What has grown you since becoming a working mother?

Many stay-at-home mothers often experience an uneven distribution of energy after returning to the workplace, unable to fully devote themselves to work, and are easily involved in work at home, and the final result is physical and mental exhaustion.

Before returning to the workplace, you must be fully psychologically prepared, the company is a place to generate benefits, and will not add privileges because of someone's personal difficulties, you must recognize your own position in the workplace, and remember that in addition to the role of mother, you are first and foremost a professional person, and you must have professionalism.

Work and life are not incompatible, as long as you actively seek solutions, you will be able to become a happy and active working mother, and balance family and work at the same time.

Know that there is more than one way to succeed, and that life is full of surprises;

Knowing that he is still an ordinary person after all, he has to work harder to live a better life.

Re-examining one's career plan, the label of working mom will become the main direction in the future.

A young man like me in a small town, before the age of 30, all the imagination of success is a senior white-collar attitude, going out to sit in two cabins, living in a five-star hotel, talking and laughing to promote tens of millions of large orders, signing a contract to take a group photo in slow motion, going home from work and having a nutritious meal with the family, the elderly are kind, and the children are happy - everything is perfect like a commercial.

However, after giving birth to a baby, it was found that the baby's eating, drinking, lazing and sleeping were the only KPI assessment indicators, and the reference object was not the national ** but the fat son of the neighbor downstairs;

If you can let the baby sleep completely, you will already be a respected winner in life among the mothers who gave birth to babies in the same period;

If the baby can take the first step in his life on the road of learning to walk, the whole family will respond with warm applause, and then post a picture of the nine-square grid event in the circle of friends;

If the child quits diapers in the first half of the year old, it seems that he has the hope of being among the ranks of genius teenagers......

After raising a baby, worldly success seems to be getting farther and farther away from me, but the little things that can be seen everywhere around me make me feel full of accomplishment. The seamless switch between the workplace and the parenting track made me realize that success has never been a fixed form, and the small details of life that we ignore can often bring unexpected surprises. Thanks to my children, I can look at life from a different perspective.

The child is more than two years old, and I have time to face up to my identity when I can take a good breath: I am already a middle-aged person, and the burden on my shoulders has never been heavier. This year's continuous illness and hospitalization of my family seems to be the first big test for my "middle-aged" identity, but fortunately, luck still stood with us in the end.

Although the pockets are empty, the good thing is that the family is still neat, and this is the best result. (For details, see Chen Dake's: Is there anything more painful in life than repeating?)

Through this test, I also realized that the smooth sailing of the past 30 years is actually just the appearance of life, and we are just ordinary people, and our ability to resist risks is actually very poor. In the past, when I made money, I mainly thought about how I wanted to do it, but now, I think about how to thrive my children and how to support the elderly. With only the current income and savings, it is quite difficult to provide a worry-free life for the next four or five decades.

So, you have to work harder!

After adapting to my identity as a working mother, I have actually been thinking about why in many people's minds, the words "workplace" and "mother" are always separated. In fact, many things that have taught me in the workplace have been used by me in the process of raising children:

1. Working mothers have higher emotional intelligence.

The advantages of working mothers are mainly in terms of emotional intelligence: compared with fledgling girls, working mothers have fewer unrealistic illusions, pursue appropriate goals, and have a stronger sense of responsibility; It is easier to show affinity at any time and anywhere in the company, and it will be more attentive and safe.

2. Peace of mind.

Whether it was a sharp-edged and charging sales in the past, or a marketing staff who were exquisite and left and right, after becoming a mother, they will be much calmer.

3. Mature workplace experience.

The increase in the perception of life will make it easier for working mothers to become successful leaders, whether it is compassion for subordinates, learning attitude at the new stage of life or mature life experience, it will make working mothers exude charm everywhere in the management process.

4. The probability of job hopping is relatively small.

Working mothers have stronger responsibilities than women who have not given birth, are more likely to pursue job stability, and are less likely to change jobs.

