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This is a very complex and sensitive issue that involves multiple aspects such as family, moral, legal and social. First, you need to consider a number of factors, including your relationship with your husband, how your children feel, the importance of family stability, and the possible consequences of revealing the truth.
Keeping the truth under wrap can have a range of consequences. First, it can have a negative impact on family stability, as the husband may discover the truth in the future, leading to a breakdown of trust and emotional estrangement. Secondly, it can have a bad impact on a child's development, as they may feel confused and lonely, unaware of their true identity and family situation.
If you decide to reveal the truth, you need to find the right way and time to minimize the harm to all while protecting your family and children. You may need to seek professional counselling and legal advice to ensure you make an informed decision.
Whatever option you choose, you need to carefully consider the feelings of all those involved and do your best to protect their interests. This is a sensitive question that needs to be handled with caution, and there is no easy answer.
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Now, I can talk about it, I'm in the same situation as you.
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The total amount of a person's feelings is limited, and if you use it up piecemeal, by the time you need to spend a large amount, your account will be empty. Although there is a difference between the depth of love and the breadth of love, true love is more of an experience of depth than quantity.
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Hello. I am a doctor but not a psychiatrist, I can understand your inner pain and torture in the past 6 years, after the incident, you may panic and forget to take contraceptive measures afterwards, and you can't face the reality and tell your husband honestly about this matter. One is that your husband accepts it, and the other is that whoever terminates the pregnancy can conceive.
But since you don't have the courage to face it now, you have to face it positively, I can understand that after so many years of inner suffering, you can't completely judge from the child's personality and eyes, which can be completely different. I think your husband has lived with you for so long and he will accept your understanding of you and your pain for so many years, and he can correctly face the paternity test without the child knowing, and relieve the confusion and pain in your heart. The child is not guilty, and no matter what, I am sure that you will handle it well, and the result is not as bad as you think.
Be brave that you are already someone else's wife and mother, you can do it, and I believe you will handle it well. This is only the result that if it is something else in the future, it will be harmful to the child, and I believe that your husband can understand it and does not hurt him. Because you are also a victim, and you have endured so many years of pain and suffering in your heart.
You are the one who suffers the most.
You and your family will be happy in the days to come.
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The first step is to identify it yourself, it is the husband's child, and everything is fine. The second step, if not, can't tell the husband, a man has few things to worry about in his life, his wife and children are important, even unsurpassed, this window paper can't be pierced, even if he has conjectures, he can't be sure, you go to bear the pain alone, you know, everyone has their own pain. In the third step, if the husband is also very suspicious, and even affects his life, looking forward to a better future, it is time to talk about it.
You actually missed the best opportunity to find a reason to kill the child in time, which is a mistake and a thousand hatreds.
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Hey,,, I was thinking about why you didn't tell your husband everything, read the whole article I still want to say that you tell him the truth, if you don't say it, you will always have a heavy burden in your psyche, as your children become less and less like your husband, your husband should be able to think of something, after all, he knows that you have the experience of robbery, if I were you, I will say it, very sincerely, very sincerely apologize, say it very sincerely, say it very sincerely, say it for so many years because you are afraid of losing him, and now tell him is also afraid of losing him, Take the child with him to do a personal appraisal.,By the way,It's best not to let the child know that you are taking him to do a personal appraisal.,The child is innocent,,These things are best in front of the child,,, if he can't accept it, he has to choose to leave,,, frank and open... If he can understand you, then use the rest of your life to make up for him,,, bring up the child together.
It's easy to say, it's hard to do, but if it were me, I'd definitely say that at least I've unloaded the baggage, and I won't regret it later.
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As long as you really love each other, you can be together, do you care whose children do you care?
Che Modern people are so boring, I said, me. Speechless.
I said man, if it was my wife's case, I would accept it.
Origin and death are all fate, and this child is destined to come to your home and live with you.
