The contradiction of filial piety, what is the reason for filial piety?

Hello! Let me say a word: Be filial when you should be filial, and don't listen to some filial piety that you feel is unreasonable, and do what you want.

First, our parents gave birth to us and gave us life, the grace of a drop of water, and the spring reciprocated, not to mention the grace of nurturing.

Second, our parents have contributed to the family and paid a lot for us, they have worked tirelessly to make money outside to raise us, and always leave the best for us, all in order to let us grow up in the best state.

Third, putting aside the sense of individuality and hunger, the morality and law of the development of the entire human society to the present require us to have a heart of filial piety to our parents, which is our responsibility and an important reason why human beings have been able to postpone until now.

Fourth, if we do not set a good example of filial piety to our parents, how can we convince our children to be filial to us in the future?

Some parents like to let their children obey their own words, thinking that this is a filial child, but they ignore that the child may not have a big reaction when he is a child, and when he grows up, the child's heart will feel suppressed, there is a girl in her 20s and the teacher said that her parents are very paranoid, a little bit not according to their intentions, will be angry with him, now he has graduated from college, also joined the work, parents still manage him like a child, he is a filial child, do not listen to his parents, I am afraid that my parents will be unhappy, and I will feel uncomfortable after listening to my parents, so I ask the teacher what to do?

From the perspective of Buddhism, the two words filial piety can be understood separately, and to be filial to one's parents, one can not conflict with them verbally, how to be obedient? You can listen to your parents' advice, but you don't necessarily follow their methods to do everything, if you do this and make yourself very hurt, your parents are also sad about your brother's disadvantages, you can't have both, it's better to liberate yourself first, let yourself be emancipated mentally, and wait for your own ideas to be realized and then go back to your parents to repay your parents.

Therefore, it is very important to enlarge the mind from another angle, and it is not difficult to have an inclusive mindset to achieve both filial piety and obedience.

Filial piety also needs wisdom, because as people have their own habits and inner lack, the lack of communication between parents and children in education is becoming more and more serious, children's thoughts parents want to go around, children sometimes do not understand the starting point of parents, so it is easy to have family civil wars and contradictions, so it will be very helpful to use the wisdom of Buddhism to deal with life problems, family problems, no matter what role each of us is, be more tolerant when dealing with other people, With more empathy, the final result will be a peaceful mutual concession and gratitude.