My girlfriend graduated, can we live together?

First of all, I think there is a gap between you in terms of living habits and communication. Because after five years, one is studying in the big city of Shanghai, and the other is working in a small city. What I want to say is that people in study and work have different ways of thinking about problems.

You're also worried that she'll not be able to adapt to life at home when she comes back, and you're even worried that her mom will become an obstacle. In fact, there are already differences in living habits and even temperament between your girlfriend and you. Because it is possible that she will not be as simple as she used to be as a female college student, maybe she is now in a fast-paced city, bound by reality and impetuousness, and she is also realistic and vain.

It is impossible to be content with the ordinariness of life. Unless you reach the point of life and death, regardless of the world!

Secondly, she once betrayed you because she was lonely and lonely, so you are not the kind of couple from beginning to end, not to the point of life and death! Even if you don't care about her past, she begs for your forgiveness, and you're reconciled. You won't care, but do you believe she'll change?

If your life is very difficult in the future, can you bear her to go out of the wall again? Or maybe you can't help but care about the betrayal of the woman you love right now!

So I advise you to break up quickly! Don't drag the mud and water! Good for her, good for you! The world is big, and there are many good women!

Compared with an outsider, there are many objective factors in this kind of thing, so it is difficult to assert. This kind of thing needs to be carefully observed by you, through the usual **! According to her tone!

Her attitude towards you, you can learn a lot, there are many things in the past that are not so easy to forget, but you can't just not forget, you also need to tolerate each other, after living in a big city for a long time, some people will only look to"before"See, very few people are immune. But I still bless you all!!

Here are some of my own thoughts that I hope the landlord has. Thank you.

Dude, we are people who are hard to live together, my girlfriend and I are junior high school classmates, and we have been chasing her since high school, and we only caught up in the second half of our freshman year (not going to school in the same city), alas, ......There are only two or three women in my contacts who are still her friends, and they usually call, text, and chat with her ......But across the road, she also thought about giving up before, afraid that we would not be able to go together, I patiently advised, I continued to promise to support her, we graduated this year, she returned to our city to work, I am so happy! Dude, I believe that as long as you truly love each other, nothing is a problem!

My girlfriend's parents insisted on the man buying a house, which was very difficult for my family, and now my family is still borrowing money, alas, ......But I'm sure I can do it! Dude, you have to work hard too! I always believe that "the soldiers will come to block, and the water will flood".

It's up to her, it's free love now!!

It depends on the state of your relationship and the direction you are going to develop in the future.

Why don't you watch her on the weekend, ah, women will be lonely too.

First of all, you are also partly responsible for this phenomenon, she is willing to follow you to your city to prove that she loves you, but because of your connivance, some of her shortcomings have not been changed, such as: seeing parents without polite greetings, this obvious parenting problem, you have to communicate in time, and form a habit for her in life. And then:

Both of them are college graduates, have a certain degree of educational knowledge, there is a problem to communicate in time is the correct way to solve the problem, just on the matter, no other meaning, finally talk about the current situation, from a career point of view: now not married, if you start a family, it will consume your energy to fight, but from an emotional point of view: a girl is willing to leave her hometown to follow you, you are also responsible, face difficulties in life and retreat, for the woman feels worthless, you owe others.

Seeing that you are very serious about typing so many words, I am really very sincere to ask for advice. I'd like to make some comments as someone who has come before. There are two questions in it that are crucial, one, do you love her?

Is it love or because of the responsibility after a long time, I think you are for the responsibility, you are kind, for her consideration, of course, after a long time, there are feelings, but not love? 2. Does she love you? Willing to change for you?

Will you be reluctant to suffer? Will you be reluctant to be sad? The bride is the bride, the groom, the groom, the bridegroom, the

It is important to note that love and dependence are two different concepts. I don't want to explain the rest, because I'd rather tear down a temple than break a marriage. However, who is destined to be the one who accompanies him to old age may have been predestined long ago.

I think it's good to be young, and it's like having a whole world with love, but I want to ask the question, would you like to go to a strange city and start all over again? Do you have the courage to do so? If you don't have friends, only your girlfriend, and most importantly, your girlfriend may not be able to be your wife in the future, are you still willing to invest in such a venture?

If your girlfriend is in a big city like Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, I think it doesn't hurt to go once, being in a big city means having more opportunities. However, what if your girlfriend is from a second, third, or even fourth-tier city? Are you sure you've not wasted your youth in vain?

So I'm not pouring cold water, I just hope that the subject himself can think clearly, is the love between you worth getting out of the current circle? If it's worth it, then you go for it. If it's not worth it, are you afraid of the scene of empty people and money in the end?

Seeing this, some people may say that I am realistic, why do I have to use such negative energy words to break up the loving little couple, but to put it mildly, if your girlfriend loves you, why not choose your city？Or do you choose a compromise and go to a city that is especially suitable for the two of you?

To put it bluntly, people are selfish, since the subject asked this doubt, the subject's girlfriend made this request. It's also because you're both thinking about your own interests, neither of you wants to leave your hometown, and you both want each other to pay, don't you? Is there really a strong meaning to such feelings?

My friend and girlfriend also faced this problem, but the boy did not hesitate to go to Beijing for the ratings, and the two finally entered the palace of marriage. So, the subject, you couple are to put it bluntly, or are you not firm enough in your love, aren't you? My final piece of advice is, don't go, just break up.

It's mainly up to you, if there is a better development, I don't think there is any need to go, if not, then be with him.

It depends on the relationship between the two of you, and it also depends on whether you are willing to pay for this relationship.

