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Marriage is firewood, rice, oil, salt, laundry and mopping. This is the appearance. Marriage is an ordinary greeting in daily life, a towel handed over when you are sweating, a hidden love, a mutual body drying and lasting support, and a petal after blooming.
A happy marriage is built on mutual appreciation and is a responsibility for life. Only those who have the courage to take on this responsibility will be happy for a long time. Marriage is to be implemented into every bit of life, firewood, rice, oil and salt, trivial and practical.
Think about it for so many years, think about how gray you are, do you remember why he or she was with you? How to handle the relationship between husband and wife! How to avoid a quarrel between husband and wife First of all, reflect on yourself Think about why you are angry, and if a calm exchange of opinions can solve the problem, why bother?
Think about the other person When a fight is about to happen, think about putting yourself in the other person's position. You should think about why the other person is unpleasant? When the flames of war are about to burn out, you might as well retreat and wait for the other party to calm down, and then find out the reasons and exchange opinions, so as to avoid quarrels.
When a quarrel between husband and wife inevitably occurs, it is necessary to take matters into account, and never prove yourself right by exposing each other's secrets, or use this to make each other submit. Otherwise, it will intensify contradictions, deepen differences, and hurt feelings. Don't compare yourself to someone else's husband or wife when you quarrel with each other.
That kind of approach will not solve any problems, but will hurt the self-esteem of the other party. Don't involve relatives Husband and wife quarrels are purely their own household affairs, and do not involve other relatives. Not only will this not be helpful, but it will also make the other person's affection for your relative disappear completely.
Don't be judged by outsiders When husband and wife quarrel with each other, don't say what the other party is wrong in front of outsiders, and don't let outsiders judge who is right and who is wrong. This will make the other party feel that they have lost face and will expand the conflict. Reconcile as soon as possible After a husband and wife quarrel, it is important to reconcile as soon as possible.
After a quarrel, no matter who has a reason, you should take the initiative to apologize to the other party. As the saying goes: a hundred years of repair can be crossed by the same boat, and a thousand years of repair can be slept together, How difficult it is for two people to be together, we must cherish each other!
Happy to you in the end; Sweet feelings, harmonious families, and happy marriages 0
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Marriage is unavoidable, and there are disagreements. Be careful not to quarrel. Wait until both of you are quiet, send a text message, and chat with QQ.
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Husbands and wives must first be honest with each other, and then respect and trust.
When two people communicate together, they must first have a concept; That is, love is your life, no matter what you do, you have to respect him; No matter what you say, you have to be respectful; As long as you can respect each other, as long as you feel that what you say will hurt the other person, then you must not say it casually.
Because in the heart of any person, he cannot bear the disrespect of others. In the process of communication, what I want to say, what I want to express, I must express my meaning clearly, only after the expression is clear, I will not misunderstand what you said just now, so as not to misunderstand what you said.
If the meaning of what you say is not clear, then in the other person's heart, it is natural that there may be misunderstandings about you because of what you say, resulting in contradictions.
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1. Share life materials.
We can start with life, for example, if you watched a movie today, summarize a few good points and share them with each other. Or if you encounter a few challenges in your work today, you can also talk about them as a topic. At the end of the day, it's about absorbing new things and sharing them when communicating.
Keep injecting new material into the relationship, and the new books, movies, or insights you have at work can be converted into new content to communicate with the partner. The point is still to have the awareness of constantly accumulating and sharing, bringing new things to the relationship.
2. The ** of a certain thing itself.
The first type is news events, such as the two sides, both the confrontation of values, and the process of achieving harmony and unity. The second type is things between friends, such as so-and-so divorced, you can talk about opinions. The third category is the perception of movies and books.
3. Look forward to the future together.
Let's talk about future plans together, understand each other's needs, see if there are more things we want to do together, learn to paint together, go shopping together, climb mountains together, etc., and enhance each other's sense of participation.
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1. Get along honestly Love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony between the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, it is more pleasing for husbands and wives to be honest with each other, to respect and love each other, and to take care of each other than to give gifts.
2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts. Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity.
3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits. Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long.
Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel. An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment.
4. Learn to be patient Husbands and wives must learn to be patient, Chekov said: "The most important thing in married life is patience." "When the other person loses his temper or sends a provocative signal, it is best to take a patient and avoid way, or put yourself in the position of understanding the cause to help relief, rather than being influenced by the other person's emotions and putting yourself in a bad emotional state.
5. Take the initiative to undertake housework After getting married, there are major matters that need to be negotiated together, but more often are the daily chores of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the joint sharing of housework, and taking the initiative to undertake a part of the housework is a concrete manifestation of the husband's love for his wife and the wife's consideration for her husband. If you need the other person's help, it's best to replace the commanding "you do it" with a friendly "help".
6. Influence the other party Use your own warmth to make the other party get probation. For example, on a rainy day, the husband takes the initiative to take an umbrella to meet his wife at the station; The husband reads or writes at night under the lamp, and the wife quietly brings a cup of hot tea and hot milk. This kind of practice of enhancing feelings often makes the other party resentful.
Husbands and wives complain more and communicate less, which means that the relationship will definitely deteriorate, and what could have been done hand in hand has become a drag on each other.
There is no communication and communication between husband and wife, but they will not have any conflicts and quarrels in this marriage, and everyone wants to have a stable life. So it can go on.
I think that if you really love each other, there is no barrier, it is enough to have a common language and preferences, education is not a problem, you can improve each other, it is not enough to become an obstacle between husband and wife.
Look for a common language and a common topic between you, so that there is no sense of distance and strangeness between you.
It's all counted, it's love at the beginning, and it's all there.