What else can you do to educate your children other than fighting?

Communicate more with your child, squat down and listen to your child's thoughts, naughty is the child's nature, as a parent, you can't use beating to solve the problem, of course, hitting can't solve the problem, it will only make your child more rebellious, communicate with your child more after encountering problems, tell your child that this is not right, what kind of consequences will occur, encourage your child more, you can be punished accordingly if you are wrong, but it is definitely not scolding.

Educating a child is not necessarily to scold, when the child is young, parents must give enough care and teaching, can be appropriately beaten, but you should calmly talk to him about some reason, and her behavior, harm to yourself and others, and possible bad results, let him know that this is more educational than beating.

A good child should take the lead and set an example for the child, only if the child feels that the parents are proud, then they can work hard to learn, and the fight will not solve any problems, we should let the child realize his mistakes, so that the child will work hard to correct.

People who really know how to educate children will not educate children by hitting them, hitting children can only prove that you have no means to educate children, and you can only choose the most primitive method. For example, if a child makes a mistake, you can let him see the consequences of his mistake, and if allowed, let him bear the consequences, or you can reason with him and tell him that he must be punished for doing something wrong.

I think that when teaching children some good qualities, it is necessary to set an example and tell them what is the right thing to do. Then if your child wants to play with something dangerous and cries all the time, you must play with him and let him know what is wrong.

I am a mother who likes to watch movies, especially some educational films abroad, and I have learned a lot of parenting knowledge from movies.

I have watched a lot of movies, and I can really get a lot of inspiration from them, for example, I get along with my daughter like friends, and when I talk to her, I will crouch down and talk to her.

Don't restrict your child's behavior too much (except for dangerous behavior), for example, many parents don't like to let their children touch some dirt, they will find it unhygienic and will stain their clothes. But in fact, this is just the parents' own thoughts, such behavior not only obliterates the child's curiosity, but also makes the child lose his innocence.

Sometimes my son comes home from school and doesn't do his homework, sits on the sofa and watches cartoons while eating snacks, I don't yell at him and don't hit him, just walk up to him, look at him with a cold face and straight eyes, no more than two minutes, and he obediently goes to do his homework.

Sometimes my son will say, "Mom, you should scold me twice, don't look at me like this, you are afraid".

Of course, it is to communicate more with the child, solve problems and solve problems, what is the matter with hitting the child?

My son is just over two years old now, I have never hit him, if he does something wrong, I will tell him, if he still does it, I will ignore him.

Maybe cold violence is not right, but it is better than fighting.

Don't treat him like a child, change him to adult mode to talk.

Parents should also set a good example for their children, say "sorry" in time when they make mistakes, deeply recognize their mistakes and apologize, and children will also form such a habit. Don't be stingy with your praise when it's time to praise it, and giving more encouragement to your child is also a way of education.

Before the age of 6, children's self-awareness is just budding, but they cannot yet understand what is their own and what is others, what parents need to do is to teach them to distinguish and establish boundaries between themselves and others.

I think that my colleague Xiao Zhang's method of educating children is very good, and when he comes home after work, he will say when communicating with his children, "This thing is Dad's, this thing is Mother's ......."Such words can give children a sense of whether it is their own or not.

1. Positive discipline.

Parents and teachers should adhere to the principle of kindness and firmness, based on mutual cooperation, and on the basis of children's self-control, to cultivate children's life skills. Only in a kind and firm atmosphere can children develop self-discipline, a sense of responsibility, cooperation and the ability to solve problems on their own, and can they learn social skills and life skills that benefit them for life, and achieve good academic results so that children can achieve a better version of themselves.2 Kindness and firmness go hand in hand.

The importance of "kindness" is to show our respect for our children, and the importance of "firmness" is to respect ourselves and the needs of the situation. Kindness and firmness are the foundation of positive discipline. What runs through the whole parenting process is unconditional love for children, bringing children a sense of belonging and worth.

Suppose your child talks back to you, one way to deal with "kind and firm" is for you to walk away and go to another room. You can't force others to treat you with respect, but you can treat yourself with respect. When everyone's mood calms down, you can search for "Baby, I'm sorry you're so atmospheric."

1. Tell your child what to do, not what not to do.

The condescending posture of traditional educators, always saying to children "no hitting, no eating on the sofa", etc., this negative tone will only direct attention to and focus on negative behaviors; And the child still does not know what good behavior is and what he should do. Positive statements are to correct the child's behavior with virtues, such as "We ate at the table!" ”

2. Make time to spend alone with your child every day and do something that interests both parties.

Every child needs to receive enough attention from their parents. Outside of work, we make some time to participate in children's games. Provide your child with a variety of experiences and expose them to as many things as possible.

As the child's listener, supporter, and spiritual companion, parents should respect the child's feelings and accompany the child with a detached and sympathetic attitude when the child encounters setbacks.

Sit down and communicate with your child well, not only hitting can solve all problems, if you hit your child, he will only feel discomfort and fear, do you know that this will cause some damage to his soul? If you sit down and communicate well, so that your status is equal, the child may be more willing to talk to you, and may know his mistakes more clearly, so don't hit the child as soon as there is a problem, you empathize with it, if you make a mistake and your relatives hit you, how will you feel?

