In your opinion, what is it like to get married to two people with different life concepts?

Sometimes when I talk to him about some life ideals and goals, he will think that these things are unrealistic; If you share happiness with the wrong person, it becomes a show; I like to rob you of a few words about everything, and I feel like I'm very powerful. There are also some habit problems, he sometimes does not take a bath for a few days, this is a hygienic habit, I personally belong to the kind of person who loves hygiene, so I can't get used to his habit, sometimes I can't get used to it, I will remind him, he is not happy. Sometimes people who don't agree with the three views may be very uncomfortable together for a few hours, not to mention being together every day, it's very uncomfortable, it's really impossible to communicate.

To put it bluntly, it's really tiring, each other's life concepts are different, and there will be a lot of contradictions, a small quarrel in three days, a big quarrel in five days, it's really tiring.

Forcibly put two different people together, there will be contradictions, and then to put it mildly, the thrifty person and the extravagant and wasteful person can't get along for too long, because he will see your thrift as stingy and taking advantage, so the interaction between people or the basic point of view can be deep.

Personally, I think that people with different concepts of life are together, he can't feel my preferences, and he can't understand them, he likes to enjoy and indulge, and I prefer persistence and nature, so parting ways is the best result. ‍‍

I like to go to Western restaurants to eat steak, and he likes to go to food stalls to make skewers, so it is simply a sin to say that two people with different ideas are knotted. But he said that the steak thing was expensive and not tasty, and said that I was a contrived loser, and I couldn't communicate at all. ‍

If you don't speculate for more than half a sentence, it reflects the different concepts of two people, he and you are not on the same channel at all, you don't understand what he says, he doesn't know what you say, and he really doesn't know how to communicate.

I am a rural hukou, she is an urban hukou, and I have been with each other for a while, and I can see from my usual chats that she is a little repulsive to the countryside. I was very entangled in this matter, and I rejected the countryside, and then I was pampered by my parents, who had never considered the affairs of her elders since she was a child, and sometimes she could even ignore her parents. Therefore, to be with people who have a different view of life is simply to suffer.

In addition to quarreling or quarrelling, you will never live to a point, so please don't compromise on marriage, hurt others and yourself. He always felt that everything he did was wrong in his eyes.

You don't understand what I'm saying, and I don't want to hear what you're saying. Getting along becomes a debate contest, and there must be a winner. Living with such a person will be very tiring and life is short, why not find a warm person to live with for a lifetime?

The words are not speculative for more than half a sentence, and the wine is less than a thousand glasses for a confidant. I said that the coconut is fragrant, and he said that the coconut is difficult to drive, and I can drive dozens of kilometers for the coconut, but he thinks it is a waste of time and can not communicate well.

Personally, I think that you will actually get happiness, there is a saying that says, I don't know if my friends have heard it, that is, if you want people to be like me, unless there are two me. In this world, if you want to have someone who thinks exactly the same as yourself, has the same ideas, and does exactly the same thing, unless this person is a clone of you, otherwise this is just a wishful thinking.

In married life, in emotional life, in fact, even if two people have different concepts, they can also be integrated and managed, and reconciled. Therefore, two people with different concepts can get married and be happy, so let's analyze it in detail.

Concepts can change, I believe that many people will scoff when they see this title, how can people's worldview, values, and outlook on life change, this is a person's growth process, learning process, integration into the process of social accumulation and cultivation of things, this kind of thing will not change.

But I think there is some truth to this statement, but the power of love and marriage can sometimes be so great that ordinary people can't imagine. If you really feel that way, if you really take the marriage with the person you love seriously, then your concept will really change.

So even if the two people have different concepts at the beginning, if they love each other, if they have each other in their hearts, if they can have a common positive attitude towards life, then the concepts of both parties will change, and your happy life will be full of sunshine.

Married life is not a place to be reasonableI once saw such a sentence, and I personally think that this is definitely the most reasonable quote in life. That is, family is not a place to be reasonable, and marriage is not a place to be reasonable. If you really like someone, if you really care about a marriage, then in this marriage, when you treat your partner, your concept will change, and sometimes this behavior will be seen by others as swallowing anger and being strict with your wife.

But in the end, it comes back to that sentence, great love is boundless, real great love is that you love this person without any reason, true love is when you love this person, your concept will change, you and his concept will be integrated, and the difference between the two people will slowly become assimilated, so don't think that two people with different concepts will not have happiness.

The meaning of marriage and lifeWe need to understand the concept of what is the meaning of marriage? What is the meaning of life, marriage is two people who love each other to run a life together, and life is to find the person who loves each other to manage their own happiness.

In these two things, why do we have to let the so-called three views of the concept to hinder our love, this is purely a kind of mediocre self-disturbing behavior, we can completely ignore this matter, to enjoy love, to enjoy marriage, to enjoy the life we should have.

No. The two people have different concepts, in fact, in essence, they have different views. There is no way for people with different views to be together, and two people will have a lot of quarrels because of one thing, which can easily cause great harm to the family relationship and affect the relationship between husband and wife.

The ancients said that the Tao was different, and they did not conspire with each other. Since two people have inappropriate concepts, there is no need to be together, which will only cause great harm to both parties.

Personally, I don't think it will be happy to marry someone who has a different concept. There will be bumps in the life of couples with the same three views. Living together with different concepts, it is really inevitable to get angry and quarrel.

Of course, you can have a happy life, as long as two people have a particularly good relationship and can tolerate each other, even if they have different feelings, they can be very happy.

No, because two people will often have contradictions and disagreements, and will often quarrel, such a marriage will naturally not be happy.

