In interpersonal communication, how to face the hypocritical and malicious side of human nature?

Hello friends, my idea is to learn to tolerate, tolerate the ugliness of human nature, understand the ugliness of human nature, whether in the face of their own or the ugly side of others, learn to understand him, we will always encounter a lot of things that we are powerless to change, at this time we need to accept, to be able to accept with a mentality, in order to make ourselves more rational, more mature, and a stupid person, can only prove that he and stupid people are the same level. Everyone has an ugly side, and so does this world and society. We are just a drop of water in the torrent that cannot be detailed, so let ourselves adapt, accept, and let ourselves understand that we all have an ugly character, and its essence is ugly, so we should control, rather than connive at this ugly character to grow up.

No one is perfect, it's just a matter of whether you're indulging that imperfect you.

I feel that in the face of the hypocrisy and malice of human nature, if you are dissatisfied, you must speak out loudly, and you can't accommodate it casually: we all have a mentality, that is, if you can not provoke others, it is best not to provoke, and others will not do anything to themselves, but this article obviously cannot be used on hypocritical and selfish people, because hypocritical and selfish people only care about their own interests, and he must hurt all those who hinder his interests, so he doesn't care whether you are innocent or not, and when these people hurt you and are not conducive to you, you must say your dissatisfaction out loud. And assert their own interests.

If someone around you is hypocritical, I recommend minimizing the chance of meeting each other. No one likes to deal with selfish people, one is hypocritical and boring with others, the other is too tired, how good it is to be fair, no need to be suspicious, no need to worry about who is behind your back, so unless it is really unavoidable, it is better to minimize contact with selfish people, and try to find another way to solve it with other methods, as the saying goes: I can't afford to provoke, I can't hide, let yourself be clean.

My personal opinion on this issue is that, generally speaking, such people should not be provoked. There is no need to pay too much attention to the actions of hypocrites. Because it is not at all clear which side of the hypocrite is true and which side is fake.

If you get along with hypocritical people, you must remember that you must not mention some rights and wrongs, if it is a hypocritical person who takes the initiative to bring it up, just laugh and laugh, if you really can't help it, find an excuse to avoid it, at this time, if you are quick to speak for a while, he will be in unnecessary trouble one day, there is no need.

In fact, I think that for the hypocrisy of human nature, their thoughts are to protect their own interests and survive! They're just good at disguising themselves! Now the competition is so fierce, so don't make yourself unhappy because of things in the outside world, no matter how good they are, use them as a reference to do better!

Know yourself properly! But you can't be too hypocritical, and you can't be more heart-to-heart! There will be karma in dealing with people and things!

If it's all hypocrisy, then life is too boring, be kind to yourself and be kind to others!

I am an ordinary worker, I have encountered a lot of such things, I think generally this kind of people see their true colors and avoid interacting. If you can't avoid it, don't tell him too much, don't interact with him too much, and don't get too close to him as much as possible. Have you ever heard a white lie, in fact, it is also good to avoid it, at least it will not worsen the relationship.

Be a man and leave a line, and we will see each other in the future.

I think it's good to do this kind of thing as long as you don't do anything out of the ordinary. Don't pay too much attention to other people's affairs, because we don't know other people. You don't know how someone else is in doing something you can't understand, and you don't know what they've been through.

Everyone does everything for a reason, and those so-called things that are done without a reason actually have a reason, but we who are not the parties cannot understand it.

If you hate hypocritical people and hate particularly complicated things, then you must be a very simple, very simple person.

I'm tired of the intrigues in the world, and I like to stay there quietly and don't want to be contaminated with the worldly strife. It's also possible that you're running away.

In fact, this kind of psychology is very normal, because no one wants that kind of very complicated interpersonal relationship, everyone wants that kind of simple friends, and that kind of hypocritical people, no one likes them at all, so it is simply what everyone hates, this kind of psychology is also very normal, in my impression, no one likes that kind of hypocritical people, and everyone wants to stay away from these people.

A manifestation of human hypocrisy.

1. People who will do whatever it takes for the sake of profit.

The world is bustling with profit, and in the experience of growing up, everyone needs to make a living and go out to earn money in order to survive, and only in this way can you get what you want.

2. Too much vanity and the habit of belittling others.

Everyone has a vanity, and if a person's vanity is too heavy, it will backfire and damage their dignity. In psychology, vanity is a manifestation of the use of false language to protect one's self-esteem, and psychologists believe that it is a manifestation of excessive self-esteem, which will make a person talk nonsense.

3. Pay special attention to interests.

Each of us will want to get benefits, but we also know that there are always some more important than the so-called interests. Therefore, when they encounter something that is more important than profit in their eyes, they give up profit.

It is a very rational behavior to hate complicated people and dislike hypocritical people, which also means that such people are very simple, they hate all the hypocritical things in the world, and they do not communicate with people they don't like, their lives are very free, they dare to do and hate, and they are very chic.

I hate hypocritical people, and I hate what kind of psychology it is to have complex interpersonal relationships. If you hate hypocritical people and hate particularly complicated things, then you must be a very simple, very simple person. You are tired of the intrigues of the world, and you like to stay there alone and are not willing to get involved in the worldly strife.

It's also possible that you're running away.

I just don't like it! But you have to stay in that kind of interpersonal environment, because there must be some mutually beneficial things, so you also learn to protect yourself in it, and to identify their hypocritical faces, and some complex people, after all, the society is so big, what kind of people exist, as long as your existence affects him, then he will definitely take action against you, so you have to be especially careful to survive in that kind of environment, after all, this world is the survival of the fittest, and the weak are eliminated.