In my opinion, I will definitely choose the same city after graduation. Otherwise, two people will talk about a long-distance relationship for a lifetime.

If you feel confident that you can be together, if you love her enough, then you can go ahead.

A girl's mind is inherently difficult to fathom.

A few words about my personal opinion:

There is no girl who doesn't like to be with her beloved, but there are two reasons why girls don't want to live with their boyfriends before marriage:

1. Conservative thinking, thinking that men and women should live together only after marriage, or afraid of other people's gossip, etc.

But according to what you said above, you have done everything you should have done and what you shouldn't have done, and she has seen you with your parents, then there is only the second reason.

Two: She may not love you that much anymore. That's why she doesn't want to live with you, and she doesn't take you to see her parents. But she didn't know how to say the breakup, so she dragged you on the grounds of fear of marriage, waiting for you to break up if you couldn't stand it.

Finally, I would like to add: I am a little too anxious to get married in a year, brother. I can't eat hot tofu in a hurry, and my feelings need to be managed slowly.

Of course, these are just my personal opinions, maybe your girlfriend did it for some other reason. Brother, if you think it makes sense, just listen to it, and if it doesn't make sense, just laugh it off. ）

This girl is a good person, look at love rationally Don't give it to me.

Don't worry too much about one person.

Women are like this, they are tangled bodies, they are contradictions.

You cling to her, think you're annoying; Ignore her, think you don't care enough about her.

Damn, you are all people who do big things, how can you have time to chirp silently on these small things. The woman who dragged her feet was adamant not to.

What women have is that the outside world is also grayly wonderful, and there is no need to be entangled like this for this sentence.

You can't always be led by the nose by a woman.

If you should play cross, you will play tricks, and when you should break up, you will break up.

Men should be bloody and cruel to themselves.

Nowadays, girls are also more materialistic, and everyone is an adult, so if you say it, you should bear the corresponding consequences.

Maybe she will regret it one day after the breakup, but it is definitely not this time, only if you have experienced pain, you will know how good you are.

Break it up decisively. I'm a living example of how sometimes you have to learn to let go, and when she says this, it's basically out of play, and think about what she means.

There are a lot of girls, don't care about that, now you have to work with peace of mind! ~

Be kind to her and make her die for you. I cared about her more than ever. For this world, you are a person, and for a person, you are the whole world.

It can only look at you.

You think: career is important. Or women heavy.

It's up to you, I think you're still a career.

After all, you just graduated from college, and if you want her, you may not be able to give her a good life.

Can you take her with you? If not, go yourself. If you're still together after all this, then get a certificate. If it is divided, it is also fate.

It's best not to have a long-distance relationship, it's nothing just separated, after a long time, there will be problems, I have 2 long-distance relationships, and they didn't work. Girls still have to be taken care of by their side.

got the certificate and took the time to give birth to the child.

Actually, Bai you can take her with you. du lover's eyes out of Xi Shi, if zhi your girlfriend dao

If you love you, you must accept it in your girlfriend's heart, no matter how hard it is to be with you.

But I want to say a word to LZ, time will be indifferent to everything, to be precise, the subconscious will slowly bury emotions and memory problems, but not abandonment. LZ University is about to graduate, and I have seen a lot of people, and there are a lot of people with bad intentions, cheating on feelings (I have failed in my own relationship, and I want to take revenge on other people to get joy.) ), cheating money, cheating the body (not explained) ......A series of them, and some hooligans can affect the relationship between the two of you if they entangle your girlfriend.

So, I advise you to go out with your girlfriend. Emotional issues are not something that can be decided by simple trust.

I think it's best for two people to be together, so that no matter how they go, they are happy.

It's best to take her along! If you are separated for too long, something will happen! Unless you're on a good relationship with her and no one is pursuing her. Otherwise, there is likely to be an accident! It's not just a matter of trust, determination and will. It's not that simple!

School is not a society, there are more or less changes, see if your love can stand the test or not.

Take the best with you and keep in touch if you can't.

You can see this movie. Man.

Divide it, long-distance relationships are unreliable Even if you are very deeply in love, but some external factors are irresistible to us, and the more you insist on the pain, it is you.

Then it's good to separate, don't force each other on such a thing as feelings.

If you still want to be together, try hard! You can take the time to visit her! The most important thing is not to regret your choice!

This kind of question can only give you one suggestion. It's up to you to really decide. You should know in your own mind what exactly you want.

If you miss the past very much, don't break up, it's too late to regret it later. After all, as long as they are still together, there is a chance of remedy. Time will improve all relationships.

As long as you have the heart, I believe that sooner or later it will return to the way it was before. Or you can take advantage of the separation and try to see if you can lose her yourself, or if you can find someone to replace her. In short, you must be careful before making a decision...

Wishing you the best solution.

Hello. Love is staged, right, in the time of love, a lot of time will say some mountain alliances and sea vows, it is also normal, of course, it is normal for reality and agreement to be different.

I suggest the following.

1.Figuring out whether my girlfriend was forced to work elsewhere or because there were many options for me and I was missing somewhere else. In the first case you can understand and express your own wishes, and in the second case you have to figure out if he is trying to avoid the agreement with you or if there is something else.

2.Adjustment of one's own mentality. This is indeed your agreement in advance, but the matter of love, the agreement that you can't give anything, look at the open point, calm mind and girlfriend under this matter, ask him what he thinks, ask if he is not fully prepared, or feel that it is not suitable to be together.

I'm making the next step.

3.Just deal with the work and ask him why he doesn't want you to work in the same place with him.