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Talk to him seriously, if you can't do it, it's better to have a long pain than a short one. If Mom and Dad are tough, or if they don't have the blessing of your marriage, don't make your own decisions too easily. Mom and Dad are from the past, although sometimes it is annoying, but it is also Mom and Dad who love themselves the most in the world, give them a little understanding, and you can also calm down and communicate with your parents.

I think parents in the world want their children to live well, and if you have the possibility with him, try to win the blessings of your parents. However, I don't think the situation is optimistic, as you said, he has a girlfriend that his parents both identified, and I suggest you end this relationship that started online. Stabilize your work first, don't take care of several problems at once, you will be exhausted.

He's a big man, and he won't give you a clear answer, so it's not okay. Decisions have to be made.

After reading what you wrote, my first thought was that you are too tired and should take a break, find some time to relax and go for a walk. Your parents are understandably disapproving of your association with him. They think more than you do, and distance can be a real problem sometimes.

You can only give you advice, and you are the one who makes the final choice, and I think you should think about this matter yourself, whether to continue or give up halfway.

I also encountered a similar problem, on one side of the parents, on the other hand is the boyfriend, dilemma, listen to the parents, can't let go of the feelings for him, with the boyfriend, the parents resolutely disagree, so entangled for half a year, finally, last night, the boyfriend helped me make a choice, we broke up, although the heart hurts now, but love seems so powerless in the face of reality, from today on, listen to my mother's words!

It's just a reason you give yourself ... If you're a realistic girl, you won't feel entangled.

Feelings, really entangled... It's the same end of the world, maybe you still have it. Bless you.

Well written. The landlord didn't seem to be asking questions, but like he was writing down his experience.

You've written so well, how do you call us?

I'd like to ask a question here, too.

I took a very serious look at the tirades you wrote.

My advice to you is: give up, now that he's married.

I didn't see your article that reflected the fact that your boyfriend and his wife were forced to get marriedOr did he marry voluntarily, I guess it was voluntary. Think about it, you love him so much, does he love you so much, if he loves you very much, why does he get married?

Convince parents that on the question of his parents, have you seen it?Does his family agree with your business?If you haven't seen it, then don't say anything, it's his fault, it's completely his fault, and your parents' side, do your parents completely disagree?

Or do you vaguely disagree?I don't think it's useful for you to convince your parents on your own, you still have to say it to your boyfriend, or let him prove it to your parents, I can marry your girl, and I will give her happiness.

It's all in the past. Now that he has lived a happy life, I think you should give up on him, and share it with him completely, I don't know why he likes you. What is the purpose?

You said in your article that if he marries you, the other party will agree?I don't understand this, the other party married or divorced him so easily?The point is whether his current wife really knows that you exist

Is he lying to you?

I think the most important thing for you now is to communicate well with your parents, listen carefully to what they say, let them listen to your thoughts, talk well before you communicate, don't quarrel, don't lose your temper, don't hold anything in your heart, take it out and talk about it.

Well, I said a lot, I just hope you can leave him and live a happy life again, the spring sun is shining, go out and go around, find friends to have fun, have fun, work hard, I wish you a happy forever!!I wish you happiness!!

A man who has a girlfriend and is about to get married comes out to find a new love, if he is with you for a few years, will he find a new love again?Think about it, I suggest you don't quit, it's not easy to have a good job, parents are elders, they have more experience than us, their biggest hope is to hope that we will be happy, think calmly, don't mess around. Give yourself some time.

After reading the story of the landlord, I feel that the landlord is really a little aggrieved. Or don't hold on any longer!He's all married, what's the point, not to mention causing harm to another woman.

There are many men in the world, and there are even better waiting for you!It's his fault that he's hiding from you. Your parents are also good for you.

In fact, it's good that you're so busy with work now, at least you don't have time to think about him! Be your best friend!

I don't support your reason for continuing, I really don't, you should know better than us what the consequences are, don't you?

Poor unconscious "little three", remember not to fall in love with someone you don't understand!

I am really helpless about your situation and understand you very much, in fact, this kind of thing happens a lot. But what is certain is that this man is not the person in charge for three reasons:

1. I didn't have sincerity before I started dating you, and I didn't tell you his family background, which is the so-called hidden secret, and I will hide it from others in the future if I hide it from you now.

2. When your parents don't agree, he doesn't take the initiative to stand up and help you share your pain, but lets you solve it yourself, do you think this is really loving you?

3. Since he wants to be with you, why doesn't he divorce yet? Do you have to wait until your parents agree? Your parents won't divorce him if they don't agree?

Finally, I would like to say that a person who truly loves you will do a lot of things for you, will not embarrass you, will not make you sad, will not overwhelm you, he is not a person worthy of your life. This kind of man is not worthy of being called a man, don't be stupid, live so simply in the fantasy of love.

I want to ask, don't you have a decision in your heart? Why do you have to come up and ask? If you think your decision is right, then you will be bold enough to do it, and even if the path is wrong in the future, you will have no regrets.

If you ask someone else to give you an idea, and you adopt it, you will have a reason to make excuses for yourself in the future, whether it is right or wrong, right?

Since your mind has been decided, you should go boldly, and you don't say whether you can or can't, and you shouldn't. You are you, you don't need to go along with people from the outside world, others always give advice, and it is always you who make decisions.