In fact, this kind of psychology is very normal, because no one wants that kind of very complicated interpersonal relationship, everyone wants that kind of simple friends, and that kind of hypocritical people, no one likes them at all, so it is simply what everyone hates, this kind of psychology is also very normal, in my impression, no one likes that kind of hypocritical people, and everyone wants to stay away from these people.

This is normal, it couldn't be more normal. Because everyone doesn't like hypocritical people, make friends, if you make hypocritical people, what do you think it would be like. Go to pieces?

Not really. But at least it's uncomfortable, you treat him sincerely, but he does everything like you. What do you think it feels like?

You made friends with your heart, gave everything, but you got nothing! Surely there is also an imbalance in the heart!

Deal with these people with the same hypocrisy, these people are used to this way of dealing and can only do it.

It is indispensable to guard against others, and only to those who are good to me and sincere to me. Others are hypocritical to me, I naturally treat him the same, there is no need to waste time and feelings for people who don't care, just let it be, but the other party is a person I know.

Here are some examples:

1. People in the world must make friends, and they must not make deep friendships.

2. It is difficult to draw the skin and bones of the bird, and it is difficult to draw the bones, and you know the face but not the heart.

3, turning over the hands for the clouds and covering the hands of the rain, they are light and thin, so why count.

Use hypocrisy to change behavior. When hypocrisy reaches its maximum, most people opt for direct methods to reduce cognitive dissonance and change behavior. When hypocrisy is not maximized, most people choose indirect methods to reduce cognitive dissonance and thus change behavior.

When cognitive dissonance causes people to feel hypocritical, behavior changes for the better. Researchers (Aronson, Fried &Stone, 1991) speculate that under these conditions, individuals with a sense of hypocrisy experience strong cognitive dissonance.

And this sense of hypocrisy is so strong that indirect methods (such as distracting oneself, or raising one's self-perception through imagination, or engaging in other positive behaviors that are praised) do not reduce the individual's sense of dissonance. Cognitive dissonance can only be reduced by using direct methods to eliminate the contradiction between what is said and what is done.

Using cognitive dissonance to trigger a sense of hypocrisy can indeed be effective in changing people's behavior, which can lead to better health and safety. However, in order to maximize the effects of cognitive dissonance, the following must be achieved: the person must publicly support the behavior he or she approves of (e.g., wearing a seat belt), then they must be induced to think about the reasons for not doing so in the past, and finally there must be a direct way to reduce the cognitive dissonance.

When these conditions are met, there is bound to be a favorable change in behavior.

Cognitive dissonance induced by false feelings (inducing an individual to openly approve of certain attitudes or behaviors and then reminding them that they have not been doing what they say they have been doing all along) is a powerful tool for making beneficial changes in behavior.

1. They'll like to say I knew it was so.

It's pure afterthought, he doesn't say a word beforehand, he says afterwards, I know that's the case. At first glance, it makes people think that he is very smart, and there will be no embarrassment when he makes a mistake. But if you don't state your prediction in advance, you will be very ignorant if you say it at the end.

If he says too much of this, it will actually be easier for people to figure out what he is about. 2. Too much vanity and the habit of belittling others.

Everyone has a vanity, and if a person's vanity is too heavy, it will backfire and damage their dignity. In psychology, vanity is a manifestation of protecting one's self-esteem by using false phrases, and psychologists believe that it is a manifestation of excessive self-esteem, which will make a person talk nonsense. Generally, such people will say something false and hypocritical for the sake of so-called self-esteem.

In the interaction between people, what we are most afraid of encountering is this kind of person who is different from each other. He is always smiling and polite to you when you meet him. So you treat him like a good friend, but you don't know that as soon as you turn away, he changes face.

The best characteristic of this type of person is that he is polite to everyone, but if you contact him for a long time, you will find that he will say bad things about anyone who is not around him. This kind of two-faced person generally has the idea of following the trend. They are willing to be polite to you, because you are still useful to them now.

You must grasp the scale and don't deal with this kind of person.

Generally speaking, don't provoke such people. There is no need to pay too much attention to what hypocrites do. Because it is not at all clear which side of the hypocrite is true and which side is fake.

If you get along with hypocritical people, you must remember that you must never mention the rights and wrongs of the company, and if it is brought up by hypocritical people, just laugh. If you really can't help it, make excuses to avoid it. At this time, if he is quick to speak for a while, he will be in unnecessary trouble one day.

There is no need. As for the salary, these are also very private things, it doesn't matter if you want to say it or not, and it doesn't matter if it's true or not. Just do your part and get your fair share of salary. If you are more serious about this matter, you feel that people don't treat you as a friend, you can't get along with yourself.

Hehe. There are a lot of people like this. It's better to have less contact. Such people. Maybe you won't be able to make any real friends.

But that's also her personal way of survival.

Deal less with this kind of person, and dig out your heart and lungs less with her. lest you be sold and still count the money.

Ha! Make some friends worth making!

Why do such people exist? Because people are selfish, their thoughts are to protect their own interests and survive! They're just shouting that they're good at disguising themselves!

Now the competition is so fierce, so don't make yourself unhappy because of things in the outside world, no matter how good they are, use them as a reference to do better! Know yourself properly! But you can't be too hypocritical, and you can't be more heart-to-heart!

There will be karma in dealing with people and things! If it's all hypocrisy, then life is too boring, be kind to yourself and be kind to others!