whether you have done something bad or wrong in this matter.

If it is your own problem, you should reflect on yourself and correct your mistakes. If there is something wrong with the child, do not argue with him, and both parties should be calm when solving the problem, because irritability will not solve the problem. Only in this way can Qingdan better communicate with children and deepen mutual understanding.

The last thing to say is between people"Heart-to-heart"Yes, you and your children are like that. What should you do and be honest with your children about what you want them to be. What do you don't understand about them? Find a relaxing time to make friends with your children!

1. Make your own decisions about your own life.

There will be differences in living habits between your parents and us, including ideas, attitudes and ways, so you can't live according to your parents' ideas and wishes, and even if you can accept it, your wife can't accept it.

Life is for the two of you, as long as you can accept anything, and in the face of parental interference, you should also show your attitude.

2. Filial piety is not foolishness.

For example, your parents can't see you doing housework, and they can't get used to your wife spending money indiscriminately, although they love you, love you and do good for you, but that's just their wishes, you always have to take into account your actual life, after all, that's your life, and your parents only see the tip of the iceberg.

No matter how lazy your wife is, you can just stand it, don't listen to the wind and rain, and make your own life, and at the same time persuade your parents to let them live their lives, and they should also have their lives.

3. Passing at both ends and concealing at both ends.

Regarding the good of both parties, it must be conveyed in a timely manner, even if it is a little exaggerated, it doesn't matter, for example, when the weather is cold, you buy a pair of gloves for your parents, it can be said that it is the wife's heart.

For example, if your parents praise your wife for a certain advantage in front of you, and there are some words that understand your wife, you can pass it on to your wife when you come back, so that two people know that each other is good, and then infinitely magnify their good side.

As for the two-headed concealment, any bad thing to you is the end, so don't tell the other party about it, even if it's the truth.

And you know, sometimes some words turn bad when they are passed on, such as parents when you say that your wife gets up late, maybe your parents think that young people don't eat breakfast is not good for their health, but once it reaches the ears of their wives, they will inevitably feel that their in-laws are blaming themselves, and then the contradictions will accumulate.

Don't have to vent after the quarrel, Raid Tachibana angrily told all the shortcomings of his wife, and some added fuel and vinegar, you must know that the husband and wife are quarreling at the end of the bed and, some things are turned over here with you, but not with the parents of both sides.

4. Give certain affirmation to your wife.

If even you don't respect your wife, don't expect your parents to really respect your wife, many times, your attitude towards your wife is the attitude of your parents towards your wife.

The most ignorant kind of man always likes to show himself too much in front of his parents, deliberately stepping on his wife, in order to show his strength, so he gives his parents an illusion that his daughter-in-law is catching up with his son, so it is easy to make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law unbalanced, and your parents are more lofty because of your attitude.

As the old saying goes: husband and wife don't cheat with their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Only when the husband and wife are in harmony can they be respected by their parents, and the more they are in front of their parents, the more they must give their wives a certain amount of affirmation.

The first reason why there is a generation gap between parents and their children is because the physical and mental state of teenagers is relatively large, and many teenagers are pursuing independence, and some parents are obviously not very comfortable with this change in their children, so there will be a modern gap. The second reason is that the age in which parents and teenagers live is different, most parents were born in the 50s and 60s, and the era in which teenagers live today is very different from the original era. In fact, fundamentally speaking, many teenagers are now more advanced in their thinking, while most parents seem to be a little backward in their thinking, and the two sides are not on the same level, so there will naturally be some gaps, or generation gaps.

Many teenagers always scoff at some of their parents' thoughts, and many parents don't understand or understand some of their teenagers' thoughts. Therefore, in many families, the most common quarrels between parents and children are those that occur. In fact, it is quite normal for this situation to occur, and most teenagers will always go through a rebellious period, if you want to solve this problem well, then you need parents and children to work together.

First of all, as parents, we must understand the child's various ideas, if we find that the child's ideas are somewhat biased, then we must guide them correctly, rather than blindly criticizing the child, or blaming the child, so that the two sides will gradually drift apart. From the perspective of children, we must also understand our parents, after all, it is the idea of every parent to hope that their son will become a dragon or a phoenix. And the education that most parents receive is different from the education we receive, so no matter when and where, we must learn to empathize and think about this issue from the perspective of our parents, so as to infinitely narrow the generation gap between the two sides.

<> many young people now disrespect and let the stove absolutely obey the words of their parents and fathers, which is the inevitable result of social progress and the development of the times, and it is also an important stage of life development. Parents should understand their children's thoughts and provide appropriate guidance to promote intergenerational communication. Only on the basis of mutual understanding and tolerance can this generation gap be well regulated and repaired in the emotional ties of the family.

There are several main reasons:

1.Changing values. Different generations are affected by the social environment and education, and the concept of value will inevitably be different. The younger generation places more emphasis on personal freedom and development, which may differ from the traditional beliefs of the parent's generation, leading to differences of opinion.

2.The ideological divide. In the economic, political, social and other fields, people of different generations tend to form different ideologies and opinions. This kind of misdemeanor can motivate the offspring to stop following their parents' views on certain issues.

3.Strong sense of independence. The younger generation attaches more importance to personal independence and the right to make their own choices, and no longer absolutely accepts the arrangements or requirements of their parents. They want their parents to understand and respect their own ideas.

4.Diversified information channels. In modern society, information channels are more developed, and young people can obtain information and knowledge from a wider range, and are no longer limited to the views of their parents, and it is easy to form their own independent judgments.

5.Changes in living environment. The younger generation lives in a different social environment than their parents' generation, and the real-world problems and choices they face are also different from those of their parents' generation. This leads to differences in the way of thinking and problem-solving between the two generations.

6.The generation gap deepens. As the times change, there are big differences between the two generations in terms of lifestyles, hobbies, career choices, etc., which will deepen the generation gap and make young people no longer fully trust and rely on the advice of their parents.

No, I will insist that the current pace of social development is so fast, and the difference of five or six years is almost an era, and there will definitely be a gap between the understanding of parents and children. Therefore, parents do not necessarily have a great reference for their children's advice in terms of social experience, society is changing, people are also changing, so their suggestions can not be listened to, for example, the game industry, which was still called a non-serious profession by parents twenty years ago, has become a cool profession in the eyes of young people.

For example, in the eyes of parents: the delivery man is an errand boy. There is no future, no money, and you have to walk through the streets, which is very unsafe.

Clause. 1. Unsafe.

We often see traffic accidents on the way to delivery people, and when they are in a hurry, there is a high chance that some unexpected situations will occur. Serious car accident hospitalization, minor bruises. And some delivery workers are not even willing to go to the hospital if they are injured, but are in a hurry to deliver food.

For parents, such a job is not supported, and even has to be feared all the time.

Second: don't make money.

Some people on the Internet say that the takeaway brother can earn tens of thousands of dollars a month. But according to the theory of behavior: the effort is proportional to the gain, and in order to get enough reward, you must pay relative time and energy.

And those who really earn tens of thousands of dollars a month pay more time and energy than others to run takeaways, so they can earn higher wages than others. If you fish for three days and dry your nets for two days, you can go if you want to deliver takeaways, and lie at home if you don't want to deliver them, then the salary must not be high.

Third: no future.

The process of a person's development is a process of continuous improvement. And the improvement of self-awareness requires training. If you want to have a long-term development, you need to go through continuous study, thinking, and reflection until you determine the value of your life, and finally you can find the direction of life development that is suitable for yourself.

The food delivery industry is too slow and simplistic, without technical content, and many parents think that it is not conducive to the development of young people. So these perspectives need to change.