5. Reduce the cost of training.

Most stay-at-home wives have some work experience before leaving the workforce, and the company reduces the cost of training compared to newcomers. Moreover, the fertility problem of female employees has always been a concern for employers, and working mothers make enterprises have no worries.

After becoming a working mother, I have grown in many ways: first, I am more patient, and I will no longer be impetuous when I encounter difficulties at work; Secondly, having children, a lot of housework, and work, let me learn to seize the time and no longer procrastinate; Third, after becoming a working mother, I became a better listener. All in all, being a working mom has taught me a lot in both life and work.

After becoming a working mother, she gave herself a way to survive. I feel that women should not be completely dependent on themselves, husbands should have their own jobs or careers, and women must be financially independent in order to achieve financial freedom.

I have gained a lot of growth experience after becoming a working mother. First of all, after becoming a mother in the workplace, you must not only plan for your career and work hard for your work, but also feel a great responsibility and happiness as a mother. For the sake of the family, you can do both, not only to show your abilities in the workplace, but also to show your great love in family life.

After becoming a working mother, I feel that I have a greater responsibility for my family, and I have to be strong and work hard to make money, and I also have to educate my children and take care of my family.

I found that my responsibilities to my children and family were becoming more and more important, and I no longer valued my work and didn't care about how much money I earned.

Now we have to be careful to do our best in everything. The work is more serious and meticulous.

After becoming a working mother, I guess I have grown professionally.

Of course, work may not be what you like, but you have to fight for your children.

Implement the "mother post" with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan"It may work in some cases, but the specifics depend on a variety of factors. Here are some factors to consider:

Job demand and market disruption competition: If there is a demand for jobs that pay more than 10,000 yuan a month for women with childcare obligations, and there is not much competition, then such jobs may work. If the market is highly competitive, it may affect the level of wages.

The company's financial ability: In order to pay for a position with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan, the employer needs to have sufficient financial ability. This includes covering the cost of employee wages and related benefits. Whether the company can afford such a cost is an important consideration.

Employee skills and qualifications: Positions with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan usually require employees to have certain skills and qualifications. If a woman experiences a period of career interruption after giving birth, they may need to undergo further training or readjust to the work environment.

It is also necessary for the successful implementation of such a position.

Working hours and flexibility: Offering relatively flexible working hours is part of the "mom job" model, so that women can better balance work and childcare. However, jobs with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan usually require employees to put in more hours and effort, which can cause some pressure on women's family life.

To sum up, the implementation of a monthly salary of more than 10,000 "mother posts.""It may work under certain conditions, but it needs to take into account multiple factors such as job market demand, company financial capabilities, employee skills, and family needs. Appropriate policies and measures to support the development of this employment model are also key.

Most working mothers have this concern. Even for logistical positions such as finance and administration, there are always important days that must not be absent, and at this time, it is often necessary to choose one or the other.

And this person who needs to do multiple-choice questions, most of the time, is still a mother.

When I was looking for a job, I was very inclined to choose those times that were more flexible and free, and it was best to pick up and drop off my children from school, without traveling, and I could ask for leave at any time if I had something at home. If you can, it's better to have a stable job and a high enough salary. I believe that this is also what most working mothers are looking for at work.

But let's ask, how many such jobs are there in today's workplace?

Therefore, even if today's position occasionally requires business trips, the scale is not large, and there is little room for growth, but the time is flexible, and the leader can understand the "mother" label on me, and I will recognize it. After all, most people in the workplace are still "selected by work", not "selected by workers".

Thinking about how I resolutely jumped ship because of the lack of room for growth in a certain position, I feel a little silly.

Like me, after the two babies go to kindergarten care, there can still be the help of the elderly, which is not bad, and more dual-income families have to solve the "trivial" matter of picking up and dropping off from school as a top priority.

When choosing a kindergarten for your baby, you have to take into account the time after school.

Fortunately, it is still a big city, and many kindergartens will provide after-school care services, but most of them are only supervised until 6 o'clock, which means that parents must arrive at the kindergarten before 6 o'clock, and then they have to rush to the kindergarten after work at 5 o'clock.

