Dear child, how can I love you?

A parent's love for their children is unique in the world, and they don't ask for anything in return, don't question your heart for your own children. But nowadays, many families, probably because of their only child, will spoil their children. This kind of distorted love can cause him to lose the ability to judge something.

In the process of children's growth, we should not blindly praise or criticize, but should balance the two. Most of today's children are very glass-hearted, and I heard a report before, which is a student of our local high school, because his test results are not very good, his parents jumped off the building after saying two words to him. <>

One of the reasons for this is that parents expect too much from their child, and then they keep putting pressure on him, making it difficult for him to bear; There is also the doting of ordinary parents on their children, so he can't stand the little scolding of his parents, so the direct choice is very extreme.

Your love for him cannot be a reason for him to hurt you, let him establish a correct three views, as well as an attitude towards others. Many children have now been spoiled by their parents as bear children, you may think that this is the love of the child, but in fact, it is harming him, making others think that he is very uneducated. Not only children, but also parents should weigh the pros and cons before making a decision when doing things, because your decision affects his choice.

Communicate more with some mothers, and then should you also be in a state of interaction with your children? Don't abandon your child to your parents, or even some kindergarten people, because you're busy with work or anything like that. The impact of this on our children is very serious, and the consequences may be irreversible no matter what kind of work we achieve in the future.

Therefore, I think that to love your child, you should let him have a healthy and good environment, so that he can have more time to communicate with his parents every day. Of course, this is when we are children, and when we grow up, we can relax a little bit.

Let him be able to have an independent spirit, and he will also experience this life alone at home. But you must remember that you have to be with him at least three or five days a week. Then love your own children and don't spoil them too much.

What he needs, we can't just give it to him, we should have him a labor in exchange. For example, doing housework, getting corresponding results, etc.

For children, of course, we must love, but love must also be limited, excessive love is not only a shackle for children, but also a burden for parents. Because parents always care for their children, without their own space, excessive love is doting, and long-term spoiling of children is not beneficial to children's growth.

I remember a book that once said that the greatest love for children is to learn to love your partner first. I think this statement is particularly true.

Each of our families needs not only the love of parents for their children, but also the mutual love between husband and wife, the child will see in his eyes and remember in his heart, and he will experience the power of parental love from your mutual admiration eyes, so as to guide him to learn to love himself and others.

Of course, we should love our children a little more than the rest of the family, because after all, children are still young, and they need more care from us, which is understandable, but we should guide children correctly, from life to learning, we must guide them to be independent.

As the saying goes, it is better to teach children how to do things than to teach them how to do things, and it is much better to teach children how to do things than to let children do nothing by their parents.

Choose the right way to care, don't make choices for your child, and help your child grow up healthily.

There are many such parents around me, who do not treat their children as children, but as their ancestors, they are all their own flesh and blood, and everyone kisses their own children, but they must also choose a correct and reasonable way.

Don't hold it in your mouth for fear of melting, and hold it in your hand for fear of breaking. A child is a child, a living individual, with his own thinking, his own judgment and action, he is not a porcelain doll, parents have to learn to let go at the right time, how can they learn to walk without wrestling? You just hold him all the time, so when will he be able to walk on his own?

Some parents in our class are old and have children, and they can't kiss each other. When the first grade children are just exposed to reading pictures and writing words, many people will not, parents are afraid that their children will not be criticized for not writing well, and they will imitate their children's handwriting to write homework for their children, which is really unbearable, not to mention whether parents think the teacher is stupid, is your behavior really responsible for the child?

If you help him once, you will grow his inertia once, learning is a hard thing, if parents are always afraid of their children's hard work, then you can only watch his life work harder in the future.

There are also parents who keep saying that they are doing it for the good of their children, but they end up being selfish and only thinking about themselves.

There is a boy in our class, slow response, but down-to-earth learning, now the progress is great, his father and his mother divorced, his father has no money, feel that it is troublesome to take care of the child every day, and even send the child to a martial arts school far away, it is simply unreasonable.

