How to strengthen your heart and not be swayed by other people s words?

I am me, a unique self, my friend called me before, it was obvious that he was drunk, he told me in ** that it was difficult to be alone in Shanghai, it took him five years to save less than 80,000 yuan, he couldn't afford to buy a house, and he couldn't give his girlfriend's favorite gift, in Shanghai, he had no friends, but he was especially envious of his boss, who could drive to work and live in a big house, and when his friends needed help, he would not hesitate to take out the money, so the boss had a lot of friends around.

He was disappointed in his life, no matter how hard he tried, he couldn't afford a house in Shanghai, and still had to squeeze buses and subways every dayIt is true that we always envy other people's lives, envy other people's children for having a privileged family of parents, able to eat snacks and play with expensive toys, I have always thought that it would be nice if I had such parents, when I went to college, I envied those classmates who looked better than me with many awards, and I kept thinking that if I were like him, my life would be perfect.

After work, I began to envy other colleaguesThe colleague is a local and does not have to live in the house by bus, and if the work is not pleasant, he can change it at willSince I was a child, I have always been striving for perfection, I even want to be the Yang Zi in everyone's hearts, but we just don't want to be like us, we envy everyone, but we never love ourselves, we choose to forget ourselves, why can't we care about ourselves and accept ourselves, I often hear people complain about how bad their lives are.

This kind of life is not the life he wants, sometimes we need to calm down and think seriously about our life, life is not as painful as you think。It's not that you don't try hard enough, it's that you always unconsciously compare what you don't have to others, if other people have a car, I have to have a car, if someone else has a lot of friends, then I have to have a lot of friends too, but do those things really work for you, it seems that some things are not as good as others, you feel like you're being mean, and you're going to feel like you've failed in life. So, don't force yourself to do things you don't like to do, everyone is unique, be yourself and you are the best.

To have strong self-confidence, firmly believe in your own three views, and be confident enough to withstand all the gossip, it is not easy to be swayed.

I think that as long as you don't forget your original intention, you won't be affected by other people's words, as long as you think you're right, then you can stick to it.

First of all, self-confidence is a very important factor, a person with self-confidence will have their own ideas, that is, to be sure that what they are doing is right and they can do it. With this firm belief, no matter how few words others say, they can still be firm in what they believe in.

Be confident in your ideals and goals, don't give up easily, don't care about what others say, and do your own thing.

When we decide to do something, we must stick to it, and when others say irresponsible things, we must not listen to them, and we must encourage ourselves to persevere.

For each of us, in fact, we will have our own different ideasBut we should still be firm in our hearts and not be influenced by other people's words, so that we can make ourselves better and better, and we will not let others see our jokes.

1. Listen to other people's suggestions and stick to your own ideas. For other people's words, it is actually not a bad thing for ourselves, because when we look at a thing, everyone has a different starting point, so listening to other people's advice is also a kind of help to ourselves. However, we should still consider ourselves, after all, these are our own things, and they have nothing to do with others, so we must all follow our own hearts, so that it is a manifestation of our own responsibility.

Because I have experienced similar things in the past, the memories left on me are very deep, and I don't want to think about these things again.

2. Make a detailed plan for yourself. When our hearts are swaying from side to side, we must calm our hearts and make a detailed plan for ourselves, so that we can be more clear about our direction in the process of implementation. Because everyone will have inertia, if we have never seen any hope, then in the process of our implementation, we will gradually lose motivation, and even lose ourselves.

In addition, we also need to constantly motivate ourselves, for example, when we complete a task, we reward ourselves with a "gift", which has nothing to do with preciousness, but makes ourselves more motivated. Because every time I do something, I will have a purpose, and set a goal for myself, so that I can efficiently complete what I need to do, so the effect is very good, and it is worth recommending to everyone.

First of all, you must be autonomous, independent, and have the courage to adhere to the things you decide, and then you must have your own views and opinions, and don't follow the crowd, in order to become a better self.

If you want to be firm in your heart, you must have a precise judgment, think that what you are doing is right and worthwhile, and will not be swayed by other people's words.

Once we have a goal in life, then we must continue to work towards this goal, do not care about other people's words, only in this way can we strive forward.

If you want to strengthen your heart, you must. Ability to assert one's own opinions. Have faith in yourself and don't be disappointed.

Then it is necessary to understand whether people live the most for themselves or to listen to their own opinions and live as they want.

Go your own way and let others do the talking. You have to be assertive, and in your own heart, you have to understand what I should do and what I shouldn't do. As long as you think about it, then you will not be easily swayed by other people's words.

To be an assertive person, my mother encouraged me when I was a child, you have to be a prodigious girl, because I am introverted and shy, and I am embarrassed to be diplomatic with others, unlike my sister who goes to ** to do errands, and she can eat openly. To venture out on my own means to be an assertive person, and I want to do this, I think it is reasonable to do so, and it also represents my heart. To be a man is to know what he does, but also to understand the concept of right and wrong, so that he is an assertive person, he has independent thoughts, knows what is right, what is wrong, in the process of doing things, has the ability to lead decision-making, then he will not be easily swayed by others.

Because I don't have an opinion, I am more hesitant to make decisions when doing things, so it is easy to be swayed by others' words, and it is very important to cultivate children from an early age and be an assertive person.

Maverick, I am in charge of my territory, I like those who do their own thing, some people say that they are special and have some arrogant elements, but we cannot deny that these people belong to mavericks, they have their own independent thoughts, and they also have the ability to make decisions. They never hesitate before the big right and wrong, you let them make a life choice, they have always been resolute, walking, talking, they have settled on this matter, they insist, I am in charge of my territory, and it is not the turn of others to tell me this and that. When will it be someone else's turn to meddle in my business?

It's about being an assertive person, and if you can't afford to let go of your own things, then what else can you do? Life is very long, and casual words from others can make you have an inferiority complex and hit your fragile self-esteem, how can you become a mature person?

As a parent's cultivation of children from an early age, they should let their children dare to speak and do, dare to express their thoughts, and don't let him tie his hands and feet. Such a person can have a firm heart, go his own way, and let others say it, who in this world doesn't talk about others behind their backs, so it doesn't matter.

In your own heart, you must have a certain opinion, and you must also have your own ideas. In this way, you will not be swayed by other people's words.

First of all, don't care about other people's opinions, stick to your dreams, so that you can strengthen your heart.

I think you have to have your own sense of independent judgment, don't rely too much on others, and rely on yourself to give yourself the ability to decide things on your own.

We must constantly hint to ourselves that our own approach is the most correct, and we must be firm in our beliefs.

Then when you change, you must continue to strengthen your original intention, and let the people around you supervise you.