How should a marriage be managed, and what are the good secrets?

I think the most important thing is to trust each other and respect each other.

The secret of our marriage and love.

Among many single friends, except for some of them who have delayed lifelong events because of work and career, there are also many people who don't know what kind of relationship and what kind of person is suitable for them. Many people have never seen what a very harmonious marriage is like, nor have they experienced what a truly close relationship is like. Whenever I think about "what a truly intimate relationship looks like" or "what kind of relationship do I want most", I feel a little overwhelmed.

Due to the lack of a blueprint and a role model, I was confused in my relationship, made a lot of wrong choices, and experienced a lot of setbacks because of this.

When it comes to the daily relationship between lovers, many people's subconscious reaction is how warm and romantic the two parties are, accompanied by all kinds of sweet and small details. But this is only on the surface, and the relatively simple show of affection does not intuitively reflect the state that lovers should have. Here are 13 tips for your useful reference ---

1. Your partner is your best friend;

2. You can talk, not because you want to be in love, but because you want to be together, you want to be together;

3. Being with each other can effectively reduce anxiety;

4.Staying in the same room and doing things separately will not feel disturbed or cold;

5. Both parties can be honest about their various habits;

6. The three views are compatible, and when encountering different opinions, they can seek common ground while reserving differences;

7. Mutual appreciation, common learning and progress, mutual respect;

8. There is space, there is secret, but there is no deception, honesty at this moment;

9. There is no violence;

10. Important matters must be decided after discussion between the two parties;

11. Will not bring any "shackles" to the other party, and will not carry out "emotional kidnapping";

12. Respect each other's parents and friends;

13. Have your own independent circle.

Summary: Equality with each other, mutual admiration, mutual respect, mutual gratitude. This is the state that lovers should have; Both parties appreciate each other, love each other, respect each other, and are grateful to be able to have each other and work together to overcome difficulties, which is what a beautiful and healthy love should look like.

Patience and tolerance! Marriage is brought together by people from two different families, with different living habits, eating habits, and temperaments, so we must tolerate each other in order to last a long time!

Mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and respect for each other.

1: Make men feel needed.

Every man wants to be adored by a woman, and they all want to be a superhero in a woman's heart. Therefore, learn to rely on men moderately, so that men can feel needed, and also let men find a sense of existence. You have to let the man know that you can't live without him, and that you will miss him especially without him.

But you have to know that the world will not turn around because of who left it. Women can rely on men, but they are still wonderful without men.

2: When you encounter problems, you should communicate and complain less.

Many unhappy marriages are not going to communicate, burying too many things in their hearts, when too many contradictions accumulate for a long time, and if they can't communicate in time, resentment will erupt. Even if the couple has a good emotional foundation, the lack of communication in case of trouble will affect the relationship between husband and wife. Husbands and wives get along with each other, often go to each other, understand each other better, and the relationship will be more satisfying.

3: Grow together spiritually.

Material poverty is acceptable to most people, and when two people are unable to come together spiritually and progress together, it will make the marriage feel very tired. Spiritual progress can bring the heart together, and only when the spiritual world of two people is fused together can love be more wonderful. When you make your spiritual world intellectual and rich, the other party will feel that you are like a treasure waiting to be discovered.

Spiritual integration is the closest secret to happiness.

4: Be more with each other.

Husbands and wives should put aside those unnecessary socializing, go home early after work, and spend time with each other. Men should spend more time with women in this regard, women need to be accompanied. A woman who is alone at home is lonely, and a woman who is alone at home will be frightened by men.

If you can do it, no matter how tired you are, you must listen to the other person's thoughts when you go home. How can such a marriage not be happy?

As the saying goes: Every household has a scripture that is difficult to read. Even if a couple loves each other again, there will be problems in married life of one kind or another. This is like a big truth that "gold has no feet, and people are not sages".

But why do some couples quarrel all their lives, but they never give up? Since married life is a must to operate! Women, in particular, must learn how to manage marriages.

Despite the equality of all people in this social development, women are still at a disadvantage. If a man is married, he still has his own social circle and work, and if he is divorced, he can have enough work ability to grow himself and organize another home at will.

After a woman gets married, she usually shifts the focus of food, clothing, housing and transportation to her home and children, and slowly loses her own interpersonal and social circle. Marriage management is a university question, which varies from person to person, and there is no unified standard. But there are a few areas in which the vast majority of people are able to emulate.

