It s so hard to change my personality, it makes me so painful, I really want to end myself

It seems that your low self-esteem is at fault. It's clear that you need self-confidence, and the pillar of self-confidence is strength; However, it is possible that you are very strong but you are afraid to try because of your mentality. But it doesn't matter, this kind of mentality can be cultivated, and the mentality of self-confident people mainly includes:

Optimistic, curious, focused. "Self-confidence is always accurate self-positioning and objective evaluation, always an enterprising spirit, and always a huge spiritual strength that never bows down when encountering difficulties. Self-confidence is the most valuable asset on our life path.

Friend, you have to learn to look up to yourself; Don't be sad that you have less than others, since God has let you live in this world, it is your luck, you should be happy for you to have life, happy and confident for your struggle for life, and have no regrets for the passing of your old age. Don't compare your own shortcomings with the strengths of others, then you are nothing, and your value will pass away from your lamentation of fate. We must learn to be tolerant, tolerate the faults of others, and do not get angry about trivial matters, so that we will not have too much anxiety and trouble.

Finally, I wish you to be happy, confident, and live your day well.

If you have to complain these times, it is better to find some entertainment suitable for a quiet environment, such as reading a book or attaining enlightenment and meditation in a higher realm, and slowly you will have a soulmate, and there will be a crack in the closed space.

Once the character is formed, it is indeed difficult to change, try to distract yourself when a lot of little things bother you, no matter what it is, don't go too much entanglement, don't be too inferior, so that you will be more painful, shy and introverted can see it as a bridge for you to hone your calm character, I think this is very important in work and life, for marriage, don't blindly choose divorce, you may hurt two families, don't make the stupid and irresponsible choice of death, you will hurt all who care about you, Love your people. Hope mine is helpful to you.

I used to be like this In fact, what others say can only solve your moment I really want to open it is the best way to comfort myself Adjust your mentality If you don't love yourself, how can you be others to love you I believe that you are the best We all have to work hard.

The question is a bit long, let's talk about it bit by bit.

The easiest way to have a good relationship with others is to follow the topic of others, so that it is easier for the other person to agree with you, when you don't know how to speak, try to ask questions along the topic of the other person, ask about it, say what you don't understand, don't understand the content, want to get close to this stranger, ask some topics he is talking about, that's it.

You have such a character that is true and polite, and others must be polite to you because you treat others politely, and on the other hand, I don't think anyone who is treated politely will treat this person politely for no reason. There is nothing wrong with being polite and polite, do you want to be a pistachio for your teachers and classmates like everyone else, and there is no right shape in your speech? I don't think it's bad, classmates and relationships need people like that.

But you are who you are, and if you can't find a way to change, be your most authentic self.

There's nothing wrong with being soft-spoken, but if you can't try to raise your voice, make your tone more firm and sincere, which may still not solve the problem of making people think you're insecure, but it certainly won't make people think you're not angry. Try to change into clothes that you rarely wear, take the time to change your hairstyle, change to a skirt if you often wear jeans, and change to plain clothes with a brighter color.

Where are there so many people who can make deep friends, worthy of deep friends, don't be so demanding of reality, no matter who you are, it is a blessing to be able to find a life confidant who knows you and understands you in your life, and you still want to have more than one. When you meet that person, you find that you have forgotten your original character, which is the most terrifying. Be the best version of yourself.

Try to listen to others, listen to others, and try to care about others after listening to topics that you don't care about.

Finally, let's talk about your problem of changing even if you lose yourself. You now know yourself so clearly, you know what you look like, what you like and dislike, and what others think and attitude towards you, which is a big strength that many people can't do. I don't think a person who can't see himself well can adapt better to society.

You know yourself best. If you don't like it, change it. Don't just want to change.

It would be good to have this awareness, so let's change it.

- People are in a period of rapid physical and psychological development at the age of 12 and 18 years old, at this stage of rapid physical growth, with the rapid growth of the body, its psychological development also undergoes drastic changes.

