How can I say a graceful goodbye to my past self?

In this world, there is a lack of people who use their brains, and there is a lack of people who are good at thinking and summarizing and acting, but there is no shortage of people who work hard, so let's work out, make yourself stronger, and you can face up to your past.

I accepted everything in the past, and I used to complain about God's injustice, my parents, and the educational environment. And now I am grateful for all this, grateful to my parents for giving me life, grateful for all the birds and flowers around me, and I choose to use light to illuminate the darkness.

In the past, I was very inferior, I always stood in the corner of the crowd, I was afraid of standing in public, I was afraid that others would say that you were not good, that you were ugly, etc., and that the eyes of others had caused me great harm. And after meeting someone who loved me, his tolerance and love made me gradually relax and accept the ugly duckling I used to be, and I began to reconcile with my past self.

Only by finding a new beginning can we forget the past, so we should strive to start a new life as a way to say goodbye to our past selves.

I'm more confident now and can say goodbye to myself. You know, in the past, I didn't know which thought was my real thought, I was lazy, I didn't like to quarrel with others, and I wouldn't defend my own interests, so I had to get by.

After going through some social and life grinds, I began to seek support from books on spiritual growth. These books helped me to face my heart bravely, I began to learn to talk to my past self, and I understood that a lot of the energy for growth was given by my parents within the first three years of birth.

I began to believe that I could change myself and become the strong person I thought I was. I love myself as I am, she looks so weak and needs to be watered and cared for with love. I won't allow anyone to bully her again.

I feel like I didn't confess to the person I like in time, I feel regretful, I missed the time I spent with him for several years, so that when I saw him again, I didn't know how to make up for it, but now I can accept it, I have a man who loves me to help me and encourage me.

When I took my first small step towards financial independence, I was skeptical that I could do it, but when I did, I suddenly gained confidence.

Subject, hello wow.

From the subject's description, I read a very contradictory feeling.

When I met a boy who was excited, because I was a passive type and didn't take the initiative to pursue it, I suddenly didn't have that feeling recently, I didn't have that sense of security, and I didn't have a sense of spiritual dependence.

The subject must have fallen in love with that boy at first sight.

Love at first sight focuses on the external beauty, and what you like is the external performance of two people, so when the waves of the heart have passed in a short period of time, it is the decision of love.

Because love is specialized.

1. Loyal emotional giving is the manifestation of human reason, so when reason comes in, people begin to evaluate the person they like and begin to seriously understand the person they like.

If the person really belongs to the type that he loves or is close to beloved, then, the relationship will continue; If the person does not belong to the type of person they love or is too different from the type they love, then the feelings will disappear very quickly.

Maybe that's why the subject suddenly feels calm and lacks that feeling?

But the subject asked again, if the two can't have a romantic relationship, how can they get along calmly and amicably?

You mentioned that this is a secret love, and you didn't show your heart to the boy, and the boy didn't participate in this relationship from beginning to end.

The boy's emotions should not be considered, and now that he has regained his calm, he does not have the same mood as he did at the beginning, so why is this question asked?

Shouldn't it be natural to return to a state of calm and friendly coexistence?

Therefore, the subject should ask himself, is he really letting go of this emotion and not struggling? Or is it because you don't dare to take the initiative and can't retreat because you can't love?

Strengthening your confidence, setting your own lofty goals, and working hard for them is the best goodbye to the past.

We will all have different ways to say goodbye to ourselves in the past, but for this way, our ways and methods are different, so for myself, what way will I say goodbye to my past? Let me give you my opinion.

1. When I was a student

In our student days, we were all very happy, and then when one day we found out that we graduated, it means that the student era no longer belongs to us, at this time we have to say goodbye to this era, because this era no longer belongs to us, in the face of the end of the student era, we have to consider our work, so I can directly say goodbye to the student era, of course, some people will go to study after work, you will find that in fact, this era no longer belongs to us, Because we are learning with a utilitarian mind, it is completely different from the previous feeling.

Second, the era of the workplace

The second is the era of the workplace, we enter the workplace, many things will not go as we want, at this time, we will feel very tired, exhausted, and then we will consider changing jobs, when I change a few jobs, we will find that we have matured, we can already operate freely in the workplace, at this time we have actually said goodbye to us in and out of the workplace, we have said goodbye to us in that era.

3. The era of feelings

The last thing to talk about is the emotional era, in fact, we will have it at every stage of this era, for example, the student era, the professional era, these periods, we will have emotional involvement, and will experience, separation, new feelings and other problems, such problems are actually very common, because when we start a new relationship, we have already said goodbye to our past selves, so this time is naturally formed.

For these times, in fact, we are all using our own way to say goodbye to our past selves, in fact, many problems do not need to be deliberately done, as long as the current thinking is correct, at least we think it is correct, this is the way we say goodbye to our past.

I left the city where I had lived for five or six years, went to a strange place, had few friends, struggled alone, had no other ideas, and was busy every day.

I think the most important thing is to make yourself better, so that you can say goodbye to your old self.

I changed cities, changed jobs, and then changed my hairstyle, saying goodbye to my old self.

I would say goodbye to my old self by challenging myself to do something I've never done before, or to dress in a style I've never tried.

I am going to have something that represents my past, to be destroyed in this way. Say goodbye to your old self.

Start everything over, find a job you love, start all over again, forget about the past, be the best version of yourself, and make yourself cheerful.

First change your hairstyle, and then change your dress, so that you don't look at yourself in the mirror and don't be your old self.

Say goodbye in the way of a long post in the circle of friends, summarize the past, and look forward to the future, which is more ritualistic.

Take a walk-and-go trip, or get yourself a new hairstyle and say goodbye to the past from scratch.

I said goodbye to my past self with a night of drunkenness, and after that drunkenness, I completely gave up on the past.

I said goodbye to the past at the beginning of a new relationship, feeling that I should live in the present and look forward to the future, rather than always reminiscing about the past.