On the question of self confidence, several factors of self confidence

I'll talk about my own thoughts, I think your friend is not really confident On the contrary, his performance is to show that he is afraid that others look down on him, you have to find self-confidence, first you have to believe in yourself, sometimes you have to say your own thoughts will have unexpected effects, to be honest I used to be a person who was not confident, always thinking that he was worse than others or something, in fact, not really, each of us will subconsciously have a tendency, at some times will be very unconfident in themselves, At that time is the best way to overcome this tendency, send you a word.

— Choose what you think is best when you don't believe in yourself the most. Slowly something will change!

This is advice given to you by someone who is choosing to believe in themselves.

good luck to you!

Success can also come from lack of self-confidence - Feng Gong.

There is no need to be more confident or not, as long as you do something seriously and prepare for something, you will eventually get what you want.

just do it

Teach you a trick; Keep your head up when you walk, and it's best to stand and give a condescending feeling when talking to others; When you speak, you have a sense of proportion and connotation, which makes people feel that you are a singer; Speak loudly... After a long time, you will have a kind of domineering spirit, and it is difficult for you to be confident or not.

I would like to send you a sentence "A positive attitude is a panacea for success in achieving your life goals".

Ability and self-confidence are a pair of brothers!

Definition] Self-confidence refers to the result of a person's positive evaluation of his or her personality, psychology and social role. It is the belief that you have the ability or use some effective means to accomplish a task or solve a problem. It is one of the important signs of mental health and a psychological trait that a person must have to be successful.

Factors] 1. Advantage identification: have a correct understanding of your own strengths and weaknesses, and have a correct estimate and positive affirmation of your own strength and advantages.

2. Faith: Believe that you have the ability to achieve the set goals, especially when the difficulty of the problem increases, show recognition of your own decisions or judgments.

3. Dare to challenge: take the initiative to accept challenges and put yourself in a challenging environment.

4. Perseverance: Even in difficult situations such as obstruction and slander, do not change the goal until the desired goal is achieved.

5. From the inner recognition of self in the bones, no matter how others deny and doubt, after objective thinking, they still feel that they can do it and can succeed.

Self-confidence, simply put, is to believe in oneself and understand deeply, which is a self-affirmation of oneself in solving complex problems. A person's success depends on self-confidence, and where does a person's self-confidence come from? What do you need to get it?

Clarity on this issue is of great significance for us to build self-confidence.

Specifically, a person's self-confidence is obtained by the following factors:

1. Self-confidence first comes from the strong strength that you have.

Fundamentally, self-confidence is generated by one's own ability.

A person with mediocre ability and who can't do anything well is destined to lack self-confidence. Only those outstanding talents will have strong self-confidence. For us ordinary people, the skill we are best at is our own self-confidence.

Therefore, the foundation of self-confidence is the strength you have.

2. Self-confidence requires strong willpower to produce.

Self-confidence belongs to the psychological and conscious level of existence. Therefore, it takes the support of willpower to produce.

It is impossible for a person with weak willpower to have self-confidence. This has been proven countless times in real life. And those who have strong self-confidence and do not give up even when they encounter difficulties are all people with strong willpower.

Therefore, a self-confident person must be a person with strong willpower.

It can be seen that another important aspect of self-confidence is your own willpower.

3. Self-confidence can only be generated by self-reliance and self-improvement, and can be maintained for a long time.

Self-confidence is the spirit of self-reliance and self-improvement.

Self-confidence comes from one's own strength and relies on strong willpower, but it requires the spirit of self-reliance and self-improvement to produce and maintain ...... long-termThe spirit of self-reliance and self-improvement is the correct demonstration of one's own strong willpower, and only with this spirit can we establish self-confidence, let ourselves have self-confidence, and maintain self-confidence for a long time, and will not retreat because of difficulties.

Therefore, the spirit of self-reliance and self-improvement is the concrete support of self-confidence.

4. Only those who work hard and keep forging ahead can produce and have self-confidence.

It is impossible for a person who does not want to make progress to have self-confidence.

Those who have strong self-confidence are, without exception, motivated and constantly improving. These people continue to work hard for their own development and progress, and their motivation is strong self-confidence. Self-confidence is generated from these people and sustained for a long time.

From the above analysis, it can be seen that the generation of self-confidence is multifaceted. Only by having these conditions at the same time can you generate and have strong self-confidence for a long time, provide a steady stream of motivation for your own development and progress, and make yourself finally successful.

First, let me tell you two stories.

Story 1: The boss sends a junior employee to share, and the employee agrees, and the boss asks her if she is worried that she will not share well? She smiled confidently and said, It's okay, you're not afraid of me embarrassing your face, what else am I afraid of.

Then I started to prepare carefully, and in the end the task was completed well.

Story 2: An employee often feels frustrated at work, eager to get feedback from his boss for everything he does, and often feels uneasy about his colleagues' words or tone when he cooperates with foreign countries.

Seeing these two stories reminded me of two words I learned recently:

Conditional self-confidence and unconditional self-confidence.

Conditional self-confidence refers to instrumental value, that is, we are valuable when we are useful to others; Unconditional self-confidence refers to the value of existence, that is, my existence is valuable.

Do we often think that as long as I become good-looking, I will have confidence, I will have confidence when I buy a luxury car, I will have confidence when I buy a villa, etc., our self-confidence is preceded by many preconditions, on the contrary, if we do not have this prerequisite, we will not be able to feel confident.

We often base our sense of value on something we have gained from the outside world, and in the short term, it does give us some self-confidence, but once something changes in the outside world, our self-confidence will be affected.

Because we always equate our personal intrinsic sense of worth with external conditions, if the external conditions are good, we are worthy, and if the external conditions are bad, we are worthless.

Therefore, when faced with the denial of others, we will immediately think that we are not good, but in fact, others are only talking about what we do, not about us as a person.

No matter what we do well or not, it does not affect our essence, we are always good, and we do not change because of any external conditions, because our existence is valuable.

So how do you build unconditional self-confidence?

First of all, it is to distinguish between people and things, and how things are done has nothing to do with whether people are good or not. If you don't do well in a certain aspect, it's just that this place is not done well, the essence of people will not change, and in the same way when facing the evaluation of others, you must also distinguish between people and things, and what others evaluate is what you do, and it has nothing to do with people, so that it is not easy to be hit.

Secondly, don't add any conditions in front of your self-confidence, sometimes think about it, most of my self-confidence comes from the outside world, such as housing, car, money, ability, etc., as if without these prerequisites, there is no self-confidence. So, try to get rid of these conditions and see the value of your existence.

True self-confidence comes from within the individual and has nothing to do with anything else.