From falling in love to getting married, my husband s mother has always disagreed with me being with

Don't live together, it's better to move out, there will always be contradictions after being together for a long time, if you can't help but quarrel that day, it will be miserable, move out, try to be an obedient child when you are together, and everything will go smoothly.

Changing hearts for hearts, there are very few such mothers-in-law now, but if you meet you, you will appoint it.

Double the kindness to her, people's hearts are flesh and blood, I believe she will be moved.

Such unreasonable people should not see good things every day. You and your husband moved out on their own.

You can see that you are a very good girl and have always been submissive, but obedience does not mean that it can solve the problem, but it will make it more difficult.

First of all, you have to find the root cause, why does his family treat you like this? Why don't you agree to get married in the first place, and at the same time you have to learn to be flexible and deal with the problem through some appropriate methods and skills, instead of blindly complying, if you can find an appropriate way, you can solve the problem.

If the man's parents are not allowed to marry, he basically does not marry; If the woman's parents don't let her get married, she basically gets married.

Not all parents are snobbish, but basically all parents hope that each other's conditions are better than their own in all aspects, whether it is a poor boy marrying a rich girl, or Cinderella marrying into a wealthy family, marriage is more or less expected to help the whole family achieve "leapfrogging".

If the marriage is opposed by the man's mother, then it is necessary to find out what the reasons for the other party's opposition are: first, it is convenient to prescribe the right medicine and resolve the conflict; Second, it is easy to weigh whether the relationship is worth lasting.

If the man's mother opposes your marriage because of his height, appearance, education, family background, etc., then you may not be able to continue. Because, these elements exist objectively, you can't grow taller, even plastic surgery can't change the genes, and the education and family background are basically fixed. It's not that they're not dissatisfied with you, but they're not satisfied with all the girls who are on the same level as you.

If you are opposed to being together because of your personality, or occasional verbal and behavioral faux pas, you may need to have a higher emotional intelligence, learn more to observe words and feelings, and occasionally use small favors to please her, and the misunderstanding will be eliminated over time.

There is also a situation that depends on how deep the bond between your boyfriend and her mother is.

Some mothers and mothers basically obey their mother's words, and the mother-in-law subconsciously feels that it is the future daughter-in-law who snatches her son away from her, which will cause a lot of hostility. If this is the case, it is recommended to get out of the sea of suffering as soon as possible, otherwise, it is yourself who suffers.

If your boyfriend is very assertive and sincere to you, and has the ability to realize the ideological "weaning" with his mother, and is even willing to defend you and maintain your relationship in front of his mother, then you can hold on a little longer, after all, it is not his mother who wants to live with you for the rest of his life. The mother-in-law's ideological work can be handed over to him to handle properly.

When a woman marries, she is not marrying a person, but a family, and the marriage that the man's mother opposes has been hindered from the beginning, and there are pimples, which are destined to be more difficult than the marriage supported by the parents, and it is more necessary to manage and maintain it with heart, and you must be psychologically prepared.

I think I still have to listen to my parents.

Because first: after getting married, you need to live together, and if the other party's parents don't like you, it's also very awkward to get along.

Second: The man is also very difficult, one is a girlfriend and the other is his own mother. It's not right not to listen to my mother, so it's uncomfortable to give up my girlfriend.

Third: It depends on the reason why the man's mother disagrees! If the man's mother's reasons are very legitimate, I think it is better to listen to the parents.

First of all, you have to know that if you want to stay with him, you must be mentally prepared to resist pressure (on the premise that he loves you too), this is a long battle!

If you are ready for this, then the next step is to grasp his heart and let him love you without you and reluctant you. That's how you have the chips to make him and Zhou Xuan. Only he can resolve his mother's dissatisfaction with you, and all you have to do is let him take the initiative to convince his mother, not you ask him to convince him.

Because you also said that he is very filial, if you let him go, in case he gets into trouble with his mother, he will blame you for being sensible, he will be more tired, maybe slowly he will be tired and would rather retreat.

The next thing is how to make him love you without you, and I can't give up on you, and my boyfriend can't bear to be wronged by me at all. I sometimes think about why he is so good to me, and it's because I have something he loves. The first is appearance and temperament, pay attention to dress, you must know that there is no man who does not like to look good.

Secondly, constantly enrich yourself and improve your level, just like you said go to night school to take self-exams and the like, now society is also like this, some forces like to see diplomas, diplomas are like ID cards, if you have an ID card, that's normal, if not, it's not normal. Third, depending on what kind of man your boyfriend is, generally manly people like delicate women, even if you are strong, don't show it in front of him, try to be weak but you must have your own assertiveness and personality. Sometimes if you are too strong and his mother cries, then you must be the object of his abandonment.

Emotional matters are not available to others.

If a relationship is not approved by the man's parents, it may be easier to let go.

First, if the man's parents disagree, it means that they don't fancy you, and if you want to enter into marriage, you will inevitably be very tired and have to bear a lot of grievances.

Second, your future in-laws will not treat you as a family just because you are already married.

Third, the long-term absence of the in-laws will affect the relationship between the couple.

4. If he loves you enough and you are good enough, no matter how deep the prejudice of your parents is, it will slowly fade away!

First of all, look at your boyfriend's views and attitudes towards this, the attitude is positive, then insist, otherwise it is recommended to break up. If the man's parents disagree, the first thing to look at is the boyfriend's attitude. If your boyfriend is very resolute in order to be with you and has made a lot of efforts in front of the man's parents, it shows that he really loves you, and the two insist on convincing the parents is just around the corner.

