I have a woman s kindness in my personality, I want to change, I hope you can help me.

I'm glad to answer questions for lz, first of all, we must know what is called the benevolence of a woman, two meanings, one is the kind side, you can increase the score of kindness for yourself, the other is the side of pity for others to indulge the enemy, and in the end it will harm yourself, separate to explain, the first has definitely been good, can be retained, the second layer is after all to raise tigers for trouble, not a good thing, lz if you are a gentleman, it is recommended to do things thoughtfully in the future, decide a good plan, and strongly implement it according to the plan, do not change it in the middle, maybe change it, It becomes a woman's benevolence, and more personality of the gentleman, a little more bold male friends together contact, understand their character, and some of the things around them, in the process of chatting the same question to ask them, how to solve, to see if there is a woman's benevolent side, when you begin to realize that something must be solved, complete it categorically, do not procrastinate, other people's suggestions are not unlistenable, but to listen appropriately or modify to listen, do not change your original policy and plan, In fact, there is nothing wrong with the kindness of women, they are all peaceful, there is an old saying that is good, suffering is a blessing, others can't harm you, maybe the friends around you value your kindness, and there will be a good reward in the future, think twice!

Actually, this is the good side! If you don't feel decisive enough, you need to always remind yourself to do things in the opposite direction, think about what you should do from the perspective of a reasonable bystander, and then act on it.

I think it's because you don't have your own beliefs, if you can find your own direction, what kind of person you want to become, it's better to be a little more generous, and then you won't care about the little things, and it doesn't matter if you are a woman, experience, good luck.

Xiang didn't have the kindness of a woman, and if he had, he wouldn't have killed the 200,000 surrendered Qin troops. His arrogance is the reason for his demise. Liu Bang doesn't do that, he knows when to use benevolence, when to be ruthless, and can bend and stretch.

We must know how to judge the situation, not think that we are strong, and we don't know how to put down our bodies to others. Those who are on high must be easy to break.

The kindness of women used to refer to being tolerant and gentle, and they did not know the general situation. Now describe the soft-hearted heart of women. Ren: Benevolence. Woman: Mother's love.

1. [pinyin] fù rén zhī rén

When Chu and Han were fighting, Han Xin could not be reused, so he turned his back on Xiang Yu and defected to Liu Bang. Liu Bang consulted Han Xin, and Han Xin said the above words, saying that Xiang Yu was too benevolent to women, and analyzed some of Xiang Yu's weaknesses and mistakes, pointing out that Liu Bang would inevitably be able to defeat Xiang Yu.

3. [Usage] is more formal; as an object; Refers to ignorance of the general situation.

4. [Example sentences].

1) King Wu has the kindness of a woman, but not the decision of a husband. (Ming Feng Menglong's "Chronicles of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty", Chapter 80).

2) How can we deal with such a villain who cannot be punished, and how can we save the kindness of a woman?

3) Your Excellency the Marshal is also really a woman's kindness, and he will definitely raise a tiger in the future.

It refers to having sympathy for people or things that should not be sympathized with like women!

For example, in times of war, feel sympathy and pity for captured enemies! In that case, there should be no compassion, so it can be described as a woman's kindness, like a good woman!

Referring to the housewife who did not dare to start when killing chickens, she often showed an unbearable look Later, Chu and Han competed, and during the Hongmen banquet, Xiang Yu was guilty of the woman's benevolence because Liu Bang was an elder, and he failed to make up his mind to plot against Liu Bang, so he later lost the world, and finally he was killed by Liu Bang.

I think this is a kind of short-sighted, narrow-minded kindness, which hinders the true development of things because it cannot touch the essence and the whole, and the same is true for the growth of people. For example, adults dot on children.

It refers to being tolerant and gentle, and does not know the general situation.

Ren: Benevolence. Women's soft hearts.

Focus on immediate results rather than long-term results.

Deal with things with appeasement and gentleness without knowing the general situation.

Idiom: The benevolence of a woman.

Pronunciation: fùrénzhīrén

Interpretation: Shi: Benevolence. Women's soft hearts. The old refers to being tolerant and gentle, and not knowing the general situation.

Source: "Historical Records: The Biography of the Marquis of Huaiyin": "King Xiang sees people, respects and loves, vomits and vomits, people have diseases, weeps and divides food and drink, and makes people meritorious. ”

Example: The king of Wu has , but no husband's decision. (Ming Feng Menglong's "Chronicles of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty", Chapter 80).

1.It's a woman's kind character. It is to make a decision on the spot, and when it is time to be tough, it will be soft-hearted.

i.At the moment when he raised his gun, it was suddenly discovered that the hostage was injured, so he was shot dead by the police without shooting. This is pure woman's kindness.

The two examples given by the landlord are not the benevolence of women, and I can be said to be the views of women, but they do not have far-sightedness.

ii is a compliment and cannot be modified by such a word.

1.A college graduate, when he graduates, is reluctant to give up on his girlfriend, this is the kindness of a woman. No.

ii.If the ** daughter likes you, but you are reluctant to give up your wife, this is the kindness of a woman. Neither is it.

A woman's kindness? It's very simple, for example, you know that this person is a bad guy, but you have a loving compassion like a woman and let him go.

This is considered a woman's kindness, and it is often used in a derogatory sense.

If you should win the chess and deliberately let others, this can be regarded as a woman's benevolence.

I respect comrades who love to think.

I'll go, it's long! ......After reading it, I don't know if I can catch up now, but I still have to say: don't be with him!

Otherwise you will regret it for the rest of your life, boys who don't like to talk, nothing, boys who like anime, **, basketball, nothing, (because I like it too), but not motivated! It's not good, maybe he's self-motivated and you don't see it, or maybe you still don't understand him. Actually, I don't want to object, because he and I want to be the same silence, the same useless, but the only difference is that I want to control the world and I want to live vigorously, not counting ordinary days.

