How to let yourself not let your daughter in law and mother have contradictions! What a headache!

The perception of the passers-by: 1) It is best not to be under one roof if there are conditions - far fragrant, near smell, many contradictions are caused by the collision of trivial family trivialities and cultural quality and living habits, so stay away (it doesn't have to be far away, it doesn't matter if you are in the same community or the same house or even the same unit). 2) Do a good job of duplicity and communication bridge - the mother loves her son, but the daughter-in-law "takes away" her love, which is somewhat unhappy, if the daughter-in-law does not have the considerate son as the mother-in-law imagined, it will be a thorn; After all, the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law are two generations, and there must be conflicts in many aspects, plus some of the advice made by the mother-in-law as a past person will also be regarded as finding fault by the daughter-in-law, so the son must say in front of the daughter-in-law The mother-in-law said some good things about the daughter-in-law; Say in front of your mother The daughter-in-law said some good things about her mother-in-law, and as for the bad ones, don't pass on the bad things, and use your own words to say the bad things of both parties, because they will not hold a grudge against their son or husband.

should also treat both parents equally, and if you are not good to your parents-in-law, it will make your daughter-in-law feel unhappy with "differential treatment"; If you don't treat your parents well, it will make your daughter-in-law feel that you don't respect her and have no scruples about her (I've seen this happen). I hope you will be their lubricant and create a harmonious family!

You just have to deal with what happens between them.

Treat everyone fairly.

Say more about the daughter-in-law next to the mother, and say more about the mother next to the daughter-in-law.

It is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs! No way! When the husband can only make sandwich biscuits!

said in front of my mother that my wife always praised her from the side, and said in front of my wife that my mother often praised her for being virtuous and capable.

In fact, it is normal to have occasional conflicts.

Some people say that being a husband sometimes has to live in the mud.

In the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I personally think that there is no fixed who is the weaker party, and this mainly depends on their respective personalities.

If the mother-in-law's personality is stronger, then naturally the daughter-in-law is the weaker party, but if the daughter-in-law's personality is stronger, and the mother-in-law's personality is relatively mild, then the mother-in-law becomes the weaker party.

In fact, for most families, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are very common problems, but the key to the problem is how we find effective solutions.

Whether it is your wife or your mother, when there is a conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as a husband and son, you should try your best to adjust the corresponding role, separate the two people as much as possible, and do their own ideological work at the same time to avoid the intensification of the contradiction between the two people. In fact, in many cases, the attitude of the husband and son also determines which side is weak in the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

If the husband is on his mother's side, then the daughter-in-law will be obviously weak, which will largely lead to the breakdown of some husband and wife's relationship, and if the husband is on his daughter-in-law's side, then his mother will also be very sad and sad in her heart.

Therefore, in the process of facing the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the most important issue is to be a son, and the husband must play his due role, and use wisdom as much as possible to let his wife and his mother know each other, so as to resolve the contradiction between the two sides, so as to truly solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

What should a man do if his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have conflicts?

1. Never forget to honor your parents.

This is the most important one, parents are always the people we love the most and should love the most, don't marry a daughter-in-law and forget your mother, let your parents feel lost, and then be dissatisfied with your daughter-in-law, thinking that she snatched you.

2. Don't say who's at fault.

When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, they often pull the husband to comment. Husbands don't want to use an embroidery needle as a mallet, and you must know that women are not very reasonable even when they don't quarrel, so don't "fairly" point out who is at fault. In the eyes of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, pulling you to judge is not about the need for a fair referee, but to see who your heart is towards?

It is not a third-party opinion, but a "touchstone" given by both sides, saying that whoever is wrong is wrong, it is better not to say it.

Third, my daughter-in-law is angry and sprinkles on me, and my mother will tell her to change.

What do you do when your parents have friction with your wife? Is it to tell my wife that there are parents who are all in the world? No matter how wrong she is, it's my mother, so you can bear with it! Such a husband does not understand the love of the daughter-in-law, which will only make the daughter-in-law's love for her husband gradually fade until she is disappointed in the marriage.

The correct way is to tell my wife that I love you, soothe my wife's emotions, and then deal with things in a classified manner.

First: play the emotional card.

First of all, I have to sit down and talk to my mother: solemnly emphasize that you and your wife have a good relationship, and your marriage is really not easy to get to this day! She's actually very nice to you as parents:

I always say it's not easy for you. So that I can't ignore you, you have to be kind to her, and she will marry into our family. Separated from her loved ones.

If we don't treat her well, no one treats her well. When we look back, we should also communicate well with our wives: we are juniors, and we should respect the elderly.

We've got to get a lot of them! Let Mom do everything! After all, it is not easy for the elderly, so be more understanding and less calculating.

As long as the relationship between the two couples is good, any problem can be solved!

Second: no favoritism.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel as a son and husband must not take sides in the open, it will make the quarrel even worse. On the bright side, I have to say that what they both said makes sense. None of them were wrong.

If you favor your mother at this time, your wife will be even more aggrieved and uncomfortable, and her heart will be unbalanced! I feel like I have no face! Your favoritism is like adding fuel to the fire!

If you favor your wife, you will directly say that your mother is wrong. , my mother will not agree: I really married my daughter-in-law and forgot my mother!

Make things more complicated!

You can mediate in front of the two of them, don't take sides, be coaxed by the queen and coax your wife, for the sake of the family or get along in harmony.

You have to say good things on both sides, criticize your wife in front of your mother, criticize your mother in front of your wife, and coax both sides.

It's not angry for your wife to marry your family. You should stand in the middle and be silent. It's good to be coaxed behind your back!

I feel that you have to communicate with them, resolve conflicts, and make peace with them.