How to talk about a relationship that is valuable to yourself and your marriage?

If the purpose of your relationship is to get married, then you must learn to talk about love that is valuable to the marriage and yourself.

If you don't want to make your life too hard after marriage, then you must know how to "moderate refusal" before marriage, learn to vent your emotions, so that the other party can take the initiative to adapt to your "willful", arrogant and unreasonable.

The emotional union of the sexes in marriage should never be one party who cares for the other unscrupulously. Especially women, all the things that should be tossed before marriage must be tossed.

Only when you toss can you truly know how important you are in his mind, can you inspire him to give to you, and restore the true nature of your heart, and the true state you should have, so as to lower his expectations of your partner.

Love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families. When in love, both men and women can fall in love at first sight, regardless of the world, as long as they are concubines, even if there is a disparity in status, they can still spark love. Because of this, the world envies the love between the princess and the prince, and also yearns for the story of Cinderella and the prince.

Isn't the value of love that it transcends the barriers of class and worldliness? Not with marriage. Marriage is about two people with different values tolerating each other, and it is about two families with different backgrounds compromising with each other.

Marriage is about the right person. Therefore, if you want to talk about a love that is valuable to marriage, you must understand this truth, and pay attention to finding people with the same three views when you are in love, not only that, but it is best to have similar family backgrounds, at least belong to the same class. This is not to deny that cross-class marriages must be unhappy, there is a probability problem here, and the possibility of marriage happiness is definitely much greater.

Marriage is two people who have experienced many twists and turns together, and it is not easy to come together for love. In this process, the two need to understand each other and support each other. The value of marriage is the process of two people being together for a lifetime.

It's not about wealth, it's not about looks. I think the most important thing is the kind of mutual affection and honesty that the two of them get along with. Thinking of a ** I saw, two white-haired old men held hands and walked together in the afterglow of the sunset.

The expression is so serene, so quiet. It seems that everything in the world ceases to exist at that moment, and only love is eternal between heaven and earth. I think that's the value of true marriage.

To do this, it is important to choose the right person. He (or she) is with you, not for a certain purpose, but purely because he loves you. You work together, work together, no matter what the future holds, what you will encounter, it is enough to have you by your side.

Many couples have not gone to the end on the road of marriage, they have parted ways, there are various reasons for breaking up, in fact, the most important thing is that there is no love, no understanding and tolerance, such a marriage is worthless. Choosing a marriage that is valuable to you is to find the right person.

First of all, in choosing a mate, you must keep your eyes open and find someone who shares the same three views as yourself. Don't be blinded by each other's initial affections. I've been married for four years now, and I'm in dire straits every day.

When I first fell in love, I was very sweet, I liked each other's truthfulness, and I liked that each other brought different opinions and suggestions to me. We are very different in terms of outlook on life and values, but before marriage, we think that is an advantage that makes up for each other. But it wasn't until we got married, especially after we had children, that we were all wrong, we couldn't reach a consensus on almost everything, and everything we did was done under the criticism and incomprehension of the other party.

Life is very passive and full of negative energy. I don't know or the meaning until now, it's really very painful, I want to end the relationship and find that it's too late, and now I am bearing the burden of a family, so when you are in love, you must choose the right person, a person with similar views.

Whether there is value or not is not something that one person can decide, but two people decide together. If two people are just in love for the sake of falling in love, instead of having an in-depth understanding of each other's living habits, hobbies, and values, then even if they enter the marriage happily, they may not be able to grow old happily. Because marriage is firewood, rice, oil and salt, marriage is pots and pans, marriage is milk powder diapers, marriage is a combination of two people from two families, and there is also the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that cannot be avoided, which is very trivial and complicated.

Therefore, it is recommended that men and women in love learn more about each other's living habits, hobbies, values and other aspects before marriage, and after marriage, be more understanding, considerate and tolerant of each other, and do not be stingy with pay. If the problem is solved at a high point of emotional intelligence, the married life will be smoother.

Find someone who has the right three views and doesn't get tired of getting along, which can give him more patience, more time to change, plus a little fate, and this life will be fine. My love affair with my husband is the order of my parents and the words of the matchmaker. In fact, when they are in love, they are reserved and respect each other.