Hitting a child is precisely a manifestation of his own incompetence, it is recommended that you and your child say well, don't let your emotions control you, or close the small black room, let him write left and right, let him finish writing and come out, and it is not recommended that if he is still absolutely his answer is right, you must let him change it, which will continue to stifle his nature, make him a tool, and you will be more distressed when he breaks out.

1.Be gentle and firm with your child.

2.Be principled, don't change your principles according to your preferences.

3.Teach children to be good role models by example.

4.Go to bed at a regular time, go for a walk at night and go to bed later, such as 10 o'clock, and go to bed at 9 o'clock if you don't go out.

5.Don't criticize your child casually in front of outsiders, and praise your child appropriately.

6.Go to bed early and get up early every day, and treat your children personally, such as waking up your children, picking them up and dropping them off, reading together with your children, and playing games with your children.

Bootstrap mainly. Children do not have a high level of awareness of the world and are particularly curious. At this time, only scolding the child may cause irreparable shadows in the child's heart. As parents, we should guide him and let him develop an independent and independent thinking from an early age.

To convince people with virtue and tell children that they are wrong? Why can't it be done and how can it be corrected?

Lead by example and set a good example for your children!

First say it well, and then say it yourself, you have to do it yourself, you have to be consistent with your words and deeds, you have to do a good job as a parent before you can show your children, after all, parents are the best teachers for children.

Say it well to the child, don't shout, don't beat it, don't say too much, the child doesn't like to listen, try to say something that the child doesn't know.

Teach by example, teach by example.

It is useless to fight, but it is useful to follow the teachings.

If you can only teach your child to fight, then you have to think about it: is this child an enemy of the parents, or do you want to cultivate an enemy of your own? If not, parents need to make a change.

The relationship between parent and child is equivalent to that of the original and the photocopy. Think about it, if something goes wrong with the copy, what do we need to change? Is it a photocopy? No, it's the original!

Therefore, to educate children, the first thing that the family can do is self-growth! Parents want their children to grow up like that, then parents need to work hard to make themselves like that.

There is no need to think about their own children, every child has eyes and ears, and can feel the changes of their parents.

A change in the parents will have a shock in the minds of the children. This kind of shock will produce a throbbing of the soul in the depths of the child's heart, and when the child's inner motivation for change is generated, the child's change will happen naturally.

I remember that there is a story: an egg gives strength from the outside, and that is called pressure; If there is power from within, it is the birth of a chick, and it is a new life!

The so-called education of Duan Dou is the call of one tree to another, which is a kind of inspiration and an encouragement. Therefore, I would like to say to all parents that educating children is to use their own words and deeds to influence their children, not only by mouth, but also by beating!

I remember doing this when I cultivated my children's interest in reading.

When my children were young, I used to tell them stories every night, and I remember subscribing to the Children's Pictorial at that time, and after telling them several times, the children could recite the books in their entirety.

When I was in elementary school, every week, I took my children to the library, one for the children and one for me, and read face-to-face. Sometimes, my child will ask me a few small questions, and I will lower my voice and explain it to my child slowly. Sometimes, I will also say to my children, there are many people here, let's not disturb others, let's go home and talk.

Slowly, the child began to be interested in reading.

Children are angels who come to change parents. The process of educating children is the process of self-growth and self-improvement of parents!

Chinese parents often feel that the stricter they are in educating their children, the more upright their children will beBut in fact, a large part of the research shows that if children are overly interpreted, it is likely to cause a great shadow on their own hearts, so that they will cause a great hindrance to their personal development in the future. However, in the eyes of parents, filial piety under the stick is a constant topic under Chinese education, so no matter what era it is, it is very common for children to grow up with strict education.

However, if the children are taught very strictly, it will really imprison the children's own inner development. Sometimes, children actually have a lot of varied personalities, but because parents are too strict with their children, and parents always want their children to follow their own pathTherefore, the rough book sometimes imprisons the child's heart, making the child more and more fragile and weak. Sometimes they don't know if they can do this thing, because under the long-term education of their parents' programs, they have lost their ability to make independent choices and judgments, so they can't make their own judgments about things, and sometimes they even need the help of their parents to make decisions.

As a result, parents do not know exactly how to properly educate their children. In fact, a large part of the children are very young, their inner character has not really formed, at this time should fully understand the child's own heartBy understanding their children's hearts, let them find their own personality development, if the children are overly lively, then let them try all kinds of extroverted things. And combine their personality traits to develop their possible life directions for the rest of their lives.

Of course, it is more important to combine the children's own interests. If the child is an extrovert and loves to read, then parents can develop the ability to read and read aloud according to this characteristic of the child.

In fact, sometimes the education of children is very simple, and the most important thing is not to learn from some successful cases, because the successful cases, the children's abilities and personalities are different from the characters that parents teach their children. Sometimes children with two different personalities are educated in the same way. or even two extremes, so it is necessary to make corresponding educational content according to some of the personality characteristics of your own children.

The most important thing is not to be strict in education, but to change your education plan according to the child's own personality characteristics in a timely manner.