1. Complain less and be more tolerant.

What should I do if my marriage is not good? The same is true for food, clothing, shelter, and transportation, and it is also true for husbands. If you accommodate him, he will feel your goodness; You give them indoor space, and he will give you a lot of gratitude in return. What are the new ideas for managing marriage? How to run a marriage?

Second, have a certain ability to work on economic development.

A large part of the neglect of women by men is due to the fact that women have to rely on men to make offerings. If women also have a certain ability to work economically and can be self-reliant, many problems can be prevented.

3. Be a beautiful woman with style.

You must maintain your beauty in order to win a man's heart, so that he will always love you more and more, and of course your married life will be long-lasting!

Four. If your partner provokes you, treat him as a child.

It may sound like a big deal to you, but you'll find the other side "likable". The next time, when the old gentleman is messy at home and plays games on his mobile phone, it is not easy to feel that he is so hateful if he imagines that he can only be five years old, and not a middle-aged fat guy who has not yet thrown out the garbage, washed the dishes, and dried clothes.

When Mrs. didn't close the door casually, or bought a new set of expensive pots and shoes, no matter whether she spent your money or not, at what moment imagined her as a five-year-old girl, you can feel "she is happy".

5. When giving a gift to another party, you don't have to buy items that "everyone can use together" or "have bad intentions".

How to run a marriage? Usually the old gentleman buys a dishwasher and an electric oven, and the lady may be happy to put it away, but if it is a birthday gift or a holiday client, the lady may not appreciate it. Just like Mrs. giving the old gentleman a vacuum cleaner (the purpose is to let him suck more ground), it is not as good as giving him his favorite camera and arcade game console to warm his heart, because your gift expresses "I like you, but more importantly, I understand you!"

It is indeed not easy for an elderly couple to please the other party, but it is also because they have been away hand in hand for so long that they should be the most diligent.

Bringing the mind closer.

And some people may not be able to stand such a gap change after marriage, but these are not the fundamental problems of contradictions, the key point is whether the thoughts between two people can be compatible.

For example, my student, she said that her husband's daily topic is investment and KPI, and her life is only today's food discount, and her children are disobedient at school. I have less and less to talk to my husband, I say hello to and from work every day, and the good husband and wife become colleagues, and there is no emotional exchange.

The reason why the two people have come to this point is because the gap in the minds of the two sides has changed.

There is not much difference between the thinking of the two people at the beginning, when love becomes marriage, there are a lot of trivial things, and the two face different directions of life, men are busy with careers, women are busy with families, and over time there is a situation where the withered breeders talk about the same duck.

For men, their hearts are very eager to have a very chatty person, they may hope that their women are stronger than themselves, this strength refers to your inner cultivation, not that men go home late, so they desperately ask what they are doing, why do they go home so late, is it fooling around again.

So how did I teach the student above?

I gave her a suggestion that both sides can maintain a state of mutual progress.

At the beginning, you can get married, which means that there is not much gap between your thoughts, but later, in order to give you a better life, the man has been busy with his career, and the trivial things of life will naturally fall on your head.

In the spare time of taking care of the family, you can make time to improve your studies, even if you can't catch up with him in a short time, but you must understand and understand his life.

2.Be tolerant of each other's differences.

Many people have a misunderstanding about the disagreement of the three views, thinking that this person is different from me, we are not suitable, and we cannot develop a relationship for a long time.

But have you ever thought about the question, your parents, they have the same three views as yours? But you still lived together for many years.

Home is a place to say love, and home can accommodate our differences.

The management of marriage is also constantly running in to accept the differences in each other. It's not that you want to grind two people from the Heng clan into one person, this marriage is not a synthesis prop in the game.

In fact, the difference between men and women is doomed from the beginning, the difference in thinking between men and women, men are rational and think about things to pursue results, women are sensual, and prefer to be romantic.

In the trivial life of Sun Dongri, the differences between the two people will slowly appear, and you may feel that he is not the same as at the beginning.

For example, your partner is an avoidant personality who will avoid facing problems when they arise, but in his heart he just wants you to understand him and give him time to digest his emotions.

In the face of such a partner, you don't have to ask him tightly when there is a problem, and you can understand him