And our values are very positive, and we are all going to get married and future. So it's very harmonious in love. The real feeling of love is after getting married.

By living and working together, the relationship has deepened bit by bit. Overall, our marriage is very harmonious, and it feels like we know each other very well.

Find someone who likes you and you like, make progress together, trust each other, care for each other, and treat each other's family as your own. This is the value of love. Don't blindly waste your feelings, the gains outweigh the losses.

Throw off the shackles of materiality, restrain reason, release sensibility, and bring out the most primitive instinct of love....

Marriage is two people living together together, doing business and running a family together, love needs a combination of sensibility and rationality, and matches and balances from age, personality, occupation, economy and other aspects in order to improve the quality of marriage.

Two people who love each other together, form a family, have 1-2 children, do not want to be rich, have a stable income, and have healthy parents, this is my value.

Before getting married, two people can try to expose their shortcomings, if the other party can accept it, it is suitable for marriage, if the other party can't accept it, then stop the loss in time.

When you are in love, it is very important to choose someone, as long as the person is chosen correctly and regards you as a treasure, then this love, marriage is your destination, and this is the most valuable place.

Two people should start with the purpose of getting married and slowly temper each other's personalities.

It's good not to talk about feelings, just talk about conditions! In fact, feelings don't exist, the two of them look pleasing to the eye, he hasn't ** me, he hasn't poisoned me, he hasn't destroyed me. The condition is ok! Let's talk about getting married!

Feelings, you can fight hard to get everything you want, if it's because of interests, you're crazy.

When falling in love, two people must pay seriously and establish mutual trust, so that they can enter into marriage.

The first is to bring down before falling in love, you must understand the other party, as well as the other party's family or the character of the other party, and when there is a problem, you must learn to tolerate and understand, and there must be a common goal and a common hobby.

Two people must trust each other, and never hide it, they must tolerate each other and understand each other.

I think that falling in love is for the purpose of getting married, and I think marriage must be because of love, first of all, I think if you really want to form a perfect family of three, you must get married. Secondly, it is a very beautiful thing to stay with the person you love for a lifetime. In addition, a marriage without love can make me feel bored and difficult to persevere.

Many people fall in love for the purpose of getting married, and few people just fall in love for the purpose of falling in love. Many Chinese people are still relatively traditional in their thinking, and everyone still hopes for a perfect ending. For me, falling in love must be for the purpose of marriage, and the union of marriage must also be because of love.

First of all, I think if you really want to form a perfect family of three, you must get married. Many people say why not fall in love for a lifetime, how good it is to fall in love, and be able to change people, as if they don't have to be responsible. Personally, I think that if you want to start a family and be a perfect family of three, you must choose someone you love to marry.

Because that's the only way you can have such a family. For those players who want to change people and fall in love for the rest of their lives, they may not have thought about getting married, but sooner or later they will also want to have a home.

Secondly, it is a very beautiful thing to stay with the person you love for a lifetime. The reason why I want to get married is because I think it is actually a very beautiful thing to live with the person I really love for a lifetime, and each other will feel very secure and down-to-earth, and there will be no unstable factors to disturb their lives, and life is good, which is a very beautiful state for many people. Of course, falling in love can also stay together for a lifetime, but it is undeniable that in the eyes of many people, marriage is actually a promise to a hypothetical individual for a lifetime, and it is a promise to the other party.

In addition, a marriage without love can make me feel bored and difficult to persevere. I think marriage must be because of love for each other, because a marriage without love is really boring and boring. If you didn't have love when you married him, how can you guarantee that you will be able to face this person for decades.

Only if you love each other very much can you have the confidence to go on with him and spend time with him every day.

These are some of my observations.

<>I believe that many people will always have their own opinions on this matter, and indeed for relationship problems, there are a thousand Hamlets in the hearts of a thousand people, and everyone will have their own different views on a relationship in their hearts, so many netizens have asked: Do you fall in love for the purpose of marriage? Are you married because of love?