Let the child's path go by themselves, you give birth to him, educate him well, but don't take the path he should take for him, and don't make choices for him at will, indirectly ruining his life.

Learn to understand your child.

Adults are always accustomed to judging a child's practices with their own thinking, and they are also used to establishing their own majesty in front of children. Ask your child to obey himself and obey him in everything. However, no one is perfect, no one is perfect, parents will also make mistakes, and there will be times when they misunderstand their children, why do you think that parents must be high?

In fact, the relationship between parents and children should be equal, and when encountering things, they should also communicate slowly, communicate with each other, and solve problems together. Rather than blaming, I hope that all parents can ask their children what happened, and I also hope that parents can let go of that high-minded posture and empathize. <>

People make mistakes and learn to forgive children.

It is the nature of every child to be playful, so don't always blame your child for not studying well and not completing his homework on time. If you criticize without asking the reason, don't adults make mistakes when they are young?

And in contrast, the mistakes made by children are just some small mistakes, except for some essential problems that can be severely punished, other mistakes are not enough to worry about, why not use a tolerant heart to tolerate your own children, to praise your own children, instead of comparing your own children with other people's children!

Recently, I have been unhappy with my family, and I deeply feel that the family environment is really important to the growth of a child, whether it is the child's character or physical and mental health, cheerful or depressed, the love of parents is really too important.

My mother, I can't tell if she doesn't care about me or doesn't care about me. She really loves me too much, expects too much from me, and is demanding. The slightest carelessness is a scolding, the kind that is hard to hear, I just heard her say in the bedroom that she had a brute, yes, just now, when I typed this paragraph.

I do not deny my mother's dedication, youth and toil. But I still got the blow of endless bruises, which intensified since I was in high school, and now, even though I am a college student, she still feels that her thoughts must be mine.

This feeling is really uncomfortable, as a parent, you have to be patient, you have to be strict, you can't let your child indulge, and you have to praise at the same time. As long as the child is on the right path, don't blindly strike at mistakes, what you say will take root in your child's heart like a seed, don't let your child become vicious and extreme.

I think that young people nowadays are generally under pressure, so after giving birth to a child, they directly leave the child to their parents to support, I think this behavior is very inappropriate, because now our parents can basically only let their children eat and clothe themselves, and they are basically not very concerned about the education of children, because after all, the people of their time, there are a lot of children at once, so there is no more experience in raising children, Especially when it comes to children's education, it's basically a mess, so at this time I feel like I'm gritting my teeth and must take my children with me, only in this way can I give my children a better education.

On the other hand, I think that in daily life, we must have a clear understanding of children, and don't always feel that because they are only children, they are used to children, because children are relatively easy to cultivate when they are young, so at this time, we must spend more effort to train children into a more useful person, such as you can often take him to participate in some extracurricular activities, and then you can cultivate children's interests and hobbies. On the other hand, it is also very important for children to teach by word and deed.

Children are the hearts and minds of parents, every parent wants to give their best to their children, and parents will not be able to stand the slightest harm to their children.

As a child is not very rational in many ways, sometimes our parents give their children too much love, and the result is that the child mistakenly thinks that this is what it should be, especially when the child grows up, it will be very difficult to educate, because in their minds has formed a deeper and more entrenched concept, that is, your parents should give me everything I want, because there are many unfortunate events caused by doting, and many parents are also remorseful.

Of course, there are many left-behind children who have a lot of problems, some time ago I saw a news that a four-year-old left-behind child with a cigarette in his hand, lying on a recliner with Erlang's legs crossed, it doesn't look like the action that a child of that age should have, and later learned that the parents of the left-behind child work outside all the year round, and the long-term lack of care has caused the child to be infected with bad social customs.

The love for children must be grasped well, too much, less is also a bad thing, so we must treat this matter well.