First of all, there has been a fundamental change in the way of personal behavior, from the original obedience to others to self-determination, from relying on others to helping others, and the behavior is more confident and deep, and generally has a rebellious tendency;

Secondly, due to the rapid expansion of the understanding of the self and the social environment, and the reserve knowledge to understand these phenomena has not yet been formed simultaneously, resulting in most of the cognition of things staying on the surface, but they often think that they have mastered the essential characteristics of things, coupled with overconfidence, they often show paranoia and stubbornness.

In short, adolescence is a critical period of life growth, at this time, due to the rapid psychological growth leads to the conflict between the expansion of vision and the asynchronous psychological maturity, which in turn affects the perception of self and the external environment, there will be some differences with the actual situation, so people call this difference "growing pains".

Therefore, in order to pass the process of adolescent growth healthily, adolescents at this stage should develop calm and not impulsive, studious but not proud, self-confident and not complacent, listen to the opinions and suggestions of others, and be good at "absorbing the essence and discarding the dross" from the opinions and suggestions of others.

I, like you, have learned to control myself!

There are some things that you have to accept slowly, live your life well, no one can live without them, no matter what happens, as long as you face it positively and work hard to solve it.

After reading your question, I think you have to be like a successful person in a movie who hopes that your opinions can be recognized by everyone and thank you from the bottom of my heart, and I hope I can respond to every call.

Well, this is also the common wish of people, everyone hopes that the person who succeeds is able to show his good side, everything seems to have an answer, leisurely, relaxed, the problems encountered frowned, the things that were in mind laughed, and moved forward leisurely, leaving only a free and easy silhouette. Unfortunately, success belongs to only a small number of people, and there are many reasons why this is so, such as personal factors such as family background, social system, such as.

The social system and family background are not something that can be changed by an individual, and they are not considered to be. For most people, it is still successful to change yourself. Successful people are mature social people.

I think that a mature person, first and foremost a person of great significance and logic, is able to better control his emotions, is impatient, can not be impatient, and is not a kind of person of course to consider. The second is that a person has experienced a lot of things, including communicating with friends, peers, and reading under the guidance of the older generation. Only have you experienced a lot of things to?

Increase wisdom, understand real life, say things in place, and be persuasive.

I'll write about it here first.

With your current thoughts, it's easy to change!

First of all, you have recognized your shortcomings and have the idea of change, which is a good prerequisite.

Secondly, since you recognize your most important shortcomings, start from what you think is the worst of yourself, remind yourself whenever you encounter something, think about others, and empathize!

Third, your style of doing things is a habit that has gradually developed over the years, and you can't completely change it in a short time, so give yourself some hope and confidence, and also give yourself a period of time, slowly start from small things, and remind yourself to be generous and don't be selfish in the things you face every day. When things are calm, life is not always as you wish, how can you grow without setbacks!

When you feel like you're going to back down, encourage yourself to keep fighting, don't give up, even if you do it wrong, even if you don't succeed, but you fight for it. No regrets!

Only when a person truly understands himself and learns from each other's strengths and weaknesses can he achieve the final success, and only you can change yourself and defeat yourself!

I don't know what grade you're studying in now, it's very realistic to tell you that there are people outside the sky, it's not nice to say, you are doing this is a bit of a frog at the bottom of the well, so you need to make changes and experience the energy of the group, instead of living alone to live yourself, live a little heroic, add a tragic color, find a mature senior to suppress and guide you, there is no problem, the key is that you are a little arrogant now.

You can find yourself, first go to Youku to learn Professor Zeng Shiqiang's "The Mystery of the Tao Te Ching", and find your selfless nature.

You are too impetuous, go to participate in more public welfare activities, look at those who need help, look at those who are suffering from illness, look at those who have no children to take care of the elderly, to find strength from them, and when you see them, you will find that these thoughts of yourself are insignificant, so that you can live a healthier life.

Friends!! My personality is not good, try not to get angry, learn to be gentle, if someone provokes you, put down the fire first, don't lose your temper.