If, when love turns into dependence

In the end, forgetting the past is deceiving yourself and others, as long as there is a little bit of something that can be linked to the past, it is impossible for you to forget the past. Don't run away, it's useless to regret ... Isn't there a saying that says?

You may meet someone in 1 second, fall in love with someone in a day, but forget someone in a lifetime... That's love! Deliberately forget, will remember deeper, so don't deliberately forget, let everything tend to be flat, what to do and what to do, don't let yourself often be alone and think hard, as time goes by, it will slowly fade away...

Instead of trying to forget, it is better to keep yourself busy, to make your life full, and to let yourself have no time to miss. Don't deliberately forget, if deliberately it will only make you remember it more firmly ... Try to expand your circle of friends and contact as many people as possible

Try to discover your hobbies and do something you enjoy to play an empathetic role. I believe that one day in the future, you will find that when you think of him again, your heart no longer hurts, it turns out that unconsciously, he has become "that person". Many things are always experienced before you know that you can't afford to gain or lose.

Just like feelings, after the pain, you will know how to protect yourself; If you are stupid, you will know how to persist and give up in a timely manner. Let us learn to give up, turn away before we cry, what we exchange for tears is not reliable; Let's learn to give up, bury yesterday in our hearts, and leave the best memories; Let's learn to give up so that we can all have an easier start for each other. Holding on to it will only make you indulge in memories and pain and become sluggish.

Let go of your hand, let it pass away with the wind of memory, you will find the other side of the sky, you will re-read the fragrance of life flowers, feel the warmth of the sun... Giving up is not evasion, not cowardice; Giving up is an open-minded attitude. Think about it, how many people and things a person has to experience in his life, and if you don't know how to give up those things that have been lost and irretrievable, how can you grasp what really belongs to you?

If you find that the only door in your world is no longer open for you, you don't have to linger in front of the door or hit your head and never wake up. Learn to give up, and then turn around and look for a skylight that opens for you, where you can also see the stars. .

I testimonial, if you think you can, a little.!

Some people think of dependence as true love, and psychiatrists encounter this kind of problem every day: some people are emotionally frustrated and very depressed.

I have a friend who is like this, she can't stand loneliness, every time she breaks up with someone else, she feels that she doesn't want to live anymore, she can't live without him, I love him so much.

But in fact, this is not love at all, it is excessive dependence, to be precise, it is a parasitic mentality, without others, there is no way to survive, and the meaning of luck nuclear dry means that you are a parasite, and the other party is your host.

There is no free element in your relationship and feelings, you are together because of need, not because of love, and true love is a free choice.

If we love each other, we don't have to live together, at best we just choose to live together, over-dependence is actually a kind of psychological disorder, a kind of pathological manifestation, people with this disease, will only think about how to get the love of others, no energy to love others, he will always only know what to ask for with others, what to ask for from others, no one else can't.

But in fact, he has never done anything for the other party, and even he doesn't care who the object of the dependence is on.

That friend died every time she broke up, and she felt that she couldn't live without the other party, but after two months, she got better again because she found a new person to rely on.

So this kind of dependence patients, on the one hand, are very pitiful, in life, we often see them crying because of the loss of someone.

You see others as a source of happiness, and others are willing to be the source of your happiness all the time, so many times you will be hit.

The Road Less Traveled, the author feels that many people have a misunderstanding of love and regard dependence as love. For those who are emotionally frustrated and unable to endure loneliness, it means that they cannot live without a lover. The author tells them:

You're not describing love, it's excessive dependence. That's parasitic psychology, exactly. Not being able to survive without others means that you are a parasite.

And the other party is the host. There is no element of freedom in your relationship and feelings, and you are united by need, not love. True love is a free choice.

People who truly love each other don't necessarily have to live together, at best, they just choose to live together.

reminds me of what Wu Zhihong said: No matter how much true love is, it will not be harmful, and true love is good.

There is a woman in the book, no matter which man she is in a relationship with, she is overly attached to each other, and she wraps each other tighter and tighter like a vine. People with negative dependence only care about what others can do for them, but never think about how much they can give for them.

I used to be the same, very dependent, always trying to get my husband's attention. Before I had no children, I worked in Guangzhou, and after work, I just went back to rent a house, I didn't have my own space, I didn't have my own things, except for my colleagues, I had no friends in Guangzhou, and I always hoped that my husband could be by my side. And my husband was in Guangzhou when he was in college, and he was engaged in his major, and he had a bunch of classmates and friends, and he always liked to run out for the first banquet.

So every time I get angry with him, quarrel with him, and end up losing both.

Later, when I returned to my hometown, I looked for a job again after my child went to kindergarten at the age of three, and my colleagues were very good, and I would often take the baby out to play, or meet alone. Smartphones are also becoming more and more powerful, you can watch**watch**, watch friends' dynamics, read books, and so on. My life became full, my son was older and I didn't need to sleep with me, and I began to enjoy the freedom of my husband's absence.

fell in love with being alone with herself, but she quarreled with her husband less, and the relationship became better.

Sometimes keeping yourself busy can solve a lot of unexpected problems.

Wang Sulong - Because I understand.

Lyrics, Composer, Arranger: Wang Sulong (Silence) The butterfly that owes you last year is on the horizon with the sunset.

You say the line three times, but I pretend I didn't hear it.

Your gentleness has been stranded and blamed for my inconsiderateness.

You said that there are still oaths that have not been fulfilled, how to cut.

Love if it turns into dependence.

If only habits remain.

It's a disservice to both people.

Just love needs to be carefully irrigated by people.

There is a need for shared expectations.

How can I make you understand.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me and choose to leave.

It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound, how to do it all over again.

Thank you for your tears for my trick.

Love if it turns into dependence.

If only habits remain.

It's a disservice to both people.

Just love needs to be carefully irrigated by people.

There is a need for shared expectations.

How can I make you understand.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me and choose to leave.

It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound, how to do it all over again.

Thank you for your tears for my trick.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me and choose to leave.

It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound, how to do it all over again.

It was I who failed your existence.

Because understood.

Lyrics: Wang Sulong (silence).

Composer: Wang Sulong (silence).

Singing: Wang Sulong (silence).

Arranger: Wang Sulong (silence).

I owe you a butterfly).

Butterflies that owe you last year.

Horizon with sunset.

You say the lines three times.

I pretended not to hear.

Your gentleness is stranded.

Blame me for being inconsiderate.

You said there were still vows that were not kept.

How to cut.

Love if it turns into dependence.

If only habits remain.

It's a disservice to both people.

Just love needs to be carefully irrigated by people.

There is a need for shared expectations.

How can I make you understand.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me.

Select Leave. It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound.

How to do it all over again. Thank you for your tears for my trick.

Love if it turns into dependence.

If only habits remain.

It's a disservice to both people.

Just love needs to be carefully irrigated by people.

There is a need for shared expectations.

How can I make you understand.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me.

Select Leave. It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound.

How to do it all over again. Thank you for your tears for my trick.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me.

Select Leave. It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound.

How to do it all over again. It was I who failed your existence.