Just accept it If you are ashamed, you can talk to your husband Do you understand? This is the best way to solve the problem between two people.
As for how to deal with other people, I have to discuss it with my husband, right?
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As long as you don't say it, nothing will happen, and you are also a victim, forgetting everything that day and living a good life with your husband. Also, there are too many examples of children and parents who look and have different personalities, how dare you conclude that it is not your husband's! As long as you firmly believe that the child belongs to both of you, you will love each other forever!
Forget it, because it's already in the past, let it pass, no one knows the truth, you lie is a white lie, it's okay, don't tell it.
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Sister, I I thought it was a purely biological problem.
First of all, it no longer makes any sense to regret not telling my husband and not having children. It doesn't matter if he's your husband's child or not, it's your child. No matter what happens between adults, children are always innocent.
Second, let's think in a good direction. Biologically, just because you and your husband have a single eyelid doesn't mean your child has to have a single eyelid. My parents and I have diametrically opposite personalities, but we are definitely biological.
And the child is just naughty and active. There is a lot to do with the temperament and the education of the day after tomorrow.
Again, sister, you will be overwhelmed by living under such pressure every day. It is recommended that you see a psychiatrist and forget about it.
Finally, it's been so long, don't say it, after saying it, your husband, in-laws, and parents will be hurt a lot. Children are very sensitive to their parents' attitudes and can be hurt more.
ps: If my sister still can't let go, it is recommended to do a paternity test and secretly collect a few hairs of your husband to do it. If not, don't say it, just keep it in your heart.
Also, you may not be willing to accept this, but if it is not, you must educate your children well, especially in terms of morality.
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It has happened, and it is useless for you to regret what you didn't do at the time, and you should know that at all times. There are many objective factors when it comes to your own problems, which are different for everyone, isn't it? What kind of person is your husband, and what is your family situation like?
What is your family situation like? You have to analyze objectively so that you can make a decision. The only thing I can tell you is a principle:
Rational analysis of this matter, there is no dare or not, fear or fear, and so on.
It is enough to have a clear conscience.
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The single eyelid gene is the recessive gene A, if both parents are single eyelids, it must be homozygous, AA and AA, so the child must be a single eyelid, of course, the possibility of gene mutations causing double eyelids cannot be ruled out.
Many of your thoughts are based on what you think "that man" caused you to get pregnant, and you constantly want to reinforce the judgment that your husband is not the biological father of the child, but the basis you provide is almost all subjective, so why do you believe that your husband is not the biological father of the child?
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I feel that as a mother, there are many things that need to be undertaken by one person. In any case, the child is innocent, your husband is innocent, and you are innocent, but since everyone is innocent, why let more people bear such a blow. I support your own decision.
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Tell your husband that it's not your fault. It's been so long, and you've suffered enough. If He loves you, He will accept you.
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Let's be honest! If honest may you Karma Husband accept or forgive you! If he finds out, he will be very angry, and he will not be able to save it then!
Honesty is the foundation! Go and ask your husband for forgiveness and ask him for forgiveness! It's better than finding out in the district first! ~~
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Fuck, there are too many scum in this world, you have created sins, hurt others, sister, you must be too late to have an abortion now, I think you should give birth to the child! First bless your child is your husband's, if not, you are talking to him well, I believe he will forgive you!
You're the victim!
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Tell your husband and he won't blame you, because my gut tells me: your husband is an empathetic person.
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Sympathize with you, but the genes are explicit, what you say is not scientific basis, collect a little husband's hair, and take the child to the hospital; Think optimistically, if that's your kid.
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I think the most concrete support for your frightening thoughts right now is that your children don't look like your husband anymore, but could this feeling be a delusion or oversensitivity caused by your constant thoughts?
Also, I don't think the friends upstairs can solve this problem completely, although I don't know very well, but I think the DNA test is the most credible, and if possible, you may be able to do a DNA paternity test without your husband.
