What do you do by yourself feel particularly painful?

When a person pretends to be happy.

This kind of pain is that you have to disguise your true self and arm yourself that is not your own.

I have met a lot of people who feel very miserable and desperate in life, and I find it difficult for them to truly love themselves, to truly feel sorry for themselves, to truly understand themselves, and to truly feel for themselves.

For them, the fragility, hesitation, and fear in their hearts are very painful, and they have to hide these pains, and they have to disguise a powerful and omnipotent self to numb their pain.

They deny the fragility of their hearts, they tell themselves that it's just a momentary feeling, they suppress their inner needs, they tell themselves it's just an impulse.

They divert their emotions, they eat and drink when they feel hesitant, they weaken their feelings, and even if they feel it, they tell themselves that it's not a big deal.

But in fact, such a long-term disguise will make us lose ourselves, and we will let ourselves go of helplessness, powerlessness, and hopelessness, and this is the longest-term and deadliest pain!

What I am most afraid of is the greater pain behind this pain, the pain that I can't get, knowing that I can't be happy alone, but I can't do anything about it.

It is said that this kind of pain is generally caused by the "emotional indoctrination" of parents, that is, parents keep instilling negative emotions into their children, telling children to grow up quickly to help parents deal with various needs, and children will plant the seeds of working hard for their parents' needs in their hearts, and then lose their real needs.

Suppressing the needs of one's heart, paying for one's parents, paying for others, self-consumption, for fear of not being able to meet the needs of others, overdrawing oneself little by little, not knowing what the meaning of one's life is.

I think it's probably when you're eating alone, and I think it's the most painful thing to eat alone and cook alone.

It's very painful to do group activities on your own because you don't have anyone to partner with, and there are some duo events that you can't do at all, which is miserable.

It's especially painful to do things that don't see the future and don't like them. There is no motivation to move forward, and there is no courage to retreat.

When I deal with conflicts between students, because I have just left the society and do not have enough experience, I escalate the conflicts, which makes me feel very painful and makes me feel that I am not capable of being a teacher.

One person eats hot pot, one person watches a movie, one person participates in activities, and one person competes in sports.

That kind of physical work, such as when I came home from vacation, I had to take a box, which was really annoying, and it was heavy and didn't help me, and I had to take it down.

Do something that you can't see the result of, and you don't know if it's the right direction to do what you insist on.

It's when I decide to be with someone I don't love, because I'm the kind of person I just want to be with someone I like and love, and if I can't, I feel miserable.

Eating hot pot, the loneliness increases exponentially, and the curious eyes of the people around you aggravate this pain, so don't try to eat hot pot alone in the future.

Since we have chosen love, we must treat it sincerely, cherish it, support him when he (she) is in difficulty, encourage him or her when he (she) is happy, and comfort him (her) when he (she) is happy. Rather than ignoring its existence when you have it, only to regret it only after you lose it. To love someone is to make him (her) happy forever, to be his (her) eternal safe haven, to protect him (her), even if it is the slightest harm.

Truly loving someone is not as simple as we think, an affectionate hug, a deep kiss, an unchanging vow, a ...... that will not fadeAll this is tasteless, dark and dull in the face of true love.

The most important thing to love a person is to respect his (her) own independent time and space, let him (her) devote his (she) energy to the struggle for his ideal career, and urge him (her) to make full use of the time at his or her disposal, help each other in the short space with each other, support each other, share weal and woe, contribute to each other's ideal cause, and strive for a better future together!

You may not think it will be like when you have it, but when you lose it, you will know what heartache is. Most people get used to doing something or accepting someone's feelings for a few days, but one day when you stop what you have done and accept from people, you feel as if something is missing. Actually, nothing is missing, it's just that you're starting to get used to that life, that feeling.

Therefore, when you lose him (her), you will think that he (she) is valuable, if you cherish him (her) at the beginning, he (her) will not leave you now. Friends, cherish what you have now, don't wait until everything is gone from you, all you have left is regret and self-blame. Happy friends!

When I'm unhappy, sometimes I watch comedies and laugh to relieve my sorrows, and sometimes I watch love tragedies and cry a lot, and it's over

I woke up from a good dream, and it was another sunny day

It will be good to talk to your close friend about the pain in your heart.

In fact, people are like this, whenever they are alone, especially at night, they will feel desolate and lonely.

This kind of pain is involuntary, and on top of this shallow sadness, if you have a little pressure in your heart, or love someone who doesn't love you, or some other annoying things, then thinking about these things at night is making yourself miserable.

This kind of pain is actually nothing, maybe it hurts to cry, then it will help you vent your emotions, it will also help your metabolism, it will make your mood better, and you will feel happy in your heart, very comfortable.

Hurt yourself. When you are lonely and lonely, your mood is very low, and you can easily think of unpleasant things, so go out more often to talk to friends or find something to do when you are alone, and you can forget about sad things for a while. To completely get out of this emotion, you still have to rely on yourself to let go of the baggage, and happiness is in front of you.

Every day, as soon as you wake up, you have to say to yourself that today is a good day.

No matter what happened yesterday.

After all, yesterday. It becomes a thing of the past and cannot be changed.

Don't let yesterday's worries get in the way.

To this day's good mood.

It all starts now!

When you're working, don't complain about your work, no matter how busy and stressful the task is.

Be happy with what you do.

Don't start the day with resentment, like your work, and you will feel a sense of accomplishment to complete your work step by step!

Don't compare yourself to others.

In this way, you will live an easy life, and the greatest enemy of man is himself.

I'm sure you've heard that.

So. It's not interesting to compare yourself to others.

Only compare with yourself.

In order to always have a goal to strive for.

Don't go to that other person's standard.

Measure yourself!

As long as it doesn't hurt the dignity of the individual, let others talk about it!

After all, no one is perfect, no one is perfect, and no gold is enough!

Others take what they say seriously with you.

That's not right. You sang a song as if he were it.

Don't take it personally.

That's it, there are so many boring people in this world.

If you're all with them.

How can you be in a good mood! Right!

The most important point.

No matter how busy you are at work, make time for something you love to do, such as: Listen to the song.

Play cards. Something like that.

Well, that's all it takes.

I don't know if you're satisfied.

But I still want to wish you every day.

Happy, have a good mood every day! Hehe.

One of the most fundamental causes of our pain and distress is undoubtedly ignorance of the world. It is ignorance that causes unnecessary pain and trouble to many of us.

I feel that the root cause of making a person miserable is that I love someone very deeply. The loss of her that day is painful, or the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a child, all bring you great pain.

The root cause of a person's pain is hurting something that the person cares about.

There are two kinds of pain in a person. One is psychological pain and the other is physical pain. Physiological pain is the pain caused by disease. Psychological pain is caused by stress. And both of them will be a change in the person's mood.

If you can't satisfy your desires, you're very uncomfortable.

There are many reasons why a person is miserable, and the root cause is because of feelings.

There are many reasons for suffering, life is full of tribulations, and it requires a good attitude and strong resistance to blows.

Human life is inherently painful, sweet, sour, bitter and salty, and you have to taste it all over again.

Your mentality is not strong enough, and you are too easily influenced by other people, so watch more Guiguzi and Chicken Soup for the Soul.