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In the face of this problem, we need to know that you are you, a single subject, you have your own life and the right to make your own decisions, don't care about other people's opinions and visions, just do what you should do.
You have to know that there is not only no exactly the same flower in this world, but also impossible to have exactly the same two people, which means that no matter how good you do, even if you meet one person's standard, you can't meet other people's standards, because everyone has their own standards for doing things, and people have different thoughts, so even if you reach the standards of most people, it is impossible to achieve everyone's standards, no matter how hard you try, not everyone will be satisfied. Instead of trying to change yourself to the standard that others want, it is better to stick to your own standards and make yourself the best you can be, why force yourself so much to become what you don't like? We live for ourselves, and even our parents want us to be happy with ourselves.
You also have to know that all secular standards are formulated by people, and the formulation of this standard does not mean that this standard must be 100% correct, but only represents that most people think that this view is correct, so even the secular standard that everyone agrees on is not recognized by everyone, and of course it is not 100% correct. What's more, with the development of society and the progress of culture, many opinions are also changing from time to moment, so as long as we follow our hearts and do not do things that violate ethics and morals.
You must know that you only need to be responsible for your own life, because only your own life needs you to bear the consequences, and other people's words or opinions cannot change your life, so even if they say or put forward any opinions, you have the right to choose to accept or not hear. Your life is your own, and no matter how much others say, you can't change your own decisions, so as long as you think it's right, do what you have to do, and follow what you should follow.
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Finding yourself being both yourself.
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First of all, you must have the strength and be able to grasp your own life trajectory, so that you can not be constrained by the worldliness of society and be able to truly live yourself.
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I think that no matter what you do, you must stick to your original intention, and only by being your true self can you be truly happy and make life more exciting.
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I think that no matter what problems and things we encounter, we all need to keep ourselves, maintain our original intention, and don't forget that our hearts are kind so that we can not be bound by the world.
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We must adhere to our own ideals, do not be swayed by others, do what we think is right, and do not be bound by the world.
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I think we need to have a heart full of wisdom to reject those distractions and common sayings, but also to strengthen our beliefs and strengthen our self-confidence.
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People can love money, and people can also have values that everyone has, but they must be themselves, they must read more, and they must have their own ideas.
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We live in a complex interpersonal society, so our words and actions are conditioned and constrained by others. Around it, there are countless secular standards such as "must" and "should". So we are bound by it, and we become completely a person who is subject to external factors.
Think of the great and the successful, most of whom are inherently rebellious and have the courage to challenge reality and self. Psychologists believe that each of us should dare to say "no" to most of the "shoulds" and "musts" around usIn this way, you can have a life that is truly full of yourself.
Each of us lives in a social group, and we tend to take many things for granted and act according to the "rules" without thinking. You may not agree with these rules and guidelines, but at the same time you can't get rid of them.
But nothing is absolute. No rule or law can guarantee that it will work in every situation or achieve the best results. In contrast, the principle of case-by-case analysis should be the norm by which we live and act.
However, you may find it difficult, if not impossible, to break a rule that doesn't apply or break a ridiculous tradition. Adapting to social trends can sometimes be a means of survival, but if it goes to extremes, it can be unacceptable. Of course, we can't arbitrarily go against the law or the rules.
Public order is an important part of a civilized society, and the law is indispensable for the maintenance of a civilized society. However, this is not the same as following the rules on a blind day. For individuals, blind obedience can be more harmful than disobedience.
Some of the rules are absurd, and some of the traditional practices are often meaningless. In this case, you can't really live if you blindly follow the rules. Therefore, we should re-examine the various regulations and re-examine our own behavior.
If a rule or rule hinders people's mental health and prevents them from living a life of exhaustion, it is not healthy. If you know that this rule is negative and annoying, and you keep following it, then you are giving up the freedom of your own choice and allowing outside factors to control you. There are two types of people in life, namely the external control type and the internal control type.
We must be people who are in control. Take control of your life and your choices.
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If you want to live your true self, you should have a strong heart, and when your heart is strong enough to overcome all criticism, enough to ignore all worldly constraints, you will also become a very chic and comfortable person.