It's impossible to have it, because you don't have the same ideas, you don't have a common topic, and you don't understand each other's living habits, so it's easy to have misunderstandings.

Try to avoid it, if you can't do it, then you can only break up with pain, marriage is not a matter of two people, like a company to merge another company, the problem is that the whole town is celebrated, and the risks must be fully considered, otherwise it will slowly accumulate over time, and eventually Lu Xin, who will be out of control, must be psychologically prepared.

Question: What should I do if two people who get along and think they can get married find that they have different family views?

Since they "feel that they can get married". It shows that the two of you have the basis and desire to live together, and the difference in family values is secondary.

In the vast sea of people, it is not easy for the two to come together from acquaintance, love and love. The two should communicate more with each other, tolerate each other, seek common ground while reserving differences, and let this rare relationship go further hand in hand. Bless you all! Fuqing.

1. Two people who have never been a perfect fit.

Why is that? First of all, just as no two leaves are exactly the same, no two people in this world are exactly the same.

Everyone comes from a different Shengchai family of origin, and is influenced by different acquired environments, forming different personalities, thinking and behavioral habits;

Secondly, even if the two are similar in these aspects and have the same reaction to things, the two may not be suitable.

For example, both husband and wife like to sing, but they are tired of singing together every day, won't they get bored? At this point, one of the parties may look for other ways, but the other party does not agree, isn't it also a disagreement?

2. Understand the nature of personality compatibility.

According to marital psychology, the so-called personality incompatibility is essentially the failure of one party to get the other party's wishes.

In the same way, the so-called compatibility of personalities and affection means that husband and wife can be satisfied with each other.

This mutual satisfaction, both material and spiritual, can be achieved through effort and coordination.

Therefore, when you feel that the personality of the husband and wife is incompatible, you might as well think about it, what kind of attitude does me and I have towards marriage? What kind of problems are we facing in our relationship? Is it possible to adjust the harmony in the family?

What are the common "inconsistencies" in marriage?

1. Differences in living habits.

2. Contradictions in financial issues;

3. Whether the sex life of the husband and wife is harmonious;

4. Family relationship conflicts;

5. Differences in intimacy and emotional needs;

6. Self-development and balance in relationships.

7. The difference between the three views and the way of thinking.

So, in the face of these "disagreements", how should we respond?

1. Reasonably view and deal with differences.

Many of our beliefs, skills, habits, and ways of getting along, including the way we communicate with others, are more or less learned from our original families, and even our values and outlook on life are deeply influenced by our parents.

Therefore, it is inevitable that there will be differences between people from two different families of origin.

The existence of differences is not terrible, there is no perfect 100% fit in this world.

More importantly, how we perceive and deal with this difference, through our efforts, can resolve the negative impact of the difference, and even turn it into a resource to promote the relationship between couples.

A person's maturity begins with the inner vastness, you can accept the differences, and you can start to really think from the perspective of others.

Understanding, we need to stand on the basis of full understanding.

Only by understanding ourselves and then reflecting on our own behavior patterns can we understand ourselves and our partners.

See each other's strengths and weaknesses, understand the minefield of each other's emotions, express and deal with each other's emotions, learn to communicate effectively, so as to reduce conflicts, seek common ground while reserving differences and complement each other, and harvest a harmonious relationship.

If husband and wife can communicate with each other in a good way, and can understand, accept, tolerate and trust each other, any problems and difficulties can be easily solved.

If it is concerned about the marriage itself, everyone's marriage cannot be perfect, and there will be problems of one kind or another.

Because there is never a perfect person in this world, only a perfect imagination.

If you want a happy and long-lasting marriage, you need someone on both sides to take the lead in making compromises and concessions in the marriage, and you need to have the courage to accept each other's imperfections. I am afraid there is no better way.

Marriage is a combination, two people with different upbringing and life backgrounds, as well as certain shortcomings in each.

After forming a family and establishing a marriage together, we need to adapt and run in with each other together, and grow and improve each other together.

Then, the marriage can be perfected to the greatest extent and two people can embrace happiness.

Personally, I think that in marriage, as long as two people have the same three views and can reach an agreement on the principle of right and wrong, there are no major differences and conflicts, but only some differences in life habits and life concepts, it will not affect the overall situation, and there is no problem for two people to live together.

As long as you are more generous and tolerant of each other, and then consciously operate, this marriage will still have the possibility of happiness.

1.Try to avoid confrontation when your child is present: If the other person is not educating your child properly, especially if the child is present, do not blame the other person easily. We must refrain from each other. One less positive conflict will have one less negative impact on a child's education.

2.Look for appropriate opportunities to express your opinion in a suggested way after the fact: avoid head-on conflicts, not to leave them alone, but to actively look for the right time and method of transport.

Between husband and wife, exchange ideas with each other's eyes, there is always an opportunity to solve problems. The other party's method of educating the child is not appropriate, you should look for appropriate opportunities afterwards to express your suggestions or opinions in a calm and questionable way.

3.Use vivid facts to enlighten each other and raise awareness: The fundamental difference between husband and wife in the treatment of children is a difference in understanding.

If you think that the other party has a misunderstanding in educating the child, it is not enough to just reason, to increase the persuasiveness of the other party, there are many vivid examples, it is often more effective than abstract truth.

4.Strive for the recognition of the other party with a positive attitude and successful educational practice: successful education requires the establishment of a correct educational concept, and also needs to embody this concept in concrete words and deeds anytime and anywhere.

If your educational philosophy is correct, the other party will not pour cold water on you, you just need to tell the other party how to do it and the goals and effects of doing so with positive actions, strengthen communication, and strive for the other party's approval.