Is it selfish not to be willing to help?

In fact, I think this problem seems to be a common problem in society now, and many people are reluctant to do more to help a person, because they are afraid of being troublesome or more accurate, they are afraid of taking responsibility, which should not be considered selfish, but can only be said to be human nature. Seeing this topic, I can't help but think of what the elderly should be supported or some other social issues. To see the big from the small is to see some more profound philosophical questions in some of the efforts of life.

People who are not willing to help are not selfish, but those who are willing to help are certainly selfless.

As the name suggests, as the name suggests, as long as you take a small step in a small matter, you can do someone a big favor. If it is for acquaintances, many people are willing to help, but if it is for strangers, many people may hesitate and think about it, so they lose the opportunity to help others in the process of consideration. Not everyone will be like you helped an old man, and that old man will come back and complain about you, most people will be grateful to the person who helped.

In this case, it depends on the differences between individuals. Some people are just warm-hearted, and they are willing to help you no matter what you do, but some people are used to standing by or treating them indifferently, and they don't think too much about what they don't care about.

As can be seen from the foregoing, those who are not willing to help are not selfish, but just not selfless. Unwilling to put yourself in the middle of it, unwilling to take risks and try things that are not beneficial to you. In fact, I think we should think about it from another angle, you don't need to be selfless, you just need to lend a hand when others need help, and you happen to be able to help others effortlessly, maybe one day in the future you will receive the same help, which is beneficial.

I have never heard of a sentence, it is duty not to help, and it is love to help. Not everyone can do it, and conversely, even if it is not a gesture, it is not the responsibility of others.

So you don't have the right to say that anyone is selfish, everyone is selfish, you haven't been helped by others, just say that others are selfish, but you don't know that you yourself are also very selfish, it's just that you don't want to see yourself correctly.

I used to be a good person, I felt that it was just my own effort, anyway, I didn't ask for anything, just when I did my own business, I helped others to do it, on the one hand, the feelings are in place, and on the other hand, it is really simple.

A few days ago, I helped my classmates do something, and I helped the teacher do things, but the result was not only unflattering, but also said that it was a dog's leg, I choked her a few words, and I felt that I couldn't do it, and I didn't want to help her. You feel that she is a tiger and at the same time has a lot of pain in her heart, not because she is really a dog's leg, nor because it hurts her self-esteem.

I just feel that this world really has everyone and values, and you have to accept all the criticism and dissatisfaction, as well as the dog biting Lu Dongbin. <>

Don't think that you are kind, so you wantonly help others, your efforts will not make others grateful, but think that you are cheap and easy to speak. Therefore, there are some things that should not be done by you, don't do it recklessly, and try your best to do what you should do.

Don't be a person who is not in a hurry for the emperor and the eunuch, to put it mildly, it is redundant, without your efforts, others will complete this work. It's like if you're a leader, you can't rush up and help others, you have to wait until others ask you to do it, that's a different nature.

This is not a low-level value and worldview, sometimes this world, this society is so realistic.

It's kind of selfish.

In fact, sometimes, you can help others, that is, you are helping yourself, and then leave a way back for yourself.

Sometimes it's a small task for you, but it can be very difficult for some really difficult people, who have to put in a lot of effort and can't even do it.

So if, if you raise your hand, his arm can help someone else's things, you must help others. <>

I heard my mother tell a story that was a true story that happened to him.

At that time, in the 80s, he had a classmate, the father of this classmate, on the way into the city, saw an old man faint, and sent him to the hospital without saying a word.

Who knew that this old man was the son of the leader of our municipal party committee at that time, and when his son who was the leader knew the news, he was very grateful.

The old man was also very grateful and became good friends with his classmate's father.

At that time, my mother's classmate, graduated from high school and became a teacher in a small school, and when the old man knew, he let his son, this classmate of his mother, be transferred to the ** agency, and his mother's classmate also has two brushes, and now he is the director of a certain bureau.

If it weren't for his father who saved the old man, then he would never have become a director in his life, and he might still be a teacher in that small school, in fact, this story tells us that when you can help others, try to help others, and while helping others, you may be helping yourself.

No matter what time people are, they must have good thoughts in their hearts and be kind to others, so that they can always be. As long as everyone gives a little love and lends a helping hand, then the world will become a very beautiful place.

I don't think it's selfish, have you ever wondered why you don't want to help with something you don't even ask? I think it's probably because you've helped too much and no one values you and even takes all your help for granted, so are you still willing to help others?

Actually, I used to be a helpful person, and I felt that if I could do something, I could help others. I'm idle anyway, but since I met one of my college roommates, I've changed my mind. I realized that there really is a kind of person who takes for granted the help of others.

I still remember the first time I helped her with a pair of shoes, and then it was the beginning of my nightmare, and in the following year she always had to ask me to help her from time to time, from helping her get the makeup remover in front of her, to helping her get the courier, anyway, I did everything by myself. As if he were a slave.