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If you are normal, you still have to tell him that he has a relationship with the child, and it will be fine for a long time, but you must tell him!
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Peel off the shadows and enjoy the sunshine; Forget the pain and embrace the joy.
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I think you should confess and let your child know as soon as possible, but why didn't you call the police at that time, maybe he would hurt someone else.
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Hey, it's unfortunate, but it's actually the fault that you didn't do emergency contraception in the first place, in fact, no one can do it. Find a psychiatrist
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Six years have passed, and it doesn't matter who the child is, you have to live strongly.
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That's a big deal.
You have to think about it.
The child has to hide things for a while, and he can't hide them for a lifetime.
So you have to be honest with your husband.
Listen to your husband's ruling.
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I'm the same way, can you talk about it?
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How old is the child, does your husband know now?
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What's going on now, so am I.
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Now it mainly depends on how old the child is?
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You can sue him for defamation, but you have to prove it.
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Ask him why he said that.
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If the paper can't hold the fire, sooner or later it will be discovered. Now find a way to semi-reveal to see if he can accept it, if not, then solve it as soon as possible, so as not to affect your future life, of course, this is a bit cruel, but this enjoys the punishment.
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If you don't hide it, your marriage is basically over, it's up to you whether you want to maintain it or not.
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Paper can't always contain fire, if you really care about him, be honest with each other, let yourself go, and let him go.
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See if there are any accidents, and when the time comes, it won't look like it, if it's like the old king next door, then there's no way.
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No, if it's good for you, you leave him and tell him why, and if he doesn't care, he'll forgive you!
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Let's take the kids with you! I'll be honest with him after I'm gone, and come back if I can forgive you.
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Count you ruthless, this is too much, it's strange that your husband doesn't pick your skin.
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Sooner or later, this will be discovered, but it will be able to be concealed for a few years.
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Try to hide it as much as possible, and if you feel that you can't hide it, you will confess.
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Yes, as long as he doesn't do a paternity test.
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It's not a thing, ask someone to help you raise wild seeds.
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No accident, no problem, I'll talk about it later.
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Maybe there are some things that don't need to be explained.
From your description, it can be seen that your husband is a kind person, he does not know now, can live easily, when he knows, he will fall into the torment of conscience, six years, will he have no feelings for the child? Will he choose to betray you and abandon you? I don't think so, but out of instinct, how does he treat children?
I think you should never tell him, and you shouldn't take it to heart, you are right, the child is innocent, no matter who it is, it is your flesh and blood, every life is a blank sheet of paper at birth, it needs you to guide, at the beginning of people, the nature is good, not to mention, after all, it is just that once, the probability is much smaller.
Don't feel guilty, it's not your fault, and it's not your child's fault. I don't recommend going for a paternity test, but what about your husband's child, isn't it? In addition to increasing everyone's ideological burden, what is the point?
In any case, it is your own child, your flesh and blood, if it turns out that it is really not your husband's child, can you still love him as before? What kind of suffering will your husband suffer? What would his family think?
What will the child think when he finds out about it in the future? This matter, since it has passed, don't take it to heart anymore, for you and for your husband, but also for the sake of the child, never say it, let him be a secret forever, believe me, this is the best way, the child is innocent, the young heart should not bear such heavy pressure, if there is really no one who knows the doubt, let this matter be buried in the heart, don't think about it, what to do and what to do.
Don't keep thinking about the difference between children and you, in fact, it is likely that your preconceived thoughts, children should be naughty and active by nature, which has nothing to do with genetics. The child is innocent!
Life is calculated, less will be more and you will be happy, you can buy beautiful clothes, beautiful hairstyles, make yourself confident, your husband likes to be confident in you, will be very attractive, hehe, secretly tell you Oh, you become beautiful and confident, he will be flustered, and he will naturally love you more, otherwise it would be a pity to lose such a good wife, support you, come on, believe in you, what.
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