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Let's go. If you don't want to leave, the following.
1. Dress yourself more beautifully than usual, and show a confident and pleasant mood in front of your husband anytime and anywhere, preferably in the absence of any communication with him, inexplicably.
2. Find your husband who doesn't know friends, or you get a mobile phone card yourself, and send some text messages to your own mobile phone with proper content but ambiguous content, to be looming, when your husband is next to you, when you pretend to read text messages, occasionally smile happily. And give her a chance to peek at the text messages, don't let him take the phone from your hand in front of you, and if he wants to force it, skillfully refuse.
3. When your husband is at home, find a few friends who are not familiar with your husband, or find a club with ducks, sing k until late, if he hits you, you have to communicate with a male friend who sings k, or duck has a proper communication and implicit ambiguity, to ensure that your husband can hear, if he doesn't call you, you pretend to accidentally press the wrong dial button, call your husband, and then pretend not to know to repeat the communication with the man, and hang up in a "panic" halfway through the exchange.
4. When a male colleague or male friend calls ** to find you, try to let your husband know, or you pick up ** when he is next to you.
In a word, skillfully make him jealous when he can't grasp the handle, which requires you to have a good grasp of the scale, but depending on the level of divorce you can easily do, it is estimated that you can't do it.
Leave or endure, choose 1 out of 2.
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I think you're thinking too much. Maybe you are too idle, you should find your own circle and your friends to pass the time together. Although the seven-year itch is said, don't be too superstitious.
So many people in the world have lived a long and harmonious life, so how do people live the seven-year itch? No matter how many years it is, it is also very dangerous to talk about divorce all day long, if you really don't want to do it, try it separately for a while, it's better than talking about divorce all day long, it will give the other party the illusion that the divorce is always threatening me, if you talk too much, he will think, do you really think that I can't do without you and dare not divorce you? I think that if you can, you don't have your own circle for the time being, you can go drinking and singing with your husband.
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In fact, I think every couple can face this kind of problem, and I have been through this period as well. Ask yourself what it is, and if you still want to be together, don't talk about divorce. Give each other a little space, don't urge him every day, focus on yourself and your children, let yourself be full and excellent, he will notice your changes, don't expect yourself to change and let men change, impossible.
He has changed, he has become better, he no longer relies on him, he has a sense of crisis, if you don't look for him, he will come to you! That's how I handled it! Women are sensible, men are sensual!
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Psychological effect, on the other hand, if he mentions divorce too many times, you will definitely not be able to stand it, right? You have children, you don't have to get divorced, either you choose to wait as before, or you just take a night to drink and sing with him to see what the situation is, otherwise you will play by yourself, and everyone needs to be free after marriage. If you think about how many times a month he plays like this, it is often you take your son out and say that your son also wants his father to accompany him at night, otherwise it will not be good for your son to grow up and "sing every night" like him when he grows up.
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No matter what happens, don't mention divorce, because men are the most annoying to say divorce, after all, no one is perfect, don't care too much about these small problems, the more you take these, the more you think his problems are very serious, my husband and your husband's situation is similar, but he rarely goes out at night, and never more than 11 o'clock. Sometimes it's normal for men to socialize outside, and if others don't leave, it's a bit bad for you to go first, so be more understanding.
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Whether it's 7 years or not is not necessarily, let alone important.
But there are really many hurdles in the relationship between husband and wife, and what is needed is to be calm, and then calm.
In addition to various practical problems, the most important thing to overcome is to overcome "boredom", and the tool that needs to be used is "tolerance".
Marriage is nothing more than love, sex, and responsibility. The way husband and wife get along with each other and the way of social relations and friends are no different, tolerance, understanding, and communication. You need to reflect on your own problems, you need to find the root cause and solve it, and a marriage that solves the root cause problem is stable.
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It's really hard to say, but I think I really can't accept such a husband, but if you love him, I think you have to learn to be tolerant, find a time to talk to him, if he loves you, I believe he will listen to you, a wife is always more important than a friend.
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Since you think your husband is very good to you, why can't you tolerate him? No one is perfect, a person can't satisfy you in all aspects, since seven years have come slowly, why not continue to live it. Maybe one day your husband will change.
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Trust between husband and wife occupies the main position, don't be too suspicious, don't talk about divorce, I have been in love with my husband for 7 years, married for 2 and a half years, and now pregnant with a baby, I think I am still quite happy, men are under more pressure, let's understand more.
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Monogamy is the best when you are old, as long as the feelings are there, there is nothing itchy or not itchy, cherish it.
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Dear, don't try to change him, you should learn to accept his shortcomings, if he goes out to play again, let him bring you with him, everyone plays together so that there are more opportunities for contact and common interests.
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You must be calm, you can't always use the word divorce to scare each other, you should understand each other, pro, it's not easy for two people to live together, you must think twice.
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There will be such and such problems with anyone. Don't guess blindly, 10,000 guesses can't resist a fact, communicate more, trust more, and want to open a point. Don't let yourself get into this psychological circle, only you are the one who suffers.
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I've only been married for more than two years, and I can't imagine what we'll be like in seven years, but I told myself that I had to be financially independent, and that I didn't rely on my husband completely, so that he knew that I would live a chic life without him.
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No, it's not easy to be together, you have to cherish each other.
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My husband is the same, I don't know what men are doing outside? This society is so unreliable.
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Think about it and choose your own lifestyle, but it's still better than the original match.