From my own point of view, I definitely fall in love for the purpose of getting married, and I often choose marriage because of love. If I don't have any feelings as a basis, let me choose to marry a stranger, which is something I don't want to recognize, and I believe that most people can't choose to accept it. And now some people actually choose to fall in love often for the purpose of marriage, especially for some older young people, they can choose for a shorter time, so love for the purpose of marriage I think is the most important trend in today's society.

After all, no one wants to waste too much time in a fruitless relationship, which is undoubtedly a great waste of their energy and time, which is why the blind date market has been very hot in recent years, after all, no one wants to do useless work all the time.

Most people choose to get married, some may be because of feelings, some may be because of material, and some are just because they are suitable, but no matter from which point of view, love based on feelings can be more durable, which is an eternal topic. After all, if you have feelings, then when you encounter problems or difficulties, you will be willing to choose to tolerate each other unconditionally, and be willing to face the difficulties that may be encountered in the marriage process with each other, no matter what it is, after all, it is not as sincere as the emotion, so I hope that the premise of the decision to choose marriage is because of feelings, and not because you are too old to choose the future, this is the wrong idea, and finally I hope that everyone can have a heart and make your wishes come true.

Yes, because only by fighting well in the early stage can you enter the marriage hall in the later stage. Yes, the marriage is based on love, so that the relationship between the two can last for a long time.

Of course, it is for the purpose of getting married. Of course, it's because of love, because I don't think marriage can be messy, and when I only choose my other half-dry bridge, it must be because of love that I will be with each other.

When I was young, I wouldn't get married for the purpose of falling in love, but if I was old, I would have no choice but to live a few years and enjoy life. My marriage must be a cry of love for the withered cover, and if you want two people to live well, first of all, you must have love and responsibility.

From two aspects, the second is very important.

Marriage itself is bland, and what is the difference between marriage and love?

Two people love each other, there can be no conditions, love at first sight is enough, so some people say that this is called love first, love can break all the worldly shackles.

But marriage is not good, love is a matter of two people, marriage is a matter of two families, or even two families. Therefore, marriage must satisfy the basic needs of two people.

Because two people are not staying together for a while, but to spend a lifetime together. Since you have to live a lifetime, you have to move some realistic things into the consideration of marriage.

Love is when two people fall in love, and they talk about love, and marriage is called mate selection. What is the choice? Picking, picking, pondering, comparing, assessing.

Marriage is a rod scale.

Let's make a figurative analogy, for example, marriage is a scale, and it is simply called a balance.

Compare one side of the scale to the man and the other to the woman. The man said that I was 1.8 meters tall, and the woman said that I was beautiful and the balance was balanced.

The man added more, saying that I was healthy and positive, and the woman added one, I was gentle and virtuous, a good wife and mother, and the balance was balanced again.

The man said that my family has money, a house, and a car, and the woman said that my family has knowledge, and my father is a university professor, and it is balanced again.

The man added that I now have my own company and am the boss, and the woman said that I am now a university teacher and will be promoted to professor every other year, and my status is balanced again.

So in fact, to examine whether two people can enter into marriage, is to see whether the accumulated foundation on the scale can be balanced, if it can be roughly balanced, even if it is a little higher or lower, it doesn't matter, but if there is too much difference, it will not work.

It's a positive one-scale thinking.

Look at marriage backwards.

So how do you make it balanced? There is also a kind of reverse thinking, which is to pick the other party's bad conditions to balance, how can this be compared? Let's take another example, marriage is a scale here, and the woman and the man weigh it.

The woman's legs are circled, and the man's inner figure is balanced. The woman's family is very difficult, the man's mother is bedridden, and she is balanced again, the woman says that I am not beautiful enough, and my age is a little too old, and the man says that I am married for the second time and have a child, and I am balanced again.

This method is called reverse thinking, and it is also a kind of reverse balance.

If both men and women, one side is very good, and the other side is very bad, the balance will not be balanced, only one side is high, the other side is low, the difference is too much, then two people will not be able to go together.

Love and marriage are not the same, love is the wind and snow, and marriage is firewood, rice, oil and salt.

Marriage is a scale, it is the result of a comprehensive measurement of various social factors on both sides, this measure is different from love, love is a feeling, you think I am good, I think you are good, two people feel OK can be together.