In fact, it is not difficult to see that your parents will not agree to you marrying him, if you really think that he is the most suitable person to be your husband and the person who will accompany you for the rest of your life, then don't think about anything else, remove all obstacles to be together! But if you still have a lot of worries about him in your heart, a lot of uncertain things, you should think about it.

If you love him, don't think about your parents. If you don't love, break up.

This is a question that should be faced by both of you individually.

If he really wants to marry you and truly loves you, he should take the initiative to let your parents accept him!

Why are feelings so complicated, and so are mine?

I think that you should not quit your job in the first place, it is a guarantee that you can exist independently and reduce the financial pressure on your parents.

Second, calm yourself down and don't get caught up in how good he is and how sweet you are together. Sort out the past, present and future of your life, and then stand on the sidelines, see if he is worthy of your life, if you can't figure it out, then let him give you a week, a month or even a year, don't contact you, don't look for him, time will dilute most of the unreal things, make your head hot, can't discern the direction of things, during this time you can calmly think about your relationship and future.

Believe in the vision of your parents, only your parents in the world love you and love you without asking for anything in return, they are the treasures of your life, don't have the idea of leaving them. If you really feel that you really love each other and that he really deserves your trust, then sit down, talk to your parents, tell them what you think and what you are trouble, and they will seriously consider and analyze it for you.

Don't get carried away by momentary feelings, your parents are your best teachers, tell them what you have, and seek good advice, because only they know you best.

And, if you marry in another city, especially when you have children and the passionate love slowly fades, you may be distressed by life. If you quarrel, you can't go back to your mother's house far away, and it's not easy to go home during the New Year's holidays, etc., you have to face a lot of practical problems that are not good at all. So, think about it, think about it with your parents, see the right person, and then get married.

Love can be romantic, marriage must be practical.

Uh-huh, super tangled question.

The solution is to ask your parents to temporarily agree to your marriage, and show that you are doing the right thing with various actions after marriage. The man has been married and has not been divorced, which is a big problem. You also said that this is a thorn in your heart, and of course it is a big thorn in the parents who were born before you.

Be careful not to settle each person's business, for that will not work. It's actually easy for him to do it, since the two people have no feelings, it's best to divide them. But it's hard for you, you have to tell him that you need him to intercede with your parents, and he wants to show his sincerity in front of your parents, instead of letting you face it alone.

And my suggestion is, let him divorce first, and then come and talk to your parents.

In short, it is impossible for your parents to agree to your marriage, and he will not take the initiative. Don't fantasize about letting your parents let go of their unwillingness and doubts all at once, this kind of thing can only be slowly smoothed out by action after you get married.

Since you love, you have to think about the other party, if he is not willing to divorce first, then you don't want to be too entangled in not marrying him.

True love is not easy to come by, since you love, don't give up easily but work hard with him, as for the parents, don't force it, you can take a sleek way to slowly circumvent and do work, so that they can accept it slowly. And you guys.

Two people should know how to tolerate and understand each other, communicate more, reduce suspicion, don't care too much about their own gains and losses, and use good attitudes and skills to manage love, so that love can go longer. I tell you a good way to strengthen your determination to love and stabilize your mind, you can try to log in to the "Tower of Hearts" to participate in their "True Love Test", because in the process of participating in this seemingly game-like "Internet Love Test", it can not only help you witness how deep your love for him is, but also record the bits and pieces on your love road, become your love file for you to keep forever, and also help you understand how to manage your love and maintain your relationship. You can find it by taking a look at the "Tower of Hearts".

In the process of life and love, new contradictions will constantly appear, and we are always facing and resolving these contradictions.

I don't think it's a matter of solving your own problems, you two love each other, so let's solve these difficulties together. Your family does not support you to be together for the time being out of concern for you, why not ask him to admit it, and tell your family openly and honestly about the reasons and twists and turns, without the trust of your family, I think your parents are not at ease to let you be together.

I think that as long as you work together, work together, face it calmly, and tacitly solve these difficulties, you will get your happiness.

A few humble opinions, I hope that a lover will eventually become a family...

Families give the most resistance, but if you don't break through this hurdle, it's hard to continue.

This matter must not be disclosed until the parents know about it.

Because they don't know, they can only guess, and in the end, it's definitely impossible.

There's nothing wrong with hiding your past.

If you wait until the raw rice is cooked, they don't have much to say.

Tell a lie, a white lie, don't run away from the problem, it's not wrong to deceive people.

For your own good, and for the good of your parents.

If you really know the situation of him and his wife very clearly, if it is really as you said, I still recommend that you be together, you can tactfully say to your parents that he has been divorced before, and there is not much else to talk about, and when it comes to the formal talks, they are discussing and explaining It doesn't have to be straightforward Parents want their daughters to marry the prince charming in their minds After all, it is the two of you who will live together in the future, not him and your parents living together.

And then there is the fact that if his family is not as you say, the husband and wife have no affection, and his wife agrees and accepts you, but exists as a third person, and he forces his wife to compromise, and you don't really understand how his wife compromises and accepts you, and if it belongs to the latter, it is better to end this relationship early! If that's what you said above, then fight for the relationship.

But "just said we could get married, and she let it go." "If that's the case, I don't feel real, I mean his true feelings for you!

Sometimes parents are more accurate in looking at people!

I think this kind of man is unreliable, he can betray his current wife, and he may betray you in the future! It's better to find a dedicated one! Trust me, there will be other good men waiting for you!!