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The two of them went to the barber shop to dye their hair white and experience the white-headed ,,, grow old together.
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Perfect your personality first.
Love can be done by one's own nature, or it can be romantic, but in the face of marriage, we need to be a rational person.
So don't copy what you did when you were in love into your married life.
In marriage, you need to perfect each other's personalities.
If one person has a stubborn personality, the other person will learn to tolerate it at the right time, and even if they quarrel, they can reconcile in time;
One person is sensitive and fragile, the other person is thick-skinned, and going out will also make the other person feel a sufficient sense of security.
However, if the personalities of both parties are too similar, such as being more self-assertive, when dealing with conflicts or encountering problems, it is equivalent to missing a solution, or even-for-tat.
In intimate relationships, most people only see each other, not themselves, so they have a high sense of need, fall into negative emotions, accusations, and complaints, and ignore the importance of being themselves.
If you want to better adapt to your new married life, you have to try to adjust yourself a little. Although it is said that you should not lose yourself in marriage, you must also remember that in marriage, you cannot be stubborn about yourself.
Learn to live with each other's shortcomings.
When we are in love, what attracts us is the advantages of the other party, and the envy of marriage will magnify the shortcomings of the other party, and the process of two people running in is the process of accepting and tolerating each other's shortcomings.
Everyone tries to find a perfect person, but unfortunately, in the end, you will find that there is no perfect person in this world.
I always believe that even if a person is good, I still think that he must have shortcomings.
When you are in a relationship, you only care about the good in the other person. Even, you will magnify the advantages of the other party ten times and a hundred times.
However, when it comes to getting married, it's very different. At this time, you see that all the shortcomings of the other party are the shortcomings of the other party, and the more you look at it, the more angry you become, and you are so angry that you can't wait to divorce and find a new one.
I think the final summary of love mentor Tu Lei is very reasonable, he said that when you are in love, you will respond to each other's needs, because during the love period, you see each other's advantages, and after love, it is the process of accepting each other's shortcomings, which needs to be tolerated.
Looking at the world, how can there be a perfect partner and a perfect marriage, some are just wise and foolish with one eye closed, with the calmness and calmness of the hills and valleys in the chest, and the ability to make trade-offs will balance the common ground while reserving differences, so that the marriage seems to be quiet and unharmed for many years.
We always marry a person's strengths, and the truth is that we have to live with a person's shortcomings.
This is how to overcome the overwhelm from love to marriage.
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1.Marriage pattern: If the marriage pattern is based on long-term commitment and loyalty, then it may last for a long time. However, if the marriage is based on sexual attraction and unconditional dependence on the spouse, the relationship may end quickly.
2.Personalities and circumstances of both parties: The personalities and circumstances of both parties may also affect the duration of the marriage.
Some people may be better suited to long-term partnerships than others, and they may be more likely to support and support each other and therefore be able to last for a long time. However, if both parties have serious personality issues or financial problems, etc., these issues can ruin their relationship.
3.Ability to communicate and resolve conflicts: The ability of both partners to communicate and resolve conflicts is one of the key factors in maintaining a long-term marriage. If both parties are able to communicate effectively and resolve conflicts, then their relationship is likely to be more stable.
4.Concentration of love: The concentration of love may also affect the duration of the marriage.
If the love between the two parties grows deeper and deeper, then their relationship may be more stable. However, if the concentration of love decreases rapidly, then the marriage may last for a shorter period of time.
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In this era of fast-food love, it is of course a very enviable thing to be able to have a relationship that accompanies you to old age. I don't know what is the influence, but young people nowadays are becoming more and more impetuous.
The older generation of people is the one who solves problems when they encounter them, but the young people of today are the ones who solve problems when they encounter them and let this problem appear.
Once there are contradictions and differences between two people, and there are some differences, they always think about breaking up and leaving, instead of thinking about changing a little for each other. I don't know if it's affected by more and more self-marketing accounts.
Nowadays, more and more people's attitudes towards love have changed, and everyone is pursuing materialistic love, but they have forgotten people's original intentions. Everyone thinks that as long as you spend enough money on me, you buy me enough things.