If you have a very negative attitude and do not have much positive effect on the relationship between your parents and you, then it is advisable to break up. As mentioned earlier, your boyfriend has made a lot of efforts to make your parents accept you, and there will be hope for the persistence of those two people. Every parent wants their children to be happy, even if they don't agree to be together.

When you see your boyfriend doing so much to be with you, they will also know that your boyfriend is happy with you, and they will always agree to it after a long run-in. No pair of parents will object to two people being together for no reason, so when parents disagree, be sure to find out the reason for the parent's objection and then actively solve the problem. There may not be so many contradictions between two people, but when two families are combined, there will be a lot of problems.

For the problem that the parents do not agree with, we should look at it rationally and consider whether the two people are really suitable to be together, after all, the parents have more life experience than themselves, and they look at the problem in the long term. Marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, so once one party has a problem, then life after marriage will not be happy, so whether it is a boy or a girl, you need to solve the problems of the two families before marriage.

I think the first thing is to take the opportunity to meet his dad and sister. Upstairs said that the boy is a little "soft", and he cares about his parents' opinions in the selection of girls for formal dating, in all fairness, this is reasonable, it is better to understand him, you are very anxious, but don't put too much pressure on him, because he may also be in conflict.

The second is that you want to open some by yourself, although you still have to work hard, but a red heart is ready with both hands. If his mother doesn't like you, and your boyfriend is caught between you and his mother, even if your boyfriend supports you, his mother is not optimistic about you, and it will be very difficult to get along in the future. Coupled with the fact that your boyfriend is softer, your situation will be very isolated.

The third is that since his mother says that you are not smart enough, find a way to do more homework when you meet his father and sister, and think about how to make them accept you. At least you still have a chance, don't you?

Finally, this kind of dilemma is actually quite common, not only you alone, many people have encountered this kind of distress, look at it with a peaceful mind, the boat to the bridge head naturally straight.

His mother must have thought from his point of view, why don't you agree, you have to make it clear, if you don't understand it yourself, it means that you don't pay attention to this issue.

If you understand, then why don't you change it? If you look at your personality and you think it's worth changing for this man, then you do it.

If it's because your family is only related to relatives and has some health problems, then it's not a problem, drink more, communicate with his mother, and show your virtuous side.

Sensible aspect: When his mother is around, he does more housework.

His mother doesn't agree, forget it! If you can't squeeze into the world, don't squeeze it, and it's hard for others when you're tired. Wouldn't it be good to find a family that can accept you?

You need to find out what is causing his mother not to accept you. Then decide what to do next.

Be careful, even if you get married, there will be problems, unless you are far away. Also, watch if your boyfriend is looking at you or.

Why not? There's always a reason.

If you want to be with this guy, you have to know why his mom doesn't approve of it, and then change it.

Find out the essence of the problem, why his mother doesn't agree with you being together, this is the focus of your consideration, I think there must be a reason.

Well, it's up to the two of you, to communicate what his mom is dissatisfied with about you, and if you really love your boyfriend, try to change it for the sake of!

You just need to know. You are living with your boyfriend and future husband for the rest of your life... Not with his mother.

Hey, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, I am the opposite of you, but I believe that everything will be fine.

The words of the parents can be referred to, it is difficult to give up, and the two are happy, so let's elope.

Persist in going on, as long as he doesn't give up, he will have reason and be strong.

Resolutely together to convince his mom.

Raw rice is cooked and cooked to see what her mother can do

Raw rice is cooked and matured, and children are born.

Jincheng caused by the golden stone for the opening.

Chop before play is basically very effective.

Remember the saying that when you protect the people who matter most to you, you become strong. Therefore, for the family members I love the most, the people I really care about, any difficulties can be overcome, people, but also in "love", constantly let themselves become mature, learn to struggle, know how to persevere, slowly take off their immature shell, for "us" together to put on a strong layer of love protection.

No matter where you are, no matter what you do, as long as you have love in your heart, you can make everything ordinary extraordinary, and everyone's existence becomes meaningful because of responsibility, because I am not a person, I am very important.

Everyone has the right to love. But every parent wants their children to have the best, and his mother doesn't dislike you, it's just that he wants his son to have better choices. I just don't want you to take his son away, so you have to tell his mom with your actions.

If his son marries you, not only will you not lose your son, but you will also get a daughter.

Touch her with love.

You still have a boy. Have you thought about it later?

He's made all his choices, so forget about him. After a while, if he regrets it and looks for you, then it means that you have a fate, otherwise, you really have no fate.

If he really wants to be with you, let him take you to meet his parents more and let them know you, divorced women are not bad, you have to endure more gossip in this regard...

No matter how anxious you are, it mainly depends on your boyfriend's actions, and if he obeys his mother, you can't help it.

It's up to you to blame yourself for not having a brain. After I got married, my mother and I never had good news. The mother feels sorry for the child, and after you finish telling her, of course she is more angry than you and can't be rational.

You're not a three-year-old, and there's something you can't do on your own. If you don't mix adults in and then you think there are too many adults, I think you're sick.

1. Since your mother is not very good at dealing with similar problems and makes it difficult for you, you have to sum up your experience and accept the lesson, and in the future, you should try to tell your mother as little as possible about your husband and your in-laws, even if you tell your mother, you must report good news and not bad news.

2. You try your best to make things that your mother loves your husband and your husband respects your mother, for example: if you buy something for your mother, you tell your mother that your husband bought it for her (or your husband asked you to buy it for your mother); Similarly, when you buy something for your husband, you tell him that your mom bought it for him (or your mom asked you to buy it for him)...Wait a minute.

You have to be the mediator and glue between them, and when their relationship is good, you can truly enjoy the happiness and joy of life.