What does marriage rely on to grow old, and how to manage a marriage to grow old?

What does it take for two people to get to the end of the day?

Managing a marriage has always been a difficult subject, and if you want to manage a good marriage with Yanfeng, you must learn how to get along with your other half. After getting married, many people regard their partners as their closest people, or their own accessories, because of their close relationship, they think that they can say whatever they want without fear, and they can ask the other party to compromise for themselves without scruples, change for themselves, and even impose their own thoughts on each other, so all kinds of contradictions arise. In fact, husbands and wives still have to learn to respect each other, they can get along with each other as friends, they must have a little distance from each other, and they must have scruples to reduce friction and contradictions.

1 Treat your partner as a friend, so you know how to respect it betterMany couples forget respect because they have been together for a long time, and always think that the other party is their partner, so they can tolerate and accept themselves unconditionally. Especially when arguing, they will always say some impulsive words to hurt the other party, or in ordinary communication, they do not take into account the dignity of the other party, and use words or actions to belittle the other party. It's not that the relationship is intimate, you can disrespect each other, husband and wife are to know how to respect, if we treat our partner as a friend, we will respect our partner as if we were friends.

Usually when we get along with friends, we will know how to respect, because others are not obliged to indulge themselves unconditionally, and we also know that friends will not tolerate us so much, so we will have scruples. And husband and wife get along the same, always understand that even if you are a partner, you are not obliged to fully tolerate yourself, especially if there is no bottom line, even if the person who loves you again needs dignity. The famous director Ang Lee once had an interview about marriage, and the reporter asked Ang Lee:

You and your wife have been in love for so many years, what do you think is the thing that you have been doing in your marriage and can make your marriage happy all the time? "I think it's respect, and it's important for husband and wife to respect each other.

Because I'm now a father and a husband, that doesn't mean that I automatically get their respect. You still have to earn their respect every day, and if you meet their standards, others will respect you. "Everyone has dignity and needs to be respected, no matter what the relationship is, you must learn to respect others, even if you are facing your partner, you must pay attention to your words or actions, whether they will hurt each other, or whether they will trample on each other's dignity.

Encourage more, understand more, tolerate each other, and work hard for the family.

In this era of fast-food love, it is of course a very enviable thing to be able to have a relationship that accompanies you to old age. I don't know what is the influence, but young people nowadays are becoming more and more impetuous.

The older generation of people is the one who solves problems when they encounter them, but the young people of today are the ones who solve problems when they encounter them and let this problem appear.

Once there are contradictions and differences between two people, and there are some differences, they always think about breaking up and leaving, instead of thinking about changing a little for each other. I don't know if it's affected by more and more self-marketing accounts.

Nowadays, more and more people's attitudes towards love have changed, and everyone is pursuing materialistic love, but they have forgotten people's original intentions. Everyone thinks that as long as you spend enough money on me, you buy me enough things.

You just love me, and ignore the partner who has been by your side silently taking care of you and paying for you. Love without material things is like a plate of loose sand, and this sentence is indeed not wrong.

But love can't be **, how much money he spends on you or how much money he has, but you should pay more attention to how much he has paid for you, whether he is careful and sincere to treat you.

Many girls also take their boyfriends for granted that they are good to them, and feel that boys should be good to a girl without reservation and without asking for anything in return, and only in this way can they be regarded as loving girls.

But ignoring feelings, it is a process in which two people tolerate and understand each other and treat each other well, rather than blindly accepting others' good for themselves without giving anything in return. It's really poisoned by all kinds of **, and many people have forgotten their hearts.

As a result, the love of young people now will always end hastily, and there is no way to go hand in hand for a long time. Even many young people will feel that love is particularly boring because of some small things, so that they can lock their hearts and love, and even lose the courage to try to love someone. It is precisely because of this that the older generation, although plain but always remember each other, but always give the best everything to each other, even if the other party is not good enough, but still wholeheartedly pay the feelings, which is particularly precious.

At that time, the orders of the parents, the words of the matchmaker, very few said, free love, generally marriage first and then love, of course, even if there is a big contradiction, there are very few people who choose to divorce, and more people still believe in sticking to it or thinking about it for the sake of their children, and just go through their lives. Of course, the remaining ones who love first after marriage are very affectionate, they must have gone through a lot of hardships, and finally they can feel that they are in love with each other in the end, love their parents after marriage, love their parents after marriage first, and love their parents after marriage first, and look at this person first.

Many couples grow old together because they have the same goals and the same values.

In the past, the older generation of people had the same level of education and values. So they can move towards the same goal, coupled with the ideological imprisonment, it makes them feel that since they are married, they should go to the end, and it is very embarrassing to get off halfway.

But now, with the improvement of people's ideological consciousness and the difference in family environment, people also have different views on marriage and love. Even if many people get married for various reasons, and the two get along unhappily or have other frictions or estrangements after marriage, it is not difficult to say that they choose a new beginning with each other.

This is human progress. In the past, everyone was on the same level, and the thoughts and conditions were the same, so most of them would go to the end.