There is another way, is to let the off-campus care agency help pick it up, I have a friend who attends a public kindergarten, 4 o'clock after school, she found a home in the kindergarten near the infant care agency, after school by the care agency to help pick up, and provide dinner, the child after dinner around 7 o'clock, parents and then pick up. Just for these 3 hours, charge 1400 months.

There are also all kinds of minor illnesses and pains, children's health care, or suddenly come to the whole park to eliminate mosquitoes and leave school early, and the mother has to ask for leave to solve it.

I want to be a leader, and I don't want to promote a middle-aged woman who leaves work on time at 5 o'clock every day, asks for leave from time to time, and doesn't even accept business trips, no matter how good her ability is, this is the case with Chinese workplace culture.

What is the solution to this situation? Either when the child is older, go to primary school to go to off-campus care, you can pick it up at 8 o'clock in the evening; When the child is older, there is less pain and less need to be accompanied, and if the business trip is not too frequent, it is estimated that it can be accepted.

This is still the vision that an ordinary two-child family like mine can look forward to, and if a three-child family is a three-child family, the pressure is even greater, right? I have a relative from a three-child family in Macau, so the pressure of life is relatively small, but my mother can only serve full-time.

Some time ago, the hot search was still saying that young people were running away from the office, if they were voluntary, then middle-aged people were somewhat helpless when they fled from the office.

As mothers, we learn that we not only have to take care of our children, but also work. At work, we reduce our interaction with our children. So, how can we put our career and family side by side and be a mother fit for the job?

After work or vacation, we should spend more time with our children. Don't get too busy with your work. We never make enough money. We picked up the kids at work and chatted with them in the evening to make up for our kids.

The father of the family accompanies the child, not the mother of the family.

Independent of children's growth habits.

We must cultivate children's independent character from an early age and let them learn to manage themselves, which saves a lot of destructive energy.

For special workplaces, BMW must make children aware of the responsibility and love of parents.

For babies engaged in special occupations, such as jingcha and medical care, children should understand the mother's social responsibility and love for the baby, so that the child can experience the baby's hard work and love from the bottom of their hearts.

As working mothers, we should give up some entertainment activities, try to play less with mobile phones after work, etc., and spend more time with your children.

Let the elderly help take care of the children.

If we can't take care of the children alone, we can only ask the elders to take care of the children, but we can't completely ignore that. We can bring our children home on the weekends to nurture our feelings.

<> today's society, women have to assume the role of the family, but also fight in the workplace like men, the challenge can be imagined, it is not so easy to be a qualified working mother! What does it take to become a qualified working mother?

First of all, mothers manage their own emotions, do you often encounter mothers who are emotionally out of control in public, mothers cry and cry, a mess, and as a mother in the workplace, you have to bear the burden from the family. Body. pressure, and to bear the pressure of work, sometimes it is inevitable to get out of control!

But have you ever found that when your out-of-control emotions rush out, you end up facing a messy battlefield by yourself, and you needlessly add a lot of things to deal with for yourself, making yourself more and more tired, so it is important to manage your emotions well! <>

Secondly, be a mentor mother instead of a nanny mother, and be a child companion and coach instead of a nanny!

Have you ever met a mother whose child's living and learning ability is weak, a mother once complained to me that the child is twelve years old and doesn't know how to do dry goods, his clothes don't know how to cherish, he gets dirty one day, he doesn't clean up his schoolbag, and he doesn't do his homework, but behind all these behaviors of the child, we have to look at what we teach the child when she is young, not wait for her to complain when she is twelve years old! So this has something to do with what kind of behavior and habit guidance we give to our children in the first place, be a coaching parent rather than a nanny parent!

Third: the child is not the mother alone, the father must be involved in the child's upbringing and growth, in China widowed education is not a few, many fathers think that the child is the mother's responsibility, so this matter must be negotiated, let the father participate, to become a qualified mother and the child's growth is helpful! <>