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Maybe you're thinking too much. Live well.
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He went out to play. You let him take you.
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Could your husband be someone else?
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Then you can redeem it and see if you can go on.
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Men must be governed and controlled.
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I'm sure everyone has heard of the seven-year itch, and if a couple can safely get through the seven-year itch, it means that the couple has a certain emotional foundation. However, the 7-year itch is not a solution that can be solved by divorce. Because after the divorce, there will be a lot of problems, such as:
The child's problem. And not all couples who experience the 7-year itch will get divorced. Marriage needs to be run jointly between husband and wife, and you should not divorce as soon as you encounter problems.
How to survive the 7-year itch?
As long as two people work hard to maintain this marriage, I believe that it is not a big problem to get through the 7-year itch. The reason why there is a 7-year itch is because couples will have a lot of pressure and encounter various problems in the process of living for a long time. It's not as simple as when you fall in love, and there are still a lot of things involved after getting married.
If a husband and wife want to maintain this relationship, they must learn to communicate when they encounter problems in the course of life. <>
Timely communication can solve the problem, do not blindly quarrel, quarrel will not solve the problem, but will increase the severity of the problem, leading to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. Also, husbands and wives should understand each other. Both of them will have their own difficulties, don't be too selfish, only think about yourself.
Two people are supposed to run in with each other, and only when they run in with each other will the relationship get better and better. Also, when you encounter a problem, you must learn to consider the problem from the other person's point of view, and empathy is very important. Empathy can avoid a lot of unnecessary arguments.
Then, it will be prosaic and unremarkable for couples to live together for a long time, without surprises and romance. Therefore, it is necessary to create some surprises and small romances for each other. <>
For example, you can create some small romance for each other on a special day or birthday, so that the other party can feel your heart and love.
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Divorce can't be solved, after the divorce, I will definitely choose to marry other people, and there will still be two people who will have a 7-year itch to find the problem and then solve the problem. Because no matter who you get along with, you will have a seven-year itch, so you can't escape it.
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It can't be solved, because if two people get divorced, they will no longer have anything to do with each other, and if you don't change your temper, there will be another 7-year itch in the future.
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Yes. Because after the divorce, you can end the seven-year itch, and you will no longer be bothered by the seven-year itch.
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It's not like this, but it should be through the efforts of two people to be able to solve this problem, and it should be persistent, even after the divorce, the relationship between the two people will not change in any way.
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Yes, it can be solved. Already divorced, there is no need to live together, so you don't have to tolerate each other.
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It can have seven years, which shows that there is an emotional foundation between husband and wife, and there are many commonalities, but itching is not incurable, it is definitely not right to use this as a reason for divorce, it should not be, divorce is just a choice for the relationship, it is not a solution to the problem, it cannot solve the problem that you will not manage the marriage, and it will also bring more eternal problems after divorce, children, complex relationships after remarriage, may be more difficult and complicated than solving the current marriage problems, there is no happiness for nothing, Marriage is a painstaking management, no one is an exception, if you are in this situation now, I suggest that you may as well give yourself a period of time to try to improve the relationship between husband and wife, is not to consider divorce, it will definitely not be worse than now.
Give some advice, I hope it will help you.
The first is communication, as usual communication remember to complain, criticize, blame and despise, this is very hurtful, communication remember to communicate according to their own ideas, it must be both sides, consider the other party's situation, whether the other party is in the mood, whether there is time, if you just want to talk, you have to talk, the other party is not in the mood, don't be angry, communicate with emotions, that is a one-man show.
There will be no benign interaction, in the end it will definitely be ineffective communication, listen to each other's voices more, don't communicate all the time, let the other party say more, you can know what they think, prescribe the right medicine, start with gentleness, and end with compromise: only describe the facts, do not make evaluations or judgments, clearly express your own views, don't go around in circles, try to be polite and sensitive, don't be silent, don't speak and don't respond, find more common ground between two people, what is our common point of view on one thing? What are the common feelings?
What are we all in favor of, and then talk about the differences, there is no zero game between husband and wife, but it is definitely not a competitor, there is no need to fight for the merits, who wins and who loses, how many marriages are in the process of arguing about right and wrong, and gradually wear out happiness, this is to see whether you want to be right or wrong or happy, to enhance feelings, improve the relationship between husband and wife, there must be a lot of problems that need to be solved, after all, it has been seven years, and I don't know what the specific situation of the faction is about you. Let's talk about this first, if you do have a problem, you can learn more about it.
I think so, because the little things in life can wear out the patience and love of two people in seven years, and make the relationship vulnerable.
Three years of pain, seven years of itching.
It may be the so-called 7-year itch, and couples are particularly prone to quarrels when they have been married for 7 years. Mainly because the novelty has passed, and then the two of them are for firewood, rice, oil and salt every day, and there will not be a lot of wind and snow.
As long as there is affection between two people, the so-called seven-year itch is just a saying, if there is a crack in the relationship between two people, let alone seven years, three years may not be able to pass. In life, we must learn to maintain our feelings, always keep us fresh about this feeling, learn to face some contradictions in life, and don't let the contradictions accumulate all the time. >>>More
Because if two people get along for 7 years, two people will know each other's strengths and weaknesses in life, and they will also know some of each other's shortcomings, if they can't accept it, two people may separate, and if there is a good tolerance, they may be together, so the 7-year itch is really important.