You just love me, and ignore the partner who has been by your side silently taking care of you and paying for you. Love without material things is like a plate of loose sand, and this sentence is indeed not wrong.
But love can't be **, how much money he spends on you or how much money he has, but you should pay more attention to how much he has paid for you, whether he is careful and sincere to treat you.
Many girls also take their boyfriends for granted that they are good to them, and feel that boys should be good to a girl without reservation and without asking for anything in return, and only in this way can they be regarded as loving girls.
But ignoring feelings, it is a process in which two people tolerate and understand each other and treat each other well, rather than blindly accepting others' good for themselves without giving anything in return. It's really poisoned by all kinds of **, and many people have forgotten their hearts.
As a result, the love of young people now will always end hastily, and there is no way to go hand in hand for a long time. Even many young people will feel that love is particularly boring because of some small things, so that they can lock their hearts and love, and even lose the courage to try to love someone. It is precisely because of this that the older generation, although plain but always remember each other, but always give the best everything to each other, even if the other party is not good enough, but still wholeheartedly pay the feelings, which is particularly precious.
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At that time, the orders of the parents, the words of the matchmaker, very few said, free love, generally marriage first and then love, of course, even if there is a big contradiction, there are very few people who choose to divorce, and more people still believe in sticking to it or thinking about it for the sake of their children, and just go through their lives. Of course, the remaining ones who love first after marriage are very affectionate, they must have gone through a lot of hardships, and finally they can feel that they are in love with each other in the end, love their parents after marriage, love their parents after marriage first, and love their parents after marriage first, and look at this person first.
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Many couples grow old together because they have the same goals and the same values.
In the past, the older generation of people had the same level of education and values. So they can move towards the same goal, coupled with the ideological imprisonment, it makes them feel that since they are married, they should go to the end, and it is very embarrassing to get off halfway.
But now, with the improvement of people's ideological consciousness and the difference in family environment, people also have different views on marriage and love. Even if many people get married for various reasons, and the two get along unhappily or have other frictions or estrangements after marriage, it is not difficult to say that they choose a new beginning with each other.
This is human progress. In the past, everyone was on the same level, and the thoughts and conditions were the same, so most of them would go to the end.
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Getting married is not a simple matter, and you have to think about your future. The days of life are very long, and if two people have no topics to talk about, they will seem very estranged, and their feelings will become weaker and weaker, and if there is a distance in their hearts, the marriage should end. With someone who has the same hobbies as you, you can do things you like together, and you can talk together, even if two people sit there quietly, you won't feel embarrassed and can get along happily.
Ask the opinions of both parents to ensure that the family is harmoniousMarriage is completely different from falling in love, falling in love only requires two people to love each other, and marriage is not just a matter of two people, family factors are also very important. Before getting married, it is important to fully understand the thoughts of both parents and lay a foundation for family harmony. Now the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very tense, and many women can't get along with their mother-in-law, which leads to family conflicts and makes men don't know how to solve them.
Eventually everyone is physically and mentally exhausted, and you will want to escape from this unhappy marriage. When two people start to fall in love, they will naturally feel that everything is good for each other, and they will have the idea of wanting to be together. Especially sometimes what he does for you will move you, and you will regard him as your ideal partner as soon as your brain is hot.
The first requirement of the relationship is that each other's personalities are suitable, and if the personalities don't get along, he may tolerate you at first, but after a long time, his true attitude will be exposed. Your married life is prone to conflicts and quarrels, and it is difficult to maintain the sweetness of your relationship.
There are no common interests and hobbies, as well as topics.
When it comes to the disposal of money, it never matters who should pay your salary to, or how much or less you spend. It never cares how many people he has contact with the opposite sex, as long as his heart is still at home, it doesn't matter. Never care about who cooks and who does the housework.
If a husband and wife want to grow old, they must do the following.
It depends on whether the husband and wife get along well, whether the division of housework is reasonable, whether the husband will take the initiative to share the housework, whether the wife will comfort the husband when the husband is frustrated, and whether the two people will discuss and consider each other's problems.
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