In our ordinary life, most of us have to be constrained by worldly ideas, and there are few people who really live their own lives. However, they can't be blamed for this, because humans are social animals and have the most basic social needs to communicate with other people. It is impossible for any person to exist independently of the social group.
Therefore, ordinary people cannot get rid of the world's constraints, and those who can get rid of the world's constraints are those who are very strong in their hearts and can bravely resist all the dissent of the world. Such a person is definitely a very powerful person, and he will never be an ordinary person.
And if you want to have a strong heart, you should read more books. Books are the most direct and effective way for human beings to acquire experience and knowledge. If you can read more books, your wisdom will become incomparably higher, you will know more things, your heart will become more peaceful, and you will naturally have incomparably more power.
Or, you can choose to experience more things. The more things we experience, the more mature we become, and the more we understand that all the constraints of the world are nothing more than an imposed kidnapping. We don't have to live up to our own hearts in order to cater to other people's preferences.
In fact, when you want to get rid of the constraints of time, you have already begun to take the first step. As long as you can be firm in your heart and not waver for other things, you can achieve your wishes.
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If you want to live a wonderful life, live differently from others, not be bound by the world, and live your true self, you must have the determination to change the current situation.
First of all, we should continue to enrich our own content through books. Everyone is born with roughly the same education, starting with kindergarten, then from elementary school, middle school, high school, to university and beyond. If you want to be different, it is enough to not only master the knowledge that you need to learn in the exam.
Nowadays, many parents have also realized this, and have begun to sign up their children for various specialty classes, and there are countless paintings, dances, taekwondo. However, many people have walked into a misunderstanding, not children who follow the trend and educate must be special. A brain filled with no knowledge is like holding a paintbrush without imagination and listening to ** and not knowing how to dance.
Blindly following the herd is not necessarily good. Be sure to accumulate the amount of reading, even if we have simply read it once, it doesn't matter if we don't even remember a word, the content of the book will subtly affect a person's life.
Second, we must be clear about our ideals and put ourselves in a correct position. No matter what you want to do in the future, there will always be a goal. Where there's a will, there's a way, isn't it?
If you want to control your own life, you must have a long-term vision, be able to recognize the gap between your ideals and reality, and continue to work hard to narrow this distance.
Thirdly, we must recognize our own shortcomings and improve them. Everyone has their own shortcomings, and some people recognize them but choose to ignore them. This will only get worse. When you encounter problems with yourself, you must learn to self-criticize, constantly improve yourself, and get rid of bad habits step by step.
As a woman, she belongs to the disadvantaged group in society. In fact, we don't want to be seen as weak. To make yourself strong, you need to be self-respecting, self-reliant, and self-reliant.
In this way, we can not be constrained by the world and live a wonderful life.
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I am now a college student, I watched a show hosted by Sa Beining before, there is a couple or husband and wife, they live in a mountain, the daily necessities and houses around them, and the meals they eat are all made by themselves, not bought from outside, their thoughts at that time are to be separated from the world, that is, they don't use the things in the world, everything is made by themselves, not only economical and durable, but also green and healthy, no harm to the body. At that time, everyone was against it, but they insisted on doing it themselves, and in the end they succeeded, but I don't think this is a complete detachment from the world, why do you say that, because I think that since you live in this world, you can't be separated from the world, although they still seem to be out of the world, however, it is precisely because of this show that they are on stage, there will still be many reporters to ask them all kinds of questions, in general, that is, No matter where you live in this world, you can't completely get out of the world, I know that the person who asks this question may not be very satisfied with the current life, and feel that he wants to leave this kind of day struggle for money, I think you may be able to learn from this couple, they are still doing better, but first you have to have enough hands-on ability, after all, everything has to be done by yourself, and you have to grow your own vegetables to support yourself, if you can't do it, you still have to deal with money, In other words, at the end of the day, you still have to work, and we live in a time when we are a secular place, how can we exist completely apart from it? Thanks for asking.
I think finding something to do, such as keeping yourself busy at work, or going out for a walk, can alleviate this emotion.
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