Can you imagine a college girl who lived in school for a year and never went down to get takeout and never fetched hot water herself? And it wasn't just me, but another girl in my dorm room was called around by her. In fact, it's not that we don't want to resist, but we think that this kind of thing, I helped her do it once, and next time she will do it herself.

And after all, we live in the same dormitory, so we don't want to make a fuss, do we?

Since then I've been very resistant to helping others, and I'm afraid that if I help once, there will be thousands of times waiting for me. So it's really not selfishness but fear....I'm really scared of how I feel like I'm a slave again, and I don't have the courage to tear my face apart...

What does it mean to be a little bit of a hand? First of all, how to define the work of the hand, everyone has the standard of each person's definition, what is considered to be the work of the hand Everyone has a different opinion, so when you meet the so-called work of others in life and you feel that it is not the work of the hand, you do not help, this does not mean that you are selfish, because you have the right to choose whether to help or not, and you also feel that it is not something that can be helped.

Just like when you meet a very pitiful, but normal beggar on the street, but with normal hands and feet, begging you for a dollar to eat, in the eyes of others, this is a matter that can help him, but in your opinion, giving him money is to solve his food and clothing, but it can not change his begging behavior, but also promote his begging behavior, a person with hands and feet should work diligently and solve the problem of food and clothing by himself, rather than being lazy to seek help from others. I won't help with this kind of effort, no matter what others say, whether it's selfish or selfish, or whether I'm immoral. Because I think this kind of gesture will only hurt him.

There are too many people in need of help in this society, and there are too many things that can be helped by a gesture, and there are a lot of things that I need to help, and they are all things that are done with a gesture, just like going to dinner for a dollar less, taking the bus for a dollar less, going to the supermarket for a dime less when checking out, I don't see how many people have helped me, are they all selfish?

Unwilling to help, very selfish, I think this is moral kidnapping, everyone has their own right to choose, we can't be kidnapped by morality, although it is said that giving people roses, leaving fragrance in the hand, helping others is equivalent to helping yourself, but whether you help or not depends on your own choice, whether others help you or not, but also depends on the choice of others, we must respect the choice of others, we can't say that others don't help you are very selfish.

Although a small favor is not troublesome, if you develop such a habit, or even feel that others help you is a matter of course, then this gesture may make you a lonely person.

If you feel that it is selfish to refuse to help, then this idea should indeed scrape the bones to heal, since it is said that it is to help, people help is love, not to help is duty, who said that people must help you if you raise your hands? Originally, it was up to personal wishes to help, but could it still be morally kidnapped?

A dollar is also a gesture, and I haven't seen people all over the world give me a dollar every day, aren't they all selfish people? Some people may say that many people don't know you, so why give you a dollar, so how familiar is the person you asked to help you "raise your hands"? Or how much you have asked others to help.

If you are so familiar with you, and you ask him to help you with a "gesture" and he refuses, then it is time for you to reflect on yourself. Whether you are too selfish in your daily life, or you ask others to help you too much, once or twice may be fine, but you can't always use your so-called small things to ask others to help.

To sum up, even if others are unwilling to help you with some small favors, you can't blame others, you can not help him in the future, but you can't say that he is wrong, after all, no one must be obliged to help others do things, even if this person is his good friend, relatives or Pingshui meet, help is this person is good and caring. If you don't help, you can only say that he is not enthusiastic, and you can't accuse him of being wrong.

It's a matter of effort for others, but others are not necessarily willing to help you, because what you think is a gesture is only what you thinkIf this kind of help-in-care becomes the norm, the other person's life will be greatly affected, so not everyone will help others without reservation. <>

When this kind of effort becomes a norm, he has become a burden on life, which is not a gesture, for example, there may be some mobile phone repair shops downstairs in the community, and then the elderly in the community will not play with mobile phones, and he can't play with some small problems, and always let the owner of this mobile phone store help, at the beginning once or twice he felt that it didn't matter,But slowly everyone came here, he asked him for help, and he didn't give money, and if there were more people, it would not be a gesture. <>

It is the duty of others to help us, it is our duty not to help us, and we also can't complain about others, because mutual help between people is within the scope of their own ability, and they are willing to help each other will really be established, you can't expect others to help you, others don't have that obligation, except for your brothers and sisters, your parents have the obligation to help you, even if it's your friend, you don't have to help you, let alone strangers you don't knowSo don't say that everything is a gesture, as if the hearts of the people in the society are so indifferent, and think more about whether others will have a certain negative impact on you if they help you. <>

When we go out to walk or work or study, in short, we leave our hometown, there will be some things we don't understand, things we can't do, it's normal to ask for help from others, but remember that your request for help must be very deep to the extent that you can't solve itAsk for help from others, and don't open that mouth easily, because you will be embarrassed if someone rejects you.

Because everyone thinks that more is better than less, they don't offer to help, even if it's easy for them to do it.

Because you think it's a gesture, but people don't think so, and helping is love, not helping is duty, you can't force others to help just because they can help in this matter, this is called moral kidnapping. Don't use this kind of thinking to restrain others, just restrain yourself.