Or maybe he's ambitious like me, but he doesn't want to say it, he wants to realize what he wants. You are not a woman who gives everything to him, so you two are not suitable, such a man must have a person by his side who has tied all his life to him, and his character is the kind of person who treats true love to death.

Do you love yourself more or do you love him more?

If I say that he will be like this in the future, give up halfway, achieve nothing all day long, and love such a person for a lifetime, are you willing?

This is a question you ask yourself once today and again on the same day next year (if you are still together, if he hasn't changed).

The premise is that you think that you have the youth capital to spend more than a year with him, and you can divorce if you have nothing to do, and after the divorce, you can compete with the young girls with the title of bigamy.

People don't take the initiative to change, there is no possibility of qualitative change, do you think he will suddenly change one day? There are very few miracles in the world.

If you marry such a man, you will definitely have a lot of hardships to suffer. I think he's a bit too far-sighted, his feet don't fall to the ground, and he puts the blame on others.

Communicate with him one last time before getting engaged, and if it's still the same as before, it's going to be separated!! After all, long pain is better than short pain! Do you want to jump into this fire pit for the rest of your life? When the time comes, there will be regrets.

If you have a unit, the living conditions should not be so bad, but if there is a problem with your living ability and dealing with people, that is a big problem, after you get married, are you willing to do laundry, cooking, and housework with your children? Do you want him to offend people outside, and you go over to accompany Smiley?

If it's divided, don't worry about how he's doing, and how he's doing well in the future has nothing to do with you. All you have to do is put your husband in your heart.

Love is inherently more selfish, love can only love one person, and if you love more, it is fraternity.

Hello, according to your description he is a bit unlearned and whimsical. I don't know how to fight for myself, for my parents, and for my lover. After failure, we only look for objective reasons, but we do not look for problems from ourselves.

Not good at communicating with people. In a word, he's a feel-good about himself. Self-centered people.

If you are going to marry him, you should first consider the following questions:

1. Whether you can accept this situation for a long time after marriage.

Second, have you reached the point where you can't live without him?

3. Whether he can bring income to the family after marriage.

Fourth, you are complaining behind your family's back, whether he will change for it.

If he can't do it, break up! A person who is not self-motivated, has no sense of responsibility, does not know how to honor his parents, and does not know how to cherish the achievements of others! Following will only wronged yourself!

If it helps you. Hope.

I know that you really love him, and you will never leave him, and you will depend on him for life and death, which is great.

He said that you are the only person in his world who can speak to his heart, which shows that in his heart you are more precious than your life.

Don't separate, it will hurt more to separate. You love each other so much, I believe you will be happy together, because there is nothing more powerful than the love of two people who truly love each other, but few people can experience it.

You yourself are reluctant to leave you or what. If there is a man who still beats you for nothing, he says every day that you are the only woman he loves in this world, and he loves you very much. Are you willing to be with him?

Yes, two people need to be happy together, but being happy is a matter of two people, don't let him be happy, where are you still tired. If you love, then think about the other person, and if you love, do something happy and happy for the other person.

If you look at a person, you may see the wrong eye; The two may also be missighted. However, if your relatives and friends think that someone is not good except for you, then you should think carefully.

According to your description, you have no power to change him at all, and you should not be delusional that you can change him after marriage. Since you can't change him, let him go and let him find someone who has the ability to change him. In this way, it is a relief for you and a blessing for him.

If you don't see hope, why are you still engaged? Are you inseparable from him or is he inseparable from you? This question needs to be considered.

If it's your problem, then you have to think about it, because you really love him and can't leave or because you are worried about him, if it's the former, you also have to think clearly, you love him means that you will help him like raising a child in the future, take care of him like serving a wasted person, and take the risk of him abandoning you at any time, is this generation worth it? If you can't leave because you're worried about him, then it's your heart. His current character is formed because of the doting of his parents, if there is another wife who dotes on him, then he will not become mature in this life, maybe if you leave him, he will become mature.

If it's because he can't do without you, then you let him prove that he can see that he is willing to change for you, it means that he really can't do without you, otherwise, he just treats you as another mother who can be spoiled! However, he already has a mother, so let's leave your mother's love to your children!

In short, before getting engaged, you really have to think calmly.

Personal advice is still good, such a man is not worthy of your love, he is not only not motivated, but blames you. He doesn't even listen to you when you reason with him, just like you described above, he hasn't even hung the curtains of his own house, he doesn't even raise his head when he meets his family, he doesn't know how to love himself, and how to love others.

There are many things in life that you can't bear, and you can't bear to do anything, okay? You can't bear it now, and when the time comes, it's too late to regret getting married.

Feelings are not pitiful, pitiful. Although there is affection between you, communication is very important. And a man is still so naïve, doing everything so casually.

Is that someone who can be trusted for life? He has his own ideas, but at least he doesn't understand the shortcomings of his parents. There is no filial piety, no self-examination, and I always think that I am right about everything.

Listen to nothing from other people's opinions. That's arrogance!!

Arouse. In fact, this word means: from the heart.

Follow your heart, child.

Eliminate all the thoughts or external factors that you have, what do you think?

This is a big question The bet of a lifetime It's not a problem You also know right and wrong Do you know what to love someone love him what to do for him what do you want him to do hey hey what would happen to the person you love if there is no you do it know what great love is hehe the important thing is that people are not killed by heaven and earth for themselves Everyone is born to parents Parents raise all kinds of good and filial piety first Mood is important Love is important He has his life If you can change him You can continue If you can't change him Or let the person who can change it change it You have insisted on what you should insist on and did what you should do The next thing you need to do is make a choice, and then find your own happiness, make your family and friends happy, Amitabha, good, good.