How do you educate your children? How do you educate your children?

Educating children is an inevitable thing that every parent faces. It doesn't matter if you do it or not, how you do it, you are educating your children. Every word and deed you do in your daily life plays a subtle role in your child.

What is the purpose of educating our children, which is to hope that children will grow up to be useful people and become people with a certain value. It is hoped that children will learn to live on this earth in a healthy and happy way through education. But today's fact is that many children live very tired and annoying, very unappreciative and ungrateful in the expectations of their parents who want their sons to become dragons and daughters to become phoenixes and the love of life materials.

What is the reason for all this? Isn't love and expectation right? Oh, no, it's the way of love and expectation that goes wrong. That is, there is something wrong with the way we educate our children and the way we look at education.

We say that today's children have "six mountains" on their heads: mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, grandfather, grandmother, one mountain for each person. Everyone sees this only child as the jewel in their palms, everyone's expectations are high, and everyone is stepping up.

In order to fulfill my parents' dream of "going to college", in order not to make my parents "lose face" in front of others, the desk at home has become a desk, and the warm family has become a serious classroom. Imposing one's own interests, hobbies, and hobbies and skills that he thinks is good on his children, thus brutally stifling and depriving his children of their own interests and requirements, resulting in the unhappy life of children who live a rich life today. A young mother, who brought a thin little girl to the consultation, asked the specialist, why is her daughter so thin?

When the expert asked, he learned that this little girl had to attend three "interest classes" a Sunday: English in the morning, mathematics in the afternoon, and art in the evening. The little girl sat there, not saying a word, her eyes glazed over.

Expert conclusion: the child is too tired. Have a good rest on Sunday, you can't always study.

Interest classes have become burden classes, and mothers' interests have become children's worries. The child is tired and tired. The family's expectations have become a heavy burden on the child's head.

As a result, in order to resist and cope with these burdens, some children consciously or unconsciously show a series of habits and behaviors that parents think are bad.

Many children love to do their homework, why? A boy once said to me, "I can't write quickly, and when I'm done, I still have my mom and dad's homework!"

I just have to grind, an essay is written from morning to night, and they can't do it! "Many children go online to relieve the pressure in their hearts, and many children fall in love to dissipate their anxiety and loneliness.

When the child is tired of reading and wants to go out to play, the mother will say: "It's not promising, can you be admitted to college if you play stupidly?" How can I get a job without a diploma?

When the child is sleepy and his eyelids are fighting, the mother immediately hands over a cup of "Nestle" or a "royal bee essence" to encourage the child to fight continuously. The child wants to see cartoons, and the mother's face is long. "No, the whole family doesn't watch TV for you anymore, are you embarrassed to watch it?

In this way, under the unified dispatch of expecting the child to become an outstanding talent, the whole family has always been in a state of "first-class combat readiness", doing things lightly and speaking quietly all day long. It's all about one goal: the child has to climb the top of the ivory tower.

In a day or two, the child confessed; One month and two months, the child endured; 365 days a year, every day is pressure, pressure, pressure, and finally tragedy happened to the child. Running away from home, being tired of school, misanthropy and misanthropy, falling in love, premature sex, fighting, stealing, and other kinds of rebellion, confrontation, depression, obsessive-compulsive mania and other mental problems appeared, and all kinds of problems that made parents uneasy came one after another.

Bad education gets bad flowers. In fact, adults are dreaming, and children also have dreams, but their dreams have disappeared in the excellent pursuit of examination-oriented education by teachers, and disappeared in the confrontation and rebellion with teachers.

It is not wrong to pursue excellent test-oriented education, but the fault lies in the fact that no matter what kind of quality the child is, he should always show excellence in the test. Teachers and teachers are one-size-fits-all in the excellent training of examination-oriented education, and only children who perform well in examination-oriented education are good students.

How should children be educated? Treat children like farmers grow crops. How farmers treat their crops determines the fate of their crops; How parents treat their children determines the fate of their children.

The mood of farmers who hope that crops will grow quickly is exactly the same as the mood of parents who hope that their children will become talents as soon as possible. However, the approach is often different: the farmer thinks day and night about what the crops need, how to meet the needs of the crops?

Different crops are grown. When parents stay up all night to educate their children, do you think about what the needs of your children's hearts are? How to meet the needs of children's development?

Different children are given different methods of education. When the crops are not growing well, the farmers never complain about the crops, on the contrary, they always look for the reasons in themselves. When children can't learn, some parents blindly blame their children, do they think of their own responsibilities and find reasons in themselves?

When the geography changes, farmers know to change their planting methods; When the social environment changes, do parents think of updating their educational concepts?

To educate children, it is not enough to have methods, but also to have some corresponding communication and speech skills. For example, in an equal conversation between parents and children, the mother gets the information of life, while the son gets the self-confidence of the person. This kind of equality is psychological equality, which allows a child to experience human dignity from an early age.

Children need to be listened to by their teachers. The listening of the teachers cultivates the children's openness and cheerfulness, and cultivates the children's optimism and self-confidence.

Some of my own thoughts on educating children. First of all, the excellence of children is soaked in the sweat of parenting, entertaining and teaching, both of which are very important.

