In order to live, break up with my boyfriend who has been delayed for 8 years, should I 10

Updated on psychology 2024-05-27
52 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I think you should break up, he can't give you happiness at all, he can't satisfy you materially, and even more so spiritually, have you ever thought about what will happen to you when you marry him? Do you have to worry about money every day? Do you want to take care of him like an old mother for the rest of your life?

    Do you want to give discord to your parents for this? You have to be realistic, reality is not making movies or writing romances**, reality is cruel, have you ever thought about how you want to live after marrying him? How do you make ends meet?

    In reality, there is no money, there is love, I can't eat enough every day, I can't wear warm clothes, I have the heart to talk about love, as for the 8-year relationship, you should still let go, time will dilute everything, the former sea vow mountain alliance is just a passing glance after a few years, leave him, go and find your true happiness!

    I'm just an outsider, I don't have much to say, the decision is up to you, I wish you true happiness!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    I'm an outsider, and I can say without hesitation: you should break up.

    In my understanding of love, material is one of the foundations of love, and without a solid material foundation, don't talk about bullshit love.

    If he really loves you, he should let you get a happy home through his own efforts, instead of indulging in enjoyment every day. I don't know what a happy thing it is to give my lover a better tomorrow.

    I can understand the emotional reluctance. But what is your future life, your relationship with your parents, the fate of your children in the future, and your own feelings?

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Listen to the meaning of your words, you also love him I suggest you talk about it, about the future, about the reality If he starts to work hard from now on, your life will definitely be better, and you naturally can't give up this feeling, it's not so easy to find someone who loves each other. If he is still like that, then there is no need to waste time, because he is an irresponsible man, and when two people are together, love alone is not enough!

    If you don't love him very much, it's just a pity that it's been a pity for so many years, then just break up, because now he is very irresponsible!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Sky! Does he love you? Maybe he just depends on you like an elder, how do you know that he loves you very much?

    If you say divide it, you will divide it, you say that you will be with him, how can a man who has no opinion really love you, I dare to say, even if you are really married in the future and pregnant, he can't make up his mind whether to give birth to you, just ask: Is this interesting? If you still want to be with him, then you have to force him to recharge his batteries from now on and learn a little more, so that at least it will help him with his work income, and when the income is high, everything will be fine.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Such a good boy, why should you give up. He must love you very much, so he will be willing to break up with you, because only the most selfless love will put others before himself.

    A guy who has loved you for eight years will love you for the rest of his life. Believe me. Don't give up on feelings for the sake of material things. You will be happy with him.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    It's hard for us to help you with this problem, if you are still not willing to give up on him as a person, then don't give up, if you are just not willing to give up eight years, you should leave. Love is a bet, and it's good to teach you a lesson for eight years, but it's painful to live a lifetime with someone you don't love so much for eight years.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Life is very realistic, you should listen to your parents, if he loses you, it can be used as a motivation for him to improve, that's not bad.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It's been 8 years, you should be used to it, why didn't your parents say it until now, and ah, you said that he was the same as when he was in school, that's good, maybe it's a good thing not to change, besides, I personally feel that it's really a habit for two people to be together.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    The choice between the reality and the ideal state.

    Choose a path that suits you and has no regrets.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Divide it, and let people believe in reason.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I'm afraid I won't regret it! Think it through.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If it were me, I wouldn't know what to do.

    It's definitely at the crossroads again

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Tell him that it's my problem and I'll change it, but this time it's you and someone else texting, it's your problem, I hope you calm down and make an answer to tell me, don't worry, I won't pester you.

    After saying that, turn around and leave, you have a 9-year relationship, cold treatment, will give him enough time to think about your good, during this time you can rest assured to do your own things, and then think about whether you are really suitable, when you behave indifferently, he has a so-called, you don't want to keep him because he said it verbally, but also think about what he wants, give him time and give himself a chance to choose again.

    It's a bet, he's forcing you to compromise, you can do it to correct your temper but not in his way, so that you will be unequal together in the future, but if you reconcile, you have to remember to change your bad temper, and at the same time influence him and guide him to correct it.

    Two people together, as long as one of them makes an effort, the other person will feel it, and respond accordingly, as long as he does have feelings for you, woman, or lose his personality and show tenderness, it is the so-called rigid and soft, there should always be a little bit of him to love, come on, the problem is two people, but if you can't change others, you have to start with yourself.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Because of your character, he wants that kind of docileness, and the feeling you leave him can't be changed, so it's better to leave him.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Sister, I also made such a post here today.

    We've been talking for 3 years, and I'm very competitive, and I really hope that when we argue about an issue, he can make me like this before, but recently he can't do it, he always fights with me, I hold my breath in my heart, it's very uncomfortable, I think if we really live so tired.

    It's better to separate from each other.

    I think your boyfriend.

    may also have been suppressed for a long time.

    Now there is another female colleague who cares about her.

    The more he feels bad about you.

    If you want to keep that feeling.

    You have to endure it, you have to change!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Cold! The more you put up with him, the more mean he will be to you in the future!

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    He doesn't cherish you anymore. When he loves you, he really loves you, he doesn't love you anymore, he really doesn't love you anymore

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    This is called love! There is friction to spark, and use action to influence him.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Get him out of your world and he'll understand.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    If you can't change your temper, there will still be problems.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    A personality like yours is something that most men can't stand anymore.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Choose to give up before you get married and have children.

    He's right.

    For you. The right choice.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    When a man wants to leave you, everything you do is wrong.

    He will let you go.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    It's hard to say, this question, think for yourself.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Have you ever done anything, and if you do, don't divide it.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    In these days, it's the same for everyone who leaves.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    In fact, in life, a lot of harm to girls stems from the immaturity of boys.

    Among you, it can be said that in love, there are more girls who choose the cold war version, but among you it is the opposite, every time he doesn't answer you, can I understand it so In the relationship, maybe he is more selfish.

    No matter what problems you have quarreled with each other before, but the breakup has become a settlement.

    At least you're in graduate school, which will be good for your future career development, and it doesn't seem entirely wrong to fall in love with this boy.

    In his heart, he may feel liberated, but in fact, on the contrary, he lost a treasure and did not know it.

    In fact, girls should not change themselves because of boys, they should be for themselves, all the time, wholeheartedly for themselves, so that there can be better and better boys like you.

    Dress yourself, smile at everyone, be cheerful and confident, arrange your own life, keep yourself busy, plan in advance and then act, in fact, you also understand the problems in your personality from this relationship, so don't be in a hurry when you encounter things in the future, whether it is work or life, people who are anxious will suffer a lot.

    Try to live your life to the fullest, and soon you will forget about it completely.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    I also talked about it for four years, I wanted to break up with me, said that my personality was incompatible, said that I wanted to calm down, and finally we chatted and I asked him if there was any possibility of getting back together, and he said that when I stabilized my job, he was talking about the future.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    When two people are together, often quarreling is a kind of harm to each other - look ahead, don't not worry about what you really are in his heart - the more tangled it will only be more painful, free and easy, although it is difficult,

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    If the situation is really full bai

    As you said, if he wants to get out, let him get away. You're still young, and there are plenty of good dao opportunities. If a person.

    If you can't answer and cherish you, it is his loss, and he is responsible for it, and you don't need to bear his loss. Live your life well, love yourself, dress up well, be filial to your parents, the right person may already be waiting for you.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Since he is happy after breaking up with you, it proves that he has long wanted to be liberated in his heart, and slowly forget about it as time goes by, and live again.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    I think at this time, you should learn to forget about this person and start a new life, because he is no longer worthy of your love.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Love is the run-in of two people's feelings, and the run-in is revealed in the end, according to what you said, according to my judgment, he doesn't love you anymore, don't be sad, it's normal, start over.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    There are many good men, since this is the case, let it go, I believe you will definitely find your true love!

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    It is impossible to find someone to be with in the future at university, because men are usually 30 years old, and women are 25 or 6 years old. It takes 30 for men to be mature and able to choose a mate, and 25 for women

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Why can I only ask your friends! People change! Very realistic!

    Boys are very good at camouflage for something! I can't say for sure in those seven years! A marriage without strength is not sweet!

    It's better to score now than later! Wipe away your tears, and I'll go forward with rage! My man!

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Sometimes, it can be said that there is no relationship, and if you don't love it, you don't love it, and it has nothing to do with the length of time.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Anything will change after a long time, pure love will gradually fade after stepping into society, and you will know that one day someone will speak first, and the person who will speak later will always be hurt.

    He has loved you, but loving it does not mean that he will always love, accept the facts, take a serious look at this society, and learn to protect himself.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    There is no new beginning that makes you happier than him.

  40. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    Should you reflect on your relationship?

    7 years... What is the reason for breaking up ?

  41. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    7 years... What is the reason for breaking up ?

  42. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    Should you reflect on your relationship?

  43. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    Since you have both been eight years, it is inevitable that both parties have reached the point of breaking up, and it must be that neither of you can feel it anymore.

    I'm curious, why haven't you married after 8 years of love? Marriage is a very good guarantee, men actually treat love very enthusiastically at the beginning, and then they are cold, saying that you can love him for eight years, it can be seen that you are very serious about love.

    I'm a man, and I don't even feel worthy for you.

    Allow me to say a little mean, 26 is really not small, why has he never been married? Do you still want to wait for a run-in before getting married? I think that a woman and a man can propose marriage if they have been in love for more than 2 years.

    I'm curious, hasn't a man who has been in love with you for 8 years ever proposed marriage?

  44. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    You deserve a better man without a blessed man.

  45. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    I definitely can't stand it, but there is no way but to start a new life again.

  46. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    The four-year relationship is not to say that you can let it go, but you should consider whether there is really something wrong with your personality, or whether you have made some changes and progress for your growth in the past four years. If you've been standing still and your boyfriend is improving, it's inevitable that you'll break up. Of course, you can also live at your own pace, there are always people in this world who can appreciate your strengths, and isn't it more comfortable and natural to be with such people.

  47. Anonymous users2023-12-27

    So how did you get through your four years to cater to him? And then he comes and asks what kind of person you should be? What can't you put down, are you not used to it, here I ask you to change your personality, here I scold you, I'm wondering how you got over the four years with him, I have been with my family for more than four years, and he thinks you have a bad personality, and he's fine?

    Minute time is nothing remarkable.

  48. Anonymous users2023-12-26

    He doesn't love you anymore

    It's useless to say anything.

    Unless you really change.

  49. Anonymous users2023-12-25

    Break up, break up.

    College love is stress-free.

  50. Anonymous users2023-12-24

    Divide it, this kind of person doesn't deserve your love. Be dashing and your life will be better.

  51. Anonymous users2023-12-23

    If you come here to ask a question, it means that it is not yet.

  52. Anonymous users2023-12-22

    Hehe, feelings are consensual, and it shouldn't be okay to make a claim against him. There is always a reason for breaking up, have you found the reason, have you talked about it well, why he wants to break up, and in the reasons he said, have you thought about it yourself, and whether you have something wrong with yourself. When we were together, we also felt that our feelings were sublimated, and living together did not force you to do so, and now there is no way to break up.

    Ask your boyfriend well, if he is resolute and you generously agree, I believe that there will be many good men, and you will find someone who truly loves you. I wish you happiness.

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