What is it like to be scolded by others?

When encountering right and wrong, you have to confront it face to face, right, reasonable, you are not afraid of the shadow, as long as you are reasonable, you can speak with confidence, you can naturally force the other party not to dare to talk nonsense, a person's reputation is very important to themselves, and they can't talk nonsense from others.

The left ear is in, the right ear is out, and you don't need to care at all. It's just that you need to pay attention in the future, remember not to say bad things about you behind your back and have to come back, so that you look very cautious, so that you will become the same person as him. Moreover, people are watching the sky, and the quality of a person is not something that can be changed by others with a few words, but an impression that accumulates over time.

The best way to do this is to hide if you can. It's not that I'm afraid of them, but I don't want to interact with them too much. The villain is like this, no matter what kind of things you say, he can always find your problem from a different angle, no matter how you communicate with him calmly, he will also feel that you have something to say.

I used to have a colleague who took over my shift, because we were the factory shift type. Every time something happens, he pushes it on me, and all the bad things are because of me, and the results I do well become his doing. Later, other colleagues told me that I confronted him face to face, but he didn't admit it, and told others everywhere that I was looking for trouble, which was really angry, and the most angry thing was that the leader believed what he said, and my colleagues privately nicknamed me the back pot man.

Life is nothing more than letting others say bad things about you, and then saying bad things about others behind your backFirst ask yourself, are you sure you have never said bad things about others behind your back in your life? If there is, then calm down, because this is a very normal thing, normal to the point that eating and dressing are the same concept, everyone has to go through it, and they will do it. But everything has to be judged on a case-by-case basis, if others say bad things about you, let you hear them, and what they say is the truth, that is, your real problems and problems, then you might as well be generous.

Personally, I feel that it is someone else's business to say bad things about you behind your back. You really can't control other people's mouths, and the only thing you can do well is to improve yourself. No one is perfect, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, there are no shortcomings, and perfect people do not exist in this world.

It is said that people are difficult to do, the world is vast and unpredictable, when you succeed, you must not get carried away too much, arrogant, and when you are lost, do not seek death and life, vain self-esteem. In life, he looks down on fame and fortune, is grateful for the return, does his best, and is worthy of anyone, so he is not afraid of making irresponsible remarks behind his back, let alone being said badly.

I can understand them, but I also hope that they can understand me, many times I want to break my mouth when I hear it, but I know that I can't, my reputation is already bad, so I can't do bad actions anymore, so I choose to forbear externally and persuade internally. I rarely went out for the rest of the year. Many times, we can control our own speech, but we can't control other people's speech, what we can do is to extract our own shortcomings from other people's words and expose them face to face, forbearance does not mean that they can make something out of nothing, forbearance does not mean that they can be bullied, we are also dignified, but we also have to talk about things, and those who can point out our shortcomings are guests.

Hello friends, there are generally three situations in this one:

First, when others scolded you, at the very beginning, you haven't reacted, of course, you also show a certain amount of anger and powerless counterattack, and you didn't give others a strong counterattack at that time, but you just kept insulting the other party in your heart afterwards, and even didn't forget it for several days, scolding him in your heart is not happy, although it will slowly pass, but this incident will also leave a certain shadow in your heart.

Second, it is a powerful counterattack. Others scold you for one sentence, you scold others for two sentences, just like that, you don't let the other party take advantage of Sakura Beiheng at all, in fact, completely crush the other party, quarrel with the other party, no matter what the language, pay back to the other party, which will make you very excited, and even in the next few days, you will not completely forget it.

Third, it is to ignore it, no matter what others say, the response on this side is to ignore the other party, and there are no ups and downs in their hearts, because they don't care about this matter at all, so today is the third situation.

Do not respond to the other person's insults. This kind of response is to overcome yourself, in life, although this sentence is somewhat absolute, because no one will not care about this matter, after all, people have feelings, if you really don't care about this matter, then you will become a saint, no one will become a saint, so we can only keep moving forward in this process. In some things, ignore the other party, this matter is not to make you a coward, nor to let you have the upper hand, but to let you overcome yourself, because when you have a conflict with others, you will inevitably get angry, and the consequences after being angry are only borne by yourself, this is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others, why do you do this?

So don't respond to other people's insults. It's not that you're weak, it's that you get some advantage and don't let yourself get angry, this is to defeat yourself, and on the other hand, you win the other party, why do you say that you didn't respond to the other party but defeated the other party? Because if you ignore the other party, it is the best response to him, then only the other party will be there to be a person who is angry, a person is angry, and it is he who suffers.

Ignore him, and he will feel very bored himself, directing and acting like a clown. Of course, there is also a situation where other people's insults may be pointing out your shortcomings, if you think about it from this perspective, do you find your own shortcomings from other people's mouths? So the attitude towards things determines your lifestyle, and not responding to the other person's insults at certain times is actually to make yourself better, and sometimes being silent is not weakness, but a smart way of life.

So, I usually take the third way.

Good luck. <>