Secondly, in the process of educating children, timely encouragement and reminders are given to affirm and reinforce children's correct behavior. The power of example is infinite, and it is naturally better for parents all over the world to be able to teach by word and deed.

If you have to say words and deeds, which is important, that is, words are not as good as examples, some parents are not good at words, but because they do a good job of teaching, children will also be very good, some parents are particularly good at speaking, but if they don't do it, such words will lose their meaning.

I've forgotten about these long-standing and very detailed questions!

1 Encourage others as much as possible. You want to praise him for the results he has achieved – even if it is a small success. Praise is like sunshine, without which we have no nutrients to grow. Your compliments are never superfluous.

2.You have to keep your face at all times. Don't embarrass anyone, don't belittle someone, don't exaggerate someone's mistakes.

3.Only say good things about him behind the backs of others. If you can't find anything good to say, then you keep silent.

4.Look closely at someone and you will find out what good things he does. When you give a compliment, you have to give reasons so that your compliment doesn't get flattering.

5.You should always quote the noble thoughts and motives of others. Everyone wants to be perceived by others as magnanimous and selfless.

If you want someone else to improve, then you act as if they already have these good qualities. That way, he'll do everything possible not to disappoint.

6.Try not to criticize others, and when you have to, it's best to do it indirectly. You have to always do things and not people. You have to show the other person that you really like him and are willing to help him. You should never criticize someone in writing.

7.You want to allow others to feel good about themselves once in a while. You don't brag, but admit that you have shortcomings. You should be humble and cautious, guard against arrogance and rashness. If you want to make enemies, you fight people everywhere. If you want to have friends, you have to be forgiving and forgiving.

There are many ways to educate children, the most important of which are role models and environmental nurturing1. Parents are the most important role models for their children, and their words and actions can have a profound impact on their children. Therefore, parents should always check their words and deeds in daily life, and set an example to become the most intuitive teaching material for their children's learning.

At the same time, parents should also consciously create a good living environment so that their children can be infected and edified. The family is the main place of children's life, parents should organize their lives well, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a united and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's good moral character and behavioral habits.

First of all, I don't have children, so I don't educate children either.

When educating children, we must teach by word and deed, only in this way can we bring better education to children. Some parents always put the cart before the horse when educating their children, such as often talking about what the child wants to do and what to do in front of the child, but in the process the parents do the opposite thing, which will lead to some rebellious psychology in the child. And the child may also find it very difficult to accept, because the child thinks that his parents have not done this, why do they want to do it.

When educating children, parents must teach by word and deed, and do things strictly according to their own words, and never casually do some upside down behavior. Some parents say one thing when educating their children, but they have never done it like this, and in such a situation, it is easy to cause a chaotic phenomenon for the child, so that the child does not know what to do.

Most children like to imitate their parents, if parents make some inappropriate actions in daily life, then children will also learn corresponding actions, in this case, parents for children's education seems to be in vain. Because no matter how good the education of parents is, but if they do some bad behaviors in front of their children, then the children will still imitate, in this case, there is a phenomenon of putting the cart before the horse in the education of parents.

Therefore, parents should educate their children to be consistent with their words and deeds, if they say what they say, then what they should do, only in this way can they bring positive guidance to their children, and only in this way can they make their children grow better. Therefore, parents must treat their children in the right way when educating their children, and never say one thing and do another, saying one thing and doing one thing is the most unfavorable way of education for children.

Parents should adopt a peaceful communication style, respect their children's ideas, and keep abreast of their children's situation. I will use a calm way of communication instead of being rough with my children, and find ways to make my children really realize their mistakes. It is more conducive to his growth.

When educating children, parents should do their own thing, and need to correct their children's shortcomings, but also need to give full play to their children's strengths, I will correct some of the children's behaviors when the children make mistakes.

You can educate your children in some right ways, or you can choose some ways that are acceptable to your children, and I will educate my children by words and deeds.

According to the child's personality and the actual situation of the child, I will communicate with the child and let the child understand the mistake.

I choose to educate my children by becoming friends with them.

1. Education. In fact, for our parents, the most important thing may be the education of their children, with the development of society, the progress of the times, we have received more and more education, so the importance of education is also getting higher and higher. <>

In order not to let their children lose at the starting line, many parents choose to start educating their children at a very early age.

For them, they feel that educating their children should be as early as possible, so that there is a very good promotion effect on their thinking, in fact, there is nothing wrong with this idea of parents, everyone has their own way of education, and everyone will choose the right way of education for their children. The quality of the education method mainly depends on the individual child, and it may also have a certain relationship with the parents. <>

2. Friends. I think the best way to be friends with children is to have a problem, as time goes on, children grow up step by step, and their minds become more mature.

Therefore, most children are reluctant to have too much contact with their parents, on the contrary, many children like to confide in their friends. So try to be friends with them, so that the two of you will be more intimate, and he will tell you what is in his heart, and you will be more eager to listen in this area. <>

Then interact with your ideas with your child, which can actually be a great help to their development in this way. There will be more topics between the two of them, and he will listen to your teachings, and I am sure that his life will be very perfect.

Many people think that it is very difficult to become friends with children, but I think that as long as you grasp his personality and hobbies, and then participate in them, you will definitely be able to educate your children very well, and the above is my opinion.