Of course, I yearn for those loves that accompany me until I grow old, but how much can I really achieve? Anyway, I can't be so lucky, because my wife has passed away a few years ago, but there are not so many regrets when two people have been happy together!

When two people quarrel, there will always be one person who bows his head first, and there will definitely be some small setbacks when two people live together, and it is also very likely that some small frictions will occur. Because each of us is different, as long as there are people, there will be contradictions. The reason why conflicts arise is to remind two people that there are some problems that need to be solved, not to remind you to hurry up and overcome each other.

If two people are always-for-tat when they quarrel, and no one is willing to take the initiative to bow their heads, then even if this quarrel passes, it will become a thorn in the hearts of two people. If you want to make your life better and better, then you must know that ripe rice will bend over.

Especially know how to praise each other in lifeIn real life, each of us is actually very eager to be praised by others. Although each of us is not so perfect, although each of us will have some small flaws, we still want to be seen like pearls. But in fact, there are many times when we are very sure of a person in our hearts, but in words we are likely to show a calm and breezy appearance.

Although we shouldn't use it to hear about love, if you don't say it, how can the other person know? If you want to grow old, being good at complimenting is a trick.

Regard some of the other party's shortcomings as his own small characteristics, and no one can be a sage, each of us is not particularly perfect, and each of us must have some small shortcomings. But if two people want to live together for a long time, it is definitely not possible to always stare at each other's shortcomings. Everyone should have an eye that is good at discovering beauty and is good at discovering some of the good things in the person they love.

Two people who can grow old can regard some small shortcomings in each other as a small feature of themselves. Each of us is unique, each of us should learn to love, and each of us is worthy of love in this world.

When two people are together, they have to work together.

1. Sufficient economic sail banquet foundation as support.

In this era, if you want to start a family, the condition that you must consider is undoubtedly money, which is not to say vanity and power, this is just one of the conditions for surviving in this society.

2. The character of both parties.

Marriage is a matter of two people, the most important thing for two people together is to be able to run in, if they can tolerate each other such as mutual understanding, then there is the possibility of living, the man must have enough sense of responsibility to take on the whole family, and the woman must be tolerant and understanding, two people to run the marriage together, in order to harvest a happy life.

3. Freshness will maintain the quality of the marriage.

Freshness is the most important thing in any situation, keep a proper distance, and give the other half a new experience every day, such as giving each other a little surprise every day, a flower, and a beautiful dinner.

4. The parents of the other half will not interfere too much.

5. Whether a man has true love for you.

Whether a man has true love for you, whether he has a heart to play or really wants to live with you for a lifetime, you can see from the man's usual details and attitude towards you, whether he can tolerate you and tolerate you, if he is not sincere, don't get married.

6. Repentance and family atmosphere.

The family atmosphere of a family is too important, if the family is deserted, everyone does not talk, and everyone does their own things, the family will be very depressing after staying for a long time.

I'm married myself and a mom. I don't know if I'll regret it later, but I'm still thankful for my marriage at this stage. So I never regretted marrying him now.

In fact, it is not easy to fall in love, marriage is difficult, managing marriage is a science, many couples will go through various tests to get married, and after marriage, they need to manage their marriage well, so as to maintain the relationship between husband and wife. So how exactly should marriage be managed.

1. Recognize your role in marriage.

Now that you are married, you must learn to recognize your identity and role in marriage. When you are in love, you can still play tricks, but after getting married, you need to shoulder a responsibility and take on the role of a wife and mother. Recognizing your role in marriage is the first task of managing a marriage.

Second, it is necessary to pay attention to the art of dealing with marital problems.

After the couple gets married, they will slowly reveal their true nature, and while the two become closer, they will also encounter some setbacks and tests. You see that the other person is not good or just the strengths, and there are more disadvantages, and there will be more and more conflicts between the husband and wife. At this time, it is necessary to deal with marital problems flexibly, not to expand the problem, but to try to solve the problem within the conflict.

In this way, you can safely get through the dangerous period of your marriage.

3. Know how to respect each other.

In marriage, men and women should be equal. Husbands and wives should learn to respect each other, don't rely on women's advantages to bully each other, and Qinru should not feel inferior because she marries each other's families. When encountering differences of opinion, know how to respect the other party's opinion, even if you disagree, do not denigrate the other party's point of view.

Mutual respect and mutual understanding will make the relationship between husband and wife better and better.

4. Learn to tolerate each other.

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, and there is no such thing as a perfect husband. Everyone has some small shortcomings, and couples should learn to be understanding and tolerant. In the past, I didn't find the small shortcomings of the other party, because when I was in love, I thought everything too perfectly, so I would ignore the small shortcomings of the other party.

But marriage is like a mirror, shining the strengths and weaknesses of the two people, you will feel dazzling, but these are real. While seeing each other's shortcomings, think more about each other's strengths, learn to understand and tolerate each other, and the relationship between husband and wife will be stronger.

1.During the run-in period, many couples do not understand each other, and there will be a lot of conflicts, so they need to understand each other. 2.

It is also necessary to get through the cold period together, a period during which the couple is likely to fall in love with someone else. 3.The husband and wife also need to get through the quarrel period, and it is easy